shaggy007: You guyz have made very nice points. But let me tell you what is really going on. Guys don't change, girls don't change. They are simply being their true selves.

Why I emphasized oh the word "true" is because most people lead fake lives. No woman will want to be a friend with a brokeass, ugly, unintelligent mofo. Like wise, no guy will want to be friends with the same type of girl (brokeass, ugly...).

Now, in order to balance the equation, guys pretend to be whom they are not...prince charming, gentleman, rich...blablabla...
And girls pretend to be what they are not...golden girls, with wide hips and full b00bs, speak in a weird accent, try to belong...blablabla.

When push comes to shove, everyone will go back to being him/Herself...The inconsiderate sex-starved, money hungry...blablabla person that they are.

I dont know why people pretend to be who/what they are not, just to be accepted in the society?

How long can you pretend?

Why don't you try to be your true selves and damn the consequences leading to inferiority complex.

You'll fell better that way with less and lesser headaches.

opylas:

Wow! What's it called then? 'Respect 4 her?'

Here's wat I'm tryna say: nt a hair on ur skin felt anything thruout ur frndshp days, good. Bt wat abt her? Hw sure r u she neva felt anything? Hw sure r u d@ evn d hairs d@ wld l8r grow on her skin felt sth bfr they evn came up? Jst hw sure r u?? She myt hv felt sth bt neva did say anything cos u were 'too good' 4 her nd chickened out. She evn myt hv had many oda r'zns. Rememba we'r nt looking @ ds issue isn't guy-sided. U may hv b insensitive, u knw.

I guess m saying all ds cos I'v bn a victim, nd thr was nothing wrong wt me-I was 'mature' enough 2 hv handled things nd deciphered if twas jst me tryin 2 take advantage of d whole thing, bt bruh, it was far more dan dat. Infact, if I was 2 grade her wen we started out as friends, she'd b 2 outta 10. It jst got 2 a point I felt I had polished her well enough nd no 1 cld b more ryt 4 me. 'm sure sm guys in ds shoe wld also say dey cldn't let sm oda dude frm smwhr 'wear' d shoe dey 'polished' evn if wyl polishing, they didn't think they'd one day feel d shoe wld b their 'size' and want 2 put it on.

PS: D polishing here doesn't necessarilt mean buying her stuff or spending ur cash on her, bt increasing her values nd standard as a lady. I knw most NLanders will confuse dat, bt I trust u understnd.

Richiy:
Doesn't mean we should ignore that one.

Guidette:
Are you telling me there are girls that you are friends with that you are not remotely attracted to? Sigh. I think it is high time i stopped explaining myself

Guidette:
Are you telling me there are girls that you are friends with that you are not remotely attracted to? Sigh. I think it is high time i stopped explaining myself

ERTHAENIGMA:
in this case scenario,that 1 is infinitesimal

Mynd_44:
You are missing the point here. This is not about relationships. This is about friendships. No strings attached

Ishilove:
What did I write and what is this one saying?

*claps hands* Chineeeke!

See as inferiority complex dey wound you. Abeg park well and stop ranting like a hag on her period. Oyingbo motor park tout.

chuxyz:
Oloriburuku version 2.0 na ihn you be. Bragging about your friend - a lecturer in canada. You for tell us how many cars in get and his salary so that we go clap for you. How does his occupation and location fits into the arguement or how does it give points to your statement? Olodo rabata oju eja lo mo n je... He tells you everything but ihn no gree teach you make you get small sense. Get lost! Loser

Ishilove: Op, I don't know what you're talking about. One of my closest friends is a guy who I've known for 15yrs now( since secondary school). He lectures in Canada now, but not once has there ever been any awkwardness between us. There is almost nothing we can't tell each other, and never once have we ever had the issues you mentioned. He's a friend and a brother, and our friendship waxes stronger.

Mr Renaissance:

@the embolden, you might be right though, but I think it's partially why. I believe another aspect is the fact that the ladies are the ones being wooed and so have more 'options' unlike the men.

the main problem is the 'mindset' the men (this topic is about men's perspective) have before being 'best friends' with the opposite gender. There'd be hurts if the guy in question had an ulterior motive of dating the girl while using the facade of 'besties' and the girl turns him down. It dumbness. Sometimes the feelings might not be there initially, but when it grows, if the guy can't suppress it, then woo her and let her know your feelings, if she says no, move on but still be her friend.

I've once been a friend with a girl, along the line I fell for her, wooed her and she turned me down. I moved on, and till now, we're good friends. So always know your priority, if it's to date her, let her know, if it's strictly platonic, you both should have it at the back of your minds.

If I bring too much to the table in a friendship and it's not reciprocated as the OP detailed out, I'll take a walk. shikena

dlux: Why be just friends when we can Bleep & still be best of friends. Ladies take it too personal. If she wants to be just friends then don't ask me to get outta line or do things your bf or husband should do.

Richiy: You forgot to mention the fact that most guys would not consciously appreciate that girl that goes the extra mile for them. Rather, they would go around chasing girls that have no regard for them and end up screaming that girls are heartless. Let every guy check their lives, there is always that girl that is different but they become so used to her that they put her in the background.

yeyenatu:

He should be the shoulder when necessary, e doesn't really ave to expect things in return. For them to even be friends, e should ave considered the fact that she is female after all and tender. He should take her shortcomings jor. If she gets hurt, of course she is gonna run to him, he is her friend. Guys are only good friends when they ave favors to ask for.

It's not about relationships, it's about being a good friend and not minding if you remain in the friend zone, did you come with a different agenda? I don't see why guys offer friendship when they want something else.

obstead200:
Please go back to sleep. Cos u just woke up in Jupiter.
What a load of bullcrap u are spewing outta Ur lips!!
I can sense the density and smell the odour of selfishness in Ur post.

Mynd_44:
You are missing the point here. This is not about relationships. This is about friendships. No strings attached

EnlightenedSoul:

El Oh El
Every last one of you is treating these friendships like a friend-zone case.

You are Alive!!

Come Here
#Hugs Her...

desdichando: Bigggg olodo you are..did you even read the post properly

dyt babe: Holla
We them boys
Holaa holla
We making .....
*wiz khalifas voice*

jay bee: @uju
Can you please be my friend, i don't mind being assigned the role of bed warmer

imustsaymymindo:
well, what are friends for? But srzly, my point is that since she is older,you would have the opportunity to be on the receiving end too 2ru advice,money etc. Not u doin evryfin