₦airaland Forum

Tozic:
What's the vaccine?

First ask yourself what's vaccine.

No vaccine for malaria, yet you've recovered from malaria before. What vaccine was used?

Google it, till today there's no vaccine for malaria

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Once you cross the bridge to onitsha, you'll be greeted with a sight of thugs numbering more than 20 carrying sticks, then you see trucks packed by the roadside causing a lot of traffic and sometimes mishaps. They are Obiano men collecting money from truck drivers in the name of produce.

It doesn't end there, if you go to upper iweka, you dare not carry bag or carton and drop it on the ground to wait for bus, you'll pay for it or you carry it on your head. The other day an old woman was forced to carry her load on her head and wait for bus because she must pay to keep it on the ground for that short period of less than 10mins.

It doesn't end there, if you put any kind of load at the back of keke, you must settle them. No matter how small this load is, you must pay Obiano men. This has resulted in many deaths that Nigeria media houses has failed to write about.

It doesn't end there, a lot of news are out there on social medias on how people are robbed in broad daylight at upper iweka.

I'm voicing this out because I see it as a deliberate act. These things were not there during his first tenure, all of a sudden it all started happening. If people are wise, no politician should stay more than one tenure in office

teresafaith:
Op has already made a decision and he is looking for who will pat him on the back and encourage him to dump her, but lemme tell you the bitter truth "YOU AN HYPOCRITE"

Well your fellow morons are cheering you on, but know that what we sow is what we will reap

You're capturing the part you like. However, I wish you can understand the theme rather than a paragraph. Let me help, we had many break-ups only because I tried to have sex with her. Meanwhile she's already sexually active. That's the problem not the stillbirth

Sterope:
Hypocrite

Thanks

Sterope:
True, he is not really interested in her. His issue is with her refusal to have sex with him. She has definitely made a good decision.

Don't say what you don't know, I asked for advice and not your Masturbation on the thread

cococandy:
How exactly do you imagine yourself better than her or in a position to judge her?
Please explain your thought process to me.

She didn't even have an abortion. She had a still birth. so you're judging her for having had sex before she met you meanwhile you've been a hoe about town? Explain yourself sir.

Did you read the part I said all our break-ups were because she refused sex with me. Why do she do this? My problem is why we had issues because of sex and she's getting it somewhere else?

obyrich:
Don't mind the OP. The babe is a manipulator and he can't see it because of love. Once he pricks her now reality will dawn on him.

Why did she voice it out?

infogenius:
It's so good u have a lady that holds nothing back and tells u about her past.
I like such persons.

Everyone have regretful pasts which includes u and I. But learning and improving on such events in our pasts is the most important of all because it makes us better individuals.

If you still love her and u're led to marry her, please go ahead and do marry her,without asking questions.

After all she didn't walk out on u when you told her u put another lady in the family way and still went on to abort it just 2 weeks ago. Rather She showed remorse despite cheating on her big time.

In this case, u are the concern and not her based on ur sex escapades and history.

Not 2 weeks ago. I told the story two weeks ago. Thanks anyway

sarrki:
If you can also tell us the financial gain you have incurred

Then we will be able to help

Money shouldn't be part of this, I think? However, I foot her bills and she's very comfortable with it

zed7:
You don't love her. You are just longing for what you are yet to taste. Marriage is not a game. If you can have a sexual relationship with her before marriage and you still feel like marrying her, then go for it!

I truly love her and had stopped talking about sex long before this time

madridguy:
From your write up I think she's trying to test you and see how you will react to her dark side too. She might as well be hurt to hear the dark side of you and maybe she cooked something up to see your reaction too.

My observation though.

I don't think she's trying to test me

whitebeard:
Op u also aborted a pregnancy, abeg both of u are the same, I don't know if u should marry but the way u guys are revealing secrets to yourselves is also a good sign.

My worry is why she had always refused me sex whereas she's this exposed. Could it be because of this she accepted my proposal?

She told me of being pregnant and later had a stillbirth at the 7months.

The background.
I met her when we were teens and have always loved her. She refused me sex and along the line, her neighbor gave me (who is her relation). She learnt about this and we had our first break up.
We both got admission into different universities and couldn't see again.
We later met again and settled with a condition that there would be no sex. This didn't go down well with me and I called it off. This repeated and there was even a time I walked her out of my house because of this issue and didn't give her tfare. My house is like 1hr drive from where she lives.
The issue:
I love this girl to the extent that anytime I thought of getting married, she will come to mind.
Now I have a good job and she's done with school. I proposed to her and she accepted it.
Is about 3 months now, she came on my birthday 3 months ago. That was all. She doesn't come always because she stays with her elder brother and can't leave house just like that.

Note, we haven't had sex till now.

About 2 weeks ago, I told her about how I got a girl pregnant and we had to abort it and that since then I haven't been myself. That it pains me to this day. We talked about it and she was sorry over it.

Yesterday, we had a very deep discussion and she revealed to me that she had a relationship at school. They were together for 4yrs. I then asked her if she had ever missed her period. She said yes. But not to this school boyfriend but another man. She wanted to keep the pregnancy but her parents refused because the guy is not a good person. The guy wanted the pregnancy but her family didn't want the guy to marry her. She finally had a stillbirth at the 7th month.

I was stunned. I know she's not a virgin, she told me but I was confused. Sex had always been our problem and I never expected that she had experienced something like this. Now she asked me that she hope she won't regret telling me this. I told her no that she won't regret but I'm stunned.

Please should I still go on with this marriage?