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Avast:
So far, it's not that you don't appreciate her at all; that means you still have a iota of love for her.

If your wife has good behavior, I would encourage you to stay focused and be sincere with her. Let her feel that you love her more than she loves you, even if you have to pretend, and don't treat her like a piece of shit. You can build your future with her. What is outside is not guaranteed until that one enters, and that's when you'll realize that all women possess 80% of the same attitudes; the remaining 20% makes them differ, either for better or worse.

I never wanted to marry my wife because of our age difference, but you see, this babe can go to lengths for me. One day, I just said to myself, 'Why am I even bothering, chasing, and looking for someone to see reasons to love me, when there is one that really loves me for reasons I don't know?'

We give thanks to God; we have now been together for 5 years with a cute baby boy, and we're still going strong.

5 years in marriage? You try o. Kudos to you.
I said here that a marriage of 18 years went into thin air after the man established the woman. I've witnessed similar and worse.

Ask yourself, your so called wife, if she had financial independence, would she still remain with you?

shaybebaby:
Do me favour and see how many your folk hold ( on this platform at least) hold the same view.

If your view was the standard, then we wouldn't have the term " evening newspaper" being bandied around.

I do not hold the same view with majority of folks here.
The evening newspaper thingy is true tho, I'm not biased. Even if the woman is my relative. Fact remains fact.

At the same time, no pressures. Anyone can get married at any time. Just know what you want for yourself and don't get heartbroken or damaged because of societal pressure and desperation. Do you!

mercysamuelson:
Negroid001
Beans and spaghetti.
Beans and Eba.
Rice and Okra.
Bread and noodles.


I've eaten all these

You dey para o😂

Tocco:
Not opening today, too many ads jare

Is your internet stable?

Beans and spaghetti.
Beans and Eba.
Rice and Okra.
Bread and noodles.

Ibrahim79mantu:
Any link to watch the match?

Google score808.
You'll see the link.

NeoWanZaeed:
Seriously the squad is tired. If we're talking about playing well and losing.. we'll be talking about barca.

City should win easily. Not even dragging to extra time talkless of penalties.

He shouldn't have let go most players he did. Perhaps he's wanting to retire

I agree with you on the letting go thing.
Most especially gundogan, Mahrez and Jesus.

NeoWanZaeed:
Real city shou win Madrid with ease

They're getting tired

Not tired.
Penalty is a game of luck

NeoWanZaeed:
Chelsea might win.

Won last match with great margin
City lost last match.


Chelsea might win

Against Madrid with penalties.
City where the better side, just luck.

Chelsea stand no chance

nnenwa5:
Na me call your sister olosho?. You no attack the guy, na me wey point am out to you, you dey attack?
Na wa ooo

No vex my guy

folake4u:
What is this? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I agreed na. Including his mom and sister too.
No offense.

pocohantas:
Below is what you said for people close to you.

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nnenwa5:
I am happy as you agreed say your sister na olosho.

Yes they all are. Including your mom and sister too. No offense

Villa12:
i guess you don't mind late marriage also?

For a man or woman?

jojothaiv:
How many high valued woman are married? The answer to this question will make you have a rethink about your second line.

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A lot. Stop dwelling on the unmarried ones.
And when i say high valued woman. Doesn't necessarily mean she has to be stinking rich.

Any woman that has managerial skills, low body count and is good decision maker is high value to me.

Villa12:
baba lower your tone. No one is saying you should settle down with a jobless girl but the way i view this your post, it's sounds like you want a girl that you guys earn the same or if possible earn more than you, reason why i said you may likely remain single for long.

Even those rich people that gives out their children hand in marriage, the husband's family still take up more of the responsibility in the marriage and family. It is cultural.

I have gotten what I want. I always do.

Omalicious1:
I really wish all men could raise their standards very high.

That's why I'm working so hard sister.
I'm investing, I'm saving. There's a big workload ahead of me.

But note. I ain't partaking in all of this stress with a liability.

Villa12:
don't mind OP, he should let those small small boys on the platform to decieve him.

It is normal, girls will marry guys that are older and richer than them.

I've heard you.

pocohantas:
Okay. For your female friends, you deem it late.

But for the women in your family, marriage is not an achievement and they can marry whenever they are ready.

I got you the first time, Sir.✌️

Getting married after 30 is late for any woman.
I even used people close to me as examples so not to seem biased.

Don't get what this is all about again.

Villa12:
you may likely remain single for life. Your sister was right. As a man, you will be the provider even if you're furtunate enough to get someone within your class. It is the norms in our clines.

Reason why i said you may likely remain single for life is because it is much easier for women to get men within or above their class but not that easy for men.

I will keep repeating it.
There are levels to it.

I don't date below.

Kingrshd3:
Similarly to age bracket too your school female can't marry u instead they will marry a man older and greater than you 😆

The Op never grow up like can I say is maturity is not standard yet

It's the standard you set for yourself that determines how folks operate with you.

pocohantas:
Why does it matter?



Didn't you just type this?

Want to know the reason you're tackling me. Maybe it's because you're way older than that and still single.

I have female colleagues, friends and family who got married after 30. Tho i deem it quite late. They were able to find a partner because they brought something to the table.

Not referring to the wasted ones who are still feeling entitled.

pocohantas:
Na their way na. I have always wondered if all their sisters are even married. Yet they come online to curse single women.

Eeyah.
How old are you?

spiceadole:
24years is now a girl because she is your sister.
Lol

She's still young. Don't destroy her life. She's not hungry like the hoes you're used to.
Abeg! Goan focus on your own sisters too.

Any high value woman will get married when she's ready.

Maysdevices:
Thats what you will say now but look at the comments of your fellow men above who are looking for a ‘slave’

Well, congratulations, you have chosen the best path

They can’t even take my assertions without getting in their feelings simply because my moniker shows (f)

Ahn ahn. I'm not like that.
I respect women that deserve to be respected.
I'll provide for a woman that deserves to be provided for

Who is this?
I don't know her

spiceadole:
Your fellow man don insult your sister with the 30+ single scare...you are now quoting "marriage no be achievement for my family"..
Na for your sister turn,abi but for other ladies,you would troll them.
Continue to play

For a 24 year old girl?
Some of my mates are married.
Why not troll me?

Aplaudez:
This girl legitly told me to give her 30k to work her relocation for her nysc

I've being laughing since morning

Like what audacity 😒, am I her father

Please laugh with me guys

There's a thread i created, because of something similar to this.

UjuJoan2:
You can raise your standards all you want, marry a billionaire if you like. You will still be a provider, that is your role as a man!!!

No woman wants to suffer through childbirth years, thinking of how to cater for the family financially too.

Gender roles are clearly defined and nothing you men do can change that. Except you want to start growing human beings too for nine months, 2 years of your life spent on pregnancy and nursing a child. That’s 6-10 years of a woman’s life based on average household size in Nigeria.

Oga, if you are not financially capable, who will cater for the home if your wife has to quit working because of health challenges associated with childbirth?

I like your sister abeg. If she stays with the broke guy out of love, what’s to say he’s not going to turn on her tomorrow when he becomes rich.

If you don’t want to provide for a woman, then don’t get married. Don’t even date. Become celibate and adopt kids. Nobody is forcing you to get married!

Because trust me, any man who is not a provider can NEVER have respect in that marriage. Go and ask poor married men. The woman might provide but your role as a man will be diminished. Women can only support broke me up to a certain point. If a man takes advantage of the woman’s understanding and becomes lazy and dependent, my dear it will not end well for the man.

As a matter of fact, that’s why some rich ladies never settle for broke guys. Because it’s easy for a man to get too comfortable and forget his role as a man.

Even the Bible says that any man who does not provide for his family is worse than an infidel.

I'm not running away from responsibilities sir.
I'm the provider definitely.
I'm not just getting married to a liability with no connections or life changing skills.

Angelfrost:
Op is asking Nigerian men to raise their standards... Lol!

Even the ones forming Alpha males online still go offline to lay their life savings on the altar of fornication.

Sadly this is true😂

Mccollins042:
I agree with you on this 100%. Please sir, I'm a good self-taught data analyst who studied Electrical Engineering in school, please can you use any of those connection of yours and help me get a job in this Lagos or anywhere here is my number 08164000930

What can you do?

cococandy:
Problem is that the woman who’s earning the same as you would probably be the same age as you. But yall don’t want that. You want a woman 10 years younger than you but who has magically caught up with you financially while doing everything else you consider too feminine for a masculine man like you.

Tell me I’m wrong. I’m waiting

Age is a number to me.
I can marry anyone of any age. So long she's not too older than me.
Fyi. I don't do juveniles. Our energy never matches.