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Safiaa:
Better use your young life on a guy who is worth it.

Just love him more than I should

chupachups:
I will be very blunt and straight to the point
Stop forming emotional weakness and move on with your life. It's a total waste of time waiting for a man who probably already has someone he wants to marry to change in the name of love


You don't have a man yet, you won't have if you keep drowning in such toxic stage play.

You are nothing but his BLACK MARKET

Thanks a lot hun, bit hard to do but I'm trying x

Hi Nairalanders,

Has anyone here ever been mentally and emotionally depressed? how'd you survive?
Here's the drill, I have this bf I love so very much, but he's hurt me so deeply in the past, cheated on me heavily even without me doing anything ,lied to me, used some girl's picture as dp for a while while claiming I'm his gf and lots more..

The thing now is, I'm not cheating on him, never did but I've recently started talking to the male friends I've been snubbing because of him cause I don't think he's worth it anymore, got this guy, let's call him Ade, we ain't dating and we'll never date, bf saw our chat and went nuts because I asked Ade who some girl was, only asked him so he'll know I know he's not a saint since he told me my bf ain't a saint either but bf took it the other way round...

My so called bf didnt save my number on his phone
Doesn't have any of my pictures
Wouldn't reply my texts.
wouldn't snap any pictures with me or anything

All he knows is blame me for everything, I get bored and lonely at times and I know if I text him, he'll never reply, he's refused to do anything romantic aside cuddles and he claims he loves me and sees me more than a girlfriend
I love him a lot but I'm mentally depressed, each time I think about all the things he made me go through in the past, I feel like pissing him off or letting him go but I just can't, dunno if I'm under a spell, though Ade told me my bf's had me under a spell but I'm sure he's just toying around..
don't know what to do at the moment, they're both nairalanders and I'm sure they'll see this.

What will you do if your girlfriend/boyfriend dials his/her so called ex's number on your phone to check on him/her?

My partner just did that and I feel like calling it quits like what the hell? such effrontery

PrimadonnaO:
She isn't a kid at all. She surely has a reason why she's being like that with you. Try to look past it...befriend her. Don't outdo her in the malice/odd attitude business.

yeah, tried befriending her, she'll just act friendly one moment and the next ,she's off .

RuthDaniels:
The Rebound Girlfriend!

Lol... I don't know how to put this without hurting you,but i have to let you know that you are yet to meet your Man. Your boyfriend is still very much into his ex (if i were you,i wouldn't call her that),She's very current and still on the radar.

But then all hope isnt lost,just maybe the reason for their breakup is irreversible (maybe health or parental consent) So you might end up with the guy but one thing is certain,you will never have his heart.

Talk to your boyfriend,plead with him to be truthful and honest with you.Promise to understand him,that will prompt him to open up to you. Present yourself vulnerable and pitiful,cry if need be,it will make him sober and regretful.But you must be ready for the truth.. You two might break up,but that will be better than living in sorrow and you wouldn't be blamed for leaving. Break up will be a mutual agreement . I wish you luck.

I just did and he denied it ,pushed everything on me and made it look like it's all my fault .

PrimadonnaO:
How old is this kid sis?

21

donstan18:
About your boyfriend and his ex : If truly you saw her number in his call history and also saw her wearing his shirt which happens to be your favorite, then know something must be wrong. I'll advice you to talk and discuss with him on what you saw, while discussing it, strike a psychological observation to his reactions, also do well not to forget that he's only your boyfriend, not your husband, so that you won't start fighting for him.

About his sister : Possibly his sister likes his Ex and sees you as the reason for their break up, hence prompting such attitude towards you. I doubt if you can do anything about this, it can only be healed with time, so tolerate her.

About your boyfriend's financial challenges : Kindly support him and be there for him, if he was loyal and kind to you when he was doing well.

In total, kill 80% of your insecurity, every partner needs some atom of insecurity in any relationship.

Tolerate his sister, that's one of the sacrifices you'v got to do.

Don't let go of him till you confirm his relationship with his ex.

Goodluck

Thanks a lot hun.

Talk To Your Bobo na... Tell Him You Dont Share... He Can Go His Way If He Will Be A cheat



sharing with a random girl is not a problem, but Mims in particular? Hell No! She's his first love and they were at the point of getting married before the split , I feel threatened .

Hello Nairalanders, got some issues bothering me for a while now and decided to pour out today..


I have a boyfriend I'm very much in love with but i'm thinking he doesn't know what he really wants, we've been together for 2years now..

There's this girl he used to date way back , let's call her Mims, and my bf Dave..
Dave told me he broke up with Mims already and they were no longer in talking terms, good and fine but I think he's lying to me, his phone call history shows they've been in touch but he tells me otherwise, bumped into Mims today putting on Dave's shirt!! The one I love wearing whenever i'm at Dave's place, I can't precisely say its coincidental or it's exactly what i'm thinking, I'm not the kind of girl to invade my bf's privacy(showing up without being invited) so I can't really go see what's going on for myself, this Mims is the same girl he always curses and swear never to have anything with till he dies, I'm a lot confused and can't figure out what's going on.

That apart, I don't like my bf's kid sister one tiny bit, she's sort of odd, always giving me some killer stare I don't like, dunno how to tell my bf I don't like the way his sis looks at me whenever I come around , usually love it when i come around and she's not home, but each time she returns , I feel very uncomfortable, sometimes, she hisses, complains about irrelevant things and most times, I feel like slapping her ,just usually have to tame my temper and its getting really hard, things are not going quite well for Dave and I wanna be always there for him but I don't like his sister! and the feeling I have that he could be cheating on me with Mims makes me want to break up with him but I don't want anybody accusing me of leaving when things took a U-turn..

The advice I need now is .. should I kill the insecurity? Tolerate his sister ? or just let go of him?