[size=18pt]Economic Downturn Is Tearing Marriages Apart - Judge Cries Out[/size]
By CLIFFORD AGBAJOR

IBADAN-An Ibadan Grade C Customary Court’s President, Mrs Ibijoke Adeleke-Gomes, has identified the economic downturn in Nigeria as a major factor contributing to the break-up of marriages.


Adeleke-Gomes told newsmen on Monday in Ibadan that the rate at which couples turned up in courts, seeking the dissolution of their marriages, was alarming.


“It is a pity that divorce is now very rampant, seriously becoming the order of the day among couples,” she said.


Stating possible reasons for this increase, Adeleke-Gomes fingered, among other reasons, the poor state of the nation’s economy.


“Although there are many reasons, the most critical factor is the poor state of the nation’s economy.


“Couples find it difficult to cope, especially if the man had been economically buoyant before now. Once the economic power is missing in the home, tension takes over the home.


“Usually, the man gets threatened and aggressive, particularly if the woman finds it difficult to tame her taste to suit the lowly state of their economic situation,” she said.


Adeleke-Gomes observed that men who practised polygamy now found it difficult to cope financially, hence they become grumpy and seek to divorce the “extra women’’ at slightest of excuse.


She, however, did not absolve the women, manyof whom, she said, were greedy and insatiable, preferring to move from one husband to another.


She said that marriages contracted without enough time for courtship often resulted in divorce.


“We have situations whereby couples got married within days of meeting each other and because they did not really know each other, such marriages ended up collapsing within a year,” she said.


To stem the trend, Adeleke-Gomes said that the government could assist by creating more jobs and establishing development projects that would enhance the economic power of the citizenry.


She also advised parents to ensure that their children were well instructed on the demands of marriage.


“Marriage is for the matured and parents should get them prepared for the challenges therein,” she said.

http://www.nigerianobservernews.com/19082009/news/othernews5a.html

There is nothing new about this, Finances is one of the easiest thing to break a home.
Sad though, but nothing can be done about it, when most people marry for convenience and not love and when convenience is no more, only love can hold those marriages

@ Fhemmy,

You were part of the people crucifying Uju on the other thread!!
u see why she wants a rich man??

aysometin:

@ Fhemmy,

You were part of the people crucifying Uju on the other thread!!
u see why she wants a rich man??

Hahahahahaha.
i am not crucifying her, i am just trying to tell her that it is better if they work together than just come into a home that has been built, that her demand is not realistic, for a regular guy {not 419, no yahoo yahoo, not dada's inheritance}
However, i think this is why Uju needs to marry a man that he loves and not that has money, cos recession can fly the money away and she will be on the other side at vegas to annul the marriage

Fhemmmy:

Hahahahahaha.
i am not crucifying her, i am just trying to tell her that it is better if they work together than just come into a home that has been built, that her demand is not realistic, for a regular guy {not 419, no yahoo yahoo, not dada's inheritance}
However, i think this is why Uju needs to marry a man that he loves and not that has money, cos recession can fly the money away and she will be on the other side at vegas to annul the marriage

That Uju gal is on another level o!! she said she prefers to go from rich to poor rather than vice versa!!
I kind of like the girl sha!!

aysometin:

That Uju gal is on another level o!! she said she prefers to go from rich to poor rather than vice versa!!
I kind of like the girl sha!!

i dont hate her at all.
We all have our preferences, and as long as she is happy, that is all that matters, and i wish her well

Fhemmmy:

i dont hate her at all.
We all have our preferences, and as long as she is happy, that is all that matters, and i wish her well

the lady said what others wish they could say without getting vilified

GEW:

the lady said what others wish they could say without getting vilified

God bless you GEW

aysometin:

God bless you GEW

God bless you too my dear sister. i didnt know our people now sign a pack with poverty.