Is it still common that if a husband dies that the family of the husband will claim all the property?
Just wondering , because after the husband of our sister died she and her kids were thrown out of the house and left with nothing. That was at least 20 YEARS AGO.

According to my husband things are changing gradually in Nigeria, however he does tell me that sons of strong women and educated family`s usually treat their wives better than does who had moms TS talked about.
And that polygamy was common YEARS ago but that it is against the law now, though most of the Islamic part in the North still practise it,

I fully agree, we are all " products " of our upbringing , so it`s not a typichal Nigerian culture. Even were i`m from the men used to be very dominant and women weren`t allowed to work, it was a disgrace to get pregnant before getting married, that was ONLY 50 YEARS AGO,

I have a question for the men on this board : When i visited Nigeria i got the impression that women were blamed for everything that goes wrong Even in Nigerian movies , it`s always the woman who is the witch , who tries to seperate 2 brothers , who will poison her husband etc etc etc,
I hear many men say " I am the head of the house and I don`t want my wife to be in controll. My wife has to " listen " to me respect me and be sub,issive to me.

Well, could you please define a woman who is controlling? Is it when she is asking you to help her with thwe chores in the house , or when she is asking you to look after the kids, or when she also wants to go alone on trips or with her friends?

When does she give you respect? , and listen??

ROFLMAO, no marrying an old man does not make a woman " look older "

I don`t understand why people would hire a househelp UNLES both partners work FULLTIME!

I don`t see what`s so difficult or hard about nursing a baby and boil water for garri.
Or simply ask the husband to be a lil patient and that his food will be made after the woman has finished nursing.

It`s not true that ALL white families devide house chores.
My mum had 2 parttime jobs , while my dad worked fulltime. Still she did all the house chores and take care of us.
Dad would take care of us in the evening while was was going to her job.
we didn`t have a househelp LOL

Another friend of mine works fulltime and BF doesn`t lift a finger in the house either, she does all the work.
They don`t have a househelp either.

Don`t like that mentality though, because i believe that if both partners work fulltime the housechores should be shared equally.

Siena:



The poster says Christina was treating him badly, but we only have his word for that.
Possibly she partially saw through him, who knows?

I think you could be right.
Maybe the lady felt that TS was not honest with her and that he was having somebody else.
That would make any woman go mad!

If my daughter would tell me she`s pregnant i would have her have an abortion. 13 is just to young to have a baby.

I wonder if and why their fertilitydocter did not advice them not to have sex that month ,
I mean , a womans utures is not made to carry more than 2 children.