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Family / Re: Do I Still Take Her To D Altar Or Make A U-turn? by NashvilleTN: 6:16pm On Sep 24, 2015 |
You are the one going to marry her and not me. So when you guys are fighting, I will not know. Truth is that I think you both should not talk about marriage yet. Seems there are personality clashes and you both haven't figured out how to relate with each other yet. Your spouse shouldn't make you very angry all the time. But you didn't tell us what you love about her. We only read what you dislike. Your call though! 3 Likes |
Politics / Re: CBN Boss, Emefiele May Resign Over Buhari’s Order To Change Colour Of naira note by NashvilleTN: 10:52am On Sep 24, 2015 |
I thought the CBN was meant to formulate it's own policy based on it's assessment of the economy. Or does he think the chairman of the Fed takes directions from Obama? Silly excuse for incompetence, he should quickly resign! 7 Likes |
Family / Re: Her Boyfriends'mom Want To See Her unclothedness Privately Before Marriage Approval. by NashvilleTN: 6:40pm On Sep 23, 2015 |
From some of the stories I read on Nairaland, I can only conclude I lived a very sheltered life. Cos I have never heard anything close to this! Why on earth would she want to see her naked. My advice, her boyfriend's mum should explain! 5 Likes |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 2:28pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
edwife: Thanks ma'am 1 Like |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 11:21am On Sep 20, 2015 |
raumdeuter: It depends a lot on the person you married. I absolutely agree. My wife has her own job is not necessarily a spendthrift but then most women will want to show off. But it also depends on how you communicate and handle the issue. People always say communication is key - it's so cliche now, but how you communicate is even very key. You are the man of the house so you need to communicate clearly to her. If your get a 10 million naira salary increase, I think as a human you should build at least a 3 million increase in living standards. Now, if your wife is building a 10 million naira living adjustment, it is time you step in and explain to her. It is your responsibility to communicate to her why you must not spend all the money and how you need to save for the future - school fees, your own house, etc. But as I said earlier, you need to show her the projects at the end of the day. The salary increase is not for the guy to have more girlfriends or drink more Hennessey! (and this happens sometimes). If she disagrees with you and your logic, it is not the end of the world. There would always be disagreements in marriage, it's nothing new, how you handle the disagreement is what matters. The fact that you want to avoid disagreement does not mean you should do the wrong thing. A couple can always agree to disagree on an issue and still live happily ever after. She can't take the money outta your pocket. But what I feel is most important is trust. Love and trust go together. Once trust goes out of a marriage, then resentment begins to set it, because you stop believing the person. Besides, I think it is embarrasing to a couple for a husband to hear about his wife's promotion from outsiders and vice versa. I would rather tell my wife and even if we disagree on how the money should be spent, it's better than hiding the info. That trust must be upheld in my view. 5minsmadness: Almost ten years now! 6 Likes |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 9:27pm On Sep 18, 2015 |
ApexTitan: My honest view about ish like this is that life itself is a risk. Marriage is a risk like everything else. The fact that there's been a lot of bad stories does not mean one should not do the right thing. If I get a promotion, I will tell my wife; I have never had any reason to doubt her love for me, but if she uses it against me in future; really it's her loss. Cos I will move on with life. I had a similar discussion with some friends recently and we were talking about pre-nups. I said I don't see any reason for it and would never do it. If I cannot risk my money with a woman, why should I risk my life being married to her? This same woman is my next of kin even for insurance purposes so I don't think even a pre-nup is really worth it. |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 9:17pm On Sep 18, 2015 |
raumdeuter: Me, come up with the amount ke? I think these things have to be carefully managed. You do not necessarily have to tell your wife how much you earn but at least let her know your position or if you got a promotion. How can you be a general manager and your wife thinks you are just an assistant manager. You can argue that she can figure out your salary if she knows your position. But as the man you have to be strong. If you get a 100k salary increase, you should build in at least a 30k increase in living standards. At least that will keep the house happy and you can enjoy your new status too. And if your wife was already planning a life of luxury already, then you can come up with the projects story. But be such you have some project to show her at the end of the day. |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 6:24pm On Sep 18, 2015 |
RoyalRoy: Lol, That makes sense, cos I was genuinely surprised and even felt embarrased, that see wahala o. But he doesn't look like that kind of person. I just thought things like that should be shared freely between man and wife. But who knows what is really going on? thorpido: May be the next thing she'll ask for is vacation abroad. But for me, I will rather refuse my wife her demands than not tell her at all. She cannot remove the money from my pocket na. Worst case, I will just explain that there are several other projects I am working on that we need the money to complete. But I think things like this should be celebrated not hidden. |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 2:52pm On Sep 18, 2015 |
Okay guys, something happened recently. I guy got promoted in my office recently (about three weeks ago). So I bump into him and his wife last weekend; after exchanging pleasantries, I congratulated him and his wife on the big promotion. I was shocked to find out his wife did not know about it. He tried to get out of it by saying he wanted to surprise her etc, and they both tried to laugh over it, but I could see the look of anger and disgust on the wife's face as they were leaving. I felt bad cos it seems like I caused wahala between husband and wife; but really not my fault. I haven't seen the guy since then, but I am just wondering why a man wouldn't tell his wife about such a big promotion. Was a big deal promotion. |
Family / Re: HE Is Still Besties With His Ex Lover And She Dont Like It, Is She Overreacting? by NashvilleTN: 2:43pm On Sep 18, 2015 |
tearoses: I am sorry, but there are some things people shouldn't ask? Why would a wife allow her husband's ex to be that close. To start coming to their house and for them to be exchanging relationship texts. The woman surely doesn't know her rights. Her husband's behavior is so inappropriate in my view, she shouldn't need outsiders to tell her that her husband and his ex are getting too close for comfort. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: HE Is Still Besties With His Ex Lover And She Dont Like It, Is She Overreacting? by NashvilleTN: 10:40am On Sep 18, 2015 |
The person I blame here is your cousin. Seriously, I think she has low self esteem and she needs to work on herself. Don't get me wrong, the husband is clearly crossing the line here and for you cousin to even tolerate such and she is just becoming uncomfortable is quite surprising. And from what I can conclude, the ex is still single and your cousin's marriage seems to be a young marriage. Please tell your cousin to speak to her husband and make it clear to him she is uncomfortable with their closeness. She has other friends she can take her relationship problems to and it is not nice for her to visit you. Like seriously? If he tries to explain, ask her to tell him if the roles were reversed how will he feel? I am a married man myself and I cannot even imagine bring my ex to my house or my wife doing such. I am one of those that strongly feel that if you are married, you have no business being best friends with the opposite spouse - which kain bestie be that? 6 Likes |
Family / Re: 8 Things Men Will Always Find Attractive In Women (true Version) by NashvilleTN: 7:28pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
Absolute trash .... 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Wife Starves Me Of Sex by NashvilleTN: 12:54pm On Sep 15, 2015 |
Bros, everynight? Haba? You sef pity her na! I will advice you try every other night 16 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Are Women Being Conned Into Marriage Nowadays??? by NashvilleTN: 6:18am On Sep 15, 2015 |
bukatyne: Bukatyne, I do agree with you. Since the days of Adam, man has learned to blame everyone else but himself. The OP's message is counter-intuitive. Women are desperate to get married, yet they are conned into marriage. I would have thought the desperate person should be conning the less desperate. I have read all sorts of theories on this forum but it seems that people choose to argue whichever suits them at a point in time. Women generally marry older and richer guys; not 100% of the time but most times and I do not think that has changed. I am not sure who is conning who but men and women generally should not rush into marriage. OP presents the case as if it's only women that are unhappy in their marriages. There are lots of unhappy men in their marriages too. In fact if one partner is extremely unhappy, there is no way the other can be very happy unless they truly hate each other. And come to think of it, there is no marriage in this world where things were perfect from day 1 to year 60, go ask anyone. Life itself is full of challenges and how we react to them is what matters most. Settling and living with one person the rest of your life will always be challenging and there will always be some unhappy moments. The fact that a marriage is having problems today does not mean they were never happy or they would never be happy again. But marriage shouldn't be a nightmare though. 6 Likes |
Family / Re: Are Women Being Conned Into Marriage Nowadays??? by NashvilleTN: 5:58am On Sep 15, 2015 |
Onegai: Great write up! 4 Likes |
Family / Re: 1 Million Dollars ($1m ) To Sleep With Your Wife For Just One Night by NashvilleTN: 10:53am On Sep 14, 2015 |
The money is too small for me to consider. May be $1 billion..... But for most guys, that will be the end of the marriage. So the questions should be, can you end your marriage for $1 million or for any other amount? Once the guys collects the money, he will start hating his wife and definitely start philandering with other girls. So we all know the money will effectively end the marriage. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 5:33pm On Sep 11, 2015 |
bellong: Bro, that sounds like my maths teacher. Is her name Mrs Afam or was is Asam? |
Family / Re: Is This Guy Foolish Or Wise? by NashvilleTN: 5:30pm On Sep 11, 2015 |
He's a child. |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 7:37pm On Sep 08, 2015 |
edwife: Madam edwife, How are you. Happy to see all your good work here. I check from time to time and read from you. How family |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 6:45pm On Sep 08, 2015 |
tearoses: Madam CC, hope you are fine. Awon ara ile nko? I will try and get used to the new name. Gist plenty o! But work has been more .......... |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 4:57pm On Sep 08, 2015 |
netotse: Lol, how are you my man. Life is just too interesting I have to share sometimes. |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 4:57pm On Sep 08, 2015 |
RoyalRoy: The Royal Roy. How are you my broda. I still remain loyal to your government o. Good to see you guys still around |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 2:57pm On Sep 08, 2015 |
TV01: Thanks bro, nice to see you are still doing a great job on this thread. How family? |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 2:57pm On Sep 08, 2015 |
bellong: Thanks bro, I missed Bukatyne too, my true mate and sister. I wasnt part of the fraud sha Damiso, how are you my sister |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 1:19pm On Sep 08, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Family is doing great thank. How is yours? |
Celebrities / Re: I Don't Go To The Market, My Husband Does - Omotola Jalade Ekeinde by NashvilleTN: 1:18pm On Sep 08, 2015 |
bukatyne: Sorry I needed a break. Was changing jobs, so I didn not need any distraction. We are all good. Gos is faithful. My my oga? |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 1:17pm On Sep 08, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Pickabeau of life. My broda I am still loyal o! |
Celebrities / Re: I Don't Go To The Market, My Husband Does - Omotola Jalade Ekeinde by NashvilleTN: 1:07pm On Sep 08, 2015 |
bukatyne: Bukatyne, It is me. How have you been my darling. Missed you a whole lot. U still dey here? 1 Like |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 1:05pm On Sep 08, 2015 |
TV01: Thanks TV and bellong,its been a while I am joining very late. Anyways, to the topic, house work should not be exclusively for women only. House work should be outsourced in my view to helps and machines - vacuum cleaners, dish washers, washer & dryer etc. But where people cannot afford it, then it should be shared. I can't see my wife struggling with house work and I completely ignore her. I love her too much not to help her. But bometimes the issue is timing. She might want me to come help her now, and it might be during the Chelsea game; so I'll ask her to wait. But she'll go ahead and finish doing the work herself. That has happened a few times. In my view, she should leave the chores, join me in watching the game and we can do the chores together later. Life can be simple sometimes. Hey house, great to be back! 1 Like |
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