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Juliearth:
Same here. Op gave us some Mills and Boons moves.



Now, back to your concern. You cannot play God in her life, lest you attract sin unto yourself. Thus, you can help her only if your heart/ Hallos parakletos directs you to.

All right..

Thanks dear

Martinez39s:
Your op shows you are confused, and you lack some spine. It's not too late to do the right thing. Stop giving her money, forget about her, and move on. I know you can do this.

It's not really that easy bro. She gets me anytime she mentions that her child hasn't eaten anything .

I'm taking the advice from here. I have to cut off

ojuu4u:
If the way u narrated the story was exactly how it was, you will end up having sex with her and perhaps destroyed her home, meanwhile it will be a terrible decision if you go that way, a lady u took very bold decision to abstain sex from when she was single and she was very much attached to you, now end up sexxing her when she married and yet you still single! Why taking such decision in first instance!

I will advice you to give her and warn her that this *particular gift" will be ur last gift and that she should focus on her husband and if she needs assistance outside her husband pocket, let her solicit for it from her siblings and her in laws...


The main reason of asking help from u is that she still wants flings" from you..............women use different ways to seduce men.


NB. Last year November/December a married woman near my house kept on asking money from me and I was reluctantly given her, it got to a stage that I let my wife knew about it, I now plan with my wife that she should tell her that I wanted to give her rice for Xmas, the woman came to my house and my wife handed over it for her. Since they this woman doesn't demand a dime from me.

Why! She knw that I ve discussed with my wife how she had been demanding money from me, if truly it was because she lacked she would continue asking from me but she wanted flings because I exposed her trick! She fled!!

Your words are deep! Thank you so much for this insight..

Bornfool:
Sir you be hero. I want to be like you when I grow up

Lol

ibkonekt:
you do realize what is going on here, you were the simp and still the simp.
she was probably dating both of you the same time in school.
since you have read sword of truth series and you quoted zed first wizard, then you should be more wise and act accordingly. the fact that you are asking this question already shows that you doubt the validity of your actions. you need to stop enabling the situation. anyway do your thing sha finally.

Yes bro, I have thought about the whole scenario and this is why I wish to bring it to an end...

I will stop enabling the situation. Thanks bro

murphyibiam15:
How far doc.. Where do you practice

I'm still a student sir! 600L

Ishilove:
Mrs Nackson, na wetin dey sweet goat dey kill am.

Lol

murphyibiam15:
A doc..

My Chief sir..
I'm honoured

paul100:
In all,we thank God.

Sure

seanwilliam:
so what was your favorite SOAP then??

Lolz..

~I don't allow a girl sleep over in my place

~i always open up to them once we start getting along that this my principle; no sex..such that she too can remind me of the no sex stuff if I want to sleep with her.....this particular one works so well..

~ do not kiss on the bed..lolz

~ reduce the number of times you allow you get naked before you..

And many more...

OVB123:
You well come. pls! it is pertinent to preserve oneself because at the end, your spouse/partner will be proud of you.

Sure!

murphyibiam15:
I didn't know anything called woman till my 600l...funny enough I went to a mixed secondary school.. I think is mainly due to to exposure and friends that one follow

Yea, you are right!

You are a Doc Or med student rite?

paul100:
Bro,you must be very disciplined to keep yourself.Thank God,u were avoiding sex unless the girl could have put everything on your head.
You can continue helping her but let it not be like a MUST DO STUFF.
Keeping yourself as a guy is very hard with all the big ass and boobs moving round campus.May God help us.

I'm telling you broda. It was God that delivered me. I would have been a father now when I'm still a student. Chai...I can't thank God enough bro

NerdyRudeGyal:

You said? Lolz

SweetCunt97:
Give and it shall b given back to you. Atleast for d sake of d kid. Too bad she allowed d good for nothing man rope her with lies. Mtcheeew

Yea, I reach out to her because of God and the child. Whenever she tells me the child has had nothing to eat..I will just go weak

OVB123:
There alot of semilarities btw u and i, I'm about 30 years of age, an OND Holder and still a virgin too, although not easy at all. My candid advise 4 u is that, u should destroyed any form of affection(s) u have 4 her and call it a quit. continue to support her financially but not all the time because is another man's property. May God gives u wisdom to overcome these challenges IJN. NOTE: That girl is not a wife's material becos if she was, she wouldn't have demanded sex from you, no decent girl does that.

Rightly said bro..

Thanks alot

Samakus:
The guys above me have already advised you. Cut ties with that woman. She's married.

You don't owe her anything. If you're father Christmas, go to any nearby junction, you will see less privileged beggars, help them. Most of them don't have legs and hands

Thanks bro..Taken

JOACHINpedro:
Guy, you are a hero

Lolz

ekibs11:
this why it's best to have an account meant for charity, that way if there's no money in it, you can boldly tell the person you don't have.

I will suggest you control the way you give don't go turning into a living ATM

Yea, thanks bro

Anytime she mentions her child not having something to eat, I will just get weak

themaestro08:
"Do what is right because its the right thing to do" . helping her is a good thing due to her financial challenges, everyone likes being helped, but in this case i urged to not only withdraw your aid but also every relationship that bond both of you.

My reasons being:
• what if her spouse finds out?
• what if she decides to repay you With sex? (Temptation - ya know. And how about your so-called morals and values? Will you blew them for a momentai pleasure?


On the surface its just help but deeply it could come with repercussions you may live to regret rest of your life.

Thank you so much. Your reasoningd are exactly my fear..

Because I still feel she still likes me and I really liked her then and I'm scared any little thing could vjust ignite that feeling again.

Bu thank you so much for this..

Ningen:
I see nothing wrong in helping her whenever you can afford to. You'll lose nothing by doing that. But it's obvious you're entertaining thoughts of having an affair with her so take a step back.

Cut off contacts Immediately.

Yea, dats my fear actually


Okay, thanks bro

KAM3KAZI:
I like that quote by Zeddicus

Makes sense..lol

eazylion001:
It's your choice if u wish to continue helping her or not but I sincerely don't think helping her is a bad choice since you're just helping for helping sake and not expecting anything in return. Continue helping her if it won't hurt you doing so.

Away from that, Please how av u been able to keep ur virginity as a man while on campus cos ppl like us no even pass out of secondary school as Virgins.

All right, thanks bro


Lolz, maybe it's just God that is helping me fa cos I made up mind not to indulge. And I adopt certain strategies that help me. I must say, it is not easy broda.

adblack10:
my brother jus stay off, she is a married woman now

All right, thanks bro

iTroll:
OP, its like they need to hit hammer on your head before you realize that you have to COMPLETELY cut ties with that woman abi?
Its until she brings wahala that you dont know anything about to you, abi?
She is a married woman now.
She is bound to a man.
She is off limits to a guy like you.
She is another man's problem now.
Flee!

Same thing I thought about broda. Bought she narrates the story in such a way that anybody with conscience wouldn't do otherwise but to help..

Thanks for your advice, maybe I should do this.

iTroll:
Hmm

Do you think I should continue?

I will be glad if you can modify

Querty:
Hahaha

Sorry o, I just love the part where you told her you stole her contact..lolz

Lolz

But you haven't addressed my concern yet

I met this girl when I was in 300L[my second degree though]. I'm now in 600L. How we became friends and even started dating was very funny.

After a hectic day lecture, I needed to use the ATM within the campus before going home. There she was standing in the cue and immediately my eyes caught her, I liked her. The next question on my mind was how to initiate conversation and to get her contact given that so many persons were on cue and it could be embarrassing if the right approach wasn't adopted. She is the kind of girl that will catch any guy's attention, her height, her facial beauty, her shape, asss (lol) and all. There was no way I could have walked up to her; she was in company of friends and you all know how such things could be. It seemed practically impossible for me to make that move but fortunately for me she carried a transparent bag which housed her books and other items (she was in 100L at the time and doing some registration). There was a hard cover note book in that transparent bag and I could sight a phone number written on the edge of the book which I strongly believed was her number because that was the only notebook in that bag as I could see ,more so, given that they just resumed lectures. So, I quickly memorized the number (lolz) before she could finish withdrawing.

Later that day, after much rest, I called her ,she picked, she was so friendly and I of course was encouraged. She asked how I got her contact and I told her that I stole it , while she was at the ATM ; she laughed softly and I could at the instance feel the lines below my eyes go wrinkled.

While we continued talking, she told me at some point that she is in a complicated relationship but I didn't give up. We continued to be friends. On a certain Saturday, she called that she was coming to visit me (I stay off K),
I was super excited. That day she told me that she likes me and that we can step it up from just being friends. That was how we started dating..(we actually kissed that day..lolz).

While dating, I told her severally that I wouldn't sleep with a woman who is not my wife which means I wouldn't have sex until I'm married. This didn't go well with her because I realized she is the type that loves sex so much. Many times she had got herself naked before me, seducing me and all but I wouldn't give in. Her desire for sex is actually beyond what I can handle and if I continued in that relationship, one day I'm sure going to compromise my stand. So I had to let her know that I wouldn't be able to continue in the relationship, that I still have many more years to spend in school and I'm not even certain that at the end of it we were going to get married, that instead of me waisting her time, it would be better that we just put an end to the relationship while we remain just friends. She cried ,but it had to be that way because I need my wife to be proud of me and of course , heaven will stand pleased. We parted ways..

After we broke up, I didn't hear from her again for like 3 weeks, then I received a phone call from her and told me that she was pregnant and that she wanted to see me. Over the phone, I asked "how"? Since when?.. she was crying at the same time and i had to ask her to come to my place so we could talk. She came, narrated how after we broke up, got involved with another guy and that was how she became pregnant. She wanted to go for an abortion but I advised her against such move. I asked her to call her mummy and tell her the truth, that her mum will know how best to go about the whole stuff. I guessed she did, but her parents wouldn't have her in the house anymore because of shame and the indecent signal it may send to the other siblings. She had to pack to the guy's House and that was how they became husband and wife till date. She gave birth to a son and they are together as husband and wife till today.

The guy is a diploma holder and works in a photo studio ( the guy lied to her when they first met, that he was a graduate and that he was awaiting NYSC, I'm sure it was the reason she accepted him even though I could judge that she was desperate for sex).

Even though I'm still a student but God has been faithful such that I don't lack and everyone around me knows that I'm liberal.

She has been making request of me, asking for financial assistance and many times I have reached out to her.

Just yesterday, she asked that I help her with some money, that she is broke and her husband doesn't have anything, no food for her child. I was really touched. But is it proper that I continue doing this?

Please advise needed! I just want to avoid every form of temptation, is her husband aware that I give her money? What if this becomes an issue?

Please what should I do?

If you have watched Legend of the seeker, you will know this..

THE GREATEST HARM SOMETIMES COMES FROM THE BEST INTENTIONS. ~Zeddicus Zu'l Zorander.

The coming of our lord Jesus is at hand. The signs of his coming are everywhere. This is surely one...


There is something we all must do in order to escape the perilous times thereafter..

Ask me how?