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histemple:
Were you expecting your mum to tell you that the child is yours alone?
For God's sake, you ran away with that child from the guy's parents.
The only legal resort you have now is to sue him for desertion, but can you prove that he actually deserted you and the child?------that is, did he run away from his known address?
I hope you will tell the child that you refused to stay with your in-laws and absconded to your preferred destination only to claim that he is irresponsible?

oh please, she is married to the man and not his parents and so not obliged to live with them. A man that refuses to get an apartment for his family? Really? Ran away with her child? Ahan! A child he almost killed at 8months? Lool. Can't deal...

Taryur3:
You getting her a lawyer to advise her for divorce right?make sure that your lawyer secure her a perfect man too .besides...tell me any marriage that is perfect...

. E o feel fine sir.

scachy:
Some advise I see here though. Some people are nothing but home wreckers. Throw ur small problem here and they ll help u break ur home into pieces with their comments. Smh.

The illusion people suffer nowadays is that they thought marriage is as sweet n smooth as it sounds. Every marriage goes through one storm or another, but with time things will get better. Ur case is not d worst. Just pray n endure until he comes back again n see if u guys can sort things out. Kill that divorce thought for now. Secondly, if u don't lik d way things r going in ur family, change d way u communicate with ur partner. it helps a lot. I feel ur pain though but nothing is impossible for God to do. Pray that God ll rekindle the love that brought the two of u together so that ur marriage can be sustained.

"endure" just like ronke shonde endured lekan's beatings. She is dead now.

Kekenapep:
As some wise people already mentioned, this story is basically one-sided having gone through this thread and the other one. I have seen situations where when the truth is unveiled and you hear the other side you will be surprised at how opinions can drastically change. This is called objectivity. This is a life skill and what I have seen is that both parties are USUALLY at fault ESPECIALLY on marital issues. You cannot exonerate one side completely. When both parties are ready to eat thier pride then progress can be made. But then only a house built on the rock can stand Mat 7.

... what opinion do u want to hear from an absentee man dat beats his 8months old pregnant wife to coma? Abi beating a pregnant woman is a "normal" thing now ehen?

Taryur3:
Am not in support of the beating...Will you get a man to marry her if she divorce...how many men are interested in single mum...think before you advise this lady...wtf

hian!! Bobo yi.. bwahahhaa.

Taryur3:
Gerrarahere.mama lawyer...if you help her to divorce her man...will you find another one for her?you have to sign with her that both of you will marry your husband before you make any step in advising her for divorce...wts going on here is misunderstanding which can easily be settled if both of them have their own privacy.

I think you need to take your meds! It's important, u're losing grip to reality. All your lamentation is about her getting married again, what is your business? Is it your life? Why are your getting worked up over dat? You conveniently left out the major issues like abandonment and domestic violence even while 8months pregnant. Smh! Take your meds fast. It probably will get worse.

oodua1stson:
someone beat you while you're pregnant and you still call him husband.




Dint get me angry this night.




Ill tell yuo what to do, you can divorce him in absentia(YES)



2) Cut off every contact you have with him(stop picking his calls and if possible throw your sim cards away and get new sim)



3) make sure your family no longer pick his calls. Whenever he calls they should pick it, and not say anything(waste the bastard credit)



4) make up your mind that he's dead and forever forget him

thank you!! Silly misogynist everywhere. Tufiakwa!!

Taryur3:
Stop advising her for divorce.can you marry a single mother if you are a man

so what? Must she marry to live?? So, she should stay with a potential killer because she has to stay married? Just negodu nonsense talk

Muyogoa:
Juzzybabe that is what you get when u run after tall dark and handsome. Attracted to the physique and not the content of the man

judgina the chief judge!!

iamclime:
This is sad! I will recommend three publications for you ( if you wish to read and make use of them) 1. The Secret of Family Happiness 2. Your Family Can Be Happy 3. Teach Your Children. They are all available for download free at JW.org
Also, read and apply Philippians 4:6,7 in the Holy Bible. May your wounds heal and may your sun always shine.

I hope you have appropriate recommendation for the man too? Actually, he needs it more as the head of the family..

Apollux:
The truth about this is that we are only seeing this issue from 1 side. Let's not be hasty to judge and conclude matters based on a one sided account. That is one thing I have learnt about marriage, it matter is never truly the way it appears from the account of just one of the party. If the husband is allowed to come and give his own account, you will be surprised. Let's just give her advice on how to make d marriage work. But if she has made up her mind to divorce, she doesn't need any advice to do that. Anyway like I will say divorce is never the solution unless on very few extreme cases that involves threat to life or domestic violence. No human is perfect. if u divorce now, u will be hoping to get married to another person and if dat Doesn't work, u will get another divorce. zo how many divorce r u going to endure? Take note, divorce is never easy. I will advise u to take an object thoughtful approach ro dis. Buey ur bias for now

u want to hear "his" side denying beating her to coma @ 8months pregnancy abi? It's too bad to be true so u can't deal? Smh!

Memyselfu2009:
The only grand for divorce is Adultery.

yeah right.. until he kills her like lekan shonde did to Ronke.. smh!! God hates divorce, same way he hates lies, adultery, stealing... He hates divorce and not the "divorced". So please, don't help God with his judgement Mr Judge he can handle it perfectly. Smh!

Amicable24:
Was he like this during courtship?? What was your relationship like before the wedding??
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BTW, I'll recommend you see the movie 'War Room' by Kendrick Brothers.. It's a Christian movie about broken marriage and the way forward.. I saw it jst recently and it made a huge impact in my life (though I'm still single). It gave me a new perception about marriage and how God can make a broken marriage stable again.. Pls, watch it if u can, and dnt relent on prayers and the Word of God.. These are the weapon of warfare we Christians use to overcome Satan and his wicked ways.. Pls see that movie, and I hope it will be of great help to you.. I'm not saying you should rely on the movie for a restoration in your marriage, no, it's only God that can restore love and happiness in your marriage..

war room koor, battle field ni!! Mtshewww. Nigerians!! Smh!!

MRBrownJ:
so many clueless women will be so desperate to punish a man that they wouldnt even understand that the worst person affected here is the poor kid in the middle. they selfishly use children as the bait for unwilling men (for whatever reason) to stay with them, or have any contact with their kids under their BS rules. keep fooling yourself!

your point

Dreal11247:
Painful it may be. Really sorry for the experience.
But I made a statement that there are forces that fight marriages and at times automatically start working immediately after the marriage. There is nothing prayers cannot do . Most of the times, it is the man''s spirit wife and the woman's spirit husband that are fighting which now manipulate the couple into hating each other. If not properly and cautiously arrested with adequate prayers, could result in the breakage of the marriage.

I learnt of a case in which the man was chasing after the wife with a cutlass. The woman escaped to a church and was praying. Later on, the man located the wife and when asked why he was chasing after the wife with a cutlass, you won't believe his answer. He said that he was chasing after a goat with all seriousness. Assuming the woman didn't run for her dear life, that would have been her end. Divorce l don't think is the best solution. Prayer is still your best option.

shut it!!

masseratti:
Its unfortunate if we Christians cant tolerate Muslims to wear just hijab to sch, at least we can see their faces, what our church leaders have problem with is schools established by missionaries being attended by Muslims in hijab, but they forgot that Jesus came for everyone both the believers and un believers.

wisdom is the principal thing, in all thy getting; get understanding too.

TheWisest:
Read between the lines. Please delete your mention. Please. Thank you.

I asked after I have read between the lines severally and I couldn't make head or tail with it. Perhaps because of your failed attempt at justifying buhari's cowardice and imposing phantom DSS threat at people exercising their right of freedom of speech.

TheWisest:
Now listen to me. If a group armed with two things, guns and grievance, make a death threat to anyone, let alone the president, then you must be wise to realize that their network is wider than you think. Politicians even some in the present government are behind the Niger Delta Avengers. Not everybody wants Buhari there and if you rise to challenge him, these secret haters are ready to back you. Moreover the smaller the army, the more coordinated their operations will be and the more effective will their missions be.

Buhari is a smart military man. Once a general, always a grand strategist. I know the contrived story of his ear infection is a careful story to deflect from the Niger Delta Avengers tension posed by their threat.

And listen too, DSS guys are scouting these forum boards reading up stuff. I speak coz I know how these governments work. And I can protect myself. Before you speak choose your words.

your point??

omusiliyu:
There's nothing like Yoruba Muslims or Fulani Muslims... We're one and its forbidden for us to associate with Kufar.

ewwww... Like the so called "kufar" wants to associate with you all. you feel so highly rated sha. Shior! Sick, just sick!! It's amazing the mods allow hateful comments stay. Smh!

MrAdetunjiBayo:
We yoruba muslims like me and waheed Olalekan have said it times without number, we must defend the fulani muslims against yoruba christians like Peter Fayose. The Fulani brought Islam to us after conquering us and we must be grateful to them, even if it means selling out our yoruba christians.

smh! Sick!! Just sick!!

Ahan naa.. this is too much to bear. RIP the big boss!!

Jesus!!! OMG!!!

OMG!!!!!

Moshood Kaashimaawo Olawale Abiola Aare ona Kankafo Omo Yoruba... Sun re o

Decryptor:
I really punched the nerve of some egoistic "do you know who I am" wannabe scumbag this afternoon. The feeling is so ecstatic

Cry me a river

chei! I really really wish i'm hurt.me? Having a good time of my life now? Lmaoo. From you? That emmanuella mentors? Oh please, u nor reach. Lmaooo.

that's all shades of wrong

airsaylongcon:
She's some crazy Frank talking comedienne. Famous from her clips on Facebook. Google up "This is not my real face" and learn more about her

thanks you. I've sure heard of her. I'm just so lazy to go out of my way for plenty things. Including movies sef . Lol. Thanks for your response without casting aspersions. That's a breathe of fresh air. Lol

Decryptor:
I can see frustration is really eating you up since you couldn't spot the humor in my post. You can live in Eldorado or the White House for all I care but I sure am HAPPY where I live right now! Happiness is key and not living in Banana Island cos you can be living with Dangote as your neighbour but not happy. That is what you lack right now. As if i ask you to invest in my future.....Sorry for you

no son. I'm happier than you can ever be in your lifetime. I mind my business and I don't appreciate trolls. Asking if I live in the IDP camp is a joke to you? Oh well, it's not to me because I empathise with the plight of people there and if they have a choice, they won't be there. Perhaps, my sense of humour is dwindling; either way I didn't find it funny. Thank you.

Decryptor:
You don't know Emmanuella? Do you live in an IDP camp?

no darling. I live where you can only dream of. Mind you, those in IDP camps are better humans than you from what your brain just processed. I will rather invest in their future than urs, cos it's just a waste. Cheers.

Dsdlana:
ur name shld b changed from msglobalwonder to mslocalwonder.. No offence.. its a joke

Nigerians are so funny. So, because I don't know emmanuella makes me local? Our interest in life differs and you don't know the things I know.. don't be silly you hear. You really should be ashamed, your yardstick for "local" and "international" is Emmanuella? Really? Nigerian youths have gone to the dogs. And no, No pun intended.

dipznano:
U are just a silly online bully, shows ow blur ur background is U woke up to type a troll at 5:34am shows u are as 'useful' as a fart in a spacesuit u wanking trollop, u are clearly dead from the neck up brains gone to the dogs, no doubts u are a plug-ugly minger ... It's ur funeral baby, enjoy it

woke up to to reply you? Lol. I'm sorry boy but some of us do plenty stuffs that bring good money and not have bed-time. I reply when I can, u get? but be rest assured I will reply "in the fullness of time" Online bully u said? Are you a psycho too? because I remember clearly u quoted me to cast aspersions on me. And I asked you choose your battles wisely. You sons of idiot come online to cast aspersion on people and still form victim? Who hurt you as a child? Who molested you? Because only a bipolar person will start a war and still act the victim. One thing is sure, u're a child who can't even make any sentence without insulting your family. That was the reason I ask you choose your battle because I didn't understand why you had to mention me to insult me. I don't take anything online seriously because from experience I know it's timid little boys who still feed on mum's stipend that have plenty time to steer trouble online. I just relax and have fun by giving a befitting reply to trolls. Please, try hard to sound intelligent at least; I hate to have to condescend so low because I want to reply a scum. Biko upgrade. Cheers.