₦airaland Forum

TrickofTech: No friend. I am not lying. All of what I have said is true. Why would I want to make up something like this. It may not sound very believable, but it happened.

I am white American.

thot u said ur from scotland

id also appreciate names of furniture stores in ibadan. moving there next month

Hi anyone with info on this for primary school and high school please give me an idea. Thanks

dridowu: Odd news alwaz happen in zimbabwe

Mamelodi is in Pretoria in South Africa not Zimbabwe

I think the first point is to pray that God gives you the right kind of help. I run my own business and have a baby an older child and my step son as well. My hubby also has a full time business to run so neither of us can be at home the whole day so I have a maid. Unlike some women I do believe her core function is to look after the baby so I do my own cooking, i bought a washing machine to ease her work load. I try by all means to do as much as I can around the house so she can have time to look after the baby. So far so good!! She is great with all 3 kids and is very respectful. My mother in law found her for us and knows her family very well. We treat her like family and in return she acts as such. I believe you reap what you sow. If you sow kindness and love you will reap it.If you treat your maid like a slave they are bound to abuse your kids out of spite. God is the only one who can truely protect our kids so I personally dont think creche is necessarily the safest place espically for a very young baby. Anyway its a personal choice. Iv made mine and im very comfortable with it

byvan: Am strictly on the no househelp personal policy.I can't handle any of the poo stories associated with them.My kids are really too precious for me to entrust into the hands of strangers.I rather enrol them into a creche to enable my self some time.

and the people at creche are your relatives i assume

fellis: Not all Nigerian men are inconsiderate sexists
There are good ones. It's just unfortunate that majority of the men you have met are those men that think wife is another word for slave.
Talk to ya hubby and try to let him understand what you need from him.
Anyway the answer to the question in your last paragraph is that religions place men above women (although it doesn't teach them to be inconsiderate arseholes)and that is why a lot of men treat women as inferior beings.

I have been able to get my own man to change on this point but his relatives can really annoy me at times. the way some of them expect me to act like a possession grates on my nerves.

Im married to a Nigerian who in the begining of the relationship assumed I would subscribe to his stupid sexist tendencies!!! but I soon fixed that. BUT as I read through Nairaland and interact with my male in- laws and other Nigerian men at church I begin to realise that that primitive attitude seems to be the norm for Nigerians. Really in this day and age women should not be viewed as possessions or mules. I was very pissed when one of my husbands uncles had a go at me for asking my mother in law to help me find a maid claiming it is my duty to do all the house work. Ive done all my own housework thus far but now wit a new baby due any minute, a child in school a business that I run (which contributes a large chunk to our lifestyle)I dont see why I shouldnt get help. I cant exactly just let my business die so i can sit at home with the baby. please dont answer me wit crap about washing machines, hoovers etc coz i have all that but a washing machine does not load itself and I cant leave the baby with a washing machine.

Anyway back to the point. I really want to understand why men think they are entitled to speak and behave to women as they please?

Ijele-igbo:
How do you prove your statistics of the number of women greater than men?

http://www.indexmundi.com/world/demographics_profile.html among many other studies!!!! familiarize yourself with what happens around the world

most ladies remain single because statistically there are more women than men in the world. Therefore we cannot all end up married. As I read through that ridiculous list I almost peed myself laughing. Its so chauvinistic its unbelievable. As a married woman I say men marry women with whom they are compatible. Her taste or lack there of of make-up is hardly a make or break deal. You say nothing of character. Your whole list is superficial stuff. Your topic should be called " MY PERSONAL REASONS FOR NOT MARRYING SOME WOMEN"

outrage: Why not start the business and see how it grows before moving here,you might not even need to cut into your savings if it goes well. Your taking a gamble by moving then starting the business.

Don't worry, the pidgin would come to you, its actually very easy.

Its one of those businesses where one needs to be there hands on. And besides I think a change of scenery would be nice. As they say high risk HUGE returns. I am confident about our business plan so im willing to take the gamble

outrage: Hey, congrats..
Well I have never been to lagos, but I'll like you to know that its like every city in the world. You will find people that live on less than $1 a day, and some that can spend $100000 in a store and not feel a thing. So, it all depends on you and your hubby, if you guys don't try to live beyond your means then you will do well.
Private schools range, it depends on which you choose
Shopping also depends on you, you might choose to go to market or a normal super market and buy at normal or go to a branded super market and buy for 2x the price. It all depends on you.

I have some questions for you.
Have you been to lagos befor?
If yes what did you think?

Answer this questions sincerly and you have a place to start.

Ive honestly never been!! Im very good at living within my means but it would be nice to have a general idea of prices. We are starting a new business so financially we must plan for at least a year in advance until our new business starts to generate an income

okosodo: Dont try it. You want to move from heaven to hell abi.

I dont think im moving to hell!! Ive obviously done my research and I have friends who have been! Contrary to popular beliefs SA has just as much hardship and poverty.

outrage: The handler confirms ur SA.. Mushio, muniya, thoes una names na wa.

Unfortunately I still have to work on my pidgin english!! hahahahah

Hi guys im a South African woman married to a Yoruba man. We are currently based in Johannesburg and have a 9 year old daughter and a baby on the way. We have a relatively comfortable life here. we are moving to Lagos mid next year and therefore I have been doing some research as it will be a new country for me and my hubby is from Osun so Lagos will also be a change for him. In terms of accommodation we have found a few places online which look good to us but my major issue is day to day expenses. mostly the info im getting online is from expats who live very expensive extravagant lives. I plan to live as much like a Nigerian as possible and just shop in normal shops and markets but I have no idea how much stuff costs. how much would we need to live comfortably from month to month?? diapers, food, utilities, maid?? Also we need a school. A private school (not those international schools that cost $24000 coz we cant afford that. We want a private school but reasonably priced so if anyone can give ideas. Im excited but also concerned so any info on life in Lagos would be great!!!