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shadowgwalker:
my own opinion;

you are a real MAN, you are not an ordinary MALE cos you have control over something this difficult.

who knows what would have become of you if you befell that ... your respect would have reduced.

I'm just impressed by this bro. I'm seriously laughing at the statements of the kids above, who think about sex and nothing else. Non control for sex is the beginning of lack of success, respect and everything. Life is more than sex, I don't joke with my personality. If I want sex, I get it the right way. I never regretted anything with her, I'm proud of my stand, I know that one day, she'll still come to beg me, and when she comes, I won't accept her because I now want the sex, but to continue our normal ways. I only pose thir question to get more light from girls in this forum as to why they act like that.

It really amuses me as to why girls are just not sincere and straightfaward with what they want. Eventhough I've always thought that girls are controversial, it never appeared so clear as this until my experience. Normally, I'm the kind of guy that the girl I truly like or even love, as long as she is not my girl friend; I don't allow any sexual thought to come to play in my mind, because I respect her, and doesn't see her as a sex object. But the thing now is kind off bringing negative result will I say. One very clear one was a girl I met at an examination centre some years ago, we became close and she told me about her boy friend. We went out some couple of times, and she told me her bf was accusing her of cheating, that some of his friends must have seen me with her; I was not too supprised, because anyone around us will think we are the happening couples. So, I called her boy friend without her consent and explained things to him sincerly, and he was really impressed that if I was actually guilty, I wouldn't have called him. Later she knew about it, and everything was cool and calm, as our three became friends. Nothwithstanding that, she kept wanting to come to my place and I was turning it down with excuses, and she then invited me to her house. I was not comfortable, because I didn't want to compound issues between her and her boy friend. She kept insisting, and I finally went there, and behold, after a short while b4 I could finish eating what she offered me, her bf came, and that made me feel bad. I was like what will he be thinking I'm doing here. I got more uncomfortable eventhough he didn't make any suspicious face. Shortly I told them I was leaving, and they escorted me. Later in the evening that day, she texted me appologizing that she dien't know her boy friend would be coming,and that text message wondered me. Why would she be appologizing to me,? Was it bad that her boy friend came in? Or she had an ulterior motive maybe to seduce me? Another day, she kept insisting I come to her place again, but I swore never to go again, I was ok with our normal friendship of calls, chats, and maybe having dates in public places one in a while. She kept insisting and insisting that I come, but I turned her down, and that was how our friendship crumbled. She no longer picked my calls. When I discussed it with my guys, they simply mocked me by saying I was dull and all that, that she needed s€.x and all that. Could this really be so, eventhough its obvious. This is a girl that was not even my girlfriend, and we chatted like good friends without strings attached. The fact is I liked the girl (I still like her) and we shared many things in common, she appeared decent. What could she had wanted more? Why are some girls not sincere, let me not generalize.

njeph:
The first 4 aren't peculiar to UniBen...They're common with Nigerian universities.

Abbey2sam:
All the aforementioned is not synonymous to every tertiary institutions in nigeria

Of course, all tertiary institutions have an attribute of that, but I emphatically posit that these listed facts are more prominent in Uniben. Do you know the stress Uniben students go through even to just get simple things done? Do you know how all the lecture halls and classrooms are filled up at night, such that there won't be any space for you when you go late? You can mention your institution if you like, so we can compare and contrast. I have friends all over many institutions, and you cannot accuse me of saying what I don't know.

offspec:
Why raise up the point if you know we won't understand. You have thus achieved nothing here.Saying this is like saying "Buying and Selling is a culture in a market place". Abeg OP, what else do you expect?Abeg e get school wey fellowship no deh? OP, you don see school wey be Home of Shrines? Abeg come go show me I bet you have not heard of the adage "Igberaga Siwaju Iparun". Don't ask me the meaning...OP, i give this to you. I'm very generous. Take am, I dash you this point.

Haha.. Small boy.

You guys are probably not Uniben students, and I must tell you that the cultism you hear about uniben is over emphasized. There is little or no cult activity within the in campuses, 'cos Uniben has a strong security network. The stories you hear about Ekosodin are holigans or indigenes parading themselves as students. They may be ex students that were withdrawn or so, and their acts ends in Ekosodin.

UNIBEN is indeed a great citadel of learning, as it has continuously proved that through its products (the students). This piece is aimed at revealing those unique and peculiar things to UNIBEN. Any unprejudice one will attest to this as true and not exaggerated facts. 2, Night class is a culture: do you want to fail? Even jacking for 40days and 40nights does not guarantee a pass, talkless... 90% of Uniben students do sleep in classes everyday, some don't even sleep anyway. 4, Uniben students are confident: any where you find a Uniben student or graduate; you see confidence. This is no exaggeration. It is the function of the training they undergo and the orientation and experience they've had. They have a competitive spirit, and are cool in it, because they know you can't beat them. You can add yours!

Who is Amaechi? I only know him as the governor that talks without thinking. Imagine words like "my name is Amaechi, so I'm Igbo, but Jonathan is not Igbo." And for the records, Jonathan has performed excellently, even Amaechi knows that. Gej till Buhari and her daughter show their certificates.

Amaechi is the most clueless governor Nigeria ever had.

But Nigeria became the biggest economy in Africa under Gej's administration... Well, maybe Soludo is not aware of that, somebody tell him please.

Did he not start the trend?

Everybody knows Buhari is the wrong choice. Gej till 2019

brito:
I like your maturity, even poor guys have consequences. None of my daughters will marry a poor guy, I will make sure they are good to go too.

Just shut your mouth my friend-there are better ways to state things.

Oh my God, this thread is so hilarious. I can so attest to 90% of these.

Unibenstudent:
the motive behind is to encourage some students who may have probated and others mishap that befell them,that it isn't the end of life,that their destinies are not attached to school,,there could be some sectors that they will excell in.

That is good tho, but the fact is some people will missunderstand this. They won't think it that way; they will only be encouraged in their laziness.

And what has been the fate of those countries you mentioned? Non of them are better than Nigeria. Their old presidents are not able to lead them to greater heights. Madella knew he was too old, that was why he resigned, not because he was too nice. How progressive and developed are these countries governed by old me? They are all struggling African countries, and can't measure with Nigeria economic wise. I thought you would name the presidents of USA, GERMANY, CHINA etc. Please, show me a developed country governed by an old man, only then, I can vote for Buhari. And again, were those old men also certificateless?

This is not important. Is it to discourage students? And do you know we would have a billion list of those who made it through school? Nigerian students are getting more lazy as each day go by. They want to make it without school. Well, I dare you OP to dropout from UNIBEN, so we can share your testimony someday.

And I also have my additional questions. Can someone who is an illiterate rule educated Nigerians? He will disgrace us in the international community with his awkward speaches and accent. An illiterate president is an insult to education in Nigeria, and graduates will have to work under him? And note that, Buhari is too achaic. His things and ways are too old fashioned. He will collapse the economy, he will retard the growth Jonathan has achieved. APC has nothing to campaign with except, curruption which Gej is recording success in. Insecurity; which is obvious as difficult to fight, yet he is determined. I know they wanted him to get a gun and go to Sambisa forest himself. Apart from this two things what can they campaign with that Gej has not dealth with? Its good to think.

13 Questions I Keep
Asking Myself About
BUHARI:
by Samuel Meyiwa
Khalil, Lagos.
1: Can someone that
REFUSED to ATTEND
OPUTA PANEL when invited talk about justice?
2: Can someone whose
statements are loaded
with VIOLENCE assure
peace?
3: Can someone who
promised he would
ensure that SHARIA LAW gets to all part of the country tolerate people from other religion?
4: Can someone that
asked MUSLIMS TO
VOTE ONLY MUSLIM be voted for by other religion?
5: Can someone that
put Shagari in HOUSE
ARREST and DR Alex
Ekwueme in PRISON be
absolved of tribal
sentiments?
6: Can someone who
used retroactive laws
to KILL PEOPLE be trusted with
our lives?
7: Can someone who
says FIGHTING
TERRORISM is against his people be allowed to be in charge of
this country?
8: Can someone who
executed 75% of PTF
projects in the NORTH and distributed the
remaining 25% among other regions when he was the PTF chairman be allowed to take charge of all projects
in the country?
9: Can someone who as
a military head of state
who knows he would
be overthrown but
COULD NOT DO ANYTHING because his deputy was not around be classified as
courageous?
10: Can someone who
says ACN is corrupt but
because of his presidential ambition
now surrounds himself with ACN thieves be ABLE TO FIGHT
CORRUPTION?
11: Can someone who
as head of PTF DID NOT KNOW how billions of Naira got missing be
trusted with our entire wealth as president?
12: Can someone who
could not allow the
economic of demand,
supply and internal
production factors to
determine the prices of
commodities but used
SOLDIERS TO FORCE
price control be able to
handle present economic challenges?
13: Can someone who
did not allow his
government be criticised and UNJUSTLY
ARRESTED those who
criticised his government be given that opportunity to lead again,etc?
Honestly, Buhari is NOT
the RIGHT person. Don't
be blind. The change
they shout could be
negative as seen in some Northern African
countries.

InZA:
This is exactly in line with what I've been thinking for the past two days now..... I don't want to date who I'm not going to marry and I'm not going to date who I'm not going to marry.


I may have a very spiritually coloured opinion or bias about this issue but the truth is, if you're a practising christain and you sincerely employ the help of the Holy Spirit, I believe he would lead you to whom is the best fit for you... The Holy Spirit is not a "player"... He is the Spirit of truth and He knows all things, including who would be best fitted for you to date and consequently marry.

Very many people may frown at this mindset, but really it's the best way to go. It's just that we've become too " contemporary" and this has led us to wrongfully believe that we can do anything we want with our lives, that we can date anybody, court anybody, and marry anybody - So wrong.

Some folk will just be jumping in and out of relationships, for reasons of I have to test this or that, I have to know if I'm sexually compatible with Mr Lion or Miss Cheetah... Tall like this is all BS.

You blessed me this evening.

MzNelly:
I'm not talking of experiences here; I'm talking of things I've seen.
Many people? Truth be told, the only "first lovers" I've seen get married are my parents and...well, Mrs Rokiatu.
Factors may warrant that "first lovers" who swear heaven and earth in promising not to leave each other still part ways and find, even greater happiness in someone else's arms.

This whole "first love" issue is seriously overrated. And I stand here to say today, that THERE IS NOTHING SPECIAL ABOUT ONE'S FIRST LOVE.

Are you still with yours?

I submit.

MzNelly:
Lol

Life is not white and grey, anymore.

The times have changed.

This is OUR reality.

I just understand you are being influenced by your experiences to hold that view. Actually, I'm aware of what OUR present reality is turning to be like, hence my advise. However, I know there are people (many) who still get married to their first love, not because they wanted to from the onset, but because of the overwhelming power of their bond as "new and fresh lovers", they can't afford to loose each other. I know you are aware of cases many people confess to still being attracted to their first love-well, its the work of first love chemistry, as I would term it.

rokiatu:
lol I don't relate my happiness to only a man really, I believe we are solely responsible for our own happiness. But no doubt he make my life brighter, he's a wonderful guy. I couldn't ask for better. But I'd don't think am happy because he's my first love but rather because he's the man for me.

Sounds romantic. Thats good.

rokiatu:
Yea thanks indeed very rare. Destiny brought us back together.

You wouldn't had been happy like this without him.

MzNelly:
99% of everyone on earth won't get married to their "first love."

Yes, welcome to reality.

Wrong statistics False reality.

And the rule is, never date a guy or girl you know you cannot marry at all.... You don't just jump to date someone, you observe first.

Dating is good, it exposes both of you. You know yourselves better, and yes, no one is perfect, but you are aware of each other's imperfections, you work to adjust it. These are the effects of dating who you'll not marry. You are hurt: As one relationship terminate and the other, there are always tears of heartbreak. You are likely to love your present spouse less than you normally would.. Because you've loved several men or women before, and it seems love is not even real again. Please, keep to one boy or girl and be faithful to him or her. Let your first love also be your last love. I know what I'm saying. The love and affection you share is unqualifiable.

delishpot:
Bless his little heart.

You gave the best name.

WoW!

emusmith:
Your opinion are so judgmental and critical! Even me, the Op, DID NOT say this thread concerns everybody. What do you know about me? Is it by force to swallow my idea? or it's contradicting your belief systems?
SMH

You don't just need to mind these girls, thats how they react when u expose the truth about them. Its normal.

NickiRoman:
I Totally Disagree with No. 5,6,and 7,I don't get what you mean by if her mum is fat she probably will be in the future. This Your list doesn't make sense.It's obvious you have no idea what feminism is all about .You sound like a very judgemental person.


Everybody wants to be like Tosyne2much.

Its either u are very fat or your mum is, which means you 'll be like her.......ok. But do not worry, your man won't know this secret.

Good facts, well encapsulated and articulated. Need they (the girls) no more? There are marriageable girls, as much as there are dateable girls, and men can distinguish between the two; he can't even be deceived by your fake behaviour. I always advice ladies to be noble.