As men, there are things we all want but will never say. Maybe it would make things easier for women if we told them exactly what we want but maybe it would make things worse too. Maybe our women won’t take it so well. You just never know. Or maybe we assume that they should be knowing whatever we want since we tend to feel we are the less-complicated gender.
Here are things every man wants from his woman but will never say:


1. Men want to be treated as ‘the man’.

A portion of today’s women feel that they are equal to or above their men. This is usually a misguided attitude that leads to break-ups. All men want to date or marry women who treat them as the authoritative figure. It doesn’t matter if you earn more or went to Havard yet your man went to a local college. Treat him as ‘the man’ and he will love you always.


2. Sexiness that he can show off to his friends.

Every man wants a woman that he can show off to his friends; a woman he can walk with on the road and feel proud. If you are a woman who doesn’t put in any effort in her appearance, you are planting the seeds of infidelity in your man’s heart.


3. Space…a lot of it.

We love you ladies but we don’t want to be with you all the time. Stay away for a while and make us miss you. Suffocating your man with your constant presence will make him resent you. Giving people their space is good as it keeps both your identities separate.


4. To be pampered.

Though guys try to put on a macho image and love babying their sweethearts, it’s not like they don’t love to be pampered themselves! A surprise gift, a relaxing massage, a loving gesture are all welcome and much appreciated.


5. Being open while communicating.

We don’t want our women to be beating around the bush by dropping ‘hints.’ We don’t want to have to ask them if they are mad or not. If a couple can’t talk about things freely, then doomsday cometh sooner than you think. It’s better to say things straight to the face and get it over with than go through a long process.

Ladies take note. Although some guys might deny this, they know in their hearts that it is true.

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Ever wondered if a guy is in love with you or not? I have some little tips here that will help out.



1. You catch him staring at you just a little longer than usual.


This is totally different to him checking you out. This is when you’re together but both concentrating on something else and you look up at him only to find your eyes meet, and this time you know something’s different because he takes a little longer than usual to look away. He’s crazy about you and his eyes can’t help but linger on you.

2. He wants you to meet his friends and family.

He encourages meet ups with his close friends and family because it’s important to him that you all get along with each other. Only a man who sees yours as a long term relationship will bother making introductions to his nearest and dearest, so it’s safe to say he sees you becoming part of his family in the future.

3. Most of his free time is spent with you.

And he likes it this way. He never gets tired of your company, and wants to spend as much time as he possibly can with you. You don’t have to plan anything special in order to get him to show up. This does not mean he should always be with you. Of course you have your own life and he has his own.

4. He always wants and values your opinion

Whether it’s something small like what he should wear or something big , he always runs everything by you because your opinion is incredibly important to him. Men don’t like to admit when they need help or advice, so if he’s actively reaching out to you it’s because he has the utmost respect and trust for you.

5. When you’re upset, he won’t stop until he makes you feel better

When you have a problem, he takes it on as his own problem. He’ll be concerned about your feelings, will listen patiently to all of your problems – no matter what they are and will be there for you until your tears run dry and that beautiful smile reappears on your face.

6. He remembers the important things about you.

Like your birthday, the anniversary of when you guys became official, and your favourite perfume. He remembers all of these things because when you speak, he wants to soak up everything you say so he knows and understands you just a little bit more than he did yesterday. You know he’s falling in love with you when you don’t have to constantly remind him of the things that are important to you, because they’ve become important to him as well.


I don't mean that he does not love you if all these signs are not present. Sister, don't go and breakup with him yet oh
But if you notice all of this, you can be sure that he loves you. Therefore you have my permission to ride on


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There is more to life than the person who walked away from you. There is more to life than chasing after someone who does not want to be in yours.

Trust me when I say — there is more to life.

There is laughing until your stomach aches more than your healing.

There are those family moments where you just look at all of them and you feel a completeness within you and suddenly everything feels alright again and the world is perfect.

There is going out with friends, going to fun places together or staying indoors to watch football or your favourite telenovela and laughing together and being happy that you are so damn lucky to be living at the same time as them, that you are so damn thankful you got to experience life with them by your side. They’ll scoop you into their arms and they will hug you so tight, that it will feel as if all of your broken pieces have finally come together again.

There are rainy evenings where you feel so cold yet so warm. The kind of evenings that feel like saltwater for your soul, the kind of evenings that cleanse you and hold you and make you feel so small, and so big at the same time.

There are crystallizing moments, in the middle of crowds, where you will connect with the fact that your hands don’t feel as heavy anymore, that your heart is floating above water for the first time in months, that you feel happy, and light and full of hope.

But most of all — there is you, in all of your glory and heart, learning how to love yourself day by day. There is you, in all of your depth, living, and feeling, and existing despite the hurt, despite the loss. There is you, being your own person, being your own strength. There is you, being there for yourself, for the first time in a long time. There is you, finding your own happiness.

Now that is something worth chasing. That is something to care about.

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Good day everyone, I have a problem that I want to share. I have a bf, we started dating in September last year and we love each other very much. He is very caring, always there for me and very supportive. The only problem is that he beats me whenever he is very angry with me although he normally apologizes later. He has a very hot temper and I am worried about this. Sometimes I feel like he is taking out his frustrations about other issues on me. I can't count the number of times he has slapped me before and later he will kneel down and apologize to me.

Like the day he invited me to his place and told me to buy something for him when coming because he was hungry. I did not have any money with me at the moment so I decided to cook for him when I got there. Immediately I reached, I saw he was not in a very good mood and I asked him what was wrong, he said nothing was wrong and asked me what I bought. I told him that I did not have money but I would cook for him. He told me that there was nothing in his house and I should have gone back and brought money. He said I should go back and get it. Then I got angry and replied that I was not his servant. He slapped me twice and I just angrily walked out.

I don't cheat on him and he does not cheat on me either. Our relationship is perfect apart from his hot-temper. We are even planning to get married in few years time but I don't want to get married to a man that beats his wife. I always tell him to start controlling his temper and he promises it will stop but it always happens again

The last time he beat me, he gave me a swollen eye just because I answered a call from a guy when we were together. I am totally fed up of this to be honest but I don't want to leave him because I don't see myself with another guy, I love him so much. Please help me guys, I am very confused now.

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The issue of failed relationships and why they fail is one that has been receiving lots of attention for a long time now. There are several important factors that determine the stability of every relationship. When these factors are neglected, it becomes easy for things to go very wrong between couples. No relationship can stand the test of time without the right amounts of communication, trust, compromise, efforts, time, compatibility, loyalty, affection, and space. Lacking any or some of the aforementioned factors in any relationship is one easy way of driving the relationship towards the rocks.

So let's look at the top 7 reasons why some relationships fail
1. Loyalty

One major reason why relationships fail is lack of loyalty from ones partner. And loyalty requires a level of faithfulness in every relationship. Most relationships, at one point or the other get faced with cases of infidelity, but not all come out looking stronger. It is not possible for anyone to trust his or her unfaithful partner in a relationship. Most times when people get involved in infidelity in a relationship, it is as a result of problems like lack of loyalty that has existed for long. It is easy for your partner to find comfort in the arms of another man or woman when you fail to play your own part in mutual loyalty in your relationship.

2. Communication

The role of communication in any relationship cannot be overemphasized. No relationship survives for long without the right level of healthy communication between the two people involved. For your relationship to maintain its stability for a long time, you have to develope your communication skills if you are not good at it. The best way to address any issue in your relationship is to come out open on any issue and talk it over with your partner. Engaging in heated arguments has never produced the right results when it comes to resolving issues. There are no specific laws for men or women to adhere to when it comes to adequate communication. The right approach is to find time and talk things over with your spouse before it develops into an irreconcilable difference.

3. Effort and Time

Every good relationship requires you give it proper time and make the right amount of efforts to make things work. When you lack time to pay attention to issues that threaten your relationship, you only create room for a breakup. Without making adequate efforts to create quality time for your relationship to work, the communication between you and your partner cannot be strong.

4. Trust

Distrust is one factor that has contributed to why relationships fail. It is important you learn to trust your partner. Even when you have any reasons to be suspicious, it is still advisable to talk things over. Factors such as lying to your partner can build distrust. Be open and sincere at all times to leave no room for unnecessary suspicions and jealousy.

5. Family & Friends

Friends and family can be more influential in your relationship than you are prepared to admit. Most times, these loved ones can be quite supportive, but at other times, they can give their friends or family members the kind of advice that might further aggravate the already tensed situation in your relationship. This is most likely when the relationship is not supported by these friends and family members. Know the kind of friends your partner keeps and the kind of advice he or she gets from them concerning your relationship.

6. Lack of Compatibility

Some couples are not just compatible, no matter how much they try to make things work. When it comes to relationships that will last a lifetime, compatibility is one issue that should be given adequate attention. When the two people involved in a relationship are not compatible, it is easy for things to fall apart between them as they start raising kids and facing new challenges.

7. Expired Chemistry

Some relationships just lose the passion without knowing why. This happens mostly when people mistake lust for love. So when the initial fire dies down, they suddenly discover there is nothing else in the relationship than the sex. Even the sex gets boring with time, and this can be a major reason why relationships fail.

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You don’t realize that she’s hurting, because she doesn’t want to make a big deal out of anything. She doesn’t want to turn something small into something major. So she forgives you for things you never even realized she was mad about in the first place. She keeps giving you chance after chance.

You don’t realize that she’s hurting, because she doesn’t want to come across as sensitive or overly dramatic or clingy. She doesn’t want to admit how disappointed she was when you canceled that date or when you texted her at night, only because you were drunk and lonely.

You don’t realize that she’s hurting, because she’s perfected her fake smile, her fake laugh. She knows how to look like she’s having the time of her life when she’s secretly dying inside. She knows how to fool you into believing she’s okay.

You don’t realize that she’s hurting, because she waits until you’re gone to cry. Because she has enough strength to put on an act for an hour or two, but as soon as she gets home or inside of a bathroom, she lets her emotions flow.

You don’t realize that she’s hurting, because she doesn’t want you to know that she’s hurting. She wants you to think that she’s fine without you. That you aren’t that important to her. She doesn’t want you to have the satisfaction of knowing you mean the world to her when she obviously means nothing to you.

You don’t realize that she’s hurting, because you never ask . You never question her about her day or her thoughts or her feelings. You only care about yourself. You only care about your own happiness. You never stop to wonder how she’s been.

You don’t realize that she’s hurting, because sometimes, even she doesn’t realize it. She ignores her feelings. Pushes them down. Tries to squash them so that they don’t get in her way. So that they don’t cause problems she doesn’t have the time or the energy to handle.

You don’t realize that she’s hurting, because she doesn’t deal with her pain by talking about it. She writes it down in her journal. Blasts music into her headphones. Watches Telemundo until she feels okay again.

You don’t realize that she’s hurting, because whenever she has the urge to text you, she ignores it. Even when she’s dying to talk to you, she pushes past the temptation and focuses her attention elsewhere. She tries her hardest to keep you out of her life.

You don’t realize that she’s hurting, because she knows that she deserves better than someone like you. She feels stupid for crying over you, for caring about you. She’s trying her best to forget about you.

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It's about my ex relationship, though I moved on. Broke up with him on May 2016.
He sleeps in my house at times. My bf met me a virgin though he doubted but he later disvirgined me, cheated

After every love and care I showed him and all the sacrifices I made on his behalf. I loved him and never cheated, yet he payed me back badly

I have been calling him and sometimes he picks without saying anything, my airtime will just be wasting. Sometimes he would say he will call back but he won't. I call him 100% while he calls me 20%. The only 100% thing he likes telling me is "I am busy, let me call you back". But when I send him a text, sometimes he replies immediately, sometimes a minute later. The first day, I never called or texted him ; he called me himself. I did that again and he texted and called me, I didn't pick.

He was having an affair which he told me he broke up with his ex gf but they were still dating. He is a music producer.

I wanted to know if he loved me so I called him on one fateful day and he busied my call. I told him that he should pick up that I wanted to text him something but he told me to text it to him (to test his love for me). I told him that I am not interested in the relationship any longer and he said 'OK'. I cried angrily and cursed him that as long as he disvirgined me without love and never appreciated my love, no man would ever appreciate his handwork. Laid so many curses with tears & a broken heart and he told me "Trust me, I won't forgive those curses". I blocked him on Whatsapp , later he blocked me on Facebook.

After months, I still had feelings for him. Begged him but he refuses and asks me never to call him. I called him several times till I finally made up my mind and stopped disturbing him. Like seriously I look more beautiful since I left him.


I spent on him, I gave him bb bold 6 when he lost his phone, body lotion, even provisions. I don't beg him for money. The only thing I have gotten from him is 300 naira bread. He has spent five different nights at my house. I even buy him singlet, the wall clock I gave him is what he is using at the entrance of his studio now. I really cared for and cherished him. Seriously, I had serious feelings for him, I keep crying sometimes. The worst part of it is that I am always crying & thinking when I remember my virginity. It hurts. I keep crying.

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Stop wasting time with the guy that shuts you out when he’s in a shitty mood, even if it has nothing to do with you. The guy that will walk past you like you’re a ghost and give you one-word answers, like you’re nothing to him, even though he acted like you were everything yesterday when his day was going well.

Stop wasting time with the guy that had a nasty ex-girlfriend and takes it out on you, even though you aren’t anything like her. The guy that plays the victim act, that acts like he’s damaged, and repays your kindness by telling you he has too much baggage from his last relationship, that he’s not ready to let anyone else inside.

Stop wasting time with the guy that makes you wonder if your phone is malfunctioning, because you haven’t gotten a text back from him yet, even though you messaged him two hours ago and you can see that he’s been active on Facebook over the last twenty minutes.

Stop wasting time with the guy that can’t keep his stories straight. The guy that must be lying to you, because he gives you different ‘facts’ whenever you talk to him and then swears that you must be remembering wrong. He tries to convince you that you’re the crazy one.

Stop wasting time with the guy that calls you two, three, four times when he wants to see you, because he won’t take no for an option. The guy that does a complete 180 when you initiate contact by ignoring every one of your texts, because he only cares about what he wants in the moment.

Stop wasting time with the guy that only posts party photos on Instagram with a red cup in his hand, the guy that brags about how much he can chug without blacking out, the guy that only contacts you when he’s already five beers deep.

Stop wasting time with the guy that acts like you’re committing a sin whenever you mention another boy, even though he posts selfies with his arms around strangers and interrupts your conversation to check his beeping phone that you know has pretty girls on the other line.

Stop wasting time with the guy that looks into the mirror to check his hair more than he looks into your eyes, because he’s more concerned with the way the world views him than the way that you view him. The guy that knows he’s hot and relies on his looks to get him through life.

Stop wasting time with the guy that doesn’t seem to care whether you stay in his life or not. The guy that makes you stay up when you should be sleeping, replaying your day to try to figure out whether he likes you or not — whether he cares or not.

Stop it. Because you deserve so much more than that guy.

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To those young ladies on Instagram:
You might be beautiful. You might be sexy. You might love your body and have the confidence to show it proudly…and that’s good. Seriously, I’m happy for you. It shows that you are well made and blessed (if you like). Nothing wrong with being happy with your looks. Nothing wrong with snapping a few pics when you are feeling beautiful.
You can look in the mirror and feel proud of your body. You can walk down the street and receive compliments on your beauty. Necks will turn, might snap sef (pun obviously intended) :? But that’s not the reason you’re on Instagram, and it certainly isn’t the reason you’re posing half-naked. If you think that posting these pics is how to be happy with yourself, think again.

Posing in a lace bra and a G-string on Instagram doesn’t give the perception that you are a “model” (current or future, na you sabi), it makes you look cheap, like the only value you offer is your body. The psychology behind your behavior in taking these nude pics is very straight-forward: you’re suffering from a lack of self-esteem and are looking externally to make yourself feel good about you. But you’re kidding yourself. It’s called self-esteem because it emanates from the self.

And while we’re talking, let’s make something crystal clear: what you’re doing isn’t “modeling.” Models pose on a professional photo set to sell wears and associated products for a company. In short, they get paid for modeling. They don’t display their half naked butt twerking to Falz or Wizkid under a poorly lit room. No, Models work. What the hell are you doing? I’ll tell you: giving peeks of your naked self away to random strangers, that’s what.

A reality check: Any picture of a naked/half-naked woman will get LOTS of views online. It doesn’t make you special, it makes you a porn star, but without the pay. Please stop fooling yourself into thinking that the “likes” and “shares” you get are because they like you. They like the show you are giving them; they don’t care who you are, they really don't.

My advice: If you want to be a model or an actress, DO IT!, work hard for it and follow your dream. Otherwise, you are shaking your stuff for someone else’s cheap thrill, while pretending it boosts your self-esteem as you get views on your pics and videos. You can choose to be whatever you want to be: a doctor, model, business woman, whatever you want. Just do it with some dignity. Or you will only attract the wrong kind of guy that way, and you are selling out women everywhere.

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Most of the time, you want to know more about someone but you are short of questions to ask them. Rather than using the over-used ''Tell me more about yourself'' and sounding like an idiot, you could use any of these instead

1. What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself?
2. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?
3. If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up?
4. What is your idea of having a good time?
5. What are you most thankful for in life?
6. What’s your biggest regret in life?
7. What do you think about when you’re by yourself?
8. Do you think a guy and a lady can be best of friends?
9. Would you ever take back someone who cheated on you?
10. When do you think a person is ready for marriage?

Any of the above questions will definitely lead to a deeper and more interesting conversation. so... you are free to try them out on this beautiful day


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What better way to start off your day than reading some reassuring words from the holy bible?
Here are ten beautiful bible verses for every lady in need of love, reassurance and strength.

1.“God is within her, she will not fall.” — Psalm 46:5


2.“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” — Proverbs 31:25


3.“The Lord is my strength and my shield.” — Psalm 28:7

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What is 4G? 4G is the most advanced and fastest wireless network. LTE stands for “Long Term Evolution”.

What is the difference between 4G and 3G?With 4G, you can download a 1GB movie within a few minutes instead of hours or a 3MB music file in a few second instead of minutes. 4G is multiple times faster than 3G. With 4G, you can get download speeds of more than 50MB per second!

Can it work on every smartphone? Unfortunately no. Check your phone's specs or it's network settings to know if it supports 4G.

Which networks support 4G in Nigeria? As of 16th October 2016, only MTN, Glo and Etisalat do so.

MTN 4G
Presently, the service is available only in Abuja, Lagos and Port Harcourt. If you're in one of those areas, then you have to go to the nearest MTN office and change your sim to a 4G enabled sim.
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