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I will like the ladies in the house to speak on this because, I am a man and cannot cheat and hide since I cannot love two people at the same time. I want to know whether this is common among girls. No offence please.

Tallesty1: You are right, have had the experience but I didn't accept her again when the guy dumped her. She did all she could but nothing worked so she got tired and stoped trying.

What is most shocking is that this guy is celebrating her 'new' character with thanksgiving. Certainly the girl does not love him and will likely leave him. With this experience, I am scared of girls.

Guys you need to ask yourself question when your gilfriend suddenly becomes extra- nice to you, especially when she was hitherto seeming unethusiastic. I am talking from first hand experience. A friend of mine in the University of Jos whose girlfriend was acting cold because she was cheating around with working class guys got the shock of his life when the girlfriend suddenly started acting good. My friend thought his prayers were answered when his girlfriend who was cold towards him suddenly became the 'best' lover flaunting the guy on facebook. Little did this guy know that the girl is a habitual cheat and she exhibits that character when a working class guy she has been cheating with dumps her after discovering she is not honest. As I'm typing now, the 'real' boyfriend is still bathing in the euphoria of his 'rejuvenated' love as this girl sleeps with him more often and show him off on facebook. I am afraid, I cannot disclose it to this friend as the girl and the guy are both from same state (Benue). But why are girls like this?

It seems to be a very common occurrence in Nigeria from presidency to state governors. You rarely hear the positive contributions of the governors/president until after they have vacated the position. That is why the predecessor often seem to be better than the successor. Why can't we praise them when they have done well? It may encourage them.

Evergreen123: @ Op, ppl like doctors.
Na johesu dey comment on these kind of threads to gain public sympathy.
Every sick person wanna see a doc

Well said bro. But I have heard people say doctors are heartless, insensitive, insane, pompous, not knowledgeable and I keep wondering whether these people have ever had encounter with police or politicians when they say doctors are heartless and insane.

rocgirl: Because their handwriting isn't legible!!

Just that?

femijck: @op .....i think we've gat the same idea...u won't appreciate white ladies until u find urself in love with one......i've dated the 2 races.....and i would rather die with my white lady ....i love her to the moon and back and of course she can as well die for me....but they can be so jealous sha o..

P.s; didn't say black gals are bad....remember there's beauty in Africa.....but i prefer her WHITE.

On point bro. White girls rarely love for materialism and they can be down to earth sincere/faithful. Talking from experience.

I have so many doctor friends and relatives. I feel for those guys at times but what surprises me most is that other professionals in health system never see eye to eye with doctors for anything and in any situation. A friend of mine, a medical lab scientist just posted on facebook how Nigerian doctors are anaemic in knowledge. Doctors are never supported when they make any demand and some people see it as an act of irresponsibility and insanity for doctors to go on strike as if they are not humans. Some say Nigerian doctors are not good at all but I can attest that they have treated a relative of some of the persons that lambast them. The ones I know who do their residency abroad often excel yet they are said to be bad at home. I think it all started in the university. Then anyone other than medical students believed that medical students were proud no matter how humble they appeared. Now the problem of headship of health institutions adds to the weight of the problem. No one can walk into a shop to pick a ware on credit but the same person will bring down heaven if he goes to a hospital and a doctor fails to attend to him without any deposit. I want to learn more reasons from the house why people really hate doctors in Nigeria.

Love is accepting another one wholly with all his/her weakness. This is practically very difficult.

myspnigeria: Using a picture isn't a sign of love tho but omo you might just be a side-boo

Very true bro. I know of a girl from one of the universities in North Central Nigeria who uses her guy's picture and call him inumerable romantic names on social media but this girl's cheating na die. She even seems more serious with the men she cheats with. It's never sign of love.

Agybabe: Believe me. I forgive more even before you offend moi.

Afterall Sweet Jesus says 70 x 7 times per day!

Wow! You sound pretty unique sister. I dream to marry your kind of person because forgiveness is key to a peaceful home

xynerise: Ehen na. Women forgive easily in Africa because they invested more in a relationship. Marriage is what majority of Nigerian girls see as the ultimate achievement in life. No wonder you see a woman being manipulated and abused by her husband and she still declares her love for him. What I am saying is, our girls of nowadays are so dependent on a man that even if they caught him with their sister on bed, they will still forgive him just to save their marriage . A man who has no job and depends on his wife's income must forgive her even if she cheats on him . Hope you understand where I am driving at?

Great contribution sir but I actually meant natural softhearted forgiver irrespective of wealth/income/background and the pride of either party.

Just being curuous, is it the girl or the guy? Wealth, background, beauty/handsomeness and the pride of either sex not withstanding. I mean natural softhearted forgiver in a case such as squabble that puts the relationship at a knife edge of falling apart. Experienced and mature contributions from this honourable house will be welcome.

A friend confided in me a few days ago of how he met a girl and asked for a date and she obliged. After starting on a 'bright note', the girl then said she has a boyfriend. This girl does everything for this guy such as cooking, cleaning, s*x, etc. My friend then stepped up to call it quit but the girl cried river and blood. She even said she would end the relationship with the boyfriend. I told my friend I am afraid because the girl is not loyal. I need mature and sincere contributions from the house to salvage the situation for my man.