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pasqal09: If I take care of her financial needs, then what's her father's job?

her father takes care of her financial needs- cloth her, sponsor her hair do, changes her wardrobe, buys her make-up, touche her up for you and u boy friend sit down dey reap d benefits abi.

a relationship whether boy n girlfriend, fiance n fiancee or whatever is between two giving persons. she mustnt spread her legs or cook for u b4 u can take care of one financial need & ladies i thinks as a boyfriend he should take care of d hair, clothing n cosmetics if he is working. reason is that u need to look good for him n he can proudly show u off n you d lady should also compliment his giving - buy him something every now n then, take him out to lunch or dinner & pay, give him gift on his birthday nomatter how small. Don't think u must give back in kind.

but then don't over do it especially if there's no future to it.

let's celebrate our singlehood now that we have it cos the moment you are married, it's gonna be "my husband, my children, my family, my in laws,"etc. then it will be less of God's activities.
the lord is our strength.

Idowuogbo: Smart move? Na supersonic relationship? So ur guy don turn Nintendo? Girlie, u give less o u give more o, same same! Na love dey hold man.

I disagree with ur last statement o. love no dey hold man. Afterall most couples that divorced will say they still love each other. you often hear, " I still love you but we can't live together," "i love you but i can't stand ur nagging" etc

Godmouth: @ obillyj: The scripture you are referring to in the later part of your sentence is Ecclesiastes chapter 12 vs 1. This is one of my mottos in life as a child of God.

Thanks alot. i just read it now. God bless you

The most important relationship in life is not inter relationship but INTRA RELATIONSHIP. you can't hate yourself & expect someone to get along with u. self love is very important n this u develop as a single.

My Question is; If you knew what you know about yourself would you marry you?

do u know how ur breathe smells in d morning? the fact u can't cook? u get angry easily, you can't stand certain things etc now imagine all that n u expect someone to keep in d house. so u see why u have to develop yourself as a single in order areas in order to compliment in where u are lacking.

The key is knowledge- be an asset and not A leech. you bring to the marriage what you are as a single. nothing changes at the altar. Check the person's single life before you enter into marriage.

Don't say "Pastor i will make him change. i will make him quit smoking" etc. You are not Holy Ghost.

If they never change to get you, they will never change to keep you.

spouse comes when u are not looking for it. Serve the lord now u are yet single cos u will not have all d time again when u get married.

It is okay to be single but not good to be alone. focus on refining yourself. develop yourself as a single to be an asset & add value to that spouse.
Eve was created complete & was given to Adam as a help meet. Adam then said,"for this reason shall a man....." Gen 2:24

God did not make a married couple, Adam married d woman. it was a union between two WHOLE, UNIQUE & COMPLETE people & not two equal halves.

Singles know this MARRIAGE IS A CHOICE & NOT A REQUIREMENT.
Do not let anyone make u feel u must get married, ah age is no longer on your side, ur mates are all married, what are u still waiting for, etc

channel your energy on knowing ur purpose n fulfilling it. Develop yourself . acquire knowledge so u will be an asset & not a leech when d spouse comes. Your purpose is not in ur marriage. you can marry the wrong person know& destroy your purpose. let him/her meet you busy fulfilling ur purpose.

mumumugu: f you hate being single or think a relationship would be some magical cure-all, then you’re just likely to stay single even longer, and will struggle to form meaningful, long-lasting relationships.

I think the society mistake being single & being alone. the two are different. anyone with d knowledge of what single is never look for a mate. such a person know his/her purpose & goes about doing it. just like Adam Gen 2:15.

Marriage does not cure aloneness or loneliness.

Lordlexyy: Why do people for lack of better excuses always want to drag God, bible or the church into matters merely reflected in the society. Where does the bible condemn singleness? If being single makes you happy and more responsible and committed in your services to God, the better for you. But the possibility of being single and still maintain that singleness in the real sense of it(without being sexually intimate), is almost impossible and that explain why most Pastors constantly hammer on the need for marriage. The fact that few people due to wrong choices are having issues in their marriage doesn't mean thousands if not millions are having marrital bliss. So don't come out to discourage those who genuinely knows the importance of marriage and why they want to get married. Marriage is for two mature people who value responsibilites, who believes that two is better than one. I still ascert that being married is far better than being single and happy.

I think you sound too harsh & biased. the point am trying to portray is that Singles should not be in a hurry to get married. we need to understand singlehood n live completely as single before we can enter marriage cos it's only then can we have d blissful marriage.
this tread is not to discourage marriage but to celebrate n live fulfilled as a single before marriage comes n not to live with d gloomy faces of defeated singles i see around all the time. it is to live above d fact " yes am not married yet but am fulfilled" & someday d spouse will show n not to be depressed or move from one prayer house to another.

In d beginning God made them male & female Gen 1:27. He did not create half male n half female. he made each complete, separate & unique.
Singleness was God's original foundation. He did not create a married couple.

He created a man by himself. A complete man with responsibilities.
1) He ensure that Adam was continually in his presence. In d cool of the evening he will go n fellowship with Adam.
2) He gave him work to tend d garden.
3) To guard(protect) d garden.
4) To develop & cultivate d garden.
5) To keep his commandments.

with all that Adam was Single (separate, unique & whole). In Gen 2:18 God then said "it is not good for man to be ALONE...." Being "alone" is different from being single.
ALONE means to be EXCLUSIVE.

What does it mean to be SINGLE?

Single means SEPARATE, UNIQUE, & WHOLE.
Separate means to be distinct from everyone.
Unique means that you bring something that no one else has brought.
Whole means you don't need nothing from anybody to feel complete.

it means you can enjoy your own company & be complete. you need no one to make u special. There's nothing like "my better half" because as a single you are whole & complete.

@Godmouth, you are rightly on point. lets look at 1Corinthians 7: 32-35 Paul taught on being single n married. he stressed that to be single means more time n devotion to God but when one is married, the time, devotion is now divided. the married then cares for d things of the world- how they will please each other. also d bible said somewhere that we should serve God in d days of our youth.

Besides it shouldn't be a difficult decision to take with what we see in marriages this days. don't be surprised many Christians that started well may end up in hell cos of what marriage did to them.

there is glory in being Single. you have to be single first and understand what it means before you can enter marriage.
if you don't celebrate being a single lady or gentleman, you can't enjoy marriage. Reason is that marriage is for 2 SINGLE individual.

Sepp360: And who says being single is sinful?...

It's simply a rare and difficult decision to take!

it may not have being said directly but with the way family, friends especially churches go about it, it is being perceived as a sin or taboo.

Preachers are always hammering on young ladies getting married. it has become everyday prayer in churches. no one is talking about serving God in our youths anymore.
all that a single Christian thinks n prays about is for husband or wife esp we ladies. Is marriage a ticket to heaven?

The rate with which single individuals rush into marriage & rush out is alarming. it makes me wonder,
* Is it a sin or taboo to be single?
* Does the bible condemn singlehood?
* Are there benefits of being Single?
* Why does Christianity make us believe it's wrong to be single?
* Must everyone get married?
* Can being single take one to hell?

Nairalanders let's bring in our views on this. you never can tell whose life or marriage you will be saving.

katechris: How will the unemployed graduates be contacted is the question.

You go to SURE-P site and register. when they find an employer for you, you will be contacted by SURE-P and d company. verification form and acct opening form will be sent to you by SURE-P.
d employer will contact you for interview n start up date etc.
i applied in late Aug, 2013 n by Sept i already have an employer. started mine on 1st Nov.2013.

NappilyNigerian: My current products are

Shampoo : Keracare Cleansing Cream. It contains shikakai,neem seed oil,amla oil and argan oil. It's really gentle and doesn't strip your scalp or hair. I got this from Twentysix85.com

You can substitute with Creme of Nature sulfate free shampoo or Organics root stimulator creamy aloe shampoo..use diluted and on scalp only.

Conditioner: VO5 Strawberry and Cream conditioner or Herbal Essence Long Term Relationship or ORS Replenishing conditioner (love the fragrance)

Leave In Conditioner: Cantu Shea Butter Leave In Conditioning Repair Cream

Oil : Coconut oil, castor oil and palm kernel oil

Seal and styler: NappyGirl Pudding


Hair regimen

I'm currently following the Indian method of haircare to maintain the length of my hair and it's working really well.

Everyday, I apply a light coating of coconut oil to my hair after misting it with water (since I'm natural). If you're relaxed, apply to dry hair.

Then every three days I give my scalp amd edges a light massage with castor oil.

The night before wash day, I'll coat my hair with coconut and palmkernel oil completely saturating it. Then cover with a showercap and a scarf for bed.

On wash day, I'll shampoo with Keracare massaging my scalp then rinse.
Then I'll pour a 1:3 solution of ACV to my hair, wait for 5 mins then apply conditioner and rinse with cold water.

Blot dry with a microfibre towel or T shirt (prevents breakage).

Then I apply coconut oil, then Cantu , then NappyGirl Pudding in that order. If you're relaxed coconut oil to damp hair is fine.

That's it.

Don't do any tight style and always wrap your hair before bed to protect it at night.

If you feel your ends are dry, apply Cantu lightly and seal with coconut oil.

hello dear u do have great hair. i have few questions pls.

You mentioned palm kernel oil, do you mean the regular red cooking oil?
also these products ( NappyGirl Pudding, ACV, Keracare, Cantu shea butter, ORS replenishing conditioner) are they readily available in the market?

Many things are happening that we don't know of. there is no smoke without fire.
is he d only governor using Nigeria roads? let it not be that this man is using this means to collect people's blood for whatever. u really can't trust this politicians. they belong to one cult or d other that demands sacrifice every now n then.
May God console d family.

Xplicit.:
Obilj. What are u sayin in essence? That we shouldn't b ready for d test or interview? Or we shouldn't go for d test?

All am saying is that u shouldn't give yourself unnecessary stress at your age. stress kills. Stop going up n down looking for past questions n getting worried. read whatever u can lay ur hands on just so you can appraise yourself for having written something on that day.
The fact still remains the fact so long as govt job is concerned. take or leave it.

if u believe in God, then go do what will prompt him to favour you. he has the final say not the examination.

if you have someone that has slot better go wash d person's feet now.

i have a friend in immigration, was at my house yesterday. he actually told me this n i have no reason to doubt it at least there's no logic in telling u that the scripts will be marked & merit candidates selected. I've wrote a couple of govt exams myself.

it's gonna be by slot and maybe selection of few whose names might be luckily picked. wake up dude.

Because of (1) Malachi 3: 8 - 12

(2) the place that said something like it's not wrong for the ministers to receive our material gifts after they must have sown spiritual gifts in us.( in d scripture but don't remember which book)

(3) for myself because of II Chronicles 20 : 20

(4) because the scripture says so.

(5) because 10% out of 100% is not a big deal compared to what i will gain in return.

What's this fuss about Immigration past questions all over nairaland? you are all bothering yourselves for nothing. you know why?

take for instance 200,000 candidates applied & will be writing the exam, how many immigration staff will sit down to mark those scripts? when will they have d time for that? how many will emerge as merit candidates?

Timbers & calibers in the country have been given slots. it is with this slots they will give out jobs. no one is gonna mark those scripts or identify merit candidates.
Many will not answer present on that day not to talk of writing but will still get jobs.

Am not trying to discourage anyone but my advice is, if u don't have Abraham as father & you don't have money to pay those that have slots then you must have God. He is the only one that can jump protocols to favour you cos he rules in the affairs of men.

Hold on to God & don't put your trust in the arms of flesh.
I wish u the best.

thanks my dear

prettyem: Pls how did u apply and wat r dey into? Try hlp wit d link,hop i cn stl apply? Tanx babe

i saw it here on nairaland. the position is for front desk officer. it says send your cv to
ify.elochukwu@brentconsulting.com

#1-stunner:
dey r real... went der for an interview in may

what actually are they into pls? do you have an idea of their staff capacity?
thanks.

I applied for s position yesterday and got sms for interview tomorrow.
pls anyone that knows this Brent Consulting should pls let me know if they are genuine.
the address is: suite 306, 17 Ahmed Onibudo str, off Adeola Hopewell VI. lagos

Those that have not received an invitation should patiently wait. it could be they are calling base on local govt or position applied for.
i applied for programme analyst II.
God's grace.

General questions i guess - current affairs, English, mathematics, religion, sports etc & MAYBE few from ones field.

CSC Anambra has started sending out invitation for aptitude test at Awka, state capital.
I & my friend received ours this morning. i wish all applicants the best.

From Onitsha. the whether has changed. the sun is no longer scorching but as though there's a minute covering on it.
it will obviously hit soon.
God is great.

VICTORCIZA: ANAMBRA IS DARK NOW

Which Anambra?

thanks all i do appreciate.

First bank. Sanusi Olamilekan. 3076933197.
humanresources@mail2oasis.com.
there's no phone contact.

i just opened my mailbox and saw a mail from Oasis Petroleum. The grammar is plenty but the summary is that i was selected to be trained for period of 6months. i should apply for accommodation if am outside lagos. Trainee salary is N90,000(weird), starts 4/11/13. their office is at Admiralty lekki but i will pay N3000 naira into Engr. Sanusi Olamilekan account with first bank as Outsourcing company fee.
it's absurd they charge money for recruitment.
please did anyone receive the same mail? who knows about this Oasis Petroleum? are they genuine?