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modavi:
I believe the aim of this thread was for us to learn more just as the Bible says-- "All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness"-2Timothy 3 vs 16.Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth"--2Tim 2vs 15. NOT FOR ARGUMENTS-- 2Ti 2:16 "But shun profane and vain babblings: for they will increase unto more ungodliness"--COS "For I testify unto every man that heareth the words of the prophecy of this book, If any man shall add unto these things, God shall add unto him the plagues that are written in this book" Revelation 22 vs 18---MAY GOD HELP US!

frosbel:
If I may add , the true Gospel is to preach the gospel of repentance from our sins , to turn back to God that he may heal us and to subsequently obey his commandments and walk with him.

Matthew 28:18-20 " Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

Seun:
“….These ignorant souls do not know that this practice originated from idol worshipping nations and is a snare to their souls.”

frosbel:
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Do we have adulterers and fornicators asking for special rights and favours ? Think about it .

luckyz4rea:
i agree with modavi, and that is if God was or is the foundation of the marriage!

ayodele123:
Accept him as the head of the home even if he is younger than you and less financially blessed--yes

Respect him as the head of the home--yes

Obey him as long as it does not contravene the laws of the Lord.--yes

Make ''it'' available for him when he needs it.--yes

The man too must submit to his wife---
The man should not see his wife as a sex machine or as a slave to be abused---yes
The man should as a first requirement love his wife unconditionally, then the woman will submit voluntarily, willingly and lovingly.--yes

deols:
from all I have read,
-some other women see it as a means of deriving the pleasure of God in their marriage.





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frosbel:
Narcissism.  Baleful, threatening, with evil foreshadows and developments.  An ominous word to those of us who have ever known a truly narcissistic personality type.  Narcissistic persons are also termed and defined interchangeably, as sociopaths and psychopaths.  Narcissism is defined  by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM IV-R), the diagnostic classification system used in the United States, as "a pervasive pattern of grandiousity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy."

The DSM Criteria, which begins by early adulthood and is present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

1. A grandiose sense of self-importance

2. A preoccutaion with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love

3. A belief that he or she is "special" and unique

4. Requires excessive admiration

5. Has a sense of entitlement

6. Is interpersonally exploitative

7. Lacks empathy

8. Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her

9. Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes


Narcissism is a term derived from Greek mythology. Narcissus was a handsome youth who fell in love with the nymph Echo, but when she spurned his advances, he was doomed to fall in love with his own reflection in a pool. He pined away his whole life obsessing about his image and eventually turned into a flower, the narcissus. The myth of Narcissus has given rise to the personality disorder known as narcissism, which is characterized by vanity, conceit, egotism, and self-obsession. Biblically speaking, the simple term for narcissism is selfishness.

Philippians 2:3 is the primary verse that addresses selfishness. Paul says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.” Selfishness and vanity are the epitome of narcissism, and they are particularly destructive and have no place in the Christian life. As Christians, we are be modest and humble (Colossians 3:12) and live in submission to God (1 Peter 5:5; James 4:7) [/b]and to one another “with all lowliness and meekness, with long-suffering, forbearing one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace” [b](Ephesians 4:2-3 KJV). Humility sees the best traits in others and the lowliest traits in self. It does not envy the graces and gifts of others, but rejoices in them. The truly humble man seeks to serve others; the narcissist seeks only to serve himself.

Narcissism is bound up in selfish ambition—putting one’s needs and desires above all else—and leads inevitably to discord, envy, strife and evil. These are of the devil, whose desire is to sow discord among believers and thereby discredit their witness in a watching world. James makes this point in James 3:13-18, contrasting selfishness—which is satanic in nature—to the “wisdom from above” which is “pure, peaceable, gentle, easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy.” The narcissist has no time for others; their needs and desires are irrelevant to him. His focus, like Narcissus whose life was wasted staring at his own reflection, is completely self-absorbed. His life is of little value to himself, to others, or to God because he considers himself the center of the universe. He has displaced God from the throne of his life and placed himself firmly upon it.

The “cure” for narcissism is the same as for any sin—repentance and a commitment to Christ as Lord of our lives. Only through the power of His indwelling Holy Spirit can the narcissist become a true child of God, dedicated to Him and seeing others as better than himself. Only then can he become a slave of Christ and know the true freedom submission provides.

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