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TimeManager:
Would you deny that kidnapping has significantly reduced?. As the NSA he owes a duty to dispel any contrary reports.

-Kiss the truth!

it hasn't my brother. I am not being political here. It's actually on the increase. Most times our politicians as you know tell these half truths to make us feel they are performing.

This man should just keep quiet and be doing whatever he is doing silently. Why these chest beating?
Kidnapping on the roads and inside villages are still on the high side.
Why these lies from Ribadu?
Does he travel by road?

RealityKings1:
This is Nigeria where people don't honor the law nor respect people work diligently...
Why is the general not following the law and go to court if he feels wronged

court that wike is building houses for? I laugh in kwale. The general knows what's up

dauntless15:
I won't refute your story, you're the only one who know what happened so that's that, just saying it's alot, stay strong, the worst has come and gone, it only get better from then on.

thanks 👍

dauntless15:
Kai you suffered, sometimes I read stuff like this and I just live in denial cuz how come you keep getting the thrashy treatment when you don't have your own faults. And why would someone treat you this way because you're ambitious or you want to earn your own money, cuz ambitious women wey I dey find I no see. Then lastly how do you people meet such guys, cuz your story sounds absurd and unbelievable like you embellished it.

I don't embellish stories for any reason. Truth they say is bitter and always sounds strange. But it happened and there are worst stories that are stranger than what you just read. I wanted to create a thread about it a while ago, but I was like, no need. Nobody would believe me. So I kept it to myself. I am writing a book about it though and my children have been very supportive. Most times the things you read or watch in movies are real life experiences. Because it didn't happen to you, doesn't mean its not happening to someone else

Being in a political party doesn't necessarily mean a political officer will do better or worse.

It's about the heart of the politician and his desire to better the lives of his people. We have seen politicians in opposing parties doing far better and vice versa.

How does that judge sleep at night after delivering that harsh judgement on a 17 year old? I don't condone or support even the smallest theft, but for goodness sake that judgement was harsh. And it may surprise you, that this type of judge is the one that receives bribes to truncate justice. Meanwhile a big man will steal billions and go with his supporters and praise singers to court, knowing fully well that he will get a chicken feed penalty. But poor man will steal Maggi or sugar and get life sentence or death penalty

AmalaAtiEwedu:
after him don slice, dice, dive and swim inside ur toto taya
na who d chop ur kpekus now?
u don marry?

I am not a saint, I am a well brought up woman. So languages like you used above and that type of question doesn't really go well with my system. This type of bluntness you exhibited in this comment gets to me. Thanks anyway.

kentebemoney:
Wow!!!!
I thought these acts were just in movies oooo.
Doh!!! My sister.
From your profile, It shows you are in abj. If you cook sweet Jollof rice this Christmas, abeg invite me oooo cus na big escape you escape so.
God bless you!!!!

🤣🤣 thanks so much. I go invite you. Let me note it down

luminouz:
You fine well well but no proof.. yinmu!!!

Oya send me your picture or you don marry?

Sorry o.. Grandma

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Vote my daughter in this competition to win abeg

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luminouz:
😳😳😳
Nah...I refuse to believe this till I hear the man's side biko.

no wahala. Truth can always be very difficult to believe. I really don't need to convince you. It's my truth and I am saying it for us all to learn our lessons and look out for red flags. Nobody is perfect, but there are things that should make you reconsider Your stands in a relationship. If I had died and maybe someone else was telling the story,guess, you would have still told the person it was a lie that you can only believe it if I came out of the grave to tell it. I am too matured to make up stories or even tell tales that would make me look like the heroine and the man as a foe, but seriously it happened the way I told it.

DAntivirus:
Funny...

But I still think there's a side of this story that you're not telling...

You couldn't have been all perfect, mushy and cuddly while he was all beastly, vile and evil...

Sounds like a fairytale... sorry to say

I have been expecting this. Nobody ever said I was perfect. Nobody is perfect. But at times our own imperfections pales out by a higher imperfection. Hope you understand what I mean?

And any imperfection that comes with physical, verbal abuse and all round domestic violence, it's not really worth it.

tollyboy5:
Be strong,God will see you through. He will later regret it.
I pray it should not be too late for him.
Stay blessed

Amen. I pray it's not too late honestly. And like I would always tell his friends to tell him, he should not forget his old age. Because his children may be beyond his reach when he needs them as he has abandoned them now. I tell them to tell him that because he would definitely need his children later and as I have tried to make his children reach out to him even though he refuses, he may later regret it

Ekstraz:
Are you still available?

For now absolutely not. Just trying to bring up my Children for now.

tollyboy5:
Six years is not much. He's just a crazy person.
Pele dear

🤣🤣 thanks so much. I appreciate 🙏

tollyboy5:
You're now off age o! 🤣
And I was saying "Pele dear", it should be "Epele Ma".
Please whatever might have been the misunderstanding between you and your husband, please don't separate your children from their father. And don't let them bear your pain against their father.
God bless you..
I've voted

Never!! Never . Infact he is the one that refuses to have any thing to do with the children. They call him to wish him happy father's day, merry Christmas and infact good wishes. But he refuses and rejects them. He doesn't want to be a part of their lives. God bless you really good for your kind thoughts and good wishes. And you voted? I am humbled and feel honoured too.
May God bless you and your family

Hellisreal70:
Ma, you can try Christ.
With Christ there is no crisis

of course I have tried Christ and still in Christ. It's my lord Jesus who has been my rock and my refuge. He stood by me and sent human helpers to me

mrkenny05:
We, nice man still dey,
But your 'kind' hardly see ...

NOTE : KIND ...

without being self delusional but with pure clarity of purpose,
You meet us,
But we are far a rare gem,
Hard to come by,
Often misjudged by outward..
But we know who we are,
Silently living life,
Contented with little we have,
Praying for more to come ...
Living a crime free life, cos we never force things to our way....

We are serious commiter to any relationship,
Business, partnership and love life....

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you are absolutely correct with the above analysis. But like they say, life no balance. Opposite usually always attracts. Don't know why🤦

tollyboy5:
I'm so sorry for you to have such terrible experience.
I think he was far too older than you, your parent should have guided you properly.
All is well tho.
It's safer to be single with peace of mind than to be with a beast.
I hope you're doing well now?

Please guys help me vote my daughter to win this spoken word/ poem competition
God bless you all

https://sageatwords.com/vote/spoken-word-contest/1449

tollyboy5:
I'm so sorry for you to have such terrible experience.
I think he was far too older than you, your parent should have guided you properly.
All is well tho.
It's safer to be single with peace of mind than to be with a beast.
I hope you're doing well now?

he was 6 years older, but like I said I was naive and I hid a lot of things from my parents because I knew that if I told them, they would seperate us. So I suffered in silence

Dogalmighty17:
This really torches my heart. Where are you now? How are you holding up? How is life treating you?

it was the worst time of my life. No jobs, no business, no money, but my friends stood by me. I contemplated suicide severally, but the live if my children held me back. At a point I tried going to beg the same person that threw me out for the sake of being with my children, but my son and older daughter told me that if I did that,they would never forgive me because they preferred me staying apart from them than they seeing his violence on me. Eventually I went for my children when he began to deny me access to them. Even stopped them from going to school, so I would not be visiting them in school.

The day I went for my children with welfare people, he said that for the fact that I was taking the children away, he would never assist with their welfare or anything. And he stood by his word for years. My children were minors. I was tired of fighting. I was a wreck. We began to sleep in my brother's sitting room floor. Until some how God showed up through the people I had helped and we moved to a 2 bedroom.
I suffered ooo.
I really did.
The things I went through.
But God has been faithful.
I have the most wonderful children ever.
Good children who stood by me.
Tightly knit in love for one another. God fearing, devoted to the things of the lord and extremely smart.

That reminds me.please guys help me vote my daughter to win this competition. Open the link and see how she wrote and recited this spoken word/ poem.
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mrkenny05:
We, nice man still dey,
But your 'kind' hardly see ...

NOTE : KIND ...

without being self delusional but with pure clarity of purpose,
You meet us,
But we are far a rare gem,
Hard to come by,
Often misjudged by outward..
But we know who we are,
Silently living life,
Contented with little we have,
Praying for more to come ...
Living a crime free life, cos we never force things to our way....

We are serious commiter to any relationship,
Business, partnership and love life....

Ohh,

Where would you meet us....
With this our yearly comment...

E-mail for an enquiry.....

🤣🤣 how nice

tollyboy5:
How do you fall in love with someone this m@d. You're also a problem to have make such heavy mistake and give birth to four

. Me sef I no understand myself ooo. I was young and naive.it took a toll on me

Sp1ritHusband:
It was not your duty to build his confidence.

of course it should not be me, but I tried doing it for peace sake.

Dogalmighty17:
Are you still with him?

He threw me out of the house at midnight so many years ago. He and his siblings said that a prophet told them I was a witch and wanted to kill him. I knew it was simply because I was trying to do a little marketing of products to be earning small small money by the side o. Because any time we had issues, he would deny me access to funds. So his ego was damaged 😀😀

So they threw me out o.

id4sho:
Ahhhhh, am a male. Assault is no no for me 😕

God bless you

Hotspurs:
hmmm well what can i say.. all the best

😀 Thanks. I will advise young people to look out for red flags. They are always there.

tollyboy5:
He was not matured and so insecure and you refuse to build his confidence.
You only picked fault.
Is that not what happened?

pick faults. Who born me to pick faults?.

My experiences have taught me to become more of a motivational speaker where relationships are concerned. What makes you think I never built his confidence. I used everything possible to build his confidence. Even people that knew me did same for my sake but he was not just matured like you said. And secondly, when you have a man that feels that women are lesser animals ( I said animals) not humans,you can't ever satisfy them

tollyboy5:
How do you fall in love with someone this m@d. You're also a problem to have make such heavy mistake and give birth to four

see ehn!! I knew him when I was very young. He was so involved in my family and I guess I was too naive to notice the red flags then. A lot of things I saw then, I waved aside thinking that when we got older and more matured he would drop those things. Boy! I was wrong. It got worse. How does a man dish out 6 hot slaps on one side of a woman's cheeks because she confided in his elder brother to tell him to stop smoking cigarettes because of his weight. His anger was that I should not have told his brother he smokes. My face was swollen for almost a week

kentebemoney:
Wait ooo!!! so for real life, men dey wey dey like this?

Even worst o. And where the thing is paining me is that I was a good woman and still a very good woman. The man sha lost . He may even be reading this on nairaland and be regretting sef😄😄

Hotspurs:
maybe he notice some waka wey you dey waka, hey im not judging you, again if my wife wanna work also, i will have to really scrutinize the issue real well...but i think he loves you and dont wanna lose you

oga, sincerely there was no waka waka. I wasn't even going anywhere. No work, no business. Nothing. Just sitting down in the house for peace sake. It was just low self esteem that was worrying him. I never cheated. And besides it was not just about me. He had issues with women working and earning money. So he could have done same to virgin Mary.

I be good woman o. And I fine well well 😊 😊
Women like us are hard to come by, but we usually end up with terrible men. So maybe he was afraid to loose me, but yes he finally did because his approach was very bad and demeaning

He kept on accusing me of witchcraft and adultery. Things I was never ever involved in in my life. Kept on using the things that he knew about my family to insult me. He also went as far as saying without him in my life, I wouldn't amount to anything. That was the last straw. And the final nail in the coffin was when he said women that work are all prostitutes and if I was not a prostitute, I should not ever contemplate working or doing any business to earn my personal money.

The verbal and domestic abuse even in the public space was enough too for me to cease loving him