swarley75:
oga, go sitdon jor!


It just pure lust, once you nack the girl now your body go come down.

Rozcol:
Mother Theresa well done ooo,you should have asked if I'm already engaged or not and I don't pray to ever meet the likes of your brothers who doesn't know their right from left.If its your choice to suffer with a man what's my own there? and if its my choice not to suffer with any man how e take concern you? The op is a liar and wisdom demands that we read both sides before passing judgement but he succeeded in winning you all to his pity party game.

Rozcol:
Please let us hear word and for your information she's right about that number 2,in marriage a man should provide everything and its solely depend on your wife's decision to assist you or not,its not a mandatory task.Women are care givers and not providers, you can't expect a woman to provide and still respect you it usually don't happen that way.She's not hear to say her own side so nobody has the right to condemn her yet. No be Nigerian men again mtchewww

skillmyman:
hi,
please give it time, trust God and just appreciate him as a friend.
A lot of things happen in life that we dont have control over.
I think you can discuss businesses with him and also help to get him started in side gigs.
You also need to be humble enough to accept him as he is now.
I initially earned more than my wife when we were dating and i paid her rent then. During that period, the bank she worked was taken over and their salary increased. needless to say my wife started earning more than I did.
Several year later, i also got a bank job and started earning more.

The truth is you just need a good man with great character. Dont be decieved by church goers. with time, their true character comes out.
Be sure he is not a striker, stingy and overly protective.

Like your aunt said, forget your friends, they dont know what life is about.

God be with you

Agbebakun22:



I'm happy for you @ Nancy. You're a rare gem. God bless you. In next two to three years trust me that guy Kay will stand up and become the best thing ever happened to u. Never despise humble beginnings. E- money wife never despise poor Emeka then despite rich suitors but today she feel blessed having him and not missing the honey. The guy will give u maximum respect if u build with him. Wish you good luck in your next life chapter.. Invite us for the wedding ceremony ooo

Moz22:
Don't know what to say.. don't wanna believe girls like this still exists. This story can't be true

2goodbobo:


I am happy for you, now you have closure. Glad you hid to my advise and held the meeting with him. I am convinced that he is the right Man for you.

Make sure your keep to your promise of standing by him in every situation.

Good luck.

Kenturkey048:



GoDDDDDDD whennnnnnnn?

When will my own Nancy come byyyyyyy?? God, please bring my Nancy to my life abeg...I want to feel this kinda original love before i die oooh..Follow come kind of love..You know how follow come charger strong and fast. Naso the love go strong.. ....

I done tire for all these Amaka and Karo matters...E be like say na Nancy go sure pass
Ooo?? When will this kinda original love locate this negggarrrr.... In adekunle Gold's voice (I want to love ooh, I'm single and searching oooh)...I

Nancee4love you got me glued to my phone. always checking updates.....I love the way you patiently located your destiny...May God prosper your newly found journey. It shall be crowned with glory...

Your kinda babes for naija no reach 10 again...

Truvelisback:
Good one. However, be very careful as u are standing by him. Examine him carefully.

Truvelisback:
Omo! Ur epistle long Ooo. Are u related to Apostle Paul?

lordally:


@Nancee4love this guy is a rare gem! No waste time abeg!!! Cos if your friends Sabi this kind person dem go snatch am!!

Enginiaman1:


Tahhh this person just day catch cruise hare!

Executer:
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I thought you said he told you? Now it's you stumbling on his employment letter?? Continue

Agbebakun22:
A picture go a long for such advise.. Please if you don't mind PM me ur picture to see how beautiful you're since Abuja high caliber men are toasting You..

Amb1045:
1. He needs to defined what he want first. Ghost him when he ask you why tell him to defined the friendship
2. Have sex with him after he has defined the relationship. You can't jeorpadise your happiness because of he is caring, people can be deceitful
3. He might be a manipulator playing you emotional games be careful of such men without definition of relationship.
4. The other guy might be better than him, the open one just that he might not have few characters you don't like that doesn't mean he won't make a great father.
5.Don't joke with the feature of your kids because you have small feelings for someone. Feelings don't last. He might not even be good on bed.
6. Don't let pastors make decisions for you they're humans too. Most when they do, the marriage don't end well.

Makawhizzy:
Make me just tell you personal experience
I met my wife while I was still hustling so you can’t categorically placed my income as constant. It rises and fall as jobs come in while my wife is a contract staff with a bank but still earns more than me. We tied the knot when our monthly income was barely 100k combined and we stay in a three rooms self contained wing apartment at ojuelegba barracks as at 2016. Less than six months after wedding she got comverted & we moved to the north west as her salary is now 200k while my income had evolved close to 100k. We spent less than two years in the NW and she resigned as the HSSA role is systematically turning to marketing products that an average northerner will never buy and the pressure was just too much plus I can easily make her salary in 2-3 days as at 2018/19.
The fact you started higher than him doesn’t mean you will remain higher over time cox life happens and as long as he has a vision and ready to give all into it with your support no qualms.
To burst your bubbles join I do not see any biggie in my wife earning more than me maybe because during finances in marriage in one of our counseling class we both agreed that we won’t operate a joint account but money made by either of us belongs to both of us so there is nothing like this is my money or this is your money in my home.
Just so you know she had the offer of settling with a cool older guy with a better salary, car and house in bodija before I proposed to her cox we have been friends since 2008 I helped her secure her first house in university but you see today she doesn’t need permission to drive any car she sees in the fleet or make decision on any property.
To buttress it for you my ex married a guy who is also an hustler and she earns far better and has business portfolio in millions managed by my company and she’s supporting her hubby cox he has real vision and he’s doing the work of increasing his own business.
As long as you are sure he’s GOD FEARING wos wos wobi it means you have someone to report him to and he’ll listen when he misbehaves and you are sure he gives you peace, Aunty support his vision and become a shareholder.
Last time we used the term borrow was when I took a 60k loan from her when we were dating and told her look I’m not returning this and I won’t return subsequent ones cox today you are a 50% shareholder in this vision I’m building so if you believe in it madam put your money there.
Selah!!

pansophist:
Young women do not give good advices, they are still at their prime and haven't been in the other side closer to menopause, so they have the tendency to be dumb. Dont listen to your friends. Your aunt and mum are matured, and their advice is solid. His earnings are fluid, it can change tomorrow. So why focus so much on that? He is not even comfortable with his earnings and wants to improve, that should be a good sign. If he snacks all day, and satisfied being a looser, then I'll advice you to avoid him, but he is a good man and focused on improving his income So why not?

If settling for less is financial only, then you're lost. Settling for less should be about his character, contentment, integrity, maturity, honesty, uprightness, altruism and being morally upright. These are lifelong qualities that will take you through thick and thin, not money, besides, he can earn big tomorrow easily. Once again, your friends are dumb, albeit, naively because ironically, they seems to believe their advice is good. How else can you prove to him that you live him for him, if his income is a big deal for you?

So far, its obvious your heart accepts him. And you can't keep waiting. So it's simply a case of choosing your battle. You can't avoid the battle, but at least you have a choice to choose. Instead of waiting for him to ask you out, why not do it yourself? Yea do it yourself. At least you'll know where you stand. If you should move on with your life, or show him that you're OK with his earnings and ready to go through thick and thin with him.

Tell him you find him attractive, it can be via text, or tell someone to tell him. Just make your intention known. You're a lady and time is your worse enemy, don't waste any more time. Something tells me this guy loves you too, and see no reason to rush since he is in for the long term. Usually guys want to sleep with girls they don't see as a keeper, but when they meet the one, they will be at their best behaviour.

AntiSimp:
It's strange for a guy of such age and experience of 30yrs+ to not ask you out, or tries to trick you into sex for 18months despite being close to you, since u say u are pretty. Is he as naive about gals issue? I doubt since he had previous relationship according to you.
Question is, how does he get sex? For the past 18months u can't tell me he dint have sex..just as u
Please respectfully he is not like that he is not after sex. We have not had sex and he has been a virgin for 3 decades this he told me not up till 2019.
These are my guess

1. He may have a lady whom he's observing from afar, probably younger than 29

2. He may be fixated on marrying someone younger than 29

3. He might have seen your greenlight and feels u will come too hard on him if he asks u out, so he's probably preventing that, keeping his option open, and facing his financial goals than entangling with u.

4. He may have certain notion or misconception about you, making him not to consider you as a serious option. Yes get him to talk about his notion about you....

Raise questions about wanting an honest opinion from him about what he thinks about her in terms of career, attitude, marriage, taste, and life philosophy, that u are trying to appraise and change certain things abt ursef.

Such open ended question as this is enough to make him vomit everything he feels about u...also observe his body language, tone, excitement and emotions as he talks..make him talk..and listen..urge in on with further questions...u will get many clue. Best place to do this is at a bar after 1 or 2 bottles of beer
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5. Get him to talk abt his sex life and sex interests jsut to know how he gets sex...and don't flirt in that moment so he won't think u are trying to seduce him. Just be neutral.
Now my advice for you.
At 29, if u are serious about marriage, don't let ur 250k get into ur head. Be humble..many guys are passing through alot. If u meet a humble one who earns over 70 or 80 or 100..stop stigmatising his pay.. You don't know his history, or how much he had earned in the past. Be humble.
A man focused on his goals and vision is worth more than u can imagine. Stop being shallow.
A man earning 80k above in this current Nigeria of joblessness is not a joke.

Fiscus105:
After your aunt(ur blood) had offered you her candid advise about reality of life, marriage inclusive, why comming to public forum to update us about new supper story series again?

Going by your episode, if I have my way ,I will advise 80k guy to run as fast as he could from you, ......I can see a wife who won't respect her huband after marriage.....
.......I can see a wife whose her friends and other 3rd party will be controlling her marriage from outside.

...............and I can see a marriage that won't last cos wife may abandon the marriage if things refuse to improve on the side of husband.

Elporo:


She thinks she's in love with some guy. But dem neva Bleep. Another guy dey wey get moni too..

I think she should Bleep both guys first

Who knows ... she might be the type that likes sex... and the one that can go for hrs will win.

I seen it happen.. walahi

samwash:
I will not advice you, but you already know that you want, you are only looking for options to confuse your self the more.
Remember is only constant thing in life is change, 80k salary is not forever.
Moreover, why not seek God in prayer & ask for His assistance, then also meet someone that is genuine of God to also assist you to pray over it.

2goodbobo:
1. Dont listen to your Friends because samd friends will laugh at you tomorrow if you leave him and settle for Richer Man and get treated badly in marriage tomorrow.

2. He earns 80k today but he can also earn 500k tomorrow. Dont look at the now look at the future. He has the potential to make it

3. True and genuine love in Men is scarce these days amd base on what you said about him i think he is the right Guy for you.

4. I gold digger does not pretend or linger before he shows you his true color of gold digging. 18 Months is enough to show you he does not care about your "Money".

5. Marrying a Man from South South is not a gaurantee for happy Marriage. Dont let nobody decide for you who you will get married to.

6. Have a serious conversation with the Guy and let him tell you what he thinks of you and if he sees a future with you. No time to delay again, 18 Months is enough for him to decide what he wants.

7. Finally, follow your Heart.

I wish you all the best.

chatinent:
(Forces cough)

The rat following the lizard to play in the rain will know whose body it will be to dry first.


Btw, God bless that your aunt for me.



Yawns.




Sb that can say innocent God told him sth can say any other thing. I am not surprised.



E fit dey see malaria.


In whatever you are doing in this life, never call demons your friends. Gbu fu asu!



Well, jokes apart, I will give you a real life experience in questions.

Who's gonna need marital happiness, you or your friends?

Are you ready to settle down or is it only sb who you love that's your concern?


Are you ready to be submissive? I don't think so.

Are you ready to mortgage your happiness ..well,..you know..using the caste system?



Tips: If you have found sb good, stop looking for sb better.


That was the reason nkịta hapụrụ ụlọ ya n'oké ọhịa ma soro ụmụ mmadụ. Don't be like the strong hunter who was given a razor to chop down the iroko tree.

Marriage is no trivia matter.

Choose wisely, honey.


...that is if this story is true.

samwash:
I will not advice you, but you already know that you want, you are only looking for options to confuse your self the more.
Remember is only constant thing in life is change, 80k salary is not forever.
Moreover, why not seek God in prayer & ask for His assistance, then also meet someone that is genuine of God to also assist you to pray over it.

Kandeed:
So 250k is what you term far richer You see why I keep saying 9ja girls are a bunch of subliterate entity

Amotolongbo:
The usual lie we see often on nairaland, this time about a supposed lady on a salary of 250 thousand Naira crushing on 80 thousand Naira guy who either deliberately hasn’t wooed the lady or shy to do so

chatinent:
(Forces cough)

The rat following the lizard to play in the rain will know whose body it will be to dry first.


Btw, God bless that your aunt for me.



Yawns.




Sb that can say innocent God told him sth can say any other thing. I am not surprised.



E fit dey see malaria.


In whatever you are doing in this life, never call demons your friends. Gbu fu asu!



Well, jokes apart, I will give you a real life experience in questions.

Who's gonna need marital happiness, you or your friends?

Are you ready to settle down or is it only sb who you love that's your concern?


Are you ready to be submissive? I don't think so.

Are you ready to mortgage your happiness ..well,..you know..using the caste system?



Tips: If you have found sb good, stop looking for sb better.


That was the reason nkịta hapụrụ ụlọ ya n'oké ọhịa ma soro ụmụ mmadụ. Don't be like the strong hunter who was given a razor to chop down the iroko tree.

Marriage is no trivia matter.

Choose wisely, honey.
Thank you very much, but he is not saying anything to about relationship. I want to get married soon. The last guy I voiced my feelings to took advantage of me and called me desperate. I am been careful here.

...that is if this story is true.