₦airaland Forum

Judgepelumi:
wish i had ur score, especially ur verbal score. Anyways, there are schools dat accept 300. Ur homework is to search google for them.http://www.universitystudy.ca/search-programs/ this site shd help u navigate thru schls easily

Thanks for your words of encouragement...

taiwo92:
@nikenry, which university are u applying to.

I was thinking of university of Alberta, Msc statistical machine learning. 3.61/5 GPA, I also have M.Sc Computer Science from OAU with cumulative of 68B+.

Hi friends, I need your advice. I wrote GRE yesterday but the result didn't come out well. Quantitative 148, verbal 153. I am really depressed. Pls is there still hope for me? Any school in Canada that can still accept my scores for Msc Computer Science? Thanks.....

Olalekanbanky1:
U bera Thank God for ur stars cos nobody go let u bcome governor in nigeria Talkless of President.

So where are those pple shouting 'what a man can do, a woman can do Beta?' See una client o

This mentality is dangerous to your well-being. She didn't commit the offence because of her gender. Men do worse and are less persecuted....Leadership is a function of knowledge and foresight, and get nothing to do with gender or age.

stylesco:
Most women always say the vagina goes back to normal after childbirth, but I think the men should be judge.

My hubby has insisted I'll use c-section for our baby so that I can still be tight.
My question is does it really change down there after child birth?

Madam, you are a big time learner ooo. You want to risk your life because of a man. @Presva dey talk truth, you dey vex. Love still dey catch you wella Abi? Hurry up, go for CS and come back in two years time to tell us if that has stopped him for cheating on you.

@op, talk true, have you ever cheated on her? KARMA may be raising its voice here ooo.

bebe2:
Uche pls Shut up,

must u answer everything?

see the yeye nollywood wey una dey, its crumbling fast and u are here fighting equality.

Men are women can NEVER be equal ,we all have our strenghts in diffrent areas, Unless u marry a Weak man.

Uhm..... this from a woman's mouth? but you contradicted yourself. The fact that we have strength in different areas shows that men are weak in the areas where women have strength, and vice versa. If you believe the fact above, then it shouldn't be difficult for you to believe in gender equality. Men are women are to complement themselves. Men can't do what women can do easily, while women cannot do what men can do effortlessly.

The fact that men have more physical strength does not say they have higher mental strength. It takes more of mental strength to make more money, rule a nation, etc than physical strength.

#Ipledgeforparity

bondingman:
is it that buhari is synonymous to bad luck?

Abi oooo....before we didn't hear of Tomatoes ebola. The Government was more proactive to shield us from these abnormalities.

Are you a woman of self worth? Do you believe you have the passion to make positive change in this nation? Do you think you have great inner drive to make lasting impacts in the society.?
If you answer yes to the questions above, then it is time to come out of the crowd. It is time to start your journey towards realising your dream.
Drop your mobile number to join our whatsapp group.

Adenike from Osun, 08034198862

This man can not be a good husband, quote me. Run for your dear life except you want to continue like dis in marriage. Every responsible man strive to meet d needs his wife and children. A word is enough for d wise. Most Nairalanders are wicked.

And Aregbe was shouting that he constructed FG road. Aregbe is a scam, we don't enter one chance ooo. Justice Oloyede is being vindicated.

One day, Nigeria women will be the determining factor of the stability of this nation. We will never beg for relevance, but a time will come wen my fellow women will wake up from their slumber and realise that with our population strength, we can make a thunderous and united voice that all will be forced to listen to.

1) open another kerosene depot IJN
2) become a known figure in my community for impacting d lives of women and children positively
3) author two papers, one in the area of computational linguistics and the another one on the role of civil societies in national development.
4) start kids readers club.
Amen!!!

In 2012, most Nigerians did not fully comprend d complexity of subsidy. Fast forward to 2015, I think we now fully comprehend d concept(many thanks to Barcanista).
Secondly, we all know dt Jonathan was not able to remove the subsidy, but reduced it by 32 naira per liter of fuel. This he claimed to to reinvest in SURE- P project, but little results. Most of the funds was squandered.
To balance the argument, PMB also came to power with false campaign promises, because I believe he didn't know the reality on ground. I think PMB should apologise to all Nigerians for changing his campaign promises and go ahead with the subsidy removal. Nigerians should never be taken for granted.
Subsidy removal is d best way to go!
My country shall be great!

jackpot:
hmm. You need a slave, not a man.

So sad a fellow woman is still mentally enslaved. I can bet it with all I have dat you don't know where you are going in life. How old are you? Obviously, you are not married, and have little on hand experience of what marriage is . You need to learn from d elders dear!

naijainfogalery:
If a man is scared of you cos you have a car, then you dont even deserve that kinda man. Like i do say to people. If i earn N400,000 and my wife earns 2,000,000 monthly. BY Gods grace, i will still be giving her pocket money, i will be paying school fees etc

Its only a man with inferiority complex that feels such.

Better man! We need more men like you in Africa.

DeeTus:
Haha. She wasn't enjoying it. That is why it's always good to romance a woman for couple of minutes and make her so wet before the main thing.

This guy has answered your question perfectly...... it is not about the duration of s$x but the quality of the the pre-intimacy romance.

Sis, I truly understand what you are going true. Just be very careful. You know you complained earlier that he already lost some weight. Pls be careful with him, lest he breaks down.He is still your husband, you know.
You starved him of food last night, pls if you are awake now, I will suggest you wake him up now, go down on your knees and beg him. Let him see d reason why you took DT action, and the need to rise up again and provide for his family.

Let me confess to you that I am personally going through d same experience you are undergoing. It is not easy @ all. Such men tend to often make one seem wicked. I feel your pain sis!

yebo36:
Thank you. This is exactly what the elderly man told me this evening. I didn't know i had so much pain in me until i was narrating my ordeal.

He warned me not to complain and be careful who i share this with, he also told me something funny - he said i should start alternating the meals i cook for him. He said that way, he will start feeling uncomfortable. Trust me, started it this evening. I only made what the kids will eat.

mavany:
Lazy laid back men, and when I opened a thread on how to motivate a partner that doesn't have the drive to succeed , some akata's wan kill me.
Letting go of my ex was the best decision.
Seems laziness has become popular for men of this generation.
Just imagining myself putting up same post as OP some years down.
Chukwu aju!!!!!

Lucky you you took d right decision. I wish you gud luck in your search of an ideal partner. A man with a strong inner drive to succeed in life.

Very touching! It is well.......

Use KY jelly. The two of you should rub the gel. You may have to use it repeatedly until you overcome the tightiness. I wz in your shoes 8yrs ago, always scared of sex because of anticipated pains. I wasn't pregnant until 4months later after a doctor recommended the lubricant for me.

Firstly, I think it is insensitive of any man to allow his wife to be practically wrecked out, and still do nothing. Why is d love you said you have? If she were to be your blood sister, will you allow her to undergo this? Not all men are like this. I think it start from their backgrounds, I mean how they are raised. Any man that feel so big should make the job easier by buying washing machine or hiring housemaid.

Are you sure she loves you? Your marriage is too young to be experiencing this emotional trauma. This is not time to quarrel or fight, but time to have a real heart to heart discussion with her. If she doesn't love you, let her follow her heart. Life is too short to continue in a relationship that keeps draining joy from somebody. I think you deserved to be loved truly!
If you are sure she still loves you, you may have to beef up your romantic game with her. Woman are emotional beings, and we like to be cuddled and treated as new found love. You also need to close the long distance in your marriage.

Gud to know we were born on d same day. Today is also my birthday! Always celebrating with d nation. Hpy birthday to us. May we receive help to soar like eagles this year IJN.

Davedoz:
Exactly!!!! That was the last thread I saw, out of the many I've been seeing, that inspired this thread!

Now, lemi tell you how to attend to the Young Lady (not the B-word you used). Before, I say another thing I want to state emphatically that, IT IS WRONG FOR HER TO CONTINUE THAT RELATIONSHIP, WHETHER, DATING OR MARRIAGE!!!! Its a big NO NO!!! I just conspicuously declared my stand on the matter!
So, how do you now help her? Ok, lemi start by asking you that, do you know that the lady was the victim? She met a guy, HER SPEC, all she needs in a man (do you know how important that is?), they BOTH fell inlove with each other, all of a sudden the dude comes with a heart breaking story of having a family and the inconsiderate guy still wants her to be part of a polygamous family! My dear, if we wanna do some bashing, do you know who deserves it? Yes of course, you're right, its the married man. If I wanna bash that young lady at all, my reason will be that, she brought it to NL. Fully aware of how we "can be" here! Anyways, its still hard to blame her for that, sef. Because you can expect anything from a downcast, depressed and perplexed young lady!

I'll end this long reply with this... Please, before you bash anyone, do two things:
1. Always selflessly, completely and sincerely put yourself in that person shoes
2. Always remember that no one is perfect, we all have our shortcomings. And at one point or the other we will make or own mistakes.

Wow! You are d best. I appreciate your intelligence and wisdom. I have come to understand that it doesn't take decade to radiate one's true identity. I could see a good counsellor and great shoulder to lean on in you! Your spouse is lucky.

Back to d topic, responses of most nairalanders reflect our level of maturity. I have seen d effect of negative words in my personal life, and I have made a vow DT I will never attack somebody with my words. There are many ways of passing across your message without raining abuses. I will recommend '7 Habits of highly effective people' to anyone who want to learn the act of empathic listening.

@eyitayo, were you in skannet Ibadan? Your face sounds familiar.

eyinjuege:
Well, just to encourage you OP, a lot of families go through this. Like most homes where the family income is from one person, its tough and can be frustrating when you see bills mounting up and you feel stretched beyond your elastic limit.
You however have to keep it going. Is it possible for you guys to get a personal loan from a family for your husband to start something? It doesn't even have to be so much, or better still does he have business ideas he can discuss with people that can help him finance it albeit they share the proceeds? He should istart thinking of proposals after doing some feasibility studies/ that's his own homework and you'll be surprised that some people can actually buy into his dream.
Meanwhile, on your oown part, you have to start thinking of how you can make progress in your career and extra things you can do to make more money because your family needs it. I know it can be a bit annoying to see that you are the only one struggling to cater for the family, I think it's a normal reaction because even some men that their wives are not working are irritated with the woman for this reason especially when their hustles are barely enough to get the family going. But its just a phase and with a lot of encouragement and brain storming the other party can find their feet.
All the best sha. It's a tough world out there.

Thanks dearie. You made nice suggestions. The wife is a PhD student in OAU. She hopes to get a lecturing job sooonest. God bless you!

tpiander:
who is insulting the woman nitori Oloun!!!!!!

you opened a thread with a very insulting thread title and you still want to play the victim!

grow up, jeez!!!!!!!

we should come and rain abuse on the husband because of your imaginary or otherwise story, abi?

look at yourself before you start threatening people, stop being an i.diot!

Where is d threat?
I think maturity should make you know dt you don't need to rain abuse, before you pass your message across. Anyway, Childish attitudes like dis are expected. This is naira land, most folks are below 30yrs and have very little understanding of life.

Thanks so much for d responses so far. For those insulting d woman, I sincerely pray neither you nor or sisters will find yourselves in her shoe. It is he who wears d shoes DT knows where it pinches.
Lessons learnt so far:
1) he may be depressed, she needs to understand him and keep motivating him.
2) love and respect him
3) This is a phase, it will soon fade away.
4) She should never insult him.
5) Stop giving him money DT could bring troubles to her later.

Eseee pupo! Thanks a lot.

Pls matured responses only!
He is a man DT claims to love and care for his family. He has 3 children. He only goes exramile to provide for their needs when the wife is financially low. He lost his job 3yrs ago, but does not take initiative to provide for them once d wife is able to carry on. He stopped searching for job because none was forthcoming. Children will soon resume school, he does not bother because his wife' s father will pay their school fees on his behalf. Whenever the woman raise this issue , he will stop eating in the woman's food, and will source for money to cook food for himself alone. She has reported him to his family, with no positive change. None of the husband's family members has helped in anyway. Only d wife's family support them.
How can the wife get him more proactive?. The wife is doing biz with a loan she took from cooperative. The man still collects money from the woman. The woman is indebted, yet her husband does not care. The burden is too heavy for her to bear. Pls what is the way out of this situation? Your matured response could go a long way in relieving her. Thanks.