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This is really going to be a problem for Importers... I imagine what they would be going through now...

Rip..

She looked very gorgeous last night. However, in terms of assessing her performance, Some Nigerian people sha# Why will they not say she did well Many did not understand what she was saying... she was speaking the French... So she did well? lol. What and what did she do? She kept concurring with her co-MC over everything so no real comic or MCs interlude typical of MCs.

BTW, did one notice they did not allow the awardees to talk? Like appreciate Glo for the award...they held their mics to themselves. Were they avoiding "...leave trash for lawma kind of scenario no

Me did not see any extraordinary performance for naira land recognition. I can bet that the OP would be a Man. Men with Beautiful Women sha? God help you All.

Ask Google my dear.

tpiah2:
Where are you referring to?

No, It is not something you know. In this part of the world there are more widows than widowers. Give me your source of information and I would share mine. You know what, just take a chill pill if you ain't got convincing points to contribute. Cheers

tpiah2:
Yes,the statistics are: widowers outnumber widows, perhaps this is not something you know.

More widowers? Where did you get your statistics from? I got mine from a research work. Guilty Conscience That's a low IQ question btw.

tpiar:
There are more widowers than widows, what is the point of your misinformation?

Guilty conscience?

Gaborone:
It's not really an African thing; its basically about the genetical make-up of the male sex. That's why even at birth, the rate of survival of female babies dwarfs that of their male counterparts.

And to expatiate on why I also said it's not an African thing...I've come across a number of country profiles where the life expectancy of citizens were stated. In every single one I've seen, both African and otherwise,the life expectancy of the females was higher than that of the males.

Let me say though, that the bad habits some men engage in -drinking, smoking, etc - , as well as the habit of keeping too much emotion in, may not be helping them at all. With the short end of the stick already handed over to them, one would advise them to imbibe more helpful habits, if not for anything, to give them a better chance.

As a Christian though, I'ld say that any man who believes in Jesus Christ, and accepts Him as Lord and personal saviour is above such a disadvantageous law of nature (shorter life span for men). The portion of such a man is that of exemption. I also believe and hold on to this, on behalf of all my male loved ones.

Wow!!! Quite Informative. Thanks for sharing.

Cutehector:
Because God cursed Adam dah he will toil and toil and toil till ike gwuru

Ewoo!! Lol

Akkord4gov:
Hmmmm You have said some paramount reasons,another is the hunger for toto

OK.

People, I have been wondering why men die young. If you put 100 men and women in a place and ask them how many of them have lost their fathers juxtaposed the number of those who have lost their mothers, you are likely to get 70:30.

So help me out, aside natural trasition to glory or accidental deaths, What is killing the African or should I say Nigerian daddies of many people before age 70 I think Stress, Poor Lifestyle and eating habit, Smoking and deep alcoholism are the Major Causes.

Please add your views people, let's increase the lifespan of our daddies and hubbies and brothers. Thanks.

Soloblincus:
The list from d maternal people was for their private consumption. Its different from what we used to entertain other visitors. They call it their 'right'. But we killed a cow and my inlaw also gave us an extra one making two. D 600k was just a guess, we spent way more than dat

Oh, I get it now...they are called the ''Umu-Ada''. lol. That was their major and perhaps last chance to obtain from you guys as their son is no more. I think burial is more expensive than marriage? lol

Nne, It could even cost more. Those villagers don't send you. The one I attended cost more because they had to bury the great grandmother first; otherwise, it is believed all those involved at the burial would die. It's tradition. lol

Suigeneris93:
Wow! This is smth, these men should have the fear of God na

WOW!! Thanks for sharing your experience. Thank God you did not laugh at the drama. It is a very funny one that you are not permitted to let the cat out of the bag as it is. I think it is possible they have gone to visit and disclosed the true picture to each of these persons individually before that collective meeting you attended? I think so. Meanwhile, you did not buy cow Are you sure? Killing of COW I think is usually a MUST. 600K is okay, it could be higher. Ok.

Soloblincus:
I can relate with some of this. When my father died, we went to his maternal home to 'reveal' d news officially alongside my uncles and some elders. Though they were already aware bt had to pretend as tradition demands.On getting there, d spokesman said dat he (my fada) was very ill and hospitalized and dat we dont know wat to do. Then d head of d family (maternal) asked 4 d name of d hospital and location. He was told it was close by. So he said we shuld bring 5k for flight(plane) so they can send someone 2 go c him immediately. My uncle told me d moni culd hav been more had d distance been farther. We gave d moni and someone took it, went outside and came back 2mins lata, then shaked his head and said he met my fada very sick in d hospital but b4 he could say a word, he gave up the ghost. Immediately everyone started lamenting. I almost laughed at d whole drama. After that, the maternal people then drafted a list of things to provide for them for d burial. One cow, 2 goats, kolanuts, crates of beer etc. It was like a marriage, even more than. They said d list was drafted according to d dead persons level in d society, dat my fada wus nt a poor man.But we negiotiated till d cow was removed and some others reduced. Aside this list, my kingdred also brought their list. We spent well over 600k for that burial. It was something else. Btw, i am 4rm imo state.

Beautiful woman..

Phut:
Oge ozo, che uche tupu imepe tred. Ife nu idere bu ife na nye ndi di ka Kestolove, ohere ikpari anyi

Okay.

Suigeneris93:
Alright...you're welcome

Yeah..thanks.

Suigeneris93:
Alright...you're welcome

Yeah..thanks.

Sammiel:
This thread is an eye-opener. Mods could you help push this to the front page for opinions of other nairalander?
odumchi, bigfrancis21, Fulaman198 and lalasticlala please help take this thread to the front page.

Thanks Sammiel. I really would like to hear the opinion of other Igbo men and women on nairaland as well as of other cultures. I know culture session may not be a very visited session by many people on nairaland including me until I had to post this thread...So thanks man.

agadez007:
if you impregnant an igbo girl without doing all the things you are supposed to do,na market u buy,,the children belongs to the father of the girl until ''ime ego n'isi'' the girlie o

So I heard Nwanne. It is actually a very serious matter. I wonder why some men think it is awoof?? They probably are not this informed perhaps...

GlassDoc:
hmmm... interesting

Yes, Quite Interesting Glassdoc.

Suigeneris93:
First off, you quoted the wrong person, I wasn't the person that said Igboland is synonymous with backwardness and that should qualify as an insult.

Yeah...you are right. Sorry about that Nne.

Suigeneris93:
Great, I know my roots but I'd rather save my family the stress of taking my body home for burial when there are cemeteries around. Truth is, my dead body won't hv a say in where its buried.

Exactly, your corpse will not have a choice then but so long you are not a child, you are an adult or even married? They cannot bury you outside. Except, everyone around you is lost too.

Suigeneris93:
Cut d long story short, I'm Igbo and I don't like the negative review u gave of the rites and traditions your people hold dear. The way you put it was derogatory. I don't want the I too know nairalanders to put me on track, don't nid their lecturing or yours too. Just saying u shud rep igboland better

Okay. I get your point now. It was just how I felt about my own experience. I did not mean any negative impression creation. Thanks though.

Like Seriously ARE YOU FOR REAL? LOL. That is serious Sarcasm because the fact that everything that has to do with Igbos get progressive is too too glaring in every country of the world dear. Igbos see to the end of Everything they do. And of course, just as it is with life, it has its own limitation too..

kestolove95:
Anything that has to do with backwardness are related to d ibos.

Thanks Dear. Leave that guy alone. I am not sure he understands the point being made. It is good for one to know about the traditions and culture of their people inside-out.

kestolove95:
but all wat he say ar truth na dearie

So where are you from? Because I also know that in Imo State you do not announce to a family that their daughter you married is dead, you have to also beat around the bush. If you are proud of your state, say it and see if people from your state on nairaland who are more updated than you would not put you better on track. Even though I am aware there certainly would be slight variations from state to state.

Suigeneris93:
Gud for u,I'm not from Enugu state

Is that your understaning of this thread Well, I do not think there is any need to insult anyone. I only shared an experience I witnesses in Dec.
Marrying an Igbo person is the BEST thing that can happen to any Nigerian by the way. I am proudly Igbo. Nonetheless, you need to be in touch with what you are getting into and the need to really absorb a whole lot about Igbos and of course bearing in mind that there are slight differences depending on the State of origin or as the case may be. So for those who think it is awoof to carry somebody's daughter because they got her pregnant or co-habited and delay marrying her properly, days are reckoning are ahead.

kestolove95:
but all wat he say ar truth na dearie

WHERE ARE YOU FROM NWANNE?? What I shared happened in an eastern State.

Suigeneris93:
For where she comes from, yes. Such doesn't happen in my place to the best of my knowledge. But your statement was wrong, whatever part of Nigeria or even Africa you come from has its custom and traditions that may be strange to non-indigenes. Learning to be tolerant of other people's belief will bring about the much needed peace and unity in Africa/Nigeria. Daalu!

If you are from the east, yes. Except such family has totally lost its origin. Even a husband and wife who never go home for christmas or anything, once either of them dies, they are scarcely buried outside. Any Ibgo man/woman buried in yoruba land for instance, MUST HAVE BEEN LOST.

Suigeneris93:
Must one be buried in the East?

Little did I know until I went for a burial this past Christmas Holiday in Igboland. I thought having money was enough to make burial happen as people come to eat and drink basically in this part of the world during burials. The ‘’Umu-Ada’’ and Co. were so problematic and difficult that I was very angry to comprehend their issues. They fine you for anyone passing by without greeting those dug the grave ‘’Daalu Oru’’ meaning- ‘’well done’’. They fine the children for building beautiful houses in thier father’s compound/land (where the mother lived and took care of obviously); this fine is because you did not build any special house for your mother with a modern kitchen too....and they ask you to build it before she is buried oo on the day of the burial!? Like seriously? Thank God everything went well eventually; they had everything provided for them but were unsatisfied. They claimed it was their last opportunity to be appreciated since their sister, daughter, niece/nephew had embarked on a journey of no return.
This nasty experience led me to asking more questions from those who live in the village and I discovered it is same in all Igbo culture. In fact, I thought it was only marrying in Igbo land that was hectic, burial is twice hectic and may be more difficult especially when you are based outside of the eastern territories- ‘’Abroad People’’ as they refer to those not living in the eastern Nigeria.
I heard a shocking story of how a woman whom I knew as a growing child those days in the village died sometime in 2015 and how the casket had to be changed as the burial did not hold on the date scheduled, neither did it hold the day after. Hence, Caskets had to be changed because they could not drive the long distance to return her to the mortuary or were thinking the issues would be resolved sooner than it had taken. WhAT A STRESS THE CHILDREN MUST HAVE SUFFERED!!
WHAT HAPPENED? Their mother was not properly married according to tradition. He found her somewhere and they began living together and they began bearing children. She gave the man 7 BOYS, ONE GIRL! It was all good, the children were grown and living well, until the woman died. Obviously, in Igboland you CANNOT bury a woman’s corpse without the knowledge of the family, IF YOU LOVE YOURSELF. That was the genesis of the revelation. The woman’s family (immediate and extended) said they were not aware their daughter was even married, let alone having children. How can their daughter be down with sickness or even that she went somewhere and has refused to return. The Man had to marry her in the FULL traditional way IN DEATH and of course was made to Kiss her Corpse as a newly married in death!! Then they went on to burying the deceased grandmother, mother and father who died donkey years ago before they could bury their mother . I was also told that if a man/woman dies, you dare not inform the family directly of the news, you keep beating about the bush until the message is received. If you break it directly, you would explain what killed the son/daughter to them and this is a VERY SERIOUS MATTER!!
This is a First hand information of what happened in my State in the Eastern Coast of Nigeria..
If you are living with an Igbo lady/woman and she is bearing you children, you have not married her properly just co-habitation, please; it is not just God you are sinning against, YOU MIGHT JUST BE in for something that would become complicated in future! IF THAT LADY/WOMAN dies living with you, you are in a VERY BIG TROUBLE.
Thought I should update those who might be less updated like me until I experienced it as a grown up now. Feel free to counter whatever was said if your own culture is different and you are Igbo or better still, share your knowledge about burials in Igbo Land. IGBO KWENU!! NIGERIA KWE ZU O NU!!!HIAAA!!!



CC: Nairaland

Hello Family,
Merry Christmas to you All....

Is the picture a selfie??

As they say ‘’Health is Wealth’’, you may not understand this until you are forced to spend nearly all you earn to stay alive due to ill health.
The unfortunate aspect is that most times, environment contributes to whether you would live longer or whether you would have your lifespan shortened. If you were meant to live in this world for 70 years but you live in a place like Lagos, your lifespan could be reduced to 50 years due to Stress. #Eko o niba je oo... BUT STRESS AFFECTS EVERY AREA OF YOUR LIFE.

Some common ways Lives are shortened include:
1. WHEN YOU WORK IN LEKKI/AJAH/VI BUT LIVE IN IKORODU OR EGBEDA OR BARIGA
The worst aspect is that someone tells you he comes to work every day from Ikorodu to V.I because he lives in a three-bedroom flat at Ikorodu where he pays 150k per annum as against 450k he would pay in say Oworoshoki. He works Monday - Saturday; leaves his house at 4:30am and returns 11:30 pm daily. He is not fully aware he is cutting his lifespan gradually until he has health problems. Lagos traffic is STRESS dignified and where you live and work could contribute to how much alive you would be after 10 years of active ‘’service’’. Even if the effect is not immediate, you pay for it in the long run.
2.WHEN YOUR WORK LIFE IS NOT BALANCED
You must consciously or deliberately allow your work life be balanced so that you do not go to an early grave. The topic Work-life balance is quite massive and important to even employers as it help workers become better productive. Let’s just highlight a few here. To balance your work life,
1. Consciously take time to rest and unwind: whatever thing you do as leisure that gives you pleasure or makes you happy and is not a sin, please do it moderately. Some people like to read; some to sleep; some to dance; some to write; some to hang out with friends; some to go to the cinema... Spending quality time with family may also be a way to unwind and rest. Manage your time well by giving to Caesar what belongs to Caesar and family/yourself, what belongs to family/you.
2. Eat Right: I am not a dietitian but from plenty readings, eating more of fibre, more of fruits and vegetables, moderate protein in-take, drinking plenty of water and avoiding eating pounded yam and ‘’efo riro’’ or ‘’ogbona’’ soup by 10 pm to go to bed by 11 pm (so as to wake up early to go to work the next day) would add value to your health
3. Exercise: Many people are not able to exercise themselves daily because they need to beat traffic to be at the office before 7:30 am every day, going to the Gym or working out on Saturday morning would add a lot of value to you if you are one of those, especially if you do a sedentary job
4. Be a Spiritual Being: I do not mean that you should become a spirit, rather learn to give God his place. Go to Church on Sundays or Mosque on Fridays. With joyful hearts, pertake in the praise and worship in Church and BE HAPPY to be in God’s presence. It is simply honourable to do any other thing you wish to do on Sunday after church(for those who are Christians), but keep the day holy. If you do not go to Mosque nor church, you may be on the wrong road, retrace your steps.

For those who live in Lagos, as much as you could, smartly live and work against traffic. E.g.
Live on the Island and work on the Island or Ikeja. Either way, your live would may be shortened by excess traffic stress. Live at Ikorodu, work in Ajah, earn 400k monthly and die after 10 years or struggle with health issues forever, spend all you make to stay alive, it is your choice really.
Pending when the Minister of Transportation and the State government in whatever state you live in decide to take grace from the advanced nations and be interested in solving the problems with traffic and transportation generally, love your life as much as you love your work...ask for help when you need one...and please help yourself and stay alive.
Feel free to contribute please...