NIGHTMARE0O7:


Nope, the reason I asked is to know if u are white girl because and to know if that's why the guy is behaving that way... "some" African parents are against their son marrying white.

But I think you let the parents know what son did, how could he got u pregnant and ask to abort it, ?
tell them u are scared to lose ur life that's why u rejected the abortion.

Do u have whatsapp?

NIGHTMARE0O7:


Nope, the reason I asked is to know if u are white girl because and to know if that's why the guy is behaving that way... "some" African parents are against their son marrying white.

But I think you let the parents know what son did, how could he got u pregnant and ask to abort it, ?
tell them u are scared to lose ur life that's why u rejected the abortion.

Do u have whatsapp?

NIGHTMARE0O7:


That's sad, he is behaving very childish unlike Igbo man, who likes to take their responsibility.
I think its right to contact the parents..

Sorry about this question...
Are u a white woman or African ?

NIGHTMARE0O7:

Hello how are u fairing with ur problem.
When u come online quote me,

frankfrancis871:
You'd make a perfect mother, teaching her the knowledge of Igbo culture and language is a good start and a good decision. Well done!

frankfrancis871:
Yeah that's a good decision @the bolded

pazienza:
OP.
Nope. He's just being wayward. Igbo culture places importance on human life, even those born outside wedlock. We respect bloodlines, even though we frown at childbirth outside wedlock, we wouldn't totally reject the child, since we know the child is innocent of the parent behavior.

I have my questions though.
Are you in contact with any member of the family of this Igbo man?

frankfrancis871:
The truth is he might not take it likely with if you talk to his parents or relative. But that's the only thing I can recommend if you need help because from the way he acts, the man is probably not ready for marriage or being a father. But be careful, such people could be bad-tempered..

HORRORIZON:


LOL. That's ridiculous. If that's your experience, then it's pretty obvious that you haven't spent much time around us. We say that ish all the time, especially when we want to make our point clear or express the severity of our words, and usually done in a very stern or sassy way.

Triniti:
Igbos generally don’t like having babies outside wedlock,maybe your baby daddy is wayward and irresponsible at his age or he might have heard a sad story that comes with baby mama. That might be reasons for his change of heart after accepting to co-parent with you.

MayorofLagos:






Lady, get the F out of here! I am not a fan of Ibo culture but I wouldn't stand for the kind of nonsense you are spewing. You are crazy, in your mid-twenty and an American to get pregnant for a man and he rejects the pregnancy, then you come to internet for consultation. Tidy your pussy up and face front, you and your unborn child. This is Nigeria, dont bring that nonsense here. Id1ot!

frankfrancis871:
No @bolded Biafrans (Igbo to be precise) have beautiful cultures, respect their women, face their marital and parental obligations, his behaviour is abnormal and contrary to every right thinking Igbo person beliefs, his behaviour is abnormal and childish. No tradition stop one from being a good person

Maybe there are factors making him behave like that:
1. His parents dictates for him (which is almost impossible)
2. He is not ready to be a man and a father (which is weird to me since he's in his mid thirties)

you've got to talk to him or possibly his parents or relatives.

MayorofLagos:


Mid-20s, pregnant...here are your needs in order of priority

1 - medical care for prenatal checks
2 - good and reliable income for food and nutrition
3 - a job with medicat, dental and maternity benefits
4 - family support (this is where Ibo culture comes in)

So the family here in Nairaland should not be your first stop. Before coming here you need local support amongst his Ibo circle of family or friends. There are Ibo communities in your area, find them on internet and then make a contact to go visit and get support for you and your baby. Get some sense and tidy up.

Tushkito:


Don't quote that hate filled, bitter idiot again. He is not even igbo but a yoruba, pay him no mind.

morpheus24:


"Yes, based on Igbo culture is he obligated to the child even though I'm not an Igbo woman (from my knowledge). He hasn't been part of the pregnancy so far and refuses to speak to me period. Does Igbo culture condone that behavior towards me? Is his behavior normal?"

Her is an example of Nigerian grammar. Look at the bolded. I don't normally hear AA use this particular word in sentence formations.


The rest of her responses are filled with Nigerian type indiosyncrasy.

The poster is suspect

allcomage:
Igbo have strong family bond of proper marriage. Babies born outside marriage are not cheery news in Igbo cultural and marriage setting. Better find your way on time because you are on your own.

MayorofLagos:






Lady, get the F out of here! I am not a fan of Ibo culture but I wouldn't stand for the kind of nonsense you are spewing. You are crazy, in your mid-twenty and an American to get pregnant for a man and he rejects the pregnancy, then you come to internet for consultation. Tidy your pussy up and face front, you and your unborn child. This is Nigeria, dont bring that nonsense here. Id1ot!

thorpido:
From the bolded,I guess you realise he doesn't want the baby and probably the relationship with you.
If you're keeping the baby,he might not be involved in his/her life.Just sue his @ss for child support.
The Igbo culture doesn't make him responsible for the baby since he didn't or hasn't married you.

thorpido:
Is he planning to marry you?

frankfrancis871:
*mordified* short answer-YES Of course he has rights and obligation to the child. Sorry can't say more cos I don't understand your question. Are you asking base on Igbo culture cos many Igbo tribes got their own cultures meanwhile I don't know much on Igbo culture cos I didn't grow up there