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Troubleking:
we aren't expecting you to pay. We understand that the majority of ladies can only offer what is between their legs, and it's often to the highest bidder. That's all those ladies have to offer... They can't ever part with money... Ever!

Better change, both your attitude and your diet. There are a few respectable ladies who see the danger of eating random guys' money and they avoid it. Be like them. Don't come and complain tomorrow that one guy wanted to do this or that to you after he bought you food and you swallowed everything because you thought it's free.

So if a woman doesn't offer to pay on the first date, Would you assume the bolded about her?

dollyjoy:
Any guy that expects me to pay on a date he invite me is on a longggggggggg thing.

I won't pay!!!

Why not?

Divay22:
To avoid stories that touch,nobody should pay for anybody......pay yourself wat you ate.....

Fair enough.

There are markers we all check for when going out with someone for the first time. One of those markers wouldn't be if a man would pay for you, no?

stan241:
Why would you as a guy take a lady on a date and not pay?

How do you verify she's not using you for a free meal?

KissChrix:
Pay for what your partner eats

So you think the bill should be spilt?

Going along with the BKchat topics, another issue that came up was 'Who should pay on the first date?'

Honestly speaking Ladies and Gentlemen, Who should pay for the first date. General consensus of the ladies on the episode was that the man should pay. The men all claimed they'd pay for the first date but expect sexual favours as a result. Do you agree? They didn't think the expectation of the men paying wasn't right and as they pay for the date they watch the lady to see if she'll offer to pay to determine what type of woman she is.

Can we try to keep this intellectual and respect other people's opinions. One can rebuttal but keep it respectful please. Thank you.

majour:
Interesting topic guys, applauds to everyone who has replied honestly

For me, what makes a woman special to me is compatibility, am at the age where I want to get settled soon and my present gf is a virgin, but she isn't what I want in a woman, she doesn't blend with my view of a wife, she isn't spontaneous, as a man who has experienced life through school and service, I want a woman who can challenge my being, a woman who can make me feel complete and it all boil down to compatibility, not the number of men a woman has slept with

Ironically, every man wud not deny dey want a spontaneous woman, who makes them go gaga but u see its different experience in life that has made her matured enough to be this perfect bin, sex to me isn't the in thing, its a spice, which for me is an addiction, either way, what happens after the sex is what makes a man choose to keep u at home, some women have the sex to offer and that's all, some hardly engage u in reasonable conversation or desire the need to push u forward, don't know if am making sense to you but this is my little bit. I've called my girl after church and talked to her as I've always done, she says she will change but believe u me, body count or no, if I meet the woman I seek, am home

That's an interesting perspective.

So as long as she has what you're looking for in a woman and there's chemistry, it wouldn't bother you at all that she may have been with several men in the past? This is not in comparison to a woman you don't have a spark with, just in general. Body count wouldn't be a deciding factor at all?

iykedare:
Cc berlynn.

This post is referring to women not men. Be smart.

This post is meant for everyone.

Benita27:
Because the life of a woman and that of a man are totally different, there is nothing like gender equality, and even those who fight to uphold it know there are things a man can do that a woman shouldn't.

For instance, a guy who slept with as much women as he pleases will any day and time pick a virgin for a wife.
While a girl who slept with as much men as she pleases will have her pussy as wide as river Niger...it's always a win-win for the guys here, they have nothing to lose.

Well that's biologically incorrect.

So you think when it comes to body count, only a woman's should matter? Women should keep their body count low whereas, men should do as they please?

macfish101:
I believe u r a Lady, that was why I was very careful not to push my comment to the gender equality ish that you ladies are so sensitive too, that was why I said spouse, which could be either male or female. its a personal thing, 3 could be high for some and low for some. Personally, am on 2 and am almost 30years, I hope to end on 3. so for me, 3 is high enough whether u are a guy or a girl..... its a personal issue.

I'm completely unbiased regardless of my gender. You can be honest.

Okay got it. .

Benita27:
It doesn't matter.
I wouldn't ask a guy how many girls he has been with, but if he out of his own will says have dated 30 girls so far, then i will see him as one of those spontaneous dudes to have dated 30 girls, and of course we all want spontaneity in our relationships.

For a girl i wouldn't say same cos moderation is key.

Really? Spontaneity. Interesting.

Why would you not hold the same standard for a woman?

Raine80:
There is a lot of things that happen in foreign lands many things I have witnessed and most have robbed people of their dignity and survival trumphs over self worth.

Like what?

Nma27:
Sure... High body cOunt means nofin to me

For both men and women?

macfish101:
You can't attach a numeric figure to this as a standard..... but we all know that there is an amount of body count ur spouse might have had and u will be forced to take a second look at him or her. Like, am I not getting married an osho free prostitute?? so, its a personal thing, some like the numbers high, I like mine very low. Thank you.

Okay that's fine. Let's say you consider 3 to be a high body count for example, would you apply the same for men? Would you think 3 was too high for a man too?

Intrepid01:
Bros...no one has the right to determine when it's okay or too much for anyone...I can only determine that for my own life, do you get?

But as a lady or a guy you should know that no one wants a partner that compares you with others as a result of substantial experience....note that it comes with experience even when not intended.

I think we should all preach dignity, abstinence.....A lady shoulnt allow a guy have her until she's certainly certain that he'll marry her.

And a man? A man shouldn't allow a woman to have him until he's certain she will marry him?

Intrepid01:
Obviously the intellectual point in the conversation you didn't get....bye

I didn't mean to come off a rude. I was just trying to understand. The first part of the discussion was what number would you consider a high body count. Since you didn't give one, I just wanted to clarify that you don't think there is one.

macfish101:
Why would I marry a lady whose piussy is very popular in the neighbourhood....... Its quite embarrassing u know..... I have a cousin, whose wife was my friend's ex and ex to a lot of dudes I know.....but my cousin married her without knowing that his wife was a konji killer in the zone. Well, I hope he never founds out.

Okay. What's the number you would consider high then?

Intrepid01:
Who am I to say no on the body count.....I am no saint myself. ...Listen , my point is this; we should all have some dignity. ...both male and female.

So there's no limit for you? There's no number that you'll draw a line at and say that's not okay?

Splinz:
What difference does body count makes in one's choice of partner?

I think to some extent, it does really matters. For example, religious people will always go for their partners on the banner of virgins.

So, body count will always be a case of choices between two disagreeing sides- those who think it matters and those who think it doesn't.

Of course. As is with most discussions.

The question is more about how body count is perceived within gender.

Intrepid01:
I can see people of like minds consoling each other on this thread. It is true that no one owes anyone the way he or she chooses to live his or her life.....but having self worth, dignity and value for self important recipe of LIVING....

Your body count shows the kind of person you are and you should attract like minds.

Okay.

I'm assuming it's a no on the body count then? Do you have this opinion of both men and women?

dollyjoy:
Actually, Men lie alot about that, there is no way A man who passes through secondary/tertiary institution would look a lady in the eyes and come out plain with that.

Everyone wants to be seen as morally upright.

In what sense do men lie about it in your opinion? As in, do they increase or decrease it?

So would you correlate body count and morality together? If yes, would you correlate them equally? Meaning, do you think it's just as bad/good for one gender to have a certain body count as another?

Gratefulsoul:
I won't be bothered at all cos I love her and its obvious she needs help which she can only get from someone that cares.. Sleeping with 100 guys isn't the issue her but the circumstances that led to the act is what I will try to work on.. Probably I will have to show her that she can be happy and comfortable with just one man who can love her in over 1000 ways...

Okay.

Would you also be comfortable enough to disclose your body count as a man?

eph12:
It will never come up in the first instance. But if it does as you say I will take her words totally for it. I think I've grown past that age where we have to play games. If I can't trust her words what am I doing with her?

I only made that statement for people that are so much fixed on the past and would want to make researches upon researches. To what end?

Okay fair enough.

Say she casually mentions you're the 30th guy she's been with. Would it turn you off at all? And how would you behave on the flip side, if the lady you're courting enquiries about your body count, would you be comfortable with telling her?

dollyjoy:
This question is very very funny. No reasonable person would come out plain, you only believe what she/he want you to believe.



My bro once said that all the ladies he do come across either got disvirgined by circumstances or have just two body count. I laugh!

Can you expand on what you mean by no reasonable person would come out plain with ones body count? Thus implying you believe it's unreasonable. Why do you think so?

Do you think men do the same? That is, make change their body count?

Gratefulsoul:
Those she slept with before we met is immaterial to our relationship and should be left in the past where it belongs... What matters most is that am the only one she's counting now..
hope my comment is fair enough..

Fair enough.

It wouldn't bother you at all if the lady you were courting casually mentions you were the 30th guy she's been with?

eph12:
How many people don't have high body count these days? It's better to assume the possibility and accept it instead of choosing to believe lies and living in denial.

Can you expantiate? You mean, if it did come up and she said she's only had maybe 2 you'd automatically assume it's a lie?

Could we have an intellectual discussion on body count and how relevant they are in today's society?

Body count basically refers to how many people a person has slept with.
If anyone watches BKchat (a YouTube series that discusses issues in society from the point of view of men vs women. It's quite popular in the U.K. and Europe), the controversial topic of body counts was discussed. This of course raised a lot questions on gender equality. So, bringing the same question to Nigeria, What would you consider a high body count and would that be an important factor in choosing a wife/husband?

In the BKchat episode, there was a general consensus with the men that it was okay for a man to have a high body count because men, more than women, can detach their feelings from sex. Do you agree? Why?

Can we try to keep this intellectual and respect other people's opinions. One can rebuttal but keep it respectful please. Thank you.