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you resurrected the thread!

Perx
I have notified the responsible party and something should be done about it soon.

Thanks

Quick advice needed,
I have been natural for about a year now and thinking of installing some brazillian hair. Do you suggest i leave a little hair out or have a full head weave with a side fringe (which am mostly used to). Some people are of the opinion that the beauty of having brazillian fixed in is the fact that hair is left out and it blends in well. I personaly dont like hair left out because you are kind of stuck to that same part and style. So what do you suggest? Hair left out or full head weave with a side fringe?

Thank yoo

Hello Everyone,

Hope you are all doing well in your respectful endeavors be it your job or your family and whatever else is out there. I am a Nigerian girl specifically Ibo who was relocated to the states at a fairly young teenage age. I was raised by a single mother, in other words there was never a male figure around the house. According to my understanding as a child, i was told to tell people that my father was dead mainly because my mother did everything for me and my siblings. My biological father came around but i used to call him Uncle. At the age of 10 "Uncle" said to me you need to stop calling me that because i am your daddy. I said well Uncle if you really are my daddy then why are you not married to my mommy. How come i have mommy's marriage name and not your last name.

Fast forward a couple of years later, mom relocates my sister and myself to the states and her reason was that Nigeria's education system was falling apart and that time Nigeria was corrupt and under military rule. I have finished my high school and college education and currently in the workforce. Let's just say everytime i have tried to have a boyfriend my mother has been the demise of the relationship. She destroyed my African American boyfriend even though he loved me to death and everyone said we would get married after graduation. I dated a Greek guy because we lived in a rural area in PA. He was scared of my mom too because she criticized him too. Now i am in love with a much older American guy who treats me like Gold. He even went as far as buying a ring and proposing to me on one knee and asking me to be the mother of his children.

I have met his mother and a few family members who live in the area. I do romantic things like look nice for my boyfriend and wear sexy lingerie for him. On one occasion she being my mother said i am a LovePeddler because my boyfriend is older than me and treats me to nice hotels. The only difference is that he promises that he would marry me. This same woman has been threatening me with when i move back to Nigeria it will be too late to call me for advice because i will be in another part of the world and too far to reach. I reminded her that "you" being my mother had abandoned me for 4 consecutive years between the ages of 9 and 13 with my biological father and his wife who i was subjected to call mommy as well even though she wasn't my mother. she also dumped me with a 2nd cousin to be my care taker as in shuffle me back and forth to boarding school, pay tuition and offer me a place to sleep and eat until i headed back to my all girls boarding school. I said the reason these things are fflaringup now is because your cousin's wife made sure i slept on bare cold floors and i wasn't properly fed. she also made sure to make me carry several loads of water on my head and made me travel several miles on foot to get this water. This same woman would tell me do you want to finish the food in my house or do you want my children to die when i told her i was hungry.

I said mom you sent money to this man and his wife and supposedly the money was meant for my upkeep. I said you were even aware of how evil this woman was to me because when you would return from your trips to lLondonfor your so called PHD programs, the neighbors informed you of the things she did to me. This couple is now in the states, i will not disclose the state they reside in for privacy purposes. she said i accused her of being a mother, i said i am just saying that when the time comes for me to have a family, i will never leave them with 2nd cousins or extended family and go to London or Canada and send money for their upkeep. She said that the woman is evil and comes from a part of Nigeria where the women are beautiful and are known to be down right evil. I said look, that's all fine by me. My thing is that i don't intend on going back to Nigeria or having any contact with my biological father or your extended cousins who live in different parts of the country. Even as teenagers, my own sister had hurt me emotionally telling me that i am a bastard child and that i need to go back to Nigeria to find who my birth father really is. Right now i live in a different state and my sister has a 5yr old son. i am moving into a new apartment and starting a brand new life with my fiance. I told my mother i wish her the best of luck when and if she chooses to return to Nigeria. I also said when you do come into the states for visits to please not contact me and reserve your own hotels, rental car and what not because i will not be available to pick you up and my husband and i will not open our house up for you to stay for long terms. My mother constantly tells me that my sister is the only sister i have and that she would never kick me out if i needed a place to stay.

I said you need to take that nonsense back because i can count on how many occasions my so called sister has thrown my stuff on the street and threatened to call the cops on me just because times were tough. I said she has forgotten when i made a whole lot of money and when her son was born and i made house calls to deliver them diapers on a weekly basis. i said she was also forgotten that i used to travel 2hrs from Bethlehem, PA to Nutley, NJ burning gas and putting myself at risk just to get to her and my nephew when the US Economy wasn't so bad. I said i understand you want to see your daughters get along but i am the place in my life that i know what i want. I will not be bullied or bossed around by my own sister because it is convenient to be that older sister when it's convenient. My relationship is flourishing and i am happy where i am, my relationship isn't like my sister's.

The man that i am with is not a reflection of the man my sister was with and the father of her son. I guess i am writing here because i want people to share my pain and see if i am in my right mind to feel the way i do and if i am being unreasonable for minding my own business and keeping my family members at a distance at this point in my life.

yup! shes MY inspiration Bleep

damn freshers! some of us are trynna work here

ifyalways:
Does this imply that the 'report to the mod' button won't work anymore?

I prefer that.lolz

Yes, it does work. I and tgirl will be looking at both. This is just to bring our attentions to any consistent issues.

Thank You as you co-operate

tpia@:
Not sure why the thread was opened since the mod tends to do her own thing regardless.

No, we dont tend to do our own thing. We go by what we are being asked to do.

Really liking the feedback here,
This is what the thread is made for, I will appreciate it if i get any reports or comments directed to this thread. i.e if you have an issue with any threads in the section, this will be a great way to alert me and I'll sort it.

Thanks once again guys

Thanks for this,
I was advised to open this thread just in case.

Appreciate your input though

Good Evening Beautiful People!
Hope you are having a lovely Sunday.
New development;
I have decided to make this thread a complaints/suggestions/request thread. So please feel free to air out your feelings and I will be addressing any issues that are being brought up.
Please try not to use this as an avenue to fight or quarrel.

Have a lovely week ahead.
Nike

Ajirebi,
Defamatory comments and use of verbal abuse will not be tolerated on my section so please be careful.

Many thanks

Kunbee:
Okunrin sha

*runs*

Evening,
The topic was a spam because you opened two topics with the same name.

I do apologise for the inconvenience

chi-baby:
Lol seen. I suggest u take reasonable care to avoid harm/violence.
Itz a bad man endz Lool

Yes Ofcourse

*shivers*

chi-baby:
I need to get rest

got a meeting down ur side next week with the HMRC, should be fun

eldee:
It's all so bleeping annoying though, and being a good guy sucks too.
Thank God it's finally over . . . I'm tired of flirting with attractive people and not doing fuckall.

*rolls eyes*

lala!

I dont know how much i have to say this! But could you guys PLEASE PLEASE keep all the insults away from my section please.

Thank You

Kunbee:
Nike wa funmi ni gist jare

ki lo fe gbo jare baby! we had very interesting conversations

FUNNY STORY
so i sat next to doyin13 for the duration of my journey to birmz without even realising till the last hour!! smal world ehh

Guys,
Please try and minimise the insults on any part of the family section! Constructive criticisms only please!!

Thank You

eyin brodas n sistas!!

im london based now. more than interested,

interested

any confirmed venues guys?

I Miss AO is the GREATEST AND LUCKIEST woman alive!

12 more hours!!!