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wetin I wan do with all these reasons sef?

Bad Belle ...
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.. Its allowed . what's your business in it sef?

naijainfogalery:
For privacy reasons can't post here

Ok

limamintruth:
Marry & enjoy greater earthly bliss just like your moniker mentions

Does marriage guarantee bliss?

troy20:
u just de make noise.i will be very happy if you eventually remain single till eternity.atleast there are too many fertile women with the imploding population.but who am i kidding, you are just waiting to stretch out a finger for a ring to the next man who as much as says 'Hi' to you.i can bet my life you are already doing six to six to find a husband.see dis one.mtcheew

You wish !!!!
I am 19 and marriage is not in my dictionary.even if it will be added,it will be in 4..5 years time.

rudebouy:
Well, der are four options here involved and you must pick one of dem:

1. Stay single for life and suffer naija stigma from family, friends and soceity at large.

2. Marry to please naija and endure all the bullshit dat comes with it.

3. Marry to please naija and have an open marriage.

4. Marry becos u want to and make it work for you.

It's okay to have weird tots. Everybody does once in a while. The question is do u wanna have a weird life also? Der is nothing wrong in having a weird life either.

Howeva, if you can come for some private lectures, I will guide you into the world of weirdness8-).

Comprehenday?

Hmmm
What's your definition of weird ?

rudebouy:
Na wa oh! U no want marry and u no want wire. Abi konji no day hold you? U get low sex drive or sexual dysfunction?

Hahaha its all wired to my thoughts: what I think about.

naijainfogalery:
wish i could tell u somethings but def not here as time goes on you will be fine trust me

What things ?

Chi59:
Same here too. I feel marriage is overhyped, i enjoy being single.
Who knows? Maybe someday, i might have a change of mind.

so so over hyped. I also hope to have a change of mind someday with good reasons to back it up and at least have something to say to my children .

naijainfogalery:
Well im not actually here to force you but i just want you to see the light

Remember when you were young some certain things matters, while you were in secondary school things that made you cry are the things that you feel actually made school sweet, back in uni things that gave you headache are the things if you look back you just laugh out loud, fast forward 30 years from now the truith will evolve as reality,

Thanks Durlin for your efforts.

damesilver:
I recommend some articles on 'schizoid personality.'
Thanks.

schizoid personality ?? No honey am definitely not a loner.It haven't gotten to that stage o.If I start talking eh nah you sef go tire.I also have a great relationship with people around me.So just rule that out.

damesilver:
It all depends on your values, aspirations and what you hold dear. A lot of young men, and woman especially, live under the sinister delusion that marriage is the highest and their main vocation on earth.

When it is said that 'marriages are made in heaven'', it is true. But most marriages of today seem to negate the truthfulness of that saying by the apparent effects of decay they visibly bear. The marriages themselves are to be pilloried, not the saying.

Seldom is ideal marriage seen. A union entered into without much reflection depends on luck for its happiness as the chance of turning up a double six in a throw of dice.

A human being on earth can either carry a negative pole (female) or positive pole (male). Like a magnet of unlike polarity, It is an inherent quality of a part-specie to desire and strive for a union for it to become a whole specie which can really be of full value. (Hence, the reason people feel subconsciously they need to just get marry without their knowing why).

The blending of the complementary qualities in both bring about perfection, only if they are striving towards noble things.

It doesn't matter whether you are esteemed by your neighbour. Each individual bears full responsibility for whatever he thinks and does.

The desire to procreate is the exclusive preserve of the parties involved as it is not a necessary condition for a harmonious relationship.

A woman carries a delicate and higher inner sensing than the man, which is also evident in their physical bodies. The man is to face outward battle while the woman supply the strength needed by her constant connection with the power centre from above.

They need not enter into marriage here on earth, nor need they be acquainted in any way; only that their striving must be towards the Light.

Yes, you can live a fulfilling life whether single or married but if you do earnestly desire to contract marriage anyway, do not be superficial. A great curse rests on whoever desecrate the sacredness of the high institution. Turn to your inner voice for answers and your path will become clear with soft carpets full of roses.

Note: I recommend that you read some articles on 'schizoid personality.'
Thanks.

I love the part you said that people feel self concioused to get married without knowing why.
they automatically feel its just normal to get married because everybody does that.

naijainfogalery:
I hope i was able to convince u lol, not to only marry but believe in LOve

I know your bubble is precious to you and am really sorry to burst it .I am still not convinced sorry .

iykedare:
Madam,thanks for this.
The op can't offer anything to a man hence the reason she feels that way.
There are too many women for few guys already.

Hmm.... I cnt offer anything to a man; so tell me,what does men want from a woman ?

Lol Op you harsh o buh the truth must be told .

Raalsalghul:
Because it's the man that spends more money by the end of the day and in my own opinion the OP is not blaming the ladies for anything: he is just trying to say that men shouldn't lavish money on weddings with women who possess the above characteristics.

The marriage is on behalf of both of them and not just the woman .

naijainfogalery:
I get you, don't let what you see around define what you want, my dear because I see so many girls sleeping around doesn't mean I would generalise all women as whores . you don't need to bother yourself with what's happening around you. I bet you i have seen a far more uglier picture than u have and guess what anytime I see that it gives me this thouht of never to be like that. Every time I see the bad side of marriage it just encourages me to be a better man.

Though it's not a must to get married but my dear look beyond 20 years from now then u will realise that some things in life are important . never let what u see around you shape your future, the power to be successful lies in your hands and you have the power to determine what ever u wanna be

Thanks once again

iykedare:
You don't want to marry or there is no one to marry you? Ladies always confuse these two.

None of the above ^^^.I just don't see the need to get married.

acidtalk:
That is meant to be how it is in a sane world. But right now in the US it is between the man and the man which makes them[b] MANUNITED[/b]

Hahaha

Mbkite:
make we just born 2 children, u take 1, I take 1. No marriage! Case closed!

like I said before ,I still have a lil faith in marriage .all my hopes are not entirely lost.I just need to know if its worth all the stress .

wristbangle:
Hmmm.. I dey come first *running away*

lol
You can run but you cannot hide. #sends able bodied guys to chase him and bring him back here

Mbkite:
stop looking out 4 reasons, there are no reasons. Just reason what I said.

Hmmm what is it you said again ?

There's no better revenge than to let her keep him.Real men can't be snatched .

I hear it is and I have seen enough to confirm the claim.

Mbkite:
I have seen that two of us hv no reason to marry. Make we born 2 children, u take 1, i take 1. Am gona take care of d children till dey are 5years. Send me pm am really serious.

I have no reason that's why I am asking the question on this forum hoping to get some reasonable answers.

freeage7:
Atleast u are sensible. For the fact that u respect peoples opinion. Pls, continue in that direction. Marriage remains a divine law, with a caveat. If u can hold ursef good, if u cannot go get married. Shekina

Thanks

troy20:
how i hate that like a woman cant breath without getting married to a man.you know...just fvck and live free.

Lol

snadguy007:
Then there is a limit to what girls can do to avoid being tagged with a bad name.

My opinion anyway

:- yea ladies got to take the blames always even though the crime was committed by two grown people.

wristbangle:
Lol. Who is this wristwatch people are fighting over gahn!

So you want to lie to my face that you don't know who wristwatch is abi? Oya come and swear #grabs Bible

snadguy007:
Doesn't change anything.... Like the op said, ladies are always at the receiving end, even a 'player' that spent his whole bachelor's lifestyle sleeping with various kinds of girls will look for a decent girl to marry. Guess we'll blame God for gender inequality, right?

Nope we can't blame God for anything remember he is always perfect .

lilmax:
you are not even sure about what you need smh

No you should give me some good reasons first before concluding .

freeage7:
Its a divine commandment from our creator. That we should go forth and multiply the earth.
...So shall a man leave his parent and cleave to his wife. No ten reasons might be good enough for you, just understand its a divine commandment.

Unfortunately, the human factors have so much destroy the idea and ideals of marriage.
Even with the many ups and downs, marriage remains a beautiful thing.

Marriage remains a beautiful thing?
I see just the opposite everywhere .