i usaully wonder why too

so heartless of her

helpful thread

He Sucks Really Hard on Your Tongue

When he starts to do this, caress his cheek and gently pull your tongue away. Then say something like, "I really love it when you kiss me like this" and start again with light kisses to set the tone.

He Presses Too Hard With His Lips

Sure, a little pressure is hot sometimes, but constant force hurts. Run your fingers through his hair and pull his head back a bit so his lips are lighter on yours. Then say something like, "Mmm. I like that."

He Makes You Do All The Work

He could just be nervous or clueless. Either way, make a game of it. Tell him where you want to be kissed and work your way up to the lips. Once he's there, playfully ask him to mimic you and show him what you like.

He Bites

Again, there's a time and place for it. But if your guy gets all Dog biting on your lips every time you kiss, it's time for an intervention. If it hurts, you should tell him. (Try, "That hurt. Let's try again..." and go in for another smooch.) You can also say that while you like it when he nibbles on your shoulder, you're not that into having it done to your lips.

He Slobbers Too Much

Focus on his lips, gently sucking and kissing them—he'll follow your lead. Too much tongue action without any lip movement can produce excess saliva. And nobody likes that.

His Tongue Doesn't Move

There's nothing more annoying than a man who sticks his tongue in your mouth and does...nothing. So set the pace by making the first move with your tongue and have him follow along. Eventually, he'll get that this is what you like.

He Asks If He Can Kiss You—Every Time

Um, hello mood-killer! He's probably just nervous or can't read your signals yet. Tell him it's a turn-on when he kisses you spontaneously.

He Moves Too Much

Whether it's wiggling his head around or having a turbo-tongue, it can be distracting when your man is moving around like crazy. If he won't keep his head still, grab it between your hands and keep it in place. If his tongue is going wild, pull back and say, "You know what I really like? A long slow kiss where our tongues move slowly against each other." He'll get the hint.

if its not injurious to their health, they should continue with it

its a huge possibility

duly noted....all of una r dsame

nice one. ds will b d 1st cause of wahala

if na rich and influencial person, to rescue am no dey hard. na poor man pikin dey dey ahrd dem to rescue

report the person to SARS....

wow....congratulations to her

1. Developing feelings

This is the most common risk of being in a f*ck buddy setup. The reason is mainly because you’re likely hooking up with someone you’re incredibly attracted to.

Physical attraction, after all, is one of the main factors in considering someone for a romantic relationship.


2. Losing self-respect and self-esteem

The only reasons accepted by the norm for having intercourse are a) to express love to your partner, and b) to build a family.

Take those out of the equation and you may find yourself having a hard time justifying why you’re having a strictly-s*x relationship.

It also doesn’t help that there is a double standard against women hooking up, so you resort to either confiding in only your closest non-judgmental friends about the relationship, or not telling anyone else about it at all.


3. Losing respect for your partner

You know that your partner is willing to hook up without asking for anything in return, and this puts him or her in a different light when compared to other people you’ve been with.

Without being able to confide in, share meaningful conversations and doing personal activities apart from s*x with your partner, your relationship lacks depth and significance.


4. Contracting an STD

Before you get into any friends-with-benefits relationship, you should ask your partner and make sure he or she does not have any STDs before you engage in any acts.

Also remember to always wear protection whenever you do the deed. Still, since you are not in a committed relationship with this person, you cannot demand and ensure that he or she does not have s*x with anyone else, let alone be 100 percent assured your FWB stays cooties-free whenever he or she does.

5. Misplaced jealousy

Whether you have developed feelings for your partner or you just simply do not want to share your s*x toy, you might find yourself feeling jealous of other people your partner gets close with.

This is difficult because you can’t voice your jealousy or ask your partner to stop seeing other people.


6. Pregnancy

If protection fails (hoping that you do use protection), you might find yourself in this very challenging and unwanted position.

You would have to make decisions on a major responsibility with someone you do not have a meaningful relationship with (yikes!)


7. Lowered expectations on your other relationships

As you put in more time into your casual relationship, you’ll become accustomed to shallow connections.

There will be no holding hands, no terms of endearment and no discussing feelings or personal details.

The more time you put in not doing these things, the more this behavior becomes normal to you. This eventually will carry over to your other relationships without you even realizing it.


8. Compromising your career and social life

A successful career and social standing rely heavily on one very vulnerable thing: reputation. Reputation is based mainly on morals, or whatever behavior is deemed acceptable by the norm.

Once people find out that you take part in casual relationship(s), you may jeopardize your reputation and all the merit and social credibility that you’ve worked hard on building.

Just to be clear, I did not point out all these risks and consequences to discredit hooking up. I, for one, am very much in favor of going after what I truly want, and if having fun without the frills of a romantic relationship is what you want, so be it.

However, I also think it’s better to be mindful of what possible ramifications are in store before indulging ourselves.

More importantly, it helps to make sure your true desires are being considered. Are you really in it just for s*x, or are you hoping to get more out of it? In no-strings-attached relationships, the fewer expectations you have, the less risks and consequences there may be.

God will help him

Nice tips

WHEN WILL ALL THESE STOP?

SKEPTICAL

thanks for sharing this

so sad ds is fast becoming a norm in 9ja

hustle gone wrong

congratulations to him

I love re..... British-Yoruba

Everyone is beautiful in their unique ways

I so much prefer the good old days

Fulani girls are always just beautiful

Man is the head of course. But that doesn't mean women are 2nd class citizens eother

The op is so right

Na pastor wives dey do that kind thing pass.

Not the best of ideas tho. Two are better than one

Wow.... Well done bro... The sky is UR starting point

Lovely piece. Thanks for sharing

Them go hate us tire.....lmao