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when a man was married in a traditional marriage does he need to divorce to be legally free from the marriage?
I met this guy who was married in a traditional wedding and hes trying to tell me he doesn't have to divorce he just left the marriage. Is he still legally married to this women?

she was a school mate of his, they both have been done with school now for 3-4 years. Not everyone who has had a bad relationship needs help. Sometimes shit happens.
No this dude never returned a dime of my money and I would like to meet just 1 scammer who has returned money he has ripped off from a innocent person. Give me a break!
It's not about any of you influencing me at all, its a decision I have made based on what was going on in this relationship. I would still like to meet him face to face, and if I ever visit Nigeira I will make sure it happens.

no I am not married. I decided to not meet this dude after all. I spoke with one of his college mates and it was not good! She said she used to do his school paperwork while him and a bunch of his friends would be in the internet cafe all night. I guess is he is still a scammer!!

the last 2 posts I am agreeing with. He is now 29 years old by the way. Since I joined this forum it has brought back up bad seeded memories of what happened and I am having a hard time with this again. I have come to the fact that I can forgive but not forget. I don't trust him and never will. Hell with wanting to meet him, it's not worth reliving this horrible experience again.

fugley anything I say is not directed at anyone but YOU!! I can tell what type of person you are, you are so simple minded and revealing. Your stories flip flop like a fish out of water.
It's sad you call a women of 34 yrs of age old. You must be like 13? You sure act like it! Come on, grow up and drop your balls would ya?
No guys and gals, this is a true story. If you heard the first 6 months of the story you would say YES, this should be make into a movie. I don't know what a 419 scam is, I was NOT promised money from someone who died, none of that applies.
I was contacted by the Dr. Phil show to come on and expose Nigerian scammers but I declined the show. He was even gonna send me to Nigeria with body guards but again, I declined.
One person cannot fix the whole problem, the countries government needs to step in and jail these dudes.

wow, some people need to find a forum so they can verbally abusive others and to make themself feel good.
Mudley, why are you such an angry person and so nasty
I feel sorry for you, really I do!

For everyone else here, thanks so much for your comments and opinions!! Not sure this trip will even happen.
Thats why my name is "NOT SURE".

I am feeling sad about the comment you made about Nigerian girls with scammers. How can anyone who believes in god go spend money that was stolen from another? As long as a Nigerian man ahs money it doesn't matter where they got it from?

Someone tell me thats not the norm!!

madlady, why don't you defend women here? If you act like a monkey your going to be called a monkey. Simple!!

yea I can tell your educated, especially when you say ain't!  BROTHA did you pass the 1st grade or did you have to quit school cause your mama was a LovePeddler!!

OMG FUGLY!! thanks for the laughs. Yea, the whole world fits into one box right? I'd like to know how old you are by the way? I am 34 and you increase my age with every post so by the end of the week I shall be 40?
Go ahead and think that older women are targets but I have proved you wrong. I have not been scammed twice, get off the crack and read!! I know your a getto trash monkey who should be caged. Don't flatter yourself thinking the black man is so good in bed. Any jack rabbit can ****! You must of gottten ass raped in the past you are so hostile and angry. Perhaps a good masterbation session will ease all your stress since you are such a ugly monkey no one would want you. Don't be jealous cause you can't get any of this, look in the mirror and blame your mama for fucking her father and producing a maget for a son. It will be alright. Next time you take a bath just hold your head in the water and drown yourself. Do the world a favor. 1 less maget on this earth!!

you people relax - no one is gonna fool me again, believe me when I say that. I just wanna meet him and hang out after all these years. I would also like to come to Nigeria and see my friends I have made these past years, have met some wonderful guys, and women also who I call friends.
To meet my scammer and look him in the eyes is something I need to do!! Hopefully this trip will pan out and we will get to meet. I have alot to say to him.

My post was if anyone here has had a relationship with a scammer!  Just because I am secure enough to post this question does not give people the right to insult and call me names.
You know nothing about me, what I look like or anything about my life.  I did not get where I am today because I have a lack of intelligence.  I am a very successful business women who has many oportunities to date american men, believe me!

NOBODY AND I MEAN NOBODY DESERVES TO BE SCAMMED AND LIED TO.  I DON'T CARE WHAT THE SITUATION IS!No job, etc, whatever.  They can find a honest way to make money or can chat and steal, it's up to the person to do the right thing in god's eyes.
 
Fugley says its the white women's fault.  OMG how ignorant can you be?  Every walk of life have been scammed - Doctors, Lawyers, women, men, it has nothing to do with intelligence or that we deserved it.  Stop giving Nigerians, Russians, and China an excuse for their behavior.  No one has tarnished their reputation but the Nigerians!!!  Why don't the people do something about it rather then turn their head
How many of you pass the internet cafe's and turn your head?  They have a sense of entitlement that makes me sick.  Us americans work very hard for the money we earn and doesn't give some lazy ass Nigerian the right to think he is entitled to some.  Get off your lazy ass and look for work!!

I am curious fugley what you do for a living?  Pregnate women and let them collect welfare benefits  Keep on trying to spude your insults.  After 5 years and having many nigerian friends I know the people very well.  Your just  a nasty bitter person for some reason with bottled up anger that you have to take it out on poor innocent victims on a forum.
I know your kind very well and pity you loser!!

busybody he did try and come here like 3-4 years ago and he was denied a visa. I emailed the American embassy and that was confirmed by them.

not sure yet when we will meet. In the meantime I live my life and will be going on a date next sat. We are planning to meet in October but right now he's doing this community service thing in Nigeria. Will keep you posted on our vacation, we are planning to meet in Dubai.

well he fits the bill with a name Mudley. A cross between dirt and a dog who has so many mixtures you don't know what the heck it is. You are a dirty monkey with anger issues, you must know all about medications, wonder how many you are on!!
Why are you here on this site when all you do is insult people and throw out your spue. Your useless here, go crawl back to the hole you were hatched.

seriously if you want to help someone you don't insult them and call them nasty stuff. You are really trash and to think you have all this nasty anger and live in the U.S? God help your neighbors!!

Moogley or Muttley or muttface - I think you are the racist and if you have a problem with white people you can go back to the hole where you were born!!

Femmy - this dude is calling you a scammer
Quote from: femmy2010 on Today at 12:09:18 AM
Notsure,its a thing of the mind and i wish u the very best.


ofcourse you're gonna encourage her when you yourself are involved in the same yahoo-yahoo business. ewu

Mudley, who the **** do you think your talking to? You sure are starting to piss me off with your huge hole you call of a mouth. Listen suka, I am not old, I am 34. I am not ugly you piece of crap that you are, and 117 lbs is not fat you sack of shit. So shut your big trap door idiot. Where do you get off talking to people like you do?
Did one of these scammers **** you in the butt one time or what? You seriously have issues. You are a embarassment here, why don't you crawl back under the rock you came from. Are you jealous cause your such a loser? You talk like I was born yesterday. I have been married before to a man I met on the internet. I went through the immigration process and brought him here. Been there done that. He was egyptian not Nigerian. Not everyone dies for a green card and the process here takes time. It's not handed to you. It's not about sex, it's not about a green card. If the time does come, I will handle it the intelligent way and if ANY man wants to leave me, I will gladly open the door and kick their ass out. No man will take advantage of me ever again. AND, by the way, he's not the most handsome dude I have known so don't think your men are all that cause they are not.

wow you guys spin my head around. You all have been great with very good advice with the exception of 1 bitter soul who just feels he needs to insult and get nasty to get his point across. Wow, glad I'm not his partner getting verbally abused by him.
If and when the time does come, this is America. My assets are protected and IF I EVER marry again I will do a pre-nuptual agreement that states he gets nothing of my assets which I have now. I'm not dumb. He was the first person I ever chatted with on the internet and did not know these things happen. People posting fake pictures WOW! I learned about the internet the hard way, by getting hurt financially and emotionally. We are all humans and no one is perfect.
If the meeting does happen I will certainly be prepared. I do trust him but will keep my eyes wide open. If I have any issues with him I will get the police involved but it's not gonna happen. We are about each other and after 5 years it's time we meet and talk face to face. I am not scared of him or anybody, he's 1 human being.
This isn't about self esteem mogley or whatever your name is, it's about having long time feelings for another human being who made a mistake in his life and has moved on to be a better person.

he's 28 now and we are 6 yrs apart. We plan on meeting in another country and he will pay for his ticket and I will pay for mine. He is working now and has been working for years. He stopped scamming years ago but then again I am not there so don't know 100% other then I can tell he doesn't have much money, he's surviving.
Their is ways I can tell, by what he can buy, what clothes he wears, jewelery he might wear, the car he drives.
None of these things are fancy. Definately is a complicated situation for me because I am dealing with being hurt, and dealing with the feelings I have for him. He's a wonderful guy and has been by my side offering support and being there for me no matter what. Scammers are human beings with emotions too. Not all of them are cold hearted. People make mistakes in life and will have to answer to god one day. I am not here to pass judgement.
FYO - I am a successful educated women who owns her own business and home.

she roped you in and she never told you she was married? Just think of her children and do the right thing. Don't see her anymore. If her husband finds you together you might end up dead.
If she's cheating on him, she will cheat on you also. You will never be able to trust her. Look last the looks and do the right thing before someone gets hurt.

Hey Mudley - isn't that a dog's name?

know you came here to hopefully hear what you'd like to hear but sorry, i tell it like it is and sorry if it got your feelings hurt; its called "reality", ever heard of that?. . .why wont the scammer hold unto communication with an obvious mugu through countless emails et al over the lure of life abroad and green card? if you were in anyway close to the word attractive you'd have had countless "real life" suitors within that 5 year span instead of holding on to the illusions of love with an obvious scammer whom you've never met in your life. . .you most definitely got serious issues and need professional help. . .i said it once and i'll say it again: you're most probably an ugly old hag and a morbidly obese skank with a frightening case of low self esteem. . .both of you deserve eachother. ewu

all these oyibo girls dey craze nor be small. you even have the ones who claim to be in love with serial killers like jeffrey dammer and that dutch boy that murdered some american chic and just committed another murder in chile


**Can you read ok? If you read my first post it was asking if anyone here had a realtionship with a scammer. I did not come here for approval as I don't know anyone here or do I need to be verbally abused by someone who has a dog's name. I have plenty of american men who want to take me out and have been married in those 5 years also. How can you be so ignorant to compare a scammer to a cerial killer? Your not the brightest crayon in the box 4 sure

smh. where i'm from, people who get scammed are called mugus (foolish person); someone in this your situation would probably be called the muguest of the mugus. . .guess you must have heard the saying "fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me". you must be fat, old and ugly to be this desperate. . .anyway sha, follow your heart, MAGA

[b]Hey Mudley [/b] - if I wanted to hear from an a**hole I'd fart. I wasn't born yesterday, don't you think 5 years of knowing this nigerian man and countless phone calls back and forth, countless chat conversations, countless emails I know what a MAGA means? I am blond, 34 yrs old and 117 lbs from California by the way. Bet your some ugly *** the way you talk to people.

Timothy - thanks for your kind advice and having an open mind. I tried to add u on yahoo but said it was invalid address.

if his feelings were fake then wouldn't he of moved on and not spoken with me any longer once the scam is over? I know this isn't the place to ask these types of questions but when u go to these scammer websites they hate all nigerians and are so against them.

when we met he pretended to be a english guy from england.  This went on for months while he was scamming me.  Like 4-5 months.  I was new on the internet and never chatted before, he found me on my space.  After the 5 months he disappeared for like 2-3 weeks then came on yahoo and sent me an offline message saying their was something he needed to tell me.  That he did truly love me but he was a black man from Nigeria, not 40, but 24 yrs old.  We worked through the scammming issues and have remained extremely close throughout all these years now.

it was like 4 1/2 yrs ago and he has not asked me for money since then. I even married another man to try and get him off my mind but it didn't work. I have this stong desire to meet him after all these years. He has been by my side and and we cannot get each other off our minds. I feel that I love him and he tells me all the time he loves me. This is very hard for me! I feel like it's something I have to do.

has anyone here been scammed and ended up in a relationship with their scammer? Perhaps married their scammer? I have had a relationship one line with this dude now for almost 5 years and we are planning to meet finally in another country. Can a scammer actually fall in love with their victim? He says he regrets it and wishes it never happened but it did happen. I have forgiven him but feel this need to meet him after all these years.