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According to the Webster dictionary, expectation is a strong believe that something will happen or be the case.
Webster dictionary also states standard as something used as a measure, norm,or model in comparative evaluations.

In our society today, a lot of ladies loose great guys due to expectations and standards.
Been expectant is normal so is having standards but the ability to differentiate reality from unrealistic expectations and standard is key.
Knowing fully well and acknowledging that life itself doesn't give you the exact things you want helps you to leave that high mountain of expectations and be able to relate with people on a more civil ground.
At age 13, its OK to read novels, watch cartoons and also believe the prince charming is always the cute guy riding a horse. Who either falls in love with the humble maid or marries the princess.....but you should also know that a lot of ladies today see humility as too big a cross to carry.
It gets to a point when you see beyond the looks and the cash and be able to relate with the personality and character.

Ladies today still have some expectations and standard that's makes one wonder what planet they come from....

-he must be tall
-he must be dark
-he must be handsome
-he must have a car
-he must have his own apartment
-he's age range must not less or more than----
-he must be great in bed
The list continues.......
In our generation, its as though struggling to start life with a guy means the guy doesn't exist or isn't ready.
One thing most fairy tales don't teach us is how the guy treats the girl in d end. Its always "and they lived happily ever after' but how happy is the after?
The beautiful part of been with a person is having memories, having tales you can pass on.
A lot of times, we prevent ourselves from discovering how awesome a guy can be because we don't give ourselves the chance to know him because he is not what we expect or doesn't meet our standards.
Some of these things ladies do are to them normal. They think they are protecting themselves but in actual sense they are only limiting their reach.
Age- imagine a girl who has sworn never to marry a man who is senior to her by anything more than 5 years.... The minute she gets into a conversation and realises the guy doesn't fall in that group, she indirectly shuts her mind to the possibility of having anything to do with such a guy. If tables are turned, a guy tells you a false age and you get to know him and probably fall in love with him, realising he a great guy with an awesome personality would you give all that up when you find out he's like 15 years older than you?

TDH- We all had the dream of marrying the tall, dark and handsome dude.... The 1st question is how many guys are in the tdh group? So if he doesn't fall in this group does that automatically mean he can't be a great guy who could end up as your prince charming?
While we all want the best man the real question is are these expectations really worth throwing the chance of been happy away for?

Cash and material things: who no get today fit get tomorrow. The future of a man is in the hands of God. Its common today to see a guy talking to a girl and all you see on her face is the look of disgust just because he isn't driving or isn't taking her to a Chinese restaurant to have a meal and the minute another guy with a clean car parks she snobs and jumps into the car.
Which brings more joy Having a guy pick you up every time to go have fun and spend money or walking into a dealer's shop with your husband to pick a car?
That he doesn't have an apartment now doesn't mean you can't both pick one out and also pick the furniture in it. Some lifetime memories are worth more than the flexing life we want as youths.
A true gentleman is defined by his character not by his wallet size.  Some ladies suffer home battering and violence because they couldn't see beyond the looks and the pockets. Some others would trade their handsome husbands for a faithful ugly man but it's too late. Different ladies today have tales to tell but have no one to listen, others look for a shoulder to cry on but find none..

Some get lucky and meet "the perfect man" but a lot loose track of what perfect to them means because to every man or woman the concept of perfect varies depending on who is looking for that perfection.

N:B You don't have to agree with me, if you want to insult well you are not free cos you will get double. This write up is not meant to make sense to everyone but just a few and I won't stop airing my views because some people cant relate with the reality of today's world.

Good morning my great people of NL..... those who kept this thread alive... I salute

viclawz:
Hi Mzflexydeeva u hv done a gud job wit dis thread..kip it up

thanks a lot, how r u doing

GideonG:
Finally almost everybody has retired to bed, at a time only me and Mzflexydeeva face to face at 3am. Flexy what's the 411?

oga G! How far? Good morning. Just seeing dism TGIF tinz ooooo.... hw u?

opeyemy3939:
can I have ur pin?

u can drop urs

opeyemy3939:
are you on BBM?

yup

buygala:
6- Stop having silly monikers


Who in God's name will take a girl seriously who calls herself 'Sugarbee, Punkyveer, Mzflexydeeva, EroticAngelina?


Monikers like 'DaughterofZion, ilovekids, Evangelistblessing, Adamsrib, iloveJesus are more appropriate for available spinsters

hmmmmmmm! Are you serious I may even get married b4 u sef

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thank you

opeyemy3939:
Hello babe! how are u duin?

am fine & u?

please help me

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Kash007:
hey deva, where are we flexing later today?

home ooooo

adejo007:
Same deeva...let's jst keep our fingers crossed. I guess they'll address our(biochem)matter soon.

I guess so. Do u have past questions plz

Have not been scheduled ooooo!!!! Any biochemistry aspirant here

slimchi115:
datz cool,,wia do u based

lag....u?

slimchi115:
yea sure,,,tel mi abt u?

well i'm Ade 4 short, u can leave the long. Well currently working, finished from Uniben& served 2013

slimchi115:
xup guyz am chidimma by name fresh graduate awaiting service.i luv dancing,reading,,bla bla bla

hello chidinma, how r u doing? Hope we can be good friends... cheers!

vickylexxy:
deeva hw i won take make friends for here nw

Haa! To make friends no hard now. Just feel free & flow. BTW if u interested am here....

saniboy:
I have a female friend and she came 2 me 1 day and asked me a question dat made me somehw confuse...she said a gal dat is very good in d kitchen but not good on bed and a gal very good on bed but not good in d kitchen which 1 will I prefer for MARRIAGE? Guys pls be sincere

hmmmmmmm I wish I could help but the guys woul b in d best place tooo.....

Kash007:
I'm kul. You?

am great

Ucheosefoh:
You maybe right but some take advantage of guys that care thinking those guys are weak I learn that from bitter experience so these days I don't do more than what I believe is required of me, if she like make she nag from now till next year their is a limit to how much care I can give.

the point is not doing more than is required of you. If you do wat is required of you, you set a pace and she follows it. When you start off doing more than what is required she also follows that pace such that when you start doing only what is required it results in nagging...u get?

LordOfTheWeed:
First of all, correct the mistake on the topic, you omitted "n" where you wanted to "In"

Second of all, i refuse to concur with your sentiments.. .. ..

I know

osesology:
How about the woman that is constantly nagging about her husband having an affair, out of excessive jelousy, when in reality the man is not even having an affair? How do you expect the man to deal with that? Or do you also blame that on the man?

has anyone blamed anybody for anything..... trying reading b4 attacking instead on attacking b4 reading. If she wasn't nagging about hi cheating initially then something prompted it. Figuring out how & wen it all started is a good start

DollyParton1:
Mzflexydeeva, I have only one question for u;

DaFuq does this
means?

you can prevent a woman from nagging you out when you do the right thing of been you, taking care of her, been her partner & understanding the mood she's in.

Taking a close look @ d write up again, u'll fig out its not talking about ladies who nagging is part of their dna no! It's more focused on ladies who became the nagging type due to circumstances. This I believe can be prevented

BUTCHCASSIDY:
you nag

is dat all?

Cutehector:
Nonsense

good to c u again

BUTCHCASSIDY:
This is a crock of shìt
Even the wisest of men (solomon) didnt have a clue how to deal with a nagging woman when he said you better off roasting on the roof of your house than to be in the same house with a nagging woman

tell me more

starlingslimnet:
Ladies sha always blaming somebody

who is blaming who?

Have you ever wondered why it's as though the perfect lady you found yourself falling in love with does nothing but nag?
Are you one of those who claim she was pretending to trap you?
Are you now scared of the woman she has become
Well the answers still lie in your hands. The woman you have today is the same girl you once thought was perfect the only difference is your touch.
Your touch you may want to ask and I will say yes.
There is a common saying of train up a child in the way he should grow and when he's old he will not depart from it.
Groom a lady the right way & watch grow into your ideal woman.

First thing you must know about ladies when it comes to relationship is the fact they always get use to things that are sweet and romantic.
E.g......
- Calling just to say good morning.
- Texting to check on her
- taking her shopping
- taking her on dates.
- telling her how you spent your day.
- making her feel you enjoying nothing but spending all the free time you got with her.
- calling to hear the sound of her before bed time.
A lot of guys are guilty of these act but its also common to see that the minute the relationship kicks off the story changes. A lady who had gotten so use to been treated as a queen is suddenly begging for the attention. She has to complain before he sends a text.
The excuse most guys give is "am busy with work".
If you didn't recently change a job then guy you have no excuse. After all you chased her while on that same job.

Guys will say some ladies want too much but I believe that the way you start up a relationship determines how much the lady ends up wanting. You cant start up a relationship making her feel you only shop in boutiques only to tell her two weeks later its time for okrika.
You visit her @ least twice a week and out of the blue you can't make it once in a month.

Relationships built on lies and pretence don't stand the test of time. ..

If truly things change between the time you asked her out and the time she became a full blown nag its because you haven't tried to explain things patiently. In a relationship, one of the essentials is "timing". Rather than leave the house or get into an argument make her see reasons.
Understand her point of view rather that claim "Mr right".......
It is in the bid to impress and win a lady over that a lot of guys get it all wrong. You woo her like a king she falls like a queen when you become you, most times the ladies can't handle it.
We do not seek perfection in man least we loose our focus but a man and a woman must realise how much they need each other. They must understand human nature which is their weakness to be able to understand what deciding to live together really means.

Kash007:
Hello, cool people. what's up

nothing much: how u doing? Wats up wit u too

Please any1 with biochemistry past questions should help out.
Meanwhile I tried printing my exam pass & was told have not been scheduled yet as @ dis morning.... should I be worried