theTranslator:

All this comes from insecurity
Nigerians live well in the US,UK china etc


Why are we only seen as bad in southern Africa?


Insecure people

I can say bad things about southern Africa too
But I choose to focus on the good sides

The thing is when you're always in the news for sending kids to traffic drugs and people are always constantly wanting to get rid of you you have to accept there is a problem..The are Somalians,ethiopians, Rwandans, Indians, Chinese, Lebanese,burundians spread all across spread across the whole of Southern Africa doing the same businesses Nigerians claim to do but why do the Nigerians always have the worst reputation... People realise that there is something wrong with these Nigerians....I don't think it's personal because people love Nigerian movies, music and celebrities but Nigerians have to fix their problem in Public Relations..

theTranslator:

How exactly?
'cause we not treated like trash in the UK and the US


Are we that bad?

Nigerians have a very bad reputation in Southern Africa....It's always they are sending kids to Brazil to sell drugs who end up dead, literally chased away from neighborhoods for selling drugs to young people, recruiting young girls sending them to Qatar, India for prostitution....My friend who lived with his elder brother who rented a house in the same compound with a Nigerian guy...The guy was very loud at all times of the day,always doing drugs smoking throwing cigarettes everywhere, bleaching his skin, always beating his live in local girlfriend..etc my friends brother got so tired he told the landlord that he will pay for both houses but the Nigerian has to move out of the compound and yeah the Landlord chased the Nigerian out...Very bad news Nigerians anything drug related there is a Nigerian involved.

Look..Humans are selfish in nature that's a fact you have to accept if they do some good once in a while be grateful but do not expect it all the time.....The reason why people want to have children is always for selfish reasons, retirement plan taking care of them in old age, continuation of your name or family legacy,having a mini-me, having somebody to run errands, having daughters to collect bride price,need company due to fear of loneliness etc....Now those children did not ask to be born into this world you forced them into this world so it is 1000% your DUTY to make sure they are well taken care of because without you they would not be here. On the other hand your children have no obligation to take care of you because they were forced to be here by you and if you did not want children you should have taken contraception,I know it sounds harsh but it's the truth.You force someone into the world full of pain , diseases, poverty,war, unemployment death and on top of that you abuse them verbally, physically, emotionally etc and you expect them to bow down and be grateful.......Most parents regret having children just as most children regret being born..

In the end you should realise you're selfish when you want children because you want them for your own personal selfish reasons and not for their own good.

If you have them, It is your full responsibility to sacrifice for them and their future offspring because you brought them here and you should do your very best so they turn out to be good human beings.

Your children have no obligation to take care of you in any way so make sure you learn to take care of yourself and if they do love you be grateful for that.

Having children is not a guarantee that they will always be there for you because they may end up hating you or even despising you despite all the sacrifice you will make for them,make peace with that.

Not having children is a choice just as having children is also a choice except in some circumstances like barrenness, infertility,rape etc...Many people have lived and died without kids and it's not the end of the world, some adopt from orphanage, some take care of their nephews and nieces instead of having biological kids....e.g Oprah Winfrey,Leonardo dicaprio, Miley Cyrus these people don't have biological kids...


If you choose to have kids maximum number should be 2 please we are too many on this planet already.

perezeghi:





You do not need any interpretation on this. You ought to know what it is. It's clearly written. And to have the dream occur thrice is more than a confirmation.

Sir can you please explain? Am confused?

morning sir.I have had this dream 3 times. First time I went for a holiday at my uncle's place.I dreamt that they kept pythons as pets I was shocked in the dream I wanted to run away then my aunt told me to calm down that there is nothing to worry about they don't bite and they are part of the family.they were huge and many they were just moving all over the place. The second time I was at my parents house in the sitting area and a huge python showed up and it was just moving in over the chairs and all I was shocked that nobody bothered to chase it or kill it..........The third dream was that there was a forest fire so I went to rescue some animals in the bush and behold I saw many snakes most were pythons in fact they were not threatened by me but they were just moving around I was petrified so I left the place to go home when I reached the house I found my dad and my siblings watching TV but they were two pythons at the front door and the backdoor I was shocked that nobody cares that there were these huge snakes at the doors but nobody bothered so I asked them about these snakes when the snakes heard this they moved away slowly..............

Good morning sir.I have had this dream 3 times. First time I went for a holiday at my uncle's place.I dreamt that they kept pythons as pets I was shocked in the dream I wanted to run away then my aunt told me to calm down that there is nothing to worry about they don't bite and they are part of the family.they were huge and many they were just moving all over the place. The second time I was at my parents house in the sitting area and a huge python showed up and it was just moving in over the chairs and all I was shocked that nobody bothered to chase it or kill it..........The third dream was that there was a forest fire so I went to rescue some animals in the bush and behold I saw many snakes most were pythons in fact they were not threatened by me but they were just moving around I was petrified so I left the place to go home when I reached the house I found my dad and my siblings watching TV but they were two pythons at the front door and the backdoor I was shocked that nobody cares that there were these huge snakes at the doors but nobody bothered so I asked them about these snakes when the snakes heard this they moved away slowly..............

FreeSpirited:

Hmmmm. Is there solution to this kind of mindset? I do feel if our society were more sane just may be my view might be different

. I don't think there is much you can do that means you're one of the chosen to think like this you can accept it, get married stay child free or adopt if you and your partner agree...Or you can have kids and regret your choices all your life and force yourself to forget about it....There is really not much you can do but the choice is yours...

You are an antinatalist (Google it). You're thoughts are valid.You have seen that life is suffering and it comes with inevitable pain whether it's POVERTY, UNEMPLOYMENT,HUNGER AND FAMINE, SICKNESS,DEATH, DEPRESSION and so many other problems so you don't want any of your potential kids to go through this hell.so I understand you don't want to have kids it's a valid point.You don't want to create another human to experience this life...

First of all He is not your stepbrother,he is your elder half brother. Secondly I believe that it is your choice as a family to choose whether your father's death will tear your family apart due to all your past conflicts or to bring you together as a family and acknowledge that in the past mistakes have been made,bitter words said and hatred brewed due to different issues but that in the end BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER...... You don't have to to be close but at least be civil and respectful to one another.