arthurwillia:
Elderly man no Dey lie lol the biggest lie wey I don hear today
Make all of Una get out
Nobody don ever see him own brother Abi father wey die
Na Person dead body Una Dey see. If you move madt here I go give you your size

I'm not telling you to believe me. If you like believe me, if you like don't believe me it's your choice. But what I want you to know is that I wouldn't gain anything if I pull out a lie for everyone to read.

I pray you don't encounter something mysterious because it would be very hard for you to share your experience. Some people will also think you're telling lies if you try to share your experience.

Life is full of mysteries. Science can not explain some certain things to you. Many people have encountered mysteries but they're not bold enough to share their experiences because people might think they are delusional or hallucinating.

https://www.nairaland.com/7404024/saw-dead-family-friend-two

I was reading @Onetenth thread about how he saw a dead family friend and his story made me flashed back to my own experience I witnessed. This reincarnation of a thing is very real. The spiritual controls the natural.

I'm an elderly man and I will not lie to you. God is my witness. I had to take my precious time to type this so what will I gain if I lie to everyone reading this.

This happened 16 years ago (2006) in Ilorin Kwara State. Infact it was my Boss that died. I was learning tailoring in his shop back then.

It was on a Tuesday morning 7:15am when I took my bucket to go fetch water outside close to a mosque opposite my house. As I was dragging the water from the well I saw my boss walking pass the mosque then I greeted him saying daddy Yusuf good morning Sir, he didn't respond to my greetings. I was like daddy Yusuf I'm greeting you oo! He didn't reply he was just walking down the street.

I wasn't really bothered about him not replying my greetings because I know las las we go still meet for shop. And I will also jokingly ask him what he was doing around my street as early as that. Becus normally we do gist and play.

So, getting to the shop around 8:30am that morning, one of my fellow apprentice told me that Oga Yusuf is dead, that he died yesterday evening and he was buried same evening.

First of all I pushed him in his chest telling him not to utter something like that again that I saw Oga Yusuf this morning walking pass my street, I even greeted him.

Immediately I ran to his house, I saw people gathered mourning, I saw his wife and she explained same thing to me that he died yesterday 6pm and was buried same yesterday. He complained of serious headache before he gave up.

I even told them I saw daddy Yusuf this morning, I greeted but he didn't answer, he was walking pass my house going down the street. Some believed me some didn't.

That Monday when he died, he left the shop 2pm, he said he was going home to rest that he had severe headache. We all thought is something paracetamol could cure.

Felimax:


They will not, why should they when they know you can take a drastic action towards yourself but I will not treat you with kids glove. We have seen lots of similar cases when the man end up maltreating the child.
You are not demanding for the child because of the love you have for her but because of your hidden agenda. I know your types.
The only thing I have to tell you is leave that child for the mother and continue to contribute your best for her up keep. If you like take if you like leave.
If your wife was to be your sister would have allowed her to be so humiliated?
Think! Think sir!

Me? Maltreat my child? God forbid! Infact my daughter must be feeling my absence wherever she is now.

What do you mean by I have an hidden agenda? You're not serious, you know absolutely nothing.... You read similar cases doesn't make you feel I have an hidden agenda.

How do you want me to contribute to her up keep, when I can even reach her on phone, talk more of sending her money and items. I don't know her whereabout

Good day sir.

Felimax:


Oga, that child has a right please. At that age you are not entitled to that child for crying out loud. You better calm your boiling nerves so you can think straight.

Is this all you have to say? Even Human rights didn't utter such statements to me.

Anyway thanks for your advice.

Felimax:

You be man, you see your fellow man you nor fit fight am collect your daughter back.

Be completely remorseful and humble yourself and you will see your family back anything short of that go and get another family.

So, you expect me to fight with a military man? Do I look like someone who makes mouth on social media?

Well, I don't blame you.... You don't even know what it takes to raise a child

Felimax:
At four years what do you want to do with the poor girl? You must be a very wicked man.
You are not entitled to that child at that age whether you are working or not.

Hello, what are you saying? Is my child I'm talking about here.

advanceDNA:
economy will hit them...whoever is bankrolling her will start to para..... relax...them go soon call you...

it happened to my uncle...his wife left with four kids....i was just laughing ..fulltime house wife that has not pay for pampers for one day.....

like you, we reported to the police.. arrested the mother in law.. she ddnt snitch..they had to let her go because she was hypertensive...

recently...na she waka come back asking for child support....her mother came with her calling my uncle wicked....they have arranged that the kids will be with their father from Friday and return to their mother Sunday evening for school...

Thank you sir.

But the thing is, I'm not even getting any signal that she will come back... Days and months are counting. Soon it's gonna be years and I don't wish that to happen.

My friend wanted to gather boys, go straight to my wife's family house and help me snatch my daughter away from them... then send my daughter back to me.

But I told him not to use such format, that he could be sued for kidnapping, besides she's no longer at her family's house anymore. I don't even know her whereabout.

Her parents and her brother don't want to even see me.

Good day Nigerians.

My wife and I had issues sometime around December last year till January this year when she ran to her parent's house to stay without telling me. I know I was at fault, I have gone to apologize several times but she refused to forgive me.

Okay! Hand over my child to me, let me take my responsibility and play my fatherly role in her life, but she refused.

This Sunday may 1st, will make it 5 months I've not set my eyes on my daughter. April 2 was my daughter's 4th birthday, I couldn't even reach her to wish her happy birthday not to talk of sending her money.

It's been 2 months now my wife's phone is switched off. She off her phone purposely because of the way I'm agitating to get my child back.

I've reported to human rights at igando, Lagos State, they called and wrote petition to my wife but she refused to honor it. I also reported to the police and radio FM but they couldn't help me because her phone is switched off since then. I don't know her whereabout, she's no longer in her parents house.

My wife's elder brother who is a lieutenant in the Nigeria Navy is the bread winner in my wife's family, I'm sure he knows her whereabout.

I went to Abuja with my Dad and my people to meet him. He sent us away right from his gate. I felt so embarrassed.

It's 5 months now, but soon it would be counting years Pls Help me. My wife is frustrating me, I can't sleep at night, I'm always thinking and restless, @11pm I'm still in a beer palour drinking my life away. I'm fading away.

All I need is my daughter, if my wife don't want to forgive me.. No problem, but give me my daughter. My wife will contaminate my daughter's mind to hate me if things goes on like this. Please help me.

Nigerians please help me.
Government please help me.

silibaba:


Help you how?

Financially or you need advice?

If she stay pass 2months for her parents place, call me anything.

Just ignore she and her family. Pretend like you have moved on with your life and give me report later.

Go and work on yourself sexually. I never see any girl or wife that will abandon her man if he is an expatriate in bed.

No one is worth dying for.

SIMP

Please I'm not asking anyone for money here and why're you calling me a Simp?

Just because I needed my wife back home?? It's my wife I married legally I'm talking about here.

socialmediaman:
Dude, everything is not all about you! Give your wife the space she wants. If she denied you sex for 2 months, she’s not coming back to give it to you after what you did to her.

Your daughter belongs to you according to Nigeria’s laws, if your wife doesn’t come back, use legal options and get your daughter back.

If she needed space, that's not a problem. I don't mind buying food outside and I promise not to ask her for sex But let her just come home. Let's talk things. She haven't said a word to me.

Ahmed0336:
Bros, you have done all is needed of a Gentleman. You made a mistake, had apologize to her and her family and most importantly you are remorsed about that act.

If I may, what was her reason(s) for sex starving you? What were her parents stand regarding it?

Oga no stress yourself, if she wan stay with her parents let her be.
If her parents want to change your daughter's school just to wicked you let them do it.

Use this time to develop yourself and save more. Peace!!!!

Sir, she did not tell me her reasons,
how would I know, when I'm not a witch.

I'm also sure it's because of that incident, that's why her parents are acting up. She might as well add some lies.. Who knows.

Seriously I'm so depressed.

I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

It's not easy to deal with addictions, especially womanizing.

I suggest you:
1. Attend a catholic church, confess your sins and pray to God for forgiveness

2. Don't invite any female friends to your house again, if you do, you will be tempted to have sex with her.

3. Focus more on your job. You're an architect and I know how constructive you job is.

I believe you will over this addiction.

socialmediaman:
Does this even sound real? I believe you should ask for forgiveness if you want her to forgive you right?

I have apologized. I even bought a little gift along side but I saw them inside the trash nylon bag when I came back from work.

I haven't eaten good meal for some days now. Just meat-pie and juice or indomie.

I don't know what to do. I'm truly sorry about my actions.

Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.