₦airaland Forum

funmisticqueen:
Thank you, i will try from now on, this gender war on romanceland is becoming quite tiring

Yeah.
You need to.

MzLarem:
Certain responsibilities are for the man who you are married to,note that.

For the fact he is your boyfriend doesn't mean he owes you anything, he owes you no dime, sister and whatever he does for you is only out of self will and the love he has for you just like you owe him no shit too.

About the issue of dating a broke guy shouldn't even be an issue... if you know you can cope, go right ahead... if you can't, then step aside. We all have different specs. But for you to start thinking your man owes you so much cos you are dating him, erase that mentality. You are not doing him a favor by dating him... it's a mutual thing.

Lastly, if you can't date a broke guy, don't be broke yourself cos it's like saying you can't date You.

God bless your brain. Most ladies will think you are living in Moon. But its the reality. In as much as a guy is not asking you for money in a relationship, he is not broke. When you term me broke for not giving you money for your needs yet you have a father and brother.

I met a lady who have nothing to offer. Any time she calls, I will know its for money, maybe its what keeps her. You know what? I don't give to her. When she calls I won't pick. She will use an unknown number to call. At a time, she understand the message and she is gone to come back soon because long throat will always kill women.

I do not ask guys to pity ladies. Those people like Op who are not coming from an average home are always tasty for money. Well, from my experience so far, life is more than money. Life is about fulfilling purpose. The purpose of existence or a relationship should always be established. Most guys like me do not always want to get committed to women because of this kind of ladies like op. The rate of divorce is growing because guys make money and get any lady of their choice and then come back to treat their wife with no respect.

funmisticqueen:
Oya take this small sense as a souvenir, let me be going

I have followed all you comments and if I'm a judge, I would have ruled in favour of you.
You have made matured comments.

Just learn to let go of irrelevant comments made to you, its not necessary.

Safiaa:
Love is important in a relationship. But trust me, it is NOT the most inportant thing. Im telling you this now, so you better wake up. Even if im drowned in love, the problems that derive from money can cause me to sign those divorce papers. Should i start naming a few? Insecurities, theft, jealousy, infidelity..this list goes on.

A wise woman would think about the other aspects of a relationship more than love, because that's what determines longevity.

You really do not understand the essence of life. You need to read Mark Zukerbergs convocation commencement speech. It would change your purpose of life. As a lady have suggested here, get a book and read. Its good to read because it will expose you to a lot of things. I have followed your arguments and others, you are not making sense.

In as much as money is important, love in a relationship is more important.
He that finds a wife should find a good thing not a money monger. What should keep you in a relationship should be a purpose.

Just yesterday, I read a story from a married woman who is currently going through a lot of things. She might have made a mistake by marrying a guy because he lives in Dubai. I even assume they didn't even date. Now, the man is beating her even in pregnancy.

That is what the quest for material things will lead to. You just need to understand the purpose of life.

My review
5 star

agitator:
Afonja never disappoints

In his bid to write rubbish, he failed all spellings. Even the Ohaozzara, should be spelt Ohaozara.

wristbangle:
Punch line words bros!! and It's funny to see one of the notorious IPOB members requesting for help in Job/vacancies section on how to apply for the NIS job advert. Even the latest Lagos state graduate trainee advert saw influx of them applying for the job.

Igbos are great people but IPOB are delusional beings and criminals. You can't eat your cake and have it back, If they don't want Nigeria, they should not seek anything beneficial from it again.

Well spoken. And that is the reality. The coming of the recent fight for Biafra has done more harm. Our region was just recovering and gaining national trust. People trying to invest on our soil. But now, no such foreign investment will happen because of the fear the agitation.

We can't survive on our own. No country have survived independently and Igbo being travellers and Business people can't survive even if we secede. We need to start loving ourselves first it will help us to love others.

boiz2men:
dude show a screenshot of your fiverr earnings... i might get interested. i always tell people that the author who writes "21 ways to be a millionaire" wasnt until you all bought his book... so lets see your earnings and i would bring so many people to you if impressive

Though I wasn't trained by him, fiverr earning is real. I made this sales or earnings this month of May.

One thing is that, his free fiverr training might not be true.

cktheluckyman:
So naming a cow buhari is more provocative than what Fulani herdsmen has been doing all across the country?

Let the massacre start and you will find out that no one has a monopoly over violence!!! Nonsense

Your type only fight online. Your brothers are up north trying to make ends meet. They are surrounded by Northerners, and they will be the first victim of attack.

Your hatred against others show how you hate yourselves internally. This is the more reason why Biafra will keep being a mirage. Learn to love others. Igbos are travellers, we are seen to be everywhere. I served in the north, and no one showed me any hatred as we are showing others. One thing you do not know about the north is that they love people more than others love them. Forget about their quest for power, the reality is that they don't see you the way you see them.

I am an Igbo, I believe in the course of the Igbo race, I do not believe in this kind of Biafra. I hate when a course is being fought through hatred, thus the reason the reality of Biafra only exists in our heart. Like people have said, it will keep having a long term effect on us.

I was just thinking, the Nigerian Immigration recruitment currently ongoing, most of us will apply, yet we think we are fighting for Biafra. If the NDA starts recruiting, you will apply or even advice your brother to apply and if successful he will swear to protect the unity of this nation.

In summary, let us take away hatred. I have so many friends who when we finished service, stayed in the north in pursuit of a higher degree. These persons lives are at risk each time you promote hatred among ethnic groups.

Thank you.

Phaytte:
too much oyibo film. chaii

Hmmmm, typical Nigerian girl

1234IKECHhukwu:
ladies can be devilish u can imagine, that is what one stupid girl m currently going out with is telling me.

Na their way. When Safiaa is ready to settle down, she will tell her guy the same thing.

Only Pocohantas is making me think opposite.

Body count my foot. And for you to see their shallow thinking, when they tell you how many body count they have had, they expect you to applaud them for being sincere. Lol and they also expect you to believe that body count.

Pocohantas, what's your body count? Mine remains..... you know it

redbeans:
real matters. For some, it's on their time-table. They get home,bathe, eat and do jigijigi to pass out. Oyind17 nino4u mrsphysics i talk lie?

Actually its not everyday thing. The thing can be boring sometimes

Safiaa:
The the world would be a better place and HIV probably wouldn't exist

Don't tell me you have been having it raw

TonyeBarcanista:
APC and Buhari should ensure that their handover note is ready by December 2017, because a strong coalition, inspired by sound ideology and principles, made up of patriots and driven by patriots across the length and breath of Nigeria and beyond is on its way to chase out those fraudsters that deceived our people in 2015 at all level. Nobody will be spared.


God Bless this country

MODIFIED
contrary to the vanguard report, APDA is not an alternative for Markafi led PDP but instead it is a platform that seeks to install better leaders at all levels in Nigeria with the drivers cutting across various party after seeing that their present party is fraudulent and hopeless.

Patriots like you? Chai

missnawty:
Pls wat time does Sunday service strt femoint007

Let's go together.

Nice one.
This Nairaland slay queens won't branch hear to seek knowledge.

temmypotter:
Lol, now I feel bad.. but let's call a spade a spade my brother, the girl lacks sense. You've slept with a full football team A and Team B, keep it to yourself, repent, lock up your cunt with super glue and ask God and your future husband for mercy, don't come on Nairaland and be spewing oro jati jati just to make yourself feel better, she a hoe! simple.. that's forgivable, but what's worse?.. she's a proud hoe! now that's simply terrible!

Very true.
Some of this guy's here telling her she's right won't even spare their wife for sleeping with two people. They won't also advise their sister to have a good number of body count and also tell her husband same.

I know women are h.o.l.e.s who are proud of their shameless activities. It's the guys that fvck them, yes I know, but these same guys won't advise you to tell them how many you have slept with.

Okay, the OP said she have been in four relationships, believe her at your own peril. Nairaland is filled with kids who have only online experience but not real life experience. Most of them are within age 20-25, they come here ranting and claiming professors of relationship affairs.

ElDadd:
Ignorance they say is bliss.
When I meet you, I should have an idea about you,
Once I accept you for what I observe, no need telling me about your sexual past.
Of what use is it to me?
Are we haggling on highscores as regards sex bodycounts?
Who cares?!
You're mine now.. and that's all that matters.

As long as we do tests, you're fertile. We vibe..
That's all that matters..
Not how many people you slept with, or who.

This is nothing but the truth. Reality, I have come to understand that women think in a very shallow way irrespective of their academic intelligence or their level of smartness. They don't think deep

aladeokin1000:
Personally I don't counter the viewpoint of others. The OP is not far away from the truth coz she's in tune with reality. lt's just that what she said goes against the general opinion especially in the moral and religious sense. Having said that, it depends on how understanding one's partner is. Some might not take it too well while some might be a lil on the liberal side. Tho on a sidenote,I really don't wanna know how many men my future wife has slept with. It's much better to let sleeping dogs lie tbh

Why will she know when you are telling her that she is not far from the truth. She is 5 billion light-years away from the truth.

You know what? She is assuming an perfect situation. And there is no such that in the real world. Why men will tell her she is saying the truth, but in reality you don't want to know how deep the h.o.l.e have been dug. So why encourage her to make that mistake and start answering a baby mama.

Op is still a young girl of 22 years, still very young. She is fascinated by the western culture where she is living. That's completely different from what is obtainable here, and some of those cultures are wrong and we all know that.

What happened to China? China refused to accept the whole civilization brought to them by the westerners. Rather, they mixed it with their culture and today China's language is officially know, and there are competing with the US.

Safiaa:
Thats your opinion.

An average nigerian is a nigerian whose opinions are strictly based off traditional culture and extreme religious beliefs. Anything opposing those views are seen as immoral and wrong. The western culture is demonic and women are oppressed by misogynistic and narcissistic rules.

That's wrong. Very wrong

Safiaa:
No. I just see life differently from the average nigerian.
Most nigerians are hypocrites anyways, so i follow my own beliefs and opinions.

Thats understandable. But what happens when her history catches up with her, for example? You find out that she's had sex with a colleague, friend or whatever it may be. Isn't it better for you to know beforehand? This world is a very small world, and somebody will know somebody that you know. Thats why i just believe in being honest, so nothing becomes a shock.

History is history. If you go around looking for who your wife have slept with, you will see many of them. Once it's marriage, forget the old playing days. I won't bother about it.

Guys can claim there slept with a lady they didn't, all I am saying is that before you tell someone your body count, make sure you have his mumu button.

If my wife dated and slept with four guys at age 22 with an available one now? and she tell me that expecting me to be clapping for her, in as much as she is honest, I won't even accept she counted them right. Do you know how it feels knowing that someone around have slept with your wife. It's better not to be informed about it so you will be free from worries. If I know and she answers any male call, I will think that she is about to make them 5 at age........ (please tell me)


Who is an average Nigerian?

Safiaa:
The thing is I'm not trying to be strong. Strong for wetin? I'm naturally quite opinionated, but people mistake that for the wrong thing.
If your opinion doesn't fit into the popular views,
its a problem. To be honest, i cannot express how much it doesn't affect me lool. I just find everything comical and entertaining. Its very useful for boring days.

Yeah, I got that. But Nairaland seems to be a different place like Facebook and so on. You. might have seen different monikers with rubbish names, there are used for such purposes. Before I joke here, I am always careful.

I hate taking the popular views opinion, but you don't apply that into some things. Some of which include moral standards, culture, values and beliefs. Aside this, you can be quite different from others.

Men are very mystical in a way. Hard to understand people just like women. You don't use a way to follow them. personally I don't want to know my wife's body count, neither should she be interested in mine. If I saw something in her that attracted me, what is the need of knowing how many persons she have opened those legs life and screamed for.
If she dare say it and it exceeds mine or my tolerance number, then I will become a single man.

Safiaa:
Thanks for your opinion

Thanks for repenting.

Safiaa:
So I'm not marriage material to you?

I do not think so. I only think you are allowing some things to penetrate into you. Absorbing every style of living you think please you.

I also see emotionally weak lady who is trying to be very strong. I know that off Nairaland, you are not what you portray yourself to be here.

I also know that you have been into more than four fvcked relationship.

On whether you are a wife material or not to me depends on the tailor. While some will tell you that the yard is enough, when they tear the h.o.l.e. ,they will return it back.

Safiaa:
Ok sir lol.

Don't mind those boys telling you that you are right. Tell it to a husband and he will never trust you again. Any call you answer must be questioned.

Men don't like hearing such thing. When married, let those old way go. I have a friend who is engaged and yet still want me to bleeeep her. She is telling the guy no sex till marriage but want some three some. I am running because I am responsible, I have virtues and values to protect.

The graph of relationship isn't linear. No one rule or law explains it completely.

Safiaa:
thank you.

Grow up gel. I took time to read this post and there is really something I noticed.

Mostly women agreed with you. Have you asked why? Because just like you, there have lost count of their body count. And you didn't even count yours well. You have dated four guys, it's not four body count.

You slept with them about 30 times in the relationship, say 3 rounds per count. so 30*4=120 body count.

But on a more serious note, any guy that agree with you is a hypocrite, such person's are green snakes. They can't stand knowing their wife is a whole. imagine I married a lady and she told me she have dated 4 guys at age 22, then maybe another 4 before we met, and that she have 120 body count. The marriage will end there immediately, because I will always be thinking what she spent her teenage years doing. Eating "deek".

temmypotter:
you have a problem and it's sad you can't even see it, all blinded by the idyllic euphoria of true love and bs prince charming fools who'd love you for who you are even if you've got a cunt 10feet deep. You lie.. maybe that could work in some alien civilization somewhere between pluto and Neptune.. but in the real world, we like our women decent and clean.. no guy wants a loose scrubber for a wife, he just gonna smash and leave. Ask Banky W, he knows!

On a side note however, if you do find some guy who's willing to wed you probably due to dementia and retardation, make sure to remind him there aint no need for a bride price and a flamboyant wedding, a gathering with biscuits should do.

Bros fear God. Your last paragraph, you just finished this slay hole. Abeg pity her.

Okay.

Outsource your writers: When you want to do it alone, you will get exhausted. There are many writers who can be giving you about three posts everyday at a very reduced price. Take advantage of so many of them out there and get your blog refreshed.

But if you are looking for free guest writers, you will keep circulating one information in your blog.

Safiaa:
You're indirectly insulting me, claiming that i'm 'loose' . You don't assume what you don't know without facts. It's very silly and uncalled for. I will always defend myself no matter what. I apologise if i insulted you, but be wise when expressing yourself.

Happy Birthday.

Hope you will stop insulting people at age 23, and also double your body count from four to eight.

Wishing you the best

MainHerioneHoon:
Good for you for never starting , you enjoy the moment but afterwards you feel guilty trust me I know.

You are right. It's better to stay away from anything that could lead you into it. The quest for sex causes such arousal.

EastGold:
Guess they were all drunk.

Anyways, RIP

Take it