₦airaland Forum

IyaTola:
I truly respect your perspective and the strategy you’ve followed—it's clear you’ve built a system that works for your family, and that takes both wisdom and foresight.

However, I think it's important to note that while using acquired assets and streams of income outside of salary is smart (and in fact, essential in today's economy), strategy is not just about financial leverage. True strategy also involves managing your energy, time, relationships, and emotional bandwidth—especially in parenting.

You’ve done well not relying on your salary, and that’s commendable. But let’s not overlook that even with money handled, many parents—especially those with multiple children—still find themselves overwhelmed, not because of finances, but because of emotional, physical, and mental demands.

That’s where some people choose a different kind of strategy: limiting the number of children or obligations, not from a place of lack, but as a conscious choice to maximize peace, presence, and personal fulfillment.

So yes, financial strategy is powerful—but it’s just one piece of the bigger puzzle. And for some, the most strategic move isn't just how to make more money, but how to design a life they don’t need to constantly escape or recover from.Just curious, what did you use to pay the bolded in 10yrs?

I no longer talk about my solutions online...they are my personal property.

Some poor souls here,can never sleep well when u discuss things like this openly.

Puss360:
Lols.... It takes a very strong couple to be determined to have just 2 kids o...
They need to look and focus on the future of the unborn child o...
Government isn't helping matters...
Everybody just dey advise everybody to keep borning(😂 pardon my grammar)..
Born two, dem go say e too small..
Born two boys, society will taunt the wife "boy na the papa get am ooo, try born girl for urself...."
Born two girls, society will taunt the man " as U dey so, you Neva born pikin o, na woman gets girl pikin o"..

All these leads to excessive offsprings...
Then we all gather and complain about the government of neglecting to Provide a better life...
It is well o

Me I get four children,and I am done for now. My mum gave birth to five children and I chose four children.

Personally three or four isn't too much.

Puss360:
Lols.... It takes a very strong couple to be determined to have just 2 kids o...
They need to look and focus on the future of the unborn child o...
Government isn't helping matters...
Everybody just dey advise everybody to keep borning(😂 pardon my grammar)..
Born two, dem go say e too small..
Born two boys, society will taunt the wife "boy na the papa get am ooo, try born girl for urself...."
Born two girls, society will taunt the man " as U dey so, you Neva born pikin o, na woman gets girl pikin o"..

All these leads to excessive offsprings...
Then we all gather and complain about the government of neglecting to Provide a better life...
It is well o

Me I get four children,and I am done for now.

IyaTola:
Strategy helps — no doubt. But in Nigeria today, even the strategic face serious roadblocks. Many are grinding in silence, and massive wins are rare and often exaggerated. So while being smart is key, let’s not ignore the power of grace, opportunity, and resilience too.

I disagree with u.

When I say strategy,I meant using what u have acquired to make more wealth.

Like in my own case. I have never used my salary to pay for my children fees,feeding,clothings,medicals,travelling and renting for ten year of my marital life.

Especially now,that the economy has gone terribly bad.

One has to choose his leverage carefully and thoughtfully.

Thank u for being a parent...it is never easy as above has always been my strategy.

Kachukwu was expelled from the same party and no one expects him to police the party.

However,he knows he can't succeed by going to the court. U can only be a member of a party before u can take any court decision bothering on party activities,otherwise your case can't hold any ground.

No one takes him serious...he was expelled from ADC as a result of anti party activities which he is still doing till date.

Nonsense.

As far as Nigeria is concerned now,it's not even easy for anyone whether married or single.

Only those who are strategic are the ones winning massively.

One thing about the ADC is that,even APC does not know their plans.

That what is paining Wike most. Even Peter Obi has demonstrated it and as it is,they don't know what the man and Atiku are up to.

Tinubu will know that he is a regional politician without the north.

Ofunaofu:
The earlier you begin to realize that the South-South is not one homogeneous group, the better for you. They are incredibly diverse.

They don’t speak one language.

In fact, the majority of the entire south south region not all, as you're implying have often aligned with the South-East in their voting patterns. That’s not going to suddenly change in 2027 just because Tinubu is president and Akpabio is senate president or because Wike is minister of FCT

This is the same Tinubu who led the gang-up against Goodluck Jonathan, an Ijaw man from the South-South, to truncate the South’s opportunity to complete an unbroken eight-year tenure.

You’re in for a serious disappointment, big time

Akpabio is even from a minority group of tribe in ,Akwaibom state. That was why his influence on his successor then was absolutely inconsequential.

Sannisege:
See the grey hair on Peter Obi’s head. The candidate of the youths.

My younger brother is 40yr old and has more of grey hair on him...but I don't.

God and natured can't be questioned.

If not side income,eeh this wicked govt would have succeeded in wounding me.

richmond500:
I watched videos of Pele, Pele was great but I'll still choose Messi and ronaldo.
Pele didn't have many strong rival like M10 or Cr7 in his days, also football rules weren't this hard and skills weren't this refined during Pele time.

The duo dominated when Benzema, scholes, De bryne, Xavi, Pique, Ramos etc were on the pitch with crazy passes and crazy tackles.
When it comes to dribble, there is no one that existed on this planet that does it better than Ankara messi

Pele played when money wasn't the real motivation but love for people and nation.

So,judge it from this angle.

This was how he governed Lagos...instilling fear among civil servant so that no one could speak.

Now,I don't even pity the poor.

U will see them here calling the TUC chairman as "omo Igbo"

I used to pity them but now,I have develop a thick skin I can no longer speak for the poor.

Every man on his own.

I owe my parents a lot.

I don't need to explain more than what I have said.

Satellite town,na there APC failure go start from.

Wike does not understand Abuja.

Let him wait and see Ireti returns to power.

The woman is smart...and he should wait and see.

Softmirror:
Dead on arrival!

Would u be in ur brown roof house to stop them?

Keep consoling yourself.

Racheal45:
Bro keep your head up
I lost everything Down to zero
Brought car in 2019 and a land at an Estate
Now am gradually trying to get up looking for who to loan me $150
U see life take and life gives
Give up no join

Hope u haven't sold the house ?

Penguin2:
Lol!

Nothing concern baba say dem dey mourn Buhari.

APC is officially a Yoruba party.

All the people who made it what it was are gone.

With baba Odigie-Oyegun in ADC with his men, lemme see how Friday Okpebholo will rig for Tinubu in 2027.

I’ve told you guys several times here that Tinubu will be smoked out of Aso Rock in 2027.

Tinubu can't win the next election.

Forget all the gragra from his fellow urchins.

SimpleGuy001:
I really want to deal with this man, I think I have had enough. He isn’t gonna change, I didn’t want to take this route but it is a a must at this point.

Have u ever spoken with ur father...call ur father and talk to him man to man.

This guy should go and marry and see whether his marriage would last one month.

How can u go into marriage with only one mission "to control a woman".

U guys think marriage is a place u go to rest or what?

Is it that u have no mission in life other than controlling a woman?

The man is the Head of the family and every woman knows this,so why creating a topic when it is obvious u don't know what marriage is.

I swear,if u try go into marriage with this wack mentality,u will run for ur life. If u want a slave look for one but if want a wife then forget this controlling spirit,as it will send u to damnation.

Needed for what again?

I am not aware.

Update pls...because I just read something tragic about him on Garba Shehu's Facebook page just now.

Acesexcell:
wollahi!
It's not a good time to be a federal workers.
Even some states worker are better than some of the so called federal employees.
No minimum wage implementation
No wage award.
It's terrible

Some people say his reforms are working while the people wallow in poverty and frustration.

This is not the best time to be a Nigerian.

Person wey no fit pay wage award can't be a good president...

The worst president.

Contractors are cherry pick to be paid.

Workers are owed all over Nigeria especially their wage award and welfare.

Civil servant can not even go to the office with their meagre pay. Very shameful. Big titles or name,small.
salary.

Most civil servants can no longer pay their landlords because of one evil man.

Finally,most Nigerians are very poor now than ever in our history.

E go choke u if u don't understand the reason for this coalition.

This is effect of the coalition in the core North.

It is simply not a joke.