IGBOboyy:

Would you throw away your 15k naira a yard lace after using it for a week?

If he wasn't really interested after seeing the huge list from her family he would simply back out.

Get it?

A day of wedding/bride price, a lifetime of marriage.

Like I said, high bride prices does not matter, esp when some ppl change after the "I Do".

base 1:

@Ileke-Idi   and   Dapobear,   you   guys   have   the   time   to  argue   and   reply   to  what   Aloy   is   saying. Did   you   happen   to  see   his   second   name?   Its   Emeka,   can  u  imagine  an   Ibo   guy   come  on   a   thread   like   dis  to   say  that   most  Yoruba   women  are   not   educated!   What  a laugh, i   hope you  do  know   that your  tribe   as we all   know  is  the second   most   uneducated tribe   after  the  northerners, as  we all know the northerners  seem to be catching   up   now. I  work  in the   mist  of Ibo's   and  i shake my  head   at their level of  reasoning. For starters they   are the most complex  pple  u can ever associate  with, their men  crave for we yoruba  women,   but they know that a yoruba woman  cannot take the trash they give their fellow Ibo women.
Aloy is here feeling like one local   champion, i'm sure  in your clan u must really feel good  as  u  can  count those of  you that are educated. Your  talking about education, when your from a tribe that does not value it. At a young age when they are supposed to be attaining educational development the parents due to poverty wld send their child to Lagos to go slave away for years all in the name of apprenticeship. In your state how many schools and universities are there, lols, and u talk education to we yoruba pple.
Even a yoruba woman selling leaves in the market would make sure her children graduate with flying colours from the university.

Let me school you on the difference between a yoruba woman and Ibo woman, a yoruba woman right from time has been taught from the beginning the art of independence, meanwhile an ibo woman is being brought up to think she is the most valuable asset of her family, where by she'd be sold to the highest bidder.
A yoruba woman whether her husband is dead or isnt capable any more of being the bread winner would be able to take care of her children.
Not so an Ibo woman, she can't because right from the start she has always been a  housewive, baby factory and the only thing she know how to do well is cook and be dependent on her husband. When he dies tomorrwo she is left with nothing cos the relatives of the man would come and kick her out and since the woman is usually illiterate, she wouldnt know how to fight for her right, thereby going back to square one with the burden of the kids and all.

I could go on and on, as for polygamy or divorce evry woman should be independent, empowered and enlightened. It helps in the preparation of whatever.

base 1:

@Amor4, nope, the truth jes had to be spoken, it doesn't make sense for an individual(s) to come on here talking about things that we see around us with our eyes everyday, trying to make us see otherwise. How can a Nigerian guy come and say in the whole of yorubaland Ekiti women are the most uneducated, it doesn't make sense.
I'm an Ondo girl and everyone knows that in the whole of yorubaland Ondo is the state that values education the most, back in the days a house must have at least a professor or that family was looked down upon. It was a taboo to have someone be an apprentice of any trade, it was surely frowned upon.
The Ondos just loosened up recently because they got a little bit of enlightenment.
Now my point is Ekiti came out from Ondo, and being that we are brothers and sisters we still share the same values.
So in essence education has got nothing to do with divorce or polygamy.
We need to bring up reasonable points that would enable us learn how to tackle divorce in yoruba land which was what this thread was all about before some dude tried to derail it

excanny:

Ekiti believed to be fountain of professors - No facts and unverifiable.

In reality, Ekiti=fountain of narcotics - Fact and verified.

[size=18pt]Enugu's House Of Drugs & Controversies- Declared Nigeria's drug territory [/size]

April 2010
The recent incrimination of six members of Enugu State House of Assembly over drug peddling generates unease in the state, although the House is never new to controversies.

The leadership of Enugu State House of Assembly, on July 30, battled feverishly to exonerate its members linked to importation of 450.4 kilos. The cocaine amounted to about N4billion! (Picture shows Barrister Eugene Odoh, Speaker of Enugu State House of Assembly Nigeria)

http://www.ukpakareports.com/news.php?news_id=1267&%20type_id=2
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[size=18pt]Mental health of adolescents who abuse psychoactive substances in Enugu, Nigeria - a cross-sectional study.[/size]

[b]August 2010


RESULT: A total of 290 students were current substance abusers. The substances most commonly abused were alcohol (31.6%), cola nitida (kola nut) (20.7%) and coffee (15.7%). Using the PSC scale, 70 (24.1%) subjects compared to 29 (10.7%) of the controls had scores in the morbidity range of >or= 28 for psychosocial dysfunction. This was statistically significant (chi(2) = 17.57 p = 0.001). Fifty-four subjects (18.6%) had scores in the morbidity range of >or= 50 for depressive symptoms using the Zung SDS compared to 21 (7.7%) of controls. This was statistically significant (chi(2) = 14.43, p = 0.001). Prevalence of dysfunction was not significantly related to age in both subjects and controls (chi(2) = 4.62, p = 0.010, chi(2) = 4.8, p = 0.10 respectively). Also using both scales, there was no significant relationship between psychosocial dysfunction and gender or social class in both subjects and control. The prevalence of dysfunction using both scales was significantly higher in multiple abusers compared to single abusers. Subjects abusing alcohol scored more on both scales compared to those abusing other substances.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20698990

[size=18pt]Nigeria: NDLEA Raises Alarm Over Drug Abuse in Secondary Schools In Drug Cartel Enugu State [Land of Drugs and Weeds][/size]

Dec 2010

NDLEA RAISES ALARM OVER DRUG ABUSE IN SECONDARY SCHOOLS

National Drug Law Enforcement Agency, NDLEA, has attributed the current wave of violent crimes in the South-east and other neighbouring states to the consumption of Indian hemp and other dangerous drugs by secondary school students, a situation it warned would deteriorate if urgent steps were not taken.

The anti-drug law agency noted that while it was grappling with curtailing the influx and intake of Indian hemp by school children, several of them have recently been caught with cocaine.

Speaking on behalf the agency at weekend during the third annual symposium of the Inwelle Study and Resource Centre, Enugu, Mr.  Fintan Bassey said a survey carried out by the NDLEA showed that crimes committed by students recently in Enugu were drug motivated.

"Indian hemp is a problem.  It is now a way of life, especially among adolescents.  It is now found in pockets and bags of students in secondary school." He said, "we have also observed that the intake of this weed usually accounts for their restiveness and hostility in Enugu and the entire South-east zone.  It is also responsible for their vulnerability to crime and other criminal activities.

"With time, some have confided in us that they graduate to taking cocaine, which pushes them into crime so that they would be able to afford the lifestyle that goes with it.  If we do not check this vice among these pupils, who are usually between the ages of 15 and 20, then we may have ourselves to blame, especially now that the elections are near."

The NDLEA boss disclosed that the drug is now planted in Nigeria.  He said, "barely a month ago, the agency had destroyed a farm of Indian hemp in Enugu Ezike and Nsukka areas in Enugu State."

http://www.mapinc.org/drugnews/v10/n1049/a06.html

oyinda.:

the polygamy thing is more common with yoruba muslims. It has more to do with their religion. Although there are many yoruba muslims who are monogamous esp. in lagos.

for divorce, I think it's higher among yorubas mostly because yoruba women are very strong headed compared to women of other tribes. like base1 already said, we are generally independent and self sufficient (at least compared to others in the country) so it is easier to walk out of an unsatisfactory marriage.

There are many women who stay in polygamous marriages and like it though. marriage is different for everyone. In fact I heard that some rich man might buy a house for each of his wives and provide all her needs. He will visit once in a while. Many women don't mind this independent life in polygamy.

excanny:

^^^ lol.

Hey, omalincha nwa, Ola ukwu. Happy new year.

How u dey. I miss you.

Ileke-IdI:

lol ahaha, of course you missed me You have no other choice 

back in the days a
house must have at least a
professor or that family was
looked down upon. It was a
taboo to have someone be an
apprentice of any trade, it was
surely frowned upon.

excanny:

@ Base 1

The reason why I posted that article was because of this statement you made earlierI

I was also wondering when the article said that in the 50's and 60's every Ekiti household has at least one professor. Now, my question is, how many people went to school in those days to have resulted in such a claim?

Even in this age and time when people have realized the importance of a formal education, I dont think any place in Nigeria has a professor to a family ratio, no?

Honestly, I still find those claims hard to believe, except someone comes to prove it.

base 1:

@Ileke   Idi,   gosh!   A   hug   for   you,   you   so   nailed   that   shitty  okoro   dude.   Lols,   you   see   why   i  say   education   is   really   essential,   even   to   an educated   dude   like   excanny(just   assuming,   lols,   cos  the   only   thing  he  might be   able   to   do  is   copy   and paste  and  post   a few links,)  If  he  took   his time  to  read  thru   his  post   properly  he'd   see that  the  educational   state  of   Ekiti was  being   looked   upon   and taken  seriously,  and   scholarships were  going to  be given  out  to encourage  and achieve  the   dwindling  educational  glory  of the state.  Talk  of an educated leader.

Mr   Okoro(s),  while your  leaders  have  never   for once   bothered about   the state  of education   in your  state,   other are working  on improving theirs. It  was said Ekiti was amongst  the state that  didnt do too well in WAEC, fine,  agreed. At least the indigene sat for the exams and definately did well  but ofcourse not  to  the expectations of the Old Ekiti we always knew, we thank God solutions are being proferred for that. 

In your state how many people wrote WAEC or even made it to Senior Secondary School level, instead while parents of other states (Western) were busy preparing their children for a better future, a future where they could stand up tall and raise their heads high amongst the best and be the best. Your state people were busy preparing their kids for instant gratification and a life of permanent hardship and struggles, a life where they cannot stand up tall and speak for themselves, a life where they are the lowlives of any community they are found in, a life of complex cos they find it so hard to express themselves wherever they are except amongst themselves, so they always keep hating on enlightened people, and now a life of drugs imposed on them by those who are supposed to be their leaders. People don't you just feel sorry for these people, **tears in eyes** life just isnt fair to them! Lols!

@Oyinda, you couldn't have said it better, a yoruba woman has the resources to take care of herself with or without marriage. But not like our igbo counterpart, who usually gets elevated by marriage, who has never been useful to herself, one of the main reasons their husbands end up being disgusted by their ability to stay idle and not be productive, well except in the baby manufacturing process cos men! Do they breed like fowls. Yoruba women are just the bomb

excanny:

Is googles also from ekiti?

excanny:

Ileke-nyash, why are you avoiding my question?

Ileke-IdI:

So that you can later use her identity to insult her? She's not from Ekiti. If you want to know, ask her.

excanny:

Hey, stop being paranoid. You know I got much lofs for them. My connection with them remains ever cordial.

Googles seem very Ekiti to me though. I still dig am besides the ginja ginja stuff.

Ileke-IdI:

How does someone seem very "Ekiti"? Describe the characteristics of an Ekiti person.

excanny:

Your location says it all.

base 1:

@Ileke-Idi and Dapobear, you guys have the time to argue and reply to what Aloy is saying. Did you happen to see his second name? Its Emeka, can u imagine an Ibo guy come on a thread like dis to say that most Yoruba women are not educated! What a laugh, i hope you do know that your tribe as we all know is the second most uneducated tribe after the northerners, as we all know the northerners seem to be catching up now. I work in the mist of Ibo's and i shake my head at their level of reasoning. For starters they are the most complex pple u can ever associate with, their men crave for we yoruba women, but they know that a yoruba woman cannot take the trash they give their fellow Ibo women.
Aloy is here feeling like one local champion, i'm sure in your clan u must really feel good as u can count those of you that are educated. Your talking about education, when your from a tribe that does not value it. At a young age when they are supposed to be attaining educational development the parents due to poverty wld send their child to Lagos to go slave away for years all in the name of apprenticeship. In your state how many schools and universities are there, lols, and u talk education to we yoruba pple.
Even a yoruba woman selling leaves in the market would make sure her children graduate with flying colours from the university.

Let me school you on the difference between a yoruba woman and Ibo woman, a yoruba woman right from time has been taught from the beginning the art of independence, meanwhile an ibo woman is being brought up to think she is the most valuable asset of her family, where by she'd be sold to the highest bidder.
A yoruba woman whether her husband is dead or isnt capable any more of being the bread winner would be able to take care of her children.
Not so an Ibo woman, she can't because right from the start she has always been a housewive, baby factory and the only thing she know how to do well is cook and be dependent on her husband. When he dies tomorrwo she is left with nothing cos the relatives of the man would come and kick her out and since the woman is usually illiterate, she wouldnt know how to fight for her right, thereby going back to square one with the burden of the kids and all.

I could go on and on, as for polygamy or divorce evry woman should be independent, empowered and enlightened. It helps in the preparation of whatever.

oyinda.:

the polygamy thing is more common with yoruba muslims. It has more to do with their religion. Although there are many yoruba muslims who are monogamous esp. in lagos.

for divorce, I think it's higher among yorubas mostly because yoruba women are very strong headed compared to women of other tribes. like base1 already said, we are generally independent and self sufficient (at least compared to others in the country) so it is easier to walk out of an unsatisfactory marriage.

There are many women who stay in polygamous marriages and like it though. marriage is different for everyone. In fact I heard that some rich man might buy a house for each of his wives and provide all her needs. He will visit once in a while. Many women don't mind this independent life in polygamy.

oludashmi:

Thread closed!!