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Romance / Re: Some Stupid Things Ladies Do, In The Name Of LOVE by MrRenaissance: 4:24pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
@farano:well no sane human will believe you. What's your home town let me prove you wrong once and for all because there's no home town in Nigeria where people get engaged today and marry tomorrow. That lie is atrociously absurd. |
Romance / Re: Some Stupid Things Ladies Do, In The Name Of LOVE by MrRenaissance: 12:16pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
@farano: Point of correction, your below post is why I said your "engagement today, marry tomorrow" is a fat lie and I stand by it. I'm talking about your post below so get your facts right. @farano: |
Romance / Re: Some Stupid Things Ladies Do, In The Name Of LOVE by MrRenaissance: 8:21pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
@farano:who's talking of paying the bride price? I'm telling it's a fat lie for a Nigerian to engage/propose to you today, and marry you tomorrow. Which sort of lie is that? Are talking to a wood? So he proposes to you today, flies down to your villa today, talks with the elders/parents, pays the bride price, and flies back to meet wedding planners etc, to organise the traditional wedding and marries you the next day? Which kind of dumb lie is this? Stop trying to justify your lie, it makes no single sense. |
Romance / Re: Some Stupid Things Ladies Do, In The Name Of LOVE by MrRenaissance: 7:20pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
@farano:Engagement today, marriage tomorrow? In this Earth or Jupiter? Try another lie, this one is too stale. |
Sports / Re: Nigeria Vs France World Cup (0 - 2) On 30th June 2014 by MrRenaissance: 7:12pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
The timid last 30 minutes display of the Super Eagles is why I'll always remain a plastic fan and believe that the SE will never perform in International Competitions. This team sucks save for Enyeama, Musa, Osaze and Emenike. When France scored, the team lost all hope of a comeback. Which kind of team does that? I mean take a look at the second goal. No defence, no protection. Everyone had already succumbed to defeat before that corner. Take a look at Greece, they played with determination even when the odds seemed to be against them and they got their equaliser albeit loosing at the end. SE lacks these qualities - DETERMINATION and Team Spirit. African Team in general lack those qualities. Chile wasn't filled with stars, they achieve their few great plays by determination and nothing else. SE are overyhyped bunch of overpaid players save for Enyeama. Period!! 5 Likes |
Family / Re: Married Ladies->how Was Your First Day In Your Matrimonial Home? by MrRenaissance: 11:17am On Jun 30, 2014 |
thorpido: Nowadays,many ladies don sleep well well for the house.Even neighbours do sabi dem.I've never laughed this hard in a long time. LMAO. Damn!! |
Romance / Re: Some Stupid Things Ladies Do, In The Name Of LOVE by MrRenaissance: 10:54am On Jun 30, 2014 |
@farano:One week? And you will sell it? Well you're kidding sha. So if due to whatever reason he has, he wants to pay your bride price in say two moths time, you'd sell it? Or don't you know he'll have to meet your parents with his FAMILIES and some ELDERS after engaging you to pay your bride price? You don't know what marriage entails one bit. When you get there, you'll understand. |
Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 10:05am On Jun 30, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: @embolden, you clearly got me wrong. What I mean ulterior motive, I mean one having the mind of dating a girl from the onset but agreed to remained besties with no romantic attachment (that's both parties agreeing to be just friends and nothing else). Being friends with a girl with the intention of dating her is my preferred way of wooing a girl. But if I'm to be a 'bestie' with a girl (mind you, being besties takes a long time, it's not like a month wooing), I'll clearly ask myself if I want to date her. If yes, 1. I will clearly tell her about my feelings (and I won't take years to do that), not like the group described by the OP which keeps hoping the girl will develop the same feelings they've developed for her. And if she doesn't, they ditch the relationship or even never let out their feelings. 2. If I had no intention of dating but fell for her along the way, I'll either open up to her, or quench the romantic feeling if I see she'll never date me. But most importantly, never walk away because you felt hurt the girl turned you down after thinking being best friends with her means you are the one she'll date. All I'm trying to say, always define your friendships, know what you want. Don't make conclusions. Now on second paragraph, no I'm not married, I'm far from being married for now, and I think you didn't read my earlier post on this thread. I made it very clear that I was never attracted to her, but if she was attracted to me, I can't tell because she never told me nor show it. So I only spoke for myself as others have done. I'm not God, so I can't speak for her, I can only speak for myself. There are girls that can nakéd before me and no hairs in body will stand up. I'm not bragging, it's just me. They are also millions of girls that won't even nakéd themselves to have my emotions boiling over. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by MrRenaissance: 9:27am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Nemeka: Submission comes first! Don't forget that accepting to date you is an act of submission, and there is no way two people will go to next level without first submitting to each other. No matter the infatuation, nobody (right thinking person) will propose marriage to somebody thats not submissive even in courtship.The embolden is pure fallacy. You fall in love with a girl, woos her and makes her fall in love with you; and then ask her out on a romantic date which she agrees to out of love and trying get to know you better, and you term it SUBMISSION? Seriously? So what happens when you agree to go on a date with a girl, you're submitting to her? SMH @OP, some people will prefer submission first, but I prefer love first. Once a girl loves me, cares about me as I care about her, she will naturally submit to me out of LOVE. That's how it's always been with my GFs. I prefer submission borne out of love and care about US (me and her), not the borne one out of a natural order for her to submit to me before I love her or respect her. 3 Likes |
Sports / Re: Netherlands Vs Mexico - World Cup (2 - 1) On 29th June 2014 by MrRenaissance: 7:20pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
JayKayMaybachz: Just relax....same happened against Chile and Australia buh the wonI'm so happy although Robben be dive master. |
Sports / Re: Netherlands Vs Mexico - World Cup (2 - 1) On 29th June 2014 by MrRenaissance: 5:50pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
If Netherland knew they would be playing this poorly, why the fùck did they win Spain then? What happened to my Holland? |
Sports / Re: Netherlands Vs Mexico - World Cup (2 - 1) On 29th June 2014 by MrRenaissance: 5:44pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
*in Dare's voice* Holland, y'all are not the team I used to know, y'all are shadows of yourselves. |
Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 5:35pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
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Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 5:32pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
opylas: @embolden, I've addressed it in my earlier posts. I explicitly wrote that if she'd developed feelings for me, I don't know and she didn't tell me. So you can't blame me. About the 'polishing', I understood you perfectly. I also said it's possible to develop feelings for your best friend, so once that happens, the party in love should man up and open up. It saves unnecessary stress/grudges. Even if he or she turns you down, you move on with your life whilst still being friends with her. Of course it'd hurt when she leaves you for another guy/turn you down, but it's the 'mature' thing to do (I.e opening up to her). Who knows, she might even feel the same way about you. So when you feel the way you felt after 'polishing' her and felt you ought to be the one wearing the 'shoe' (her), let her know about that. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 5:17pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
softsparky:Now you get the drift. That's why I always said, once I find out, I walk away or treat the person the same way he or she is treating me. |
Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 5:07pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
softsparky:Your role is defined between you two, so it's not a problem. But what of you are friends with someone and your job unbeknownst to you is to be for example, assist him financially, other than that, he won't remember you. He only remembers you when your 'role' of assisting him financially arises after which he forgets about you till next 'financial assistance' situation arises. if you happen to find out later or if such roles was undefined, would you not feel bad about it? That's what we're trying to point out. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 4:20pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
jay bee:Personally for me, if I was in their (the males with different roles to play) shoes, I'll feel bad. |
Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 4:13pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
m-ployer:True that. Ladies hold the KEY most of the time when it comes to relationship and séx. It's a natural phenomenon, and I'm cool with it. In cross-gender relationship, men fall for the ladies more than the ladies do, for the men. Nothing will ever change that. |
Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 3:59pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: @the embolden, you might be right though, but I think it's partially why. I believe another aspect is the fact that the ladies are the ones being wooed and so have more 'options' unlike the men. the main problem is the 'mindset' the men (this topic is about men's perspective) have before being 'best friends' with the opposite gender. There'd be hurts if the guy in question had an ulterior motive of dating the girl while using the facade of 'besties' and the girl turns him down. It dumbness. Sometimes the feelings might not be there initially, but when it grows, if the guy can't suppress it, then woo her and let her know your feelings, if she says no, move on but still be her friend. I've once been a friend with a girl, along the line I fell for her, wooed her and she turned me down. I moved on, and till now, we're good friends. So always know your priority, if it's to date her, let her know, if it's strictly platonic, you both should have it at the back of your minds. If I bring too much to the table in a friendship and it's not reciprocated as the OP detailed out, I'll take a walk. shikena |
Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 3:42pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
opylas:And I'm telling you we're more than 'close' sef. I've told her things I can't even tell my hommies. A girl I once dated, she 'checked' her out and advised me to go for her. And no, I was NEVER attracted to her. As a matter of fact, we went for a parties, and I've never 'rocked' her and dance 'sexily' with her. Doing that is a waste of time because I'll never get turned on. She'd have been my bestie till now but we lost contact when she travelled out. Bruh, I'm telling you, there's a girl(not necessarily your bestie) out there amongst your friends, that you will never touch even if she's nakéd. At least there is, for me. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 3:35pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
From my perspective, the OP is right somewhat, but not wholly. His fault is making it a 'cross-gender' related issue only. The scenarios he painted happens to same-gender friendships too. The unadulterated truth is, whether male or female, immediately I found my efforts in a relationship are not reciprocated, and after SEVERAL tries, my friend (bestie or not, male or female) is not willing to reciprocate my efforts, I distance myself away from him or her. If I'm best friends with a girl, and we used to be close, like super close; then all of a sudden she gets a BF and stop talking to me or distance herself away from me (not necessarily hang out with me all the time, because I understand she has a BF now and needs to spend time with him more than with me), if I bring her attention to it and she doesn't change, I'll distance myself from her too, not because she refused to date me (when I never wooed her nor had any intention to), but because I treat people the way they treat me. Same thing applies to my male friends too. My first best friend was a male, we grew up together, but immediately he hit the jackpot and started following new 'clique' and stopped reaching out to me, I stopped reaching out to him too. That's life. I treat people the way they treat me, simples. Cross-gender friendships can work if you guys clearly define what you both want and if there are no romantic feelings attached (but if there'll be one, let it be reciprocal), but I admit, it's hard and rare, but not impossible. The problem is: 1. People go into such friendships with the hidden intention of dating the girl or boy. Note: Always know what you want and don't overstep it if you can't bear the consequence. 2. Feelings might develop along the way and since it might not be reciprocated it, it'll hurt the partner that have the feelings when his/her bestie finds a lover. 3. And most importantly, people place too much importance/expectations on other people and when the people fail to live up to that expectations, it hurts. As for me, dating or friendship, I treat you how you treat me. I'll never force any friendship, male or female. If you distance yourself away from me, I keep you at arm's length and move on. 5 Likes |
Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 2:53pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
opylas:speak for yourself. I've had a female best friend for over 6years before we lost contact, and I never fell for her. |
Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 2:49pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: I think it's very telling that the people who are all about how a member of the opposite sex is their best friend and they cannot do without this best friend is women. I don't know many men who think that a girl is their best friend and they aren't thinking of dating or marrying her.Word!! Truth though is, it's easier on the ladies' side, than on the men's side, but it swings both ways perfectly. Like Tintingz pointed, I've some female friends I grew up with, some I met while grown up, that I've NEVER had any sexual inclination towards them. They're few though. I've had a female best friend before, she travelled out of the country few years back, but in those times, I've never felt anything romantic towards her, took her like my sis. If she had fell for me, I can't tell though. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Why Cross-Gender Friendships Don't Work by MrRenaissance: 2:43pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
chuxyz: mtchew! You no get point at all! Ihn deh canada then how do you expect awkwardness from canada? Abi dem deh send awkwardness via courier ni? Abeg park well we no come here to showcase abroad friends. Go find thread like that. You hear? If na like that i have many Jamaican female friends i have met online. And we tell ourselves everything and nothing else attached. Nonsense! You sound pissed though. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Again, Herdsmen Kill 33 Locals In Southern Kaduna by MrRenaissance: 11:24pm On Jun 28, 2014 |
How a human with a conscience can wake up, grab a weapon and end someone's life is still a mystrey to me. Many lions in human skin parading around looking for whom to devour. |
Politics / Re: Again, Herdsmen Kill 33 Locals In Southern Kaduna by MrRenaissance: 10:55pm On Jun 28, 2014 |
I guess the news warning us that Boko Haram now masquerade around as cattle rearers maiming innocent victims, is true. I wonder how they plan of spreading the religion of PEACE through BLOODSHED and VIOLENCE. I wonder why this country can't be divided so these demons can bomb and slaughter themselves to smithereens. |
Sports / Re: Brazil Vs Chile - World Cup (3 - 2) On Penalties On 28th June 2014 by MrRenaissance: 7:55pm On Jun 28, 2014 |
Fuck_ you neymar!! |
Sports / Re: Brazil Vs Chile - World Cup (3 - 2) On Penalties On 28th June 2014 by MrRenaissance: 7:54pm On Jun 28, 2014 |
Neymar miss this let's go home. |
Sports / Re: Brazil Vs Chile - World Cup (3 - 2) On Penalties On 28th June 2014 by MrRenaissance: 7:53pm On Jun 28, 2014 |
Yaaaaaayyyy!! .. Brazil LOOSERS |
Sports / Re: Brazil Vs Chile - World Cup (3 - 2) On Penalties On 28th June 2014 by MrRenaissance: 7:52pm On Jun 28, 2014 |
I'm outta here abeg. |
Sports / Re: Brazil Vs Chile - World Cup (3 - 2) On Penalties On 28th June 2014 by MrRenaissance: 7:51pm On Jun 28, 2014 |
Sanchez na fool!! |
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