This has been very interesting to read. I like how Seun and a couple of others simply admitted that they don't like doing chores so if they have the opportunity not to do so, they just won't do it and use the gender thing as an excuse.
Now @ kamakula, you had a very valid point cuz that's just what I was thinking. I just won't marry a man who expects me to do everything around the house as if it's my duty while he does nothing. Now I was feeling you on the tradeoffs till you said something about him spending time with the woman at the mall so she's doing housework in exchange. We also do things we don't want to do so what is our compensation for that? And you shouldn't generalize against all women, saying something about us complaining just like we shouldn't generalize against all men.
I don't know what was meant by the woman should know her role as a woman because I believe in equality and the only role I can play that the man can't is as a mother. As a partner in the relationship, whatever is expected of me, I expect the same from him, especially around the house.
I'm not speaking for anyone else here but myself but I could care less what most men feel about domestics as long as my man knows that we're both doing it. My reason for that is too many women accept bs from men, then complain about it. Until we (women) set standards for ourselves that we adhere to, I don't see men changing.
My job will be just as stressful as my husband's (probably even more so) so I'm not coming home to cook and clean while he rests as if I'm not tired. I'm already putting it in my boyfriend's head that I do not try to fit into the stereotypical role of a woman and we should all do the same.

nferyn, YOU'RE GREAT!

Are you saying that women need to use their sexuality to achieve influence or wealth, and since she already has to use sex for that, she shouldn't make it worse by being promiscuous? I'm not going to respond to that until I'm clear on what you're saying, but I will respond to some of the other things you said.
In regards to sex, if the man knows what he's doing, the woman gets hers too. How do you think women are able to enjoy sex if you really believe that, and trust and believe, many women enjoy sex too. Sex is not about the man so don't get it twisted. And no, this isn't a man's world because if you have that type of mentality, then you may as well say it's a WHITE MAN'S WORLD because they are the ones with all the advantages. If you fall prey to that type of thinking, then you may as well not aim for anything good in your life and settle for mediocrity. Essentially, promiscuity is bad on the parts of both men and women and the real problem is that there are women who have been conditioned to believe it's ok when men do it so they accept it. When more women reject promiscuous men, those men will have to think twice before bragging of their so-called sexual accomplishments.

Some of you are just saying that out of sexism. What reason do you have to say it will be worse if women accept bribery? How much worse can it get? Look at all the trouble brought about by all the rulers so far, and they've all been men. Most of those people benefiting from those bribes have been men so how much worse do you think a woman can make it? Once again, Nigeria is considered to be one of the most corrupt countries in the world and do you know how many Nigerians living in the U.S. don't want to go back? And whose leadership has this been under? All men. Stop condemning women on a job they haven't done.
Women are not good enough to rule naija, but they can be used by men to accomplish things? Please. If men are so great, what do they need women for? So women just need the guidance of these great men rulers to do something good? Sure, because it's been proven that men are better leaders? Judging from Nigeria's current and long-standing situation, I'd beg to differ.
And America never having a female president doesn't mean anything. America has only had white presidents, and with America's history and present perpetuation of racism and sexism and just overall discrimination, it is not the country to be looking up to.
And @dejiowole, when I said that some women are the answers to Africa's problems, I elaborated by saying that ANYBODY with good intentions towards Africa would be a solution to Africa's problems, and I said some women because I'm not generalizing and saying every woman is the solution. There are women with self-serving interests, but they are no worse than men so I think both men and women with good intentions would help.

Thank you snazzy! It's gonna hurt either way if you love the person, and how quickly you get over it depends on who you are, whether man or woman.

"Woman can not rule Nigeria respectfully, no way man, Nigerians are tough breed."

Umm, men have been ruling Nigeria so far, and have they been ruling it respectfully? Nigeria isn't even that respected the way it should be by other nations and is considered to be one of the most corrupt nations in the world. Seeing as how women haven't been ruling Nigeria, who can you blame that on? Don't be so quick to say women can't rule Nigeria.

In response to the original question posed that started this forum, do I think women are the answer to Africa's problems? Yes, some women are. I think that in general, people with good intentions and who care about Africa are the answer to Africa's problems. This includes women and men, and anyone that is opposed to a woman as a leader simply because she's a woman and not because of valid proof that she's inadequate is also opposed to progress.

And I'm curious, how do women being in leadership positions prove that they're likely not to cheat in relationships?

@Kokcity,
I hope you didn't think I was implying anything from my question. I was just curious to see if you had a different viewpoint from what I usually hear, such as what gocity just posted.

@Gocity,
I see your viewpoint, but it depends on how you look at it. If the girl is giving men sex for love, then she is a victim, but if she is doing it purely because she enjoys sex and doesn't care to be in a relationship with these men, then she's not causing any harm to herself. And from what you said, I can see your don't approve of promiscuity from women? What about when men are promiscous?

Question for you Kokcity. It's good to know that you don't call women names who sleep around, but while you sleep with them, would you get involved in a serious relationship with them or would you marry them? I'm not judging you, just curious.

Tupac is not alive. That craze went on for years after he died, but do you realize that it will be ten years this September? His own mother acknowledges that he's dead. If he truly faked his death, he would not be living in New York of all places. And if he was alive, those latest CDs with his name on it wouldn't be garbage.

Model, for the most part, I usually keep my comments on other people's relationships to myself but since you asked what people would do, I wouldn't trust him after that. In fact, I'd probably break up with him. If he truly loved and respected you, he would not have said that to your face, and if he wanted to make it clear to the other girl that he only loves you, he wouldn't have told her that he loves her. How is misleading her going to make her leave him alone? She'd only chase him more. There's no logic in the story he told you. For him to say it in front of you, do you think that's the first time he's said it to her? And how do you even know if there are other girls in the picture when you're not around? You cannot protect him from other girls because he's not helpless. He knows what he's doing, and you deserve better than that. It's not easy to just break up with someone and find someone else you like, but don't waste your loyalty on someone who's not doing the same for you.
And that girl is not truly your friend if she's openly chasing after your boyfriend.

Babagana, I'm glad you raised the question, and I don't think your motives were to gain favor from women. I think that people, esp men, would find it unusual because it negatively affects women, not men, so most of them are not directly impacted and therefore would usually show little concern.
I don't think it's ok when either a man or a woman are promiscuous, I think the problem comes from society. A woman is judged more harshly, and even though it's really men who are dictating this, women are the ones who accept it. If more women rejected men who were promiscuous, those men wouldn't have the upper hand that they do now. A man is more likely to admit to having many previous partners because many women will accept it even if they don't like it. We don't have to accept something because we are told to, and promiscuity is counted in that.
I can't remember who, but someone said something about equality not being a right, that it has to be earned. That's not true. People who hold power didn't earn that power, it was given to them. A prime example is discrimination. Do blacks not deserve the same rights as whites? Whites don't want to give up the power so they oppress blacks, but that doesn't mean it's right.

@ Mikun, I never said I selected parts of the Bible or rejected others. In fact, I didn't even bring up the Bible. You did. What I said originally still stands. If my husband asked for my paycheck in a way that was disrespectful simply for his own ego as in the context of the story that started this discussion, I wouldn't give it to him. If you would do differently, good for you.