@ifalways: nope, no lying on my part, we both exchanged pictures and not just head shoots....full length body shoots. He knew what I looked liked & I did too. I didn't know what it was, I kepy scratching my head trying to figure it out & I came to one conclusion...pure foolishness!! I don't/didn't have time for it, that's why I gave him his walking papers.

As a mature woman I KNOW I deserve better than that. I rather be alone and wait for the right MAN! to come alone than SETTLE. You feel me....?

PS. My hope was this relationship would be like PHAT GIRLS the movie....lol. African prince charming sweeps a girl off her feet and they live happy ever after. Wishful thinking.

cottoncand: It feels like we're dating the same guy....WOW!. The exact same thing happened to me. I met him on my birthday (July)and life was great. We talked ALL THE TIME, via phone/text, during lunch, during work; the whole nine yards. This went on until we met in August. (We met a mon. later because of my yearly summer vacation) ANYWHO!

When I tell you he did a total 180 degree turn, I mean just that. He no longer had time for me, he had to get his rest for work ALL THE TIME! Our conversations went from everyday all day to maybe 1 to 2 min. a day and I did all the talking, he seemed so uninterested, I felt like I was talking to a brick wall. At times I would try to see if I didn't call him would he call me. ANNNNNNNNNT WRONG!! It's almost like it didn't phase him that he hadn't spoken to his girlfriend all day, sometimes DAYS! <<IRRITATING>>

Going out HA! does the first date count..? We never did. It was always come spend a few min. at his home before going to work. One time I said, how about we go to the auto show. His response, I don't like being around that many people. Ok I said, how about you and I go to a play. His response, No! It's almost like everything I came up with was shot down. So I decided to flip the script, I asked him to come up with some ideas for us. DID HE....NO! This routine was getting old and I couldn't take it any longer.

A few months later he moved. It went from 5 min. distance between us to now 45 min. distance. This meant that this would require BOTH of us to make a sacrifice (driving) Well, you guessed it, that didn't work either. It actually made it worse. If I didn't drive to him WELL we just didn't see each other. It felt like I only had a boyfriend by name. A few months later went by and I told him I couldn't take this anymore. I told him it felt like I was giving 90% and he was giving a mere 10%. I told him, that we needed to seriously talk and figure this thing out. Well we talked. He changed back to his sweet, caring, affectionate self for a WEEK..! and reverted back. That was my sign to get out..! I dare not stay in a relationship where I have to do all the work, if that's the case heck I'll just date myself.

A few months went by and I got a call. I decided to give a try again. Thinking that maybe he had changed and also because he said he had. Well, you guessed it, a few days of Mr. Nicey Nice and right back to Mr. Do Nothing. I DARE NOT TAKE THIS FOOLISHNESS AGAIN.