₦airaland Forum

Araoluwa005:
veteran you say? I think you need the dictionary meaning of veteran: A person with long experience of a particular activity.

kikayboss:
so you are trying to say you weren't sent to school because you are a female??....if you were sent to school by your parents am sure they'll be disappointed with the end product of their sweat.....
all reasonable parents send "all" their kid to school no matter the gender, so try come up with a better excuse for this stupidity under the cloak of feminism......

Owliver:
I focused on marriage cos that's the institution women are most likely to be treated unfairly. my dear it's either I stand on your head or you stand on my head. but that doesn't mean respect should not be awarded to everyone. can you explain why poor people are being subdued for being poor? why blacks are subdued for being blacks? that's how society rolls. religion on the other hand is a great tool. headed by men. have you ever wondered why God is a male? he only has a son and no daughter? Lolz we invented God. we invented your religion. and we accused you of being weak. deceived by a mere serpent. because we were and are still the pillars of society. so dear madam know your place and live in peace.

Araoluwa005:
Uche, remember say shoe get sizes o. the Olori(Queen) can never come so low to answer you

bebe2:
Uche pls Shut up,

must u answer everything?

see the yeye nollywood wey una dey, its crumbling fast and u are here fighting equality.

Men are women can NEVER be equal ,we all have our strenghts in diffrent areas, Unless u marry a Weak man.

kikies:
I think in d real sense dats wat u understand, bin a feminist simply means u want to b treated same way men r treated
If u work same number of hrs den ur pay shld b same etc
N I support dat......I hope u understand now
Or Berra still u check it up from ur dictionary

Gerrard59:
Nobody is saying men have to wash dishes, however, leaving dishes unwashed and even clothes for your partner to come and wash when you could do it isn't fair. Saying that a lady who comes from work late in the night to come and cook even when you came earlier than her is not fair. What stops the man from cooking and keeping some for his partner? This transcends beyond feminism, it's about doing to others as you want others to do to you.

Furthermore, feminism has helped the world and obliterated useless misconceptions and culture(s). Why must a lady have a male as a sponsor before she can rent an apartment because she's single? That's what feminism has done to help the society. It has given rights to my sister, nieces, female cousins and definitely my future daughter(s) to do things hitherto they weren't allowed to do or achieve. Saying that women have to put up with terms like "men are polygamous by nature"; which gives you the freewill to cheat isn't fair whatsoever.

Nevertheless, there are fanatics in any system or movement. However, feminism, whichever way you look at it has contributed to global development and advancement. It has given rights to those who didn't have any, hope to the downtrodden, opportunities to those who didn't have any to grab, dreams to those who never had any, education to illiterates and many more.

I'm proud to be a feminist.

RaggedyAnn:
And there's her Jackpot prize! A marriage proposal to reward her support for the oppression and neglect of her race. Well done.
All you women advocating the right to your own bodies, your property, equal opportunity and wages - no husbands for you. Whatever shall we do?!!

fellis:
lol

I just tire for some Nairaland women and their severe low self esteem.
Imagine the nonsense she wrote. Whether na PM and toasters she dey find sef I no know.

Owliver:
the concept of "society" is all about hierarchy. head and followers. this idea is imposed by law as societal morals or religious morals. with physical strength of survival we men have ruled over you for centuries and you have relied on us for centuries. now talking about marriage as a smaller society same thing applies. there must be a head and then followers. that's how it works. since time immemorial we men had taken that position either by force or by deception. we have made that our birth right even all religions invented by men dictated such structure. it's a psychological thing.

only the west have been able to deviate from such psychological order. we Africans are new to this, hence the reason for so much defence against such ideology.

so don't interpret in such manner. it's being a long time coming

kikies:
Ur place is beside ur man n not in front, n u bin beside means u shld b supportive n not run d man down with ur skillful tongue.
A sane man wld want u to b successful, I dnt mind marry a woman dat has more qualifications dan I do Bt as long as she knows dat she's not d hubby.....so she shld jst play her role as my wife n not as my "successful" wife.

chiwetel:
And where exactly is our place??
A place where we are intimidated and forced to give up our dreams?
A place where we are disrespected because we are seen as inferior?I could go on and on,that's more like an animal's place..
I am no feminist, wherever that word came from I just don't see any reason why I should subdue my potentials,and give up my dreams because a society of small minds doesn't tolerate otherwise.
I don't know about you,buh I want to be a successful wife,mother and individual and ofcourse am totally willingly to submit myself in wholeness to a man that not only knows my worth,buh is ready to support me to efficiently utilise my potentials.
isn't that what living is all about?

fellis:
You see all these men? They are all superior to you.
They are better than you and their lives have more value than yours.
The first is a theif, the second is a mass murderer and the third are three mentally unbalanced/lunatics in an insane asylum.

They are all superior to you dolly joy.

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I didn't just insult you by the way, you said men will always be superior to women so I am showing you pictures of different men that are superior to you.

Chuksemi:
Or is it denying many men wives? It's a two way thing, as a lady stays unmarried, so is a man somewhere unmarried.

Husband is not an award. It's a commitment. Not everybody has that strength or time.

harsysky:
'If only women could understand that a man's second food is RESPECT, it will help them a lot. Men could become beast if respect and honor is stripped off them.

What a man can do, a woman can do better. Us, men no complain for that one but if a woman chuuk hand for our eyes, na big yawa o.

lonelydora:
They never born any woman wey go claim equal right with me. We are Africans and have our culture.


They brought gayism, we all rejected it. They went back and brought this gender equality, we still reject it.

dollyjoy:
I don't believe in equality, what matters most is respect and understanding in any form of affair. Women can never be equal with men,there is reason why God made man first. I think the sooner women accept their place in the society/men's life the better..

andyanders:
In fact, you shouldn't have wasted your time responding to MRBrownJ for his comment. He is not better than the guy himself. No normal man would beat his wife who is pregnant no matter what. If he is not ready to be with her, why not allow her go. Is marriage a Do and Die affair?

Having said that, the girl would grow to find out the truth in future.The man is sick and is from a family who worship money. His parents worship and support their son's action because of what they gain from him.

I thank God that the lady is gone and for the little girl, the lady should not worry because the child is not a male child in the first place. She is lucky she had a female child who at the end would be with another man and her life has nothing to do with the father who has not been responsible.

Even if the lady married him because of his wealth, does that give the guy room to abuse her? Only men who is dubious and has questionable means of livelihood that would would behave the way the man acted on his wife.

No woman would dream to be with a man who will not be able to take care of her and that does not mean that the lady is not reasonable.So, people should not blame a lady for looking for a comfortable home. They can only be blamed when they go fetish in order to get a man.Nobody wants the least, even men.

modelmike7:
..... But when SR reports about how they discovered the money stole by the past administration, they are reporting lies and being partial, isn't it? Smh!

MRBrownJ:
AGAIN, whether a man beats a woman OR NOT is irrelevant to the point at hand, because if that was REALLY an issue, then thats what the OP would have written as the MAIN reason why she needs a divorce... but, as we can all clearly see, even after all the beatings, this woman was willing to accept this man "IF":
- the husband has intention of settling down and having a family (with her)
- the husband shows signs of care AND remorse over he and his parents acts towards her.
- he supported the child in any way.

so stop fooling yourself, as i said earlier, this is just revenge (using their child) from the OP, because husband didnt do the above point

modelmike7:
If this is true... FIRS should be probed. Not even now that people are looking for jobs. Enough of this impunity.

grafikii:
Bunch of retards wasting away the lives of these kids for selfish gain. Why not ask schools to be shut on Fridays too since there is no school on Sundays.
Muslims wear hijab 24hrs a day, do Christians wear robs everyday?

All these senseless competition is just stupid, why not let the kids compete in sports and debates

MRBrownJ:
as i can see some of you may have had problem understanding my post, i will post exactly what i mean, because there are TWO very important failed quotes from the OP here:



is caring for a child BLACKMAIL now? lets us NOT dwell on the story, what we DO know is that this guy is not making a lot of money in Dubai and he wanted her to come and hustle with him there, BEFORE they could bring the child over (which is what any caring parent SHOULD do). so we can confirm that A) money is tight and B) her help was needed in Dxb to make the family "stronger". that was always the plan since day one, she decided to run back to GH instead, which is her right.....

but here are the IMPORTANT questions that all of you should ask:
- if that man had no money before, why does this lady think that now that she is back in Ghana he will/should have any?
- if a father hasnt got financial support (thats the reason wifey had to stay at his parents, isnt it?), should he be automatically deleted from a child's life?!?!?!?!
- how is deleting the father from her life gonna solve ANY of the problem?
- wouldnt this broke father able to help the child emotionally?

this whole issue is about REVENGE, and nothing else, and this deluded lady is using her kids to get back at this man who "supposedly" damaged her life.

Temptee101:
That one; still in London where his Ebola infected ear its been washed, dry cleaned and retouched

Taryur3:
Your problem is bigger than my quote.I dnt feel like talking to you as av just check tru your quotes to others..pls dnt quote me again...thanks for your understanding...

Juzzybabe:
"permission to abort" Aba,no na. Secondly,I only seek advice. Since its faceless, I think its best talking to a large Number of people and weighing their opinions not like I can't take decisions of my own,but things like marriage needs absolute care and cautions. Thirdly, I have been waiting for a change since,nothing seems to be getting better. He has told my family am not his wife. my dear,I can't say it all. well,I have a good and well paid job,my daughter is growing up well and I make sure I provide all she needs. Am a woman and am human,I have feelings. The last thing I want to do is sleep with another man knowing am still entangled with another. So as to not sin,I better quit the fruitless one at hand and move on. I have tried!

dominique:
So she should stay married till she ends up like Titi Arowolo or Nike Shonde abi? What's your problem with op getting a divorce and how is it any of your business if she finds another man to marry her or not? Someone wants to move on from a loveless abusive marriage, all you can yap about is who wants to marry a single mum as if that is what is remotely on her mind at the moment. Newsflash, single mums like Mercy Aigbe and Nairalander Mollytinrox were able to find love again and are happily married, God willing Juzzybabe will also find a man that will love and appreciate her as she is (not that being a single mum is the worst thing to happen to a person).

femimighty:
It's sad that family is just the no 1 target to destabilize a nation.Once the family is disjointed,it affects so many other aspects of our lives.
I am a living example of your story and my wife nearly divorced me but for God's intervention.
She misunderstood me totally thinking that I was irresponsible but unknown to her life was very tough.I couldn't even send anything reasonable to my family for years but alas God saw my heart and gave her the grace to hold on.
I want to encourage you not to file for divorce yet as it doesn't seem to be best option but commit things into the hands of God.Bible says they that faint in the days of adversity are of little strength.This is your period of adversity.wait upon the Lord and you will see his salvation.
Your marriage shall be wonderful again.

Taryur3:
Bolade...busy body...your approco...too.much.I hope u are paying the consultation fee...for her...if she finally divorce...just make sure your lawyer get her a perfect man.thanks for your concern

samuelson06:
@Juzzybabe

Please don't go divorce. Probably, you guys started on a wrong foot. But at least you both were legally married. As humans, we all have different life journies. Don't feel your mates are having a wonderful life and family out there and you are here 'suffering.' No! What has happened has happened. I'll encourage you to see the whole thing as a challenge. Face it and win it - get your husband back. This is a trick of the devil to shatter your life. Don't give up. I tell you, there's no better life out there. You may not know the challenge your husband is facing over there. Why not make him your prayer point everyday? Why not wake at midnight to pray for him? See, prayer works. Pray for his life, pray for his return and also pray for what he'll be doing when he returns to re-unite with you. It's that simple! You have a stake in his life and your prayers would affect him directly. Pray and believe God that He is working out an answer for you. Like you always wanted, raise the child the Lord's way. Tell her good things about dad. Tell her dad would return soon to be with her. Don't make her feel dad doesn't care or hates you both even though situation may appear to be so but you don't know God's mind about the issue. If you have any grudge against him, put it away. Call him and tell him his family misses him. One important key here is that your prayers and other things you talk to him on phone must be from your heart. And your heart must be free of hate or grudges about anyone. Forgive and make peace with all. You wouldn't tell me that deep inside you, apart from all that has happened over time, you've got not a little love for him again; you wouldn't tell me that you won't like to see your family a one strong united family. Don't let anybody convince you to seek for divorce. You've got no guarantee that life outside there is going to be without challenges, and if you feel it wouldn't be a challenge of this nature, I'll tell you that a challenge is a challenge. Your approach to the situation would determine your future. I know you have a choice to respond to it the way you want, but I'll advice you to respond to it God's way. There's always a reward for those who endure. Be prayerful. You can change things for good. Learn to make God happy in your situations. I can still talk to you more if you send me a PM. There are other things I can't say here.