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SportsRe: Liverpool's Sadio Mane Snubs Jurgen Klopp Handshake After Man United Win(Photos) by Oeakin: 9:19am On May 14, 2021
mysportdab He should be punished for that, if I were Kloop I will not sell him to play for me again
post672896:

Liverpool Star Sadio Mane refused to shake Coach Jurgen Klopp after the 4-2 win against Manchester United.

Liverpool's 4-2 win was Jurgen Klopp's first ever win against Manchester United at Old Trafford.

Sadio Mane did not start the match, which came a surprise.

The Senegalese came on in the 2nd half to replace diogo jota.

After the match, Liverpool Coach Jurgen Klopp tried to shake Sadio Mane but he snubbed him and went straight down to the tunnel.

Video;

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8DCAA8EI9L0
FamilyRe: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Oeakin: 8:36am On May 24, 2020
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.
Anyway what you did wasn't bad but on my part
You made a big mistake for allowed her to join you,you shouldn't have done that.
if she still love she shouldn't have gone that far and embrace maturity from both sides
EducationRe: Redeemer’s Varsity Installs TY Danjuma As Chancellor by Oeakin: 9:40am On Sep 06, 2016
Newnas:
Do you mean that school built on a land snatched from poor village farmers?

Wickedness in the name of religion! You extort tithes from poor people, unjustifiably acquire land, build a school that 90percent of your congregation can't afford!
If you don't know anything about it better you shut up! this land was given to Redeemed Church by Timi of Ede himself supported by his chiefs. Pasor Adeboye went to Ede for revival in which PBA and his chiefs were invited at the end of the meeting ,OBA tooks micro phone and promised them hectares of land .this happened around twenty years ago.
FamilyRe: Why Do Most Wives Deny Their Husbands Sex? They Need To CHANGE! by Oeakin: 10:18pm On Aug 19, 2016
innovestor:
Why Is This Common With Most Wives? They Need To CHANGE!

Hello NLers.

I am here basically to sample thoughts and opinions on this matter from matured minds. No insults or names calling. Just address the issue with suggestions.

There is a saying (by me wink) that goes thus: Learn to appreciate what you have now. Don't wait till it's gone to find out its value. There is also another saying (not by me grin) that goes thus: Wives don't suck dick; only girlfriends do.

So to the matter. I am married to this lovely lady. She is good by good standards (details will be given later if need be). I am also good by good standards (details will be given later if need be wink). However when it comes to making love, this is where the "matters arising" comes to play; yes sex.

Firstly, I am not necessarily the over demanding type, however i am not sexually satisfied completely in my home. I am very understanding when she actually is not in the right frame of conditions to make love, however for me making the moves every time for us to make love is tiring (and yes ladies you should make the moves sometimes, if not more).

Secondly, i am the type with a conscience. I have not raped and will never rape any one even my wife because this is practically impossible for me as my man-hood (which lives on) will suddenly slump in such situation (that's why i said practically impossible). So what am i driving at? Once my wife tells me she is a bit tired, she has a slight waist pain, head-ache, leg ache etc. i practically refrain from making love to her. It has happened most times that i am all up and doing and ready to hit the road and then she says she has a head-ache (unconsciously i must admit most times) i just pack-up and hit the bed to dream world.

Now the challenge is this. Being sort of sexually deprived by my wife, being a hardworking good citizen of Nigeria that makes an average earning (at least i dey drive motor and can comfortably take care of my family and one or two more outsiders despite the harsh economy) I am exposed to falling into countless number of temptations. In order not to brag, i have ladies calling me almost on a daily basis now and literally begging me to "shine their congo". Yes they know i am married with kids but don't care. Na me dey dodge them sef and avoid picking some calls.

Now the question is this: what can i do to solve this issue? What can i do to make my wife get off her relaxed state to make the moves for us to be more sexually engaged (and i am not talking of just missionary alone, i love adventure)? Should i just ignore her talks of head aches and find a means of forcing myself to do it with her ( I have actually asked her if this is what she wants - no response received). What can i do?

I am asking as we have had this sex talk twice and i have told her what i felt about the whole thing (of course she shed tears na). The third time we had the discussion, i told her categorically that this would be the last time for such discussion because if there is not improvement, i will not talk to her about it anymore and would seek other means to "help myself out". This is where i am at the moment.

So you ideas are welcome ladies and gentlemen.

P.S. Wow! So the write up long reach like this? be patient to read through.
This often happen in marriage especially working class woman ask those who have experience in marriage,my advise is try to understand her,talk to her one on one try to get her own side,.anytime you want to have sex with her let be a day she has done nothing or you assist her in house chore intact you will enjoy her sexually,lastly,you want to have sex with her at nîght start totori her from morning,let her be. in the mood before anything. and please don't make a mistake of fornicating outside because women are the same.
Science/TechnologyRe: Big Whale Killed In Ilaje, Ondo State (Photos) by Oeakin: 4:45pm On Aug 12, 2016
[quote author=Giyerte post=48408547]Ondo get big water wey fit contain whale?

I believe you are educated enough to check where Ondo state is located in the map of Nigeria
CultureRe: In The 1930s, Igbo Men In Elaborate Hairstyles And Body Paint by Oeakin: 1:03pm On Aug 12, 2016
This is how we were then Thank to Chief Obafemi Awolowo

CrimeRe: Gun Battle Around Iba LASU Road By Suspected Militants by Oeakin: 2:38pm On Jul 26, 2016
laksides:
Militants causing chaos around imose and totowu waterside are currentling on gun rampage with policemen and soldiers. According to report now is that one police attached with igando police station is down already with a stray bullet from the militants.
Please anybody on his route along lasu iba express road should just restrict now.
More to follow.....
Mods, pls do the needful to save souls
I just came back, from that side ,this is true I saw lot of ammunition vehicles and mobile policemen there. the street to that place was deserted.
Christianity EtcRe: But Why Would God Allow Someone To Be Killed While Preaching His Words ? by Oeakin: 10:32pm On Jul 11, 2016
tayooluwole:
I have heard many cases of God's word preachers who have been killed, slaughtered and brutally mutilated while preaching or on other duties in respect to biblical God's commandment. Many were burnt alive while withing the church premises praying and praising God, many captured and were easily slaughtered, many were captured within their own house, raped and eventually killed and many more cases like that.

Seriously, all these occurrences left me with one critical question that has been dominating my mind for years, that why would God keep silent while such horrific murder is being unleashed on his consistent servant ? Why can't God, weather spiritually or physically, prevent such tragedy, to at least encourage other worshipers and consolidate the believe that God is truly mighty as it is being claimed. Preventing such tragedy, to me, has the efficacy of preventing many people from waking up one day and start thinking at all weather God exist or not.
Should we say our so called popular pastors, knows that there is no divine assistance they can enjoy while facing assassinating temptation and that is why most of them move all around with sophisticated security outfit...

I beg, rational whosiper should come to my rescue in answering this question ooo...
It happened to John the Baptist, even he was in the prison he sent his disciples to Jesus Christ but nothing was done.what I want to say here is God allows some thing to happen we can not query God that is why 1 Sam 2: 6, when Hannah was glorifying God she said the Lord killeth and maketh alive,he bringeth down to the grave and he bringeth up in other words is unquestionable God.
Christianity EtcRe: Primate Ayodele: "I Warned Keshi, Wrote A Letter To Him" by Oeakin: 9:31am On Jun 11, 2016
theEYe21:
Abeg! Prophet Ayodele, shut up your mouth undecided
check his prophesy of 2014 or Google it you will know he shut his mouth or your mouth should be shut permanently.
EducationRe: We Reject Scrapping Of Post-jamb –MURIC by Oeakin: 11:37am On Jun 03, 2016
Same thing every where not only JAMB-. Lagos state examination board do it for model colleges. you pay they increase the mark of your child before result is out.olooosi gbogbo
CelebritiesRe: If Not For Money Or Sperm, Women Really Have No Need For Men - Charly Boy by Oeakin: 10:18am On May 10, 2016
This man sha!!

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