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Seunpapa65:
Have you been to hell before what makes you so sure am just curious

Let's just say I'm very deep into research and gathering of facts around the world and pretty intuitive about the insights I get from them. Nothing more, nothing less.

stan4b:
Hello guys!!!
My fiancee is currently serving in benue, while I'm in Edo.
For the past 6 months, I have been sending her about 10k every week, sometimes more than 10k.

Her school pays her 15k, state pays her 16k, government pays her 33k, making it 64k. Every month, immediately she receives her allawee she'll quickly send almost everything to her contributor in Edo.

Ones state and school pays her, she'll also send the monies to her contributor. I'll now be the one taking care of her throughout the month. I have told her severally to keep at least half of her total money for herself, so that even if I'll send money, it'll be very small. She won't listen.

Now I've decided that she should always use her money to take care of herself, that I'm not sending her money again. She's angry, but I no send.
Pls, I'm I wrong for telling her to use her money.

I thought humans were perceptive beyond this extent. You know the answer to your question.

greenermodels:
She wasn't initially ugly,I prefer the first her to the later obsessed her, she has self esteem issues.

Her self-esteem issues actually led to a remarkable transformation. As much as we might not want to admit it, looks are important. She looks more presentable now, thanks to the insecurities she felt about her appearance.

When he eventually gets shot or killed brutally, it will be too late for tears. They truly deserve each other, even if they don't realize it yet.

To the men out there: before committing to a relationship, ensure the woman you're courting aligns with your values, principles and vision. This is what wise men do, unlike the gullible, shallow men we often see today.

Saao:
thank you so much for your help, I will try all the options you mentioned.

You're welcome! Don't forget to share your experience with us.

Abetterperson:
People honestly don't get it,
Am not saying am a victim, I was already depressed before meeting, I was a minor, told him all I went through as a child, he took advantage of me and did all he wanted to
I haven't even said all he did
He raped me several times, beat me, stole from me while all I did was help him

So no he is not the reason am talking my life
But for adding to my pain, he has to follow me
Today is the day, I feel so free
I thought I will feel scared or something
But nop I feel Happy strangely

I sent him 20k through POS anonymously
I really want him to life it up
Today he goes

So am not a victim, because am strong
Am a warrior but this fight called life isn't for all I wanted was to be loved but people just keep taking advantage of me
So have decided to leave, I feel death will be more peaceful than this

So nobody should ever call me a victim
Because am not, never was and never will be

Today is going to be a good day
I already bought a beautiful dress
This morning am going to eat my favorite food
Dance to my favorite music

Have already paid both people that will do the job
He will surely go to his creator by my hands
Then I will follow him

To girls, don't be like me
Always put urself first

Dear Abetterperson, I want you to know that you are not alone in your struggles. Your life holds infinite value and your presence in this world is irreplaceable. While it may feel overwhelming now, please remember that the pain you're experiencing is not permanent. (With a gentle tone,) You have the strength within you to overcome this darkness and find light again. Seek solace in the knowledge that love surrounds you, both from those who care for you now and those who will cherish you in the future. There is a world of possibilities awaiting you, filled with beauty, connection and growth. Embrace the healing power of time and reach out to those who offer you warmth and understanding. Your journey is far from over; it's a path waiting to be illuminated by the brightness of your resilience and courage. Take one step at a time, knowing that you are cherished and supported on this journey.

23jerryking:
Guy! Within two months I've ordered up to 9 different fashion items. All turned out to be fake,all!!!
At highly exorbitant rates for that matter.
I've stopped dealing with them and will soon delete my Jumia account.

I blame the culture of our country.

care4you:
you're a fool and you I'll always remain one....

Your username doesn't quite align with the tone of your messages. Just saying.

Good morning, Saao.

It sounds like your phone might be compromised. Here’s what you can try:

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5. Contact Your Provider Again: Let them know the steps you've taken and see if they can offer any extra help or security measures.

If none of this works, you might need to get your phone checked by a professional or consider getting a new one.

Hope this helps!

Legendguy:
I want to know, if for instance, someone stole money or get it in a dishonest way like politicians or Yahoo boys, and bought numerous houses and properties.

If such person becomes born again aydied after fulfilling scripture requirements for holiness, can he still make heaven?
Knowing fully well that he acquired those properties with stolen or looted money?

Is there a need for him to do restitution?
Or should he follows the scripture in 2 Cor 5 vs 17 that says " Therefore if a maybe in Christ, old things have passed a ways; behold all things are become new

Yes, restitution is necessary, especially when the individual knows the locations of those they have deprived.

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RollinTNDA:
Honestly na friends with benefit I want but e be like say she don love up already

I'm not ready financially and mentally for relationship
What should I tell her, I no wan break her heart cuz na good girl.
What should I tell her?

(...looks down on his thought process, hopes he is reasonable enough)

Tell her the truth, of course. Isn't authenticity the bedrock of any strong relationship?

There could be several reasons for that, but a major one might be that they are very narrow-minded, narcissistic, or just plain selfish. They might also string you along because they don’t want to outright refuse you but are waiting until they have enough money. All in all, it's a shame. Honestly, it's best to avoid being broke altogether, as most people today seem to be walking bags of disappointment.

This sort of scam should be outdated by now, and I'm surprised it still works.

If I were to give advice, here are some steps you should take:

First, contact your local law enforcement and file a report if you can. Provide all the information you have, including her Facebook profile and WhatsApp number.

Additionally, report her profile to Facebook so they can investigate and potentially remove her account. Do the same with her WhatsApp account, including screenshots of your recent messages as proof.

Lastly, notify your bank. If you sent the payment through a bank or financial service, contact them immediately. They might be able to reverse the transaction or help track the funds.

This is what happens when a partner isn't properly vetted before marriage. There are many different types of women, yet some men just aren't adept at choosing the right one. Who else can we blame?

MikeofKd:
MD has been more of an advantage to me. It's gives me a sense of purpose and that motivates me to work harder.

Most of what I've achieved today were somewhat because I daydreamed about them, I would daydream about finishing top of my class , so I worked hard and finished top of my class. I would daydream about having a beautiful romantic relationship and I would put myself in position to achieve that , I've enjoyed numerous romantic relationships.

Thing is that most humans are lazy , they wanna sit there and daydream their fantasies into reality but it doesn't work that way , after daydreaming you've gatto work hard for whatever you have daydreamed about , little by little all your fantasies would become your reality.

I can proudly say I've become atleast 50 percent of my daydreams and I'm still working extra hard to achieve the other 50.

So after daydreaming pls get to work , daydreaming should only give you a visionary dashboard of what your fantasized ideal life could be like but you gatto put in the work.

I agree with you

Fairview1:
I know it sounds cliché but can you? We are in a generation where men don't make the same effort they used to make back then; honesty has becomes so rare, we can easily ghost, breadcrumb people; we have so many trauma we tend to self-sabotage.

Do we still have hope in love? I'm F (27+) and honestly, I want to love and be loved, but seeing the relationships around me fail one by one, makes me sceptical....sigh**

Is it still worth it to take the risks?

Modern relationships often emphasize appearances or social status, but authentic connections still exist. It's important to focus on building meaningful interactions and being true to yourself. Authenticity can attract people who share similar values. Stay patient and open-minded; finding the right person can take time, but it's worth the effort.

Elmiguel:
Ah bros! The issue strong o. This maladaptive daydreaming almost ruined my life, especially when I was 25.

There was a period in my life when I would just stay at home with earphones in my ears, completely lost in my own head. I'd listen to music or epic soundtracks, and before I knew it, I'd be transported to another world entirely. I go spend hours, even entire days, just dey think about rubbish for room.

When I turned 25, it hit me that I hadn't really achieved anything tangible. Simple practical things like applying for jobs, learning new skills or even getting into relationships were all difficult for me.

I remember one time I had a job interview. I had prepared thoroughly. But as I waited, I plugged in my earphones and started imagining several things that was not even important at that moment. Before I knew it, I missed the interview. That was when I realized that my daydreaming was costing me a lot of opportunities.

It wasn't easy at all. I struggled to balance my fantasies with real life. I began to feel like I was failing myself and my family. I couldn't keep up with responsibilities and it felt like I was being left behind while my peers moved forward just like you stated in the post.

By God's grace sha one day I had to be honest with myself admit say I dey waste my life. I Gradually, I began to regain control of my life. E no easy but sha life dey go.

To people wey dey read my post, if you no get this problem you no know wetin God do for you. You better thank your stars. Na me know wetin dis thing do me.

Sharing your struggle to balance fantasies with reality is commendable. Missing that job interview underscores the importance of being honest with ourselves and taking steps to regain control.

It's positive to hear that you're gradually regaining control. To those without this issue, it's a reminder to be grateful and aware of others' struggles.

Thank you for sharing your experience; it can help others in similar situations. Stay strong.

Elmiguel:
Wow! 😲😲 This article don open my eyes well well. I no even sabi say this thing get name. I don too dey do am every day, e don become normal thing for me, but to be honest, e dey frustrate my life. Thank you, OP. 😊

But to be honest this thing dey frustrate person destiny.

I'm glad the article helped you a lot! Really, knowing the name of something can change everything. Please, if you don't mind, share more about how it has affected your life. How does it disturb your daily activities, and have you found any ways to manage it? Your experience could help many people who read this post. Thank you for sharing! 😊

Are you a maladaptive daydreamer or have a tendency to be one? Please share your experiences, questions or even further solutions. This thread is open to discussion.

Cc. Lalasticlala

Hi there!

I'm thrilled to share this article with you today. Given the nature of this platform and its amazing community, I suspect many of you might be introverts, just like me. And if you are, you might find the topic of maladaptive daydreaming especially relatable and eye-opening.

In this article, I dive deep into what [color=black] Maladaptive Daydreaming [/color] is and how it can profoundly affect your life. Whether you’re someone who finds solace in vivid fantasies or struggles with the fine line between daydreaming and reality, this piece is for you.

Let's embark on this journey together and uncover the mysteries behind our wandering minds!

Ever found yourself drifting into an intricate daydream where you're the hero of a sprawling fantasy saga or the star of a musical concert? That can be pretty wonderful, right? Now imagine doing that so often it starts messing up your real life. That is what is known as [color=black] Maladaptive Daydreaming (MD) [/color] and it's an intriguing double-edged sword.

First off, let's not be too quick to demonize daydreaming. As a habitual and natural compulsive daydreamer, I can attest that there's plenty to love about slipping into a world of your own creation. It is a mental palace that boosts creativity, offers an escape from stress, and can make mundane tasks a bit more interesting. Imagine harnessing that creative energy for something productive. Some of the greatest artistic minds have turned their daydreams into masterpieces.

Daydreaming, in its best form, is a rehearsal for real-life problem-solving and a playground for innovation and in its worst form, is a self-destructive form of escapism from reality that makes one simply an observer and not a participant in life. It leads to complacency and feelings of inadequacy in the long run. For people with MD , what starts as innocent escapism can spiral into a consuming habit. Think of it like binge-watching your favorite TV series, except it is all in your mind and you've lost track of how many seasons you’ve marathoned. Hours disappear, real-world tasks pile up, and relationships might take a hit.

MD can also be a coping mechanism for dealing with emotional pain or trauma. When reality gets too tough, slipping into a world where you have control feels comforting. But the more you escape, the harder it becomes to face what’s really going on. It’s like putting a band-aid on a bullet wound—it might help temporarily, but it’s not getting to the root of the problem.

[color=black] Understanding Maladaptive Daydreaming in depth [/color]

Maladaptive daydreaming is a fancy name for when daydreaming gets out of hand. Instead of a brief escape or a bit of creative thinking, maladaptive daydreaming involves an intense, vivid, and often uncontrollable imagination that can take hours of your day. Think of it like watching the most gripping Nollywood or Hollywood series, but in your head, nonstop.

[color=black] The Sunny Side: Positives of Maladaptive Daydreaming [/color]

Creativity Boost

Picture this: You're waiting for your turn at the ATM, and you start daydreaming. Suddenly, you're cooking up an incredible story or a groundbreaking idea for your side hustle. Maladaptive daydreaming can sometimes be a powerhouse for creativity. After all, some of the most epic novels and movies began as daydreams.

Emotional Escape

We've all had days when things feel overwhelming. Maybe you've had a stressful day at work or school. Daydreaming about a better place or an exciting adventure can serve as a temporary escape, helping you cope with stress.

[color=black] The Cloudy Side: Negatives of Maladaptive Daydreaming [/color]

Time-Consuming

Here's where things get dark. Imagine you need to study for that JAMB exam or finish a project, but you lose hours dreaming about being a superstar or living in a luxurious mansion. Time flies and your real tasks suffer. A lot would have been achieved if only you were able to focus more on the present. This eventually leads to painful regrets and emotional pain. It bites your ass later in life.

Interference with Daily Life

Even worse, this habit can interfere with your relationships and responsibilities. If your mind is constantly elsewhere, you might miss out on real-life interactions or fail to meet deadlines, leading to stress and misunderstandings. You eventually feel like a mere observer of life and hardly a participant.

[color=black] Real-life Examples [/color]

Positive Example : Let's say Nkechi loves to daydream about becoming a successful fashion designer. While studying and sketching in her head, she comes up with fantastic designs that impress her lecturers and peers. Her daydreaming fuels her ambition and sharpens her creative skills. A plus to her!

Negative Example : On the flip side, there's Emeka, who can't stop daydreaming about becoming a famous footballer. He spends so much time wrapped up in these fantasies that he neglects his studies and skips training sessions. Over time, this habit sabotages the very future he dreams about.

Maladaptive daydreaming in itself is a subconscious double-edged sword. It can spark incredible creativity and provide an emotional refuge but it can also derail your plans and disrupt your day-to-day life. The key is finding balance, making sure your dreams inspire you without overshadowing your reality. So, next time you drift off, ask yourself: "Is this helping or holding me back?" Keep dreaming but stay grounded!

[color=black] How Does One Tackle This in Detail? [/color]

Dealing with this can be summed up in one word - awareness. Unlike blatant issues like substance abuse, MD can fly under the radar. Both you and those around you might just think you’re a bit dreamy or distracted. That’s why it’s crucial to recognize when your daydreaming is tipping from creative euphoria into disruptive territory.

Finding balance is key. Set boundaries either internally or externally for your daydreams. Give yourself dedicated times to indulge but keep a firm grip on reality. There’s also no shame in seeking help. Cognitive-behavioral therapy has shown promise in helping people manage MD , allowing them to unlock its positive aspects without letting it take over their lives.

So here is a message from a natural and habitual daydreamer - next time you slip into a daydream, enjoy the ride but remember to come back to Earth. Reality, messy as it might be, is where the real action happens.

Understanding the concept of Heaven can be quite challenging for many of us Nigerians. It can be difficult to grasp the idea of an eternal paradise when we witness so much suffering and chaos in our beloved country.

But you know what? Believing in Heaven gives us Nigerians hope and inspiration to live our lives with resilience and optimism. It's about having faith, even in the face of adversity. Just because something isn't visible to us doesn't mean it's not real.

Sure, Heaven may not be something we can physically touch or scientifically prove, but its symbolic meaning is undeniable. It represents a place of ultimate peace, unity and justice where all our struggles and injustices will be redeemed. And the best part? We'll be in the eternal presence of God, experiencing His love and glory.

So, even if the concept of Heaven may be mysterious to some, it serves as a source of comfort, hope and motivation for many of us. It's a belief that encourages us to persevere, to work towards a brighter future and to find solace in the assurance that our efforts will be rewarded in the end.

atheistandproud:
Oh. You fed it to AI. I thought YouTube blocked robot txt on the app to prevent AI from accessing it?

There are other ways the system works it out. It's hard to explain practically.

atheistandproud:
I am beyond impressed, I'm stunned!

You don't have to be. it was interpreted and arranged by an app.

For those with no data. Here;

Based on the video, here are the 10 reasons why the Itel RS4 is not the gaming phone that it is marketed as:

1. Performance - The Itel RS4 has a Helio G99 processor, which is a decent lower mid-range chip, not a high-end gaming processor. Other phones with the same G99 chip are not marketed as gaming phones.

2. GPU - The Mali G57 MC2 GPU in the G99 chip is not as powerful for gaming as the older Mali G76 GPU found in the Helio G90T and G95 chips.

3. Lack of Optimization - MediaTek chips, including the G99, are known to lack the level of optimization for games that Snapdragon chips have.

4. No 5G - The lack of 5G connectivity is a disadvantage for competitive online gaming where low latency is important.

5. No Gaming Overclocking - The G99 chip in the Itel RS4 is not overclocked, unlike some true gaming phones that boost the CPU performance.

6. 720p Display - The low 720p display resolution is not ideal for gaming, especially for competitive games that require good draw distance.

7. Old RAM Standard - The LPDDR4X RAM used is an older standard compared to the LPDDR5 found in more recent gaming-focused devices.

8. Lack of Cooling - There is no active or passive cooling solution mentioned for the Itel RS4, which can lead to overheating during extended gaming sessions.

9. Lack of Gaming Features - The Itel RS4 lacks features commonly found in dedicated gaming phones, such as trigger buttons, RGB lighting, etc.

10. Overhyped Marketing - Simply labeling a phone as a "gaming phone" does not make it one if the hardware and features do not truly support an enhanced gaming experience.

In summary, the Itel RS4 has decent mid-range specifications, but lacks the optimizations, features and performance required to be considered a true gaming-focused smartphone, despite the marketing claims.

Honestly, this whole situation is a bit ridiculous. I hope everyone involved takes away some important lessons. Emotional and behavioral intelligence can really help prevent messes like this. And remember, it's never worth arguing with someone who isn't making sense; you only stand to lose something. The more aggressive a person gets, the less rational they are, and it's best to steer clear.

Here, this might help.

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### Tecno Spark 8
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### Tecno Spark 8P
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Urgent1Million:
Thank you for transcribing.
I'll tell Chioma to bring something for you when she's coming back from her honeymoon.

No probs

Urgent1Million:
I'm better at reading text than watching videos.
Somebody should transcribe please.

Here is a combined summary in the lady's own words:

I think I'm in trouble because I, a business lady, received money from a stranger into my account. I used to run a POS system, and a customer came to me saying someone wanted to send them money, and asked for my account number. I gave them my account number, but they said they didn't want to use Microfinance Bank, they wanted to use a USD code to send the money. So I gave them my Uni Bank account instead.

Not knowing they were fraudsters, they sent money to that person - I think around 50,000 the first time, and then a few more times over the next month. The last time was about 2 weeks ago. The person who received the money then came to me and I gave them the money, taking a 700 naira fee.

Then the bank called me and said someone had complained about the money being sent to my account. They said my account was frozen and I had to come in to explain why someone was sending money to my account without my knowledge.

I tried to call the customer who received the money, but I don't even know them. I'm really worried now that I might get arrested over this. Please be very careful about who you give your account details to. If someone wants to send you money, don't use your personal account, use your business account. You never know who is really sending the money.

Well I believe a short and successful one would suffice. Long and unfulfilling sounds like a lifetime of pain and regret.