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emmaodet:
An unsuccessful woman still gets treated like a woman.

An uneducated woman still gets treated like a woman.

A broke woman still gets treated like a woman.

But an unsuccessful, uneducated, and broke man? Nobody cares if he dies or lives.

MrAddict:
Day 4 of not masturbating or having sex

Four days away from sex or masturbation is already like an achievement. The last time I went 4 days without experiencing sexual pleasure was sometime last year and it was due to a heavy work schedule. So I'm really proud of myself.

Haters will still come here to make fun of me but every step counts and I'm making those steps. I refuse to be a slave to few seconds of sexual pleasure.

The fact that I feel drained when I ejaculate, means something is leaving me both physically and spiritually; an energy powerful enough to create a new human being. I'll rather than energy stays inside me and accumulates.

Like I said, there is a lot of spiritual rewards attached to overcoming the sexual desire and the longer you sacrifice sexual pleasure, the greater the reward. Nothing goes for nothing in this world.

IHate9jerianss:
You still use them for sex??

As for me,I try my very best to avoid interacting/associating with them

MGTOW For Life

Adeoye11:
Na so all of us talk that time that, we are done with girls.
Until one fine light girl smiles at us and our third leg responded.

No lie , you knack am abi u no knack m??😉😉😉

SpencerForbes:
I really need to congratulate redpillers that are wealthy and are still redpillers.
I've been a member for like 3 years now or since the time ubunja was still very active and I always thought being redpilled was really easy. Even last year I was just comfortable and didn't really see the need for a girlfriend. I was like an example to other guys. Always giving them redpill advise and more. Now I'm earning 3 times of what I earned last December and decided to spin plates. All of a sudden, the feelings started appearing again😂. Now I have a "babe" and I think I'm beginning to simp again. I've tried abundance mentality and everything but it doesn't seem to work.

Now my question is,how do I keep it in check?

papyjaypaul:
A real man doesn't conquer a woman, he conquers himself. And a real woman isn't conquered, she is honored."

Power isn't in dominance, nor is freedom in rebellion. True strength is in restraint, kindness, and understanding.

Being a man isn't about control; it's about responsibility. Being a woman isn't about defiance; it's about dignity. ..

Only an ignorant and low self esteemed man would desire to be used(love) by a woman..

Wonen are strong amd independent,they should work for themselves..


I'm out here,still wondering why the big pharm can't produce a vaccine that will keep man in a constant state of post-nut clarity😔..
Men could change the world..

So before arguing over roles, master your ego. Serve with love, speak with wisdom, and lead with compassion. That’s where masculinity and femininity meet: not in power, but in purpose.

eazzzy1:
The keenness of women to get married has always been there. If you are just noticing it, it is because you are getting older and the women you talk to are of marriageable age.

jayAjoku:
men became weak and forgot who they were , think about it men do more work and get 20% of the pleasure during sex

jayAjoku:
no it is not infact women are supposed to be begging men for sex, that is the natural order of things

casualobserver:
Because as soon as you have children, nobody has your time. Your wife’s focus is the children….rightly so. That is how mature designed it for the man to provide and the woman to nurture the young. You work hard to provide and come home and you are not a priority to anyone at home, they give the the biggest mean to make you feel good and that’s it. You have no outlet unlike other men with side chics so you become miserable. Yet you are expected to be a man and carry on like everything is ok because you are the head of the family. This is why men die before their wives.

Back in the day you would have a side chick to fulfil your emotional needs who would invariably become wife no2 until she has her own kids and you find wife no3 etc etc. but we have bought into Oyinbo way of life that has told you it is tabboo. So your option is to remain monogamous faithful and miserable!

Good luck to the faithful monogamous men!

casualobserver:
Men with one wife who don’t have side chicks are liable to live a miserable existence and die before their wives.

FreeSpirited:
A corper newly came to our compound and started showing strong greenlight in every way. Even comes into my room to strike silly conversation and act funny... Ask me funny thing... Even took my number while we were gisting one day on a pretext and she flashed me, believing that will prompt me to start those naughty odd chats.. Lol
She was expecting me to start chasing.. I never, I dint because I wasn't interested in sex cos I knew it won't take me 2 or 3 days to start sleeping with her if I acted on those green light..and I know these thing...
Fast forward to this month
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She is now sulking, snubbing, acting cold ... I just keep laughing in my mind.... That is it a must to act on green light. What happens to been ordinary friend. She couldn't believe I won't look her way. I don't understand why she is being entitled to my attention. But I refuse to give it now she's giving passive anger

Kipaji:
I have been thinking about this too. And I also came to the realization that most men are not the gatekeepers of relationships/commitment.


First of all, let's see why women are the gatekeepers of sex.
As you said, "women control access to intimacy—they decide who gets it and under what conditions." Take a random woman out there, let's call her Abiola. Being a woman, Abiola has many guys who would like to have sex with her. There are colleagues, classmates, neighbors, clients, churchmates, online acquaintances, and many more who have made their direct or indirect advances. But, whether any of these men get to have sex with her depends on her. She is the person who decides whether any of these men get to have access to her body. In effect, she gatekeeps sex FROM THESE MEN. If there are 15 men that would like to have sex with Abiola, then Abiola is the gatekeeper of sex from these 15 men.
Since 99% of women out there have at least one guy that would like to have sex with her (regardless of her age, beauty, economic status, intelligence or personality), any woman is EFFECTIVELY gatekeeping sex FROM AT LEAST ONE MAN. Therefore, it makes sense to say that "women are the gatekeepers of sex."

Now, let's examine the men side.
It is said that "men are the gatekeepers of commitment." But I have come to the realization that most men are not "gatekeeping" commitment/relationships from anybody.
Think about it. How many men have girls that would like to be in a relationship with them? The average man out there is not being checked out by any woman. No woman cares about him, no woman thinks about being in a relationship with him, and women couldn't care less about his commitment. So, if he is the gatekeeper of commitment, WHO IS HE GATEKEEPING THAT COMMITMENT FROM when there are no girls that would like to be in a relationship with him? If you are a man, and you believe you are the gatekeeper of commitment, please take a pen and a paper, and write down the names of the girls you think you are gatekeeping that commitment from. If you can't think of any girl, just know that you aren't gatekeeping shît. If there are, say, three girls that would like to be in a relationship with you, then you are the gatekeeper of sex (only) AS FAR AS THESE THREE GIRLS ARE CONCERNED.
Since most men out there have no woman that would like to be in a relationship with them, I don't think it makes sense to say that "men are the gatekeepers of commitment."

The truth is, nowadays, women are indeed the gatekeepers of BOTH relationship and sex. For most (not all) men, it is women who decide who gets into a relationship and who gets sex. Virtually any woman knows at least one man that would like to be in a relationship with her; she is effectively gatekeeping commitment from that one man. But can we say the same for the average man out there? Is there a woman he is effectively gatekeeping commitment from? Is there a woman he can get into a relationship with today, if he wanted to?

Only a minority of men (I'd say around 30%) are truly gatekeepers of commitment. The rest have NOBODY to gatekeep their (undesired) commitment from.


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@Dpsychologist
@ThinkSmarter
@FitCorper

FitCorper:
U cannot truly control ur sexual urge until u Bleep a girl well and even after making her cum multiple times she still leaves u to pursue the thrills of being with someone new, then u begin regretting all the sperm u wasted on her and what those sperm would’ve done to ur body (make u bearded, deep voice, dick becomes thicker, skin shiny, mood and mental health elevated, purposeful) if u didn’t give it cheaply to her. It is only when u can come to this realization and are ready to start again, only then will u be able to control ur sexual urge. This is what I call “rapture”. But na only Baba God de run am of not u fit just hate women and turn gay. But women seeet sha, just don’t rush to commit as a man.

Reverseng:
Men provide (finances)

Women protect (virginity)

Men don't DESERVE VIRGIN women
only men who knows what it takes to keep their virginity can truly appreciate a woman's virginity.

Pearls shouldn't be cast to pigs in the name of selfish and foolish love.

Reverseng:
Girls are not suppose to work for money. Or rather perform masculine roles to get money
It's not their job too. What a man can do, a woman cannot and is not supposed to do!

Instead, A woman can do equally and Oppositely

Men climbing burj khalifa to hit a nail in a bid to exercise their masculinity doesn't mean women should follow suit. Women instead should look for the highest feminine role they can carry out in the society and do so

It's the failure of men that forces women' to be masculine.

Weak men don't create strong men. They create strong women

https://www.nairaland.com/8337993/error-schools-girl-education

Reverseng:
And virgin men should look for virgin women