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Dexy4yah:
Your husband is doing ok financially and doesn't cheat on you. He takes care of you and the kids but yet you are still giving him attitude for no reason.

Some women get problem aswear.


She is one of those women that worship their pastors but at home they disrespect their husbands.
Please don't joke with your peace of mind...if she's tired of the marriage...show her the exit door.
This life is too short for someone to be taking away your peace of mind.

Hmmm. Perhaps you should hear from the wife first before passing a judgement.

I don't fully trust his initial statement 'I am not perfect either.' When people complain, they tend to focus more on the flaws and actions of others rather than their own.

tomi4life:
Not sure if this is the right forum, but I am unhappy, as I type this message, I think it is usually too late to cry when the head is cut off, but i will cry anyways.

I have been married for 6 years now and brethren it has not been easy, I think I married a wrong person, am not a perfect neither is she, i just think we are not compatible. There is is no love between us. Our values are different. Me and my wife dont get along, well.

We have just been tolerating each other. I only realize what i am missing because i recent caught feelings for this colleague of mine. So there is this colleague of mine, we have worked together for almost 2 years now but more related to work. I have started catching feelings for this girl o and it all started in a party we attend together. I know she too has feeling for me. I see it in her eyes. She comes to sit with me, and we talk about alot of private stuff. She tells me all that is happening in her life, i also do same. she knows I am married with kids but i am sure if i make a move she will agree. I never could imagine I will find myself in a situation, tempted to commit adultery. When i have a wife at home, this opened my eyes and push me to want resolved the relationship issue with my wife. I approached her some days ago to voice my concern that the marriage is not working, we dont communicate, there is no love, what can we do to resolve the matter. My wife said she is used to our situation. I asked what can we do differently and she says we shd go see a marriage counselor. I said fine but can we even discuss and she tells me she is tired she wants to sleep and then stops responding to me.

My wife prefers to sleep alone, despite me telling her we shd sleep together as a couple. if she is in the room and I come to the room she will immediately goes to the parlor, we rarely have body contact. The few times we have sex she never kisses even when i try, she puts her mouth away. Even in the car we can be on a drive for 1 hr, without mentioning a word to each other. Most times it is either the car radio or my kids that break the silence. What surprises me is she is very comfortable with it, you just see her on her phone. The only saving grace is I have a source of income and provide for the home that why she listens sometimes.

Reflecting back on if i had to opportunity i wont have married her, she has caused me alot of pain. she doesnt play that supportive role expected of a wife, she has this feminist tendency. She also has this ego issue and find it difficult to take feedback, whenever i raise an issue, she just get very upset and in many times it turns into a fight. There are days I fall sick, my wife no send o. Even cooking for me is like stress. She goes out without telling me, does things without getting my consent or even carrying me along. When she brings people to the house, she wont even introduce them to me as her husband. she doesnt send respect or regards me. I tell you an example of something that happened last year, we were travelling November last year to the UK on holidays with the children, because of our luggages we took two uber vehicles, I sat in one with my daughter, my wife sat in the other with my son. While on the way to the airport, do you know my wife asked the driver to take a detour to shoprite that she wants to give someone the left over stew and food items we had. Shoprite is not on the way to the airport, we had less than 2 hours to go for an intentional flight. It was me that noticed their car going a different direction, I had to call the uber driver to tell him to turn back immediately. When the uber guy came he told me he had asked my wife to mention it to me, but she said no need, I dont need to be told. We got to the airport while offloading the luggage from the car, my wife suddenly disappeared. I had 8 boxes , 2 children to move with. Thank God for those people that help with the luggage at the airport. I passed through customs and NDLEA and began to clear with the airline before she showed up. I was so mad, even a custom lady was yelling at her, how can you just disappear leaving your husband with all the loads and children. My wife didnt even apologize, she said she went to drop the food items with the person she asked to come to the airport, after i asked the uber driver to reroute to the airport. That is how disunited we are.


The good side is not cheating, and she is spiritual, she can go to church 10 times a week, currently serves in 2 units and hold leadership roles in those unit. I have told her if she give 20 percent of the time in church to our relationship and family we would be happier. The major complain she mentioned from my side is we shd go out together more often, she wants me to organize morning devotions, that we shd pray more with the children, this was something I believe her dad did when they were growing up, the experience is different for me. I have told her I will try. She also mentioned I like to complain, which is not true.

This whole thing is hitting me hard cos I dont want to cheat with my colleague and i just experienced a glimpse of what we shd be enjoying. I also have the chance of relocating to the Australia but i knw if we do, I will enter one chance.

Does anyone knw a good marriage counselor, that can be recommended, I saw one done by one of this popular pastor they are asking for $150 for a 1hour session, I also dont want to involve my family or her family.

I am tempted to just leave the house for 2 weeks and go stay in an hotel, but how will that help it will only make matters worse.

Well, I generated the below with ChatGPT.
Perhaps it can help with some enlightening.

____________________________
The leading causes of divorce can vary depending on cultural, social, and individual factors, but several common reasons are frequently cited. Here are some of the primary causes:

1. **Lack of Communication**:
- Poor communication can lead to misunderstandings, unresolved conflicts, and emotional distance.

2. **Infidelity**:
- Extramarital affairs often lead to a breakdown of trust and intimacy.

3. **Financial Problems**:
- Disagreements over money, debt, and spending habits can cause significant stress in a marriage.

4. **Lack of Intimacy**:
- Emotional and physical disconnect can make partners feel unloved and unimportant.

5. **Constant Conflict and Arguing**:
- Persistent disagreements and unresolved conflicts can erode the relationship over time.

6. **Unrealistic Expectations**:
- When partners have unrealistic expectations of each other or the marriage, it can lead to disappointment and frustration.

7. **Lack of Equality**:
- Imbalances in responsibilities, decision-making, and contributions to the relationship can cause resentment.

8. **Substance Abuse**:
- Addiction to drugs, alcohol, or other substances can lead to destructive behavior and neglect of responsibilities.

9. **Domestic Violence and Abuse**:
- Physical, emotional, or psychological abuse can make it unsafe and intolerable to remain in the marriage.

10. **Incompatibility**:
- Over time, couples may find they have grown apart and have different goals, values, or lifestyles.

11. **Life Changes and Stress**:
- Major life changes, such as moving, career changes, or the death of a loved one, can put a strain on the marriage.

12. **Lack of Commitment**:
- A lack of dedication to the relationship can cause it to deteriorate when challenges arise.

13. **Mental Health Issues**:
- Untreated mental health problems can lead to significant strain on a marriage.

Addressing these issues often requires open communication, counseling, and a willingness to work on the relationship from both partners.

DamnnNiggarr:


When will Nigeria get it right?

Hmmm, good question lol.

I believe you had 1 candidate with good acountability and no corruption record but you chose to vote in the candidate with a dodgy record.

In my opinion, when the mindset of the people change, then Nigeria will begin to get it right.

obinna58:
Hiv is a hoax just like COVID-19 which vanished on tin air

Is malaria and typhoid real?

Bullfallo:
If penis have mouths to speak out they would have fight back and abuse the brain. The smelling holes they find themselves every time

Humans are biological beings and smell is part of the intricacy of nature. Male privates smell too when proper hygiene isn't observed. Not to mention male armpits and groins.

And just for your information, the female vagina is delicate and self cleansing but the male privates usually harbours pathogens and dead skin which they transfer into the females via insertion. How many males wash their privates before intercouse?

So in the real sense of the thread title, it actually the vagina that is suffering and not vice versa.

Meektunz:
Last week Saturday was the day I would never forget in a hurry, it was a Saturday I nearly died. My wife met me in the room while i was relaxing and she said she has something to tell me, so I said okay she should go ahead and the next thing she said was please she is sorry for everything, that she is tired of keeping it for 6 years and that she is ready for the outcome of this. I replied by saying "you're keeping me in too much suspense, please talk". Then she said i'm not the father of our first child, that the father is back for him claiming responsibility. Though I've always had doubt about the child right from birth. She said the father denied being responsible for the pregnancy when she got pregnant that was why she forced it on me. She started apologizing that I should forgive her, that she was young and naive. I couldn't utter a word due to how i was feeling.

She went down to our pastor's office and told him everything and that she wants to go back to her parent's house, then he asked her why and she said it's not as if marriage has been smooth and that I've sent her out of the house severally when we had issues. Etc. For goodness sake is that the issue on ground?

From then till today I've not understood myself uptil today, I was admitted in the hospital for good three days, I was discharged yesterday evening. Till now I haven't said anything yet due to my health condition. She kept begging me everyday day, right from the hospital, uptil today. Guys, I wish death could just take me, this lady has shattered me. I wish you know what I passed through for that child.

I remember when she was in labour for that child, i had to treck all around this city of Abuja from place to place begging people I know for little assistance so I could buy little things for the birth of the child, if I express what I passed through, Oh God... Let me stop here. Please guys what should I do? Right now I just want to get better and send her back to her parent's house. I'm tired of crying for almost 5 days now.

I am trying to understand. You posted in 2022 that you did a DNA test and found out that he is not your son.

https://www.nairaland.com/7401346/aftermath-dna-test-first-child

Is it that you didn't believe the DNA test results then?

ChildOfDoom:
I am unwell. Running temperature, yet Hot. The thought of getting to pound the different bannies at ezeko brothel keeps turning me on

I am there now. Nothing less than two rounds today before going home. Made some money from side deals.

I noticed wounds take time to heal on my body. The lump/obstruction in my throat won't just go away. The injury I currently have on my tongue lingers on. I will run HIV test again month end. Fvck is so addictive

I think betting is better as you only mess up your finances. With womanising without caution, you mess up your life/health

The body can be resilient at healing itself. If you stopped your addiction today your body can totally heal within a year. Do not wait until something is finally broken.
What I'm trying to say is that you have still got a chance.

ibechris:
We bought this cow today at keffi in Nasarawa state and shared among three of us.

The price shows that things aren't the way it used to be anymore.

For now,this would help my family to avoid buying a kilo for 6k.

Things are indeed crazy out there.

I think 450k might actually be a fair price for the cow.

luminouz:
Will you shût dafuq up and let him post?

Or better still create your own thread

Lol, yes sir.

Ourtruth247:
The Americas three hundred years ago

A thriving technologically advanced civilization spanned this area. Just like the civilization in Africa at the time, this civilization was also in tune with nature and the spiritual, practicing a brand of science that blended alchemy into it.

The main habitation of this civilization was the area we currently know as the United states of America today; strewn with megalithic Greco-Roman style buildings and marvelous architecture.

The racial composition of this area was a mix of the native race and black people, along with a splattering of other racial compositions.

Visit the Ooni of ife or Alaafin of Oyo's Palace. There are preserved historical artefacts passed on from generation to generations including names and exploits of the Kings that ruled the thrones from as early as the 1400s.

If there was any such advanced civilization that you are describing, the information would have been passed on. Therefore the validity of your assertion remains under question.

190:
whos isreal?

Ancestor 190 benz is this really you?

kokoye:
^^^

any move I did not initiate at that age must have been r.ape sir . . even though it's natural to want to enjoy it too 

I should have said no to the maid right? she spent more time with me than my parents did so I would have been tortured.

Very true 100%

Ogiame:
What do you gain in lifting picture from Reddit and claim it's yours?

Deceitful and despicable lifestyle you copied from Tinubu who you support.

Funny lol