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Nonexisting:
Simps will say you're talking rubbish until they learn the hard way.

Skooltynz:
Preach bro! preach!
The thing is women know what they are doing women are like predators in wild they always watch out for the weak ones in herd and attack ,the smell the alpha male from Afar even before talking to him and never messes with him.

Groupoid:
So, approximately 8 months ago; I was dumped by my gf(we're both university students). I don't want to go into details, as to what caused the breakup, but she moved on with another guy(her male bestie), and I'm not completely over her.

So, I believed I've grieved enough, and I'm ready to try dating again. But the problem is rejection. I've gotten so many rejections from females that I had to take a break from asking girls out. Dating as an average guy is very difficult. I just honestly want to give up on it entirely, since I don't even see how I'm going to get a girl here (I school in Edo state, so you know how materialistic the girls are).


I know I'll usually be advised to work hard, make money, and all those stuffs, but there's nothing wrong with me as I am. I know I'm just a student, still dependent on parents; but do I really don't to have a fat bank account just to get a girl in University? (I don't go for those high class ladies though. Just the average ones)

I'm asking for your advice sir. Do I just forget about women completely, and just focus on getting my shit right? Making money is not exactly easy here.

I endured a lot of things a guy shouldn't endure from my ex, because I knew I had no options if I broke up with her.

NB: I also have a next to non-existing social life.

This world is really brutal for a man.

Namaster:
90% of men who know their worth DON'T have women in their house in the first place.

JESHAL007:
Some would even make money and slave it for single mothers, another man's bastard
Even some mighty knowledgeable redpillers would be conquered and slain when a single mum bombards them with the love and romance they desperately crave for and sex which all men intrinsically desire

These strong men would become cucks slaving it for another man's bastard

Ilekokonit:
This is scary to say the least. Just for a 9 second orgasm MOST men will lose guard, go temporarily mad and mortgage his future to a woman and make financial commitments to her that might as well turn him into her slave and give him high blood pressure and sometimes death in his race to work and borrow unsustainable debt just to meet the demands of the woman and their her kids.

God help us all Amen.

Ilekokonit:
This is scary to say the least. Just for a 9 second orgasm MOST men will lose guard, go temporarily mad and mortgage his future to a woman and make financial commitments to her that might as well turn him into her slave and give him high blood pressure and sometimes death in his race to work and borrow unsustainable debt just to meet the demands of the woman and their her kids.

God help us all Amen.

Ilekokonit:
Point noted. You are most likely more into philosophy than I am. I'm just a thinker who likes pondering what the meaning of life "might" be IF it actually has any meaning or IF like animals our "cherished" lives is an exercise in futility.

Like one of my friends will say, Nothing Works.

Ilekokonit:
I saw the above post last year but seeing it again does not reduce how profound it is.

JESHAL007:
i dont care how redpilled you are women would always be your weakness even if you have masculine frame, go MGTOW, you can fight evolution

FreeSpirited:
It's a very hard one that shattered my whole life philosophy and meaning of existence, plus losing my Dad.....Laslas I had to restart my life by accepting Christ...so I'm now a Christian rediscovering myself in God....e no easy mehn...the spiritual side of life is super real mehn....I was deceived all along by philosophy and agnostic teachings.

Roboto11:
Not right at all.

I guess guy man thought you were trying to advertise your pim pim.

Whatever be the case, he should never have assaulted you.

Perhaps he should have left the house for you.

Fiscus105:

If every woman that men want to dig open it, without resistance, did you ever imagine how world will look like?

Stop thinking like shallow minded and stop killing yourself because of holes, face your life, it's more important to you than that.

emmaodet:
Hello bro.
The question has a broad answer because it is an individual thing and many married men don't open up due to shame, so they keep it to themselves.
Many married men don't feel comfortable telling friends about their wife's sex life because it's kinda private but from my little observation and knowledge, i will say 5 out 10 married men around me had once complained about their wife's low sex attitudes.
We can say many of these women married their husbands due to financial cover or age not on their side, if given the chance and choice, they would have preferred a richer or more good-looking man, but this is life, we don't always get what we want.
Women will be women; it is up to the man to know how to handle such situation.
My case as an example, i don't beg my wife for sex or clingy. There were times she was forming not interested and wanted me to be simping to get the sex, i just ghosted her as if she never existed in that house. It is up to her to pick herself up and fix herself up and make me happy.
I don't wait for her to do my duties at home to provide, so i don't need to constantly remind her or beg her to do her duty to make her hubby happy. I have low tolerance for bullshits, manipulations or games.
If she had not come begging after 3 days of ghosting her, i would have given her just 2 months grace period after which i would have gone to shop for her replacement sex-wise
If you don't like sex or not really interested in it then stay away from relationships and marriages - e no hard.
I don't wait for anyone to tell me to wake up, go to work, pay school fees, house rent, food etc so i won't be the one forcing a woman to perform her duties
She woke me up midnight disturbed that have been ignoring her for days and i told her plain and blank that have lost interest in her, no point sugar coating it.
She was shocked and started crying and praying for evil ladies distracting me outside to die...wetin be my own, i was just sleeping.
EVER SINCE that time, our sex life CHANGED for better.... i guess a little external competition or threat of replacement helps a lot

JESHAL007:
When You Are In Love With A Woman Who You Imagine She Is Is Far Superior To Who She Actually Is This may sound ‘Obvious‘ yet otherwise intelligent men biased by Oxytocin do not realize this.

Being In Love Means

Overestimating The Difference Between

The Woman You Are Currently With

And Every Other Woman On The Planet

JESHAL007:
Psychopaths are more prone to drug addiction that normal people.

Alcohol and Cocaine are drugs that psychopathic men seem to be in greater danger of becoming addicted to, than the average person.

The one drug psychopaths never get addicted to is Oxytocin.

Helpout12345:
And what percentage of high school or first year university romance in which both parties are in same class or grade resulted into marriages?

In most of these, the women are eventually taken by a more richer or older man from the younger lover. .
You dey mind am,apart from that as at one where the whole world isoney conscious,go to the universities and see how guys of young age (with full level of testosterone)are all alone, depressed,but they'll never say it out..
It's all a phase though🤔
The guy is a simp and vvomnen pleaser, that's why he was explaining himself to ish.love..

Reality over ignorance,I like your comments..
You called a spade, a spade.👍

Why do you think the women went with the older and richer man eventually?

Letmecum:
Every trends is woman this woman that. The funniest thing those creatures are silent and they hardly make trends about men.

FitCorper:
Better without, but before you decide make sure you can survive out in the wild alone. Or else just get a girl and do the normal Simpish sturvs to keep her happy.

Dizzyyish:
Truly, you either love women or understand them, never both. It's easy to be of the opinion that women are emotionally stronger but in truth they just lack the capacity for love. Their main advantage towards men (besides sex) is that they're followers by nature and men are leaders - when a man starts demonstrating his love she just follows his steps like a chameleon, so nothing feels out of place for both parties. When she then acts in her self-interest against the interest of her lover or branchswings she does so seamlessly because there was no love to create friction in the first place.
What many men call "love" from a woman is just sexual attraction or being addicted to the emotional roller coaster of a particular guy (She's loves the experience/feelings he gives her, not him as a person). And what many men see as a woman adhering to "morality" or "honor" is just fear of consequence/accountability.

Women have no value for a man's love beyond what it can do for them. How often has one heard women chastising other women that "If you love him you'll do or not do this (even if it's disadvantageous to you)"? but you'll definitely hear "If that man loves her he would have done [this or that] for her (even if it's disadvantageous to him)" and they'll say it with certainty.
And I don't mean most or majority of women - I mean ALL. It's simply their biological wiring to make up for being physically and cognitively weaker in contrast to men. If women, being the weaker sex, could love then that would be greatly detrimental to them, like predators having very fragile teeth and claws for hunting.

A woman's mother is, in many ways, an accurate indicator of how she will be years into marriage. No matter what she learns from her father, she still needs to learn how to navigate life as a female from a female, and the mother is typically the source (in this case her mom is basically a single mom).
If you had married that girl your life would have been hell on earth (and this would very well be the case seeing how strongly you were under the influence of love). And this might sound effed up but it was for the best she didn't end up being the mother of your child. She probably would have been influenced by her mom to separate from you and poison your child's mind, thus repeating the single mom cycle.
So in a sense, her mother's meddling was more a blessing than a curse in hindsight.

She also tried to stab you and you were still entertaining the thought of marriage? Omoh things dey happen oh . If my own blood actually tried to stab me, no matter how heated the quarrel is, I'll distance myself from that person, let alone someone who is basically a stranger to you. Love really makes men tolerate things that shouldn't be tolerated.

Also, at the risk of making a long comment even longer you're not a woman nor an old man. There isn't much reason to be rushing into marriage like your biological clock is ticking. Personally, I strongly advise against marriage but if you must marry for whatever reason then take your good time and understand female nature. They say marriage is the biggest investment a man makes in life... you wouldn't put your entire life savings into a business venture without knowing the nature and risks, would you?
So why do men do this in regards to marriage?:
Love and lack of understanding of female nature. These two things are mutually inclusive. It is not a coincidence that within this era of masculine weakness/misunderstanding there is also a huge surge of young guys rushing headfirst into marriage.

The most important thing right now is to not let what has happened weigh you down. Just focus on bettering yourself. Don't let women or other distractions stray you from your path.

Nonexisting1:
Why not ask her to buttress her point before calling her a liar? We know Nigerian women are mostly evil and liars but the woman in question is not Nigerian. She may be saying the truth because I know South African women go after men they like unlike their counterparts here who will rather die than put pretense aside to ask a man out. They ask men out only when their longer throat can't hold them back or when their konji is really bad and they can't afford dildos.
As for me, I haven't asked any woman out since I left the simping pool. Now, I fucck when I want to fucck. No need deceiving anybody say I love them. I don't love women since I realized they too can not love a man.

Nnamdipapa:
Sorry for the cryptic writeup. I mean it's not that of a big deal to score on ladies.

I have a natural good look that turns head wherever I go, a pointed nose and square shoulder like a gym enthusiast.

When I was in primary 5 preparing for my common entrance exam, I could remember my elder bro telling me girls in the secondary school were gon be crazy over my looks and I didn't know what he meant at the time.

All through my life, ladies have constantly made remarks about my looks to my face both home and abroad.

I am a naturally shy person who will never ask a lady out but my conversation and spoken communication skills are top notch.

I carry myself with confidence and good with nonverbal communications like eye contacts, coy smile with a side of of the lips, head nods which usually encourages the ladies to make passes at me and I take it from there.

I also forget to add that I have signature haircut which fits my face so well that I have been stopped more than 10 times on the road and strangers had made remarks on my hair, some said they watched my movies and I laughed telling I was not an actor.

To summarize, I would say my looks, how I carry myself and my conversation skills have made it easy for me to hold my ground with them ladies..

Nice read, thanks 👌

Nnamdipapa:
After five years with benefits of hindsight's, the lucky guys would no longer consider themself lucky.

Philosopher1979:
A funny observation.
Men use sex robots and say they don't need women
Women use dildos and intimacy gadgets and say they don't need men
These alternatives cannot fully satisfy the need for love and sex implanted in human nature. Women have maternal instincts planted in them by nature so their saying they don't need children is funny.
I think there is a fundamental communication or relational breakdown between both genders. We can't do without each other.
Women claim they only need men for money but it is a lie. Rich wimen end up engaging in casual sex and just sleep with sugar boys.
Both genders need to negotiate a happy existence with each other. One simply cannot live alone

Nicepoker:
How to cohabit with a snake successfully