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Family / Re: What I Call Nonsense. by OgbonnayaJewel: 11:00pm On Jul 16, 2018
mimimile93:
the word 'ROD' in that proverb isn't physical rod o. Some people sef..

I understand that perfectly, it involves scolding and in one way or the other blaming to correct a child.
Family / What I Call Nonsense. by OgbonnayaJewel: 7:39pm On Jul 16, 2018
"Spoil the rod and spare the child, spare the rod and spoil the child".

Most parents seem to over spoil the rod and thereby , end up spoiling the child the more who will later end up picking up same rod. They seem to misunderstand this cliché.
Sparing the rod doesn't mean they should watch their child lack morals and spoiling the rod doesn't mean they should dehumanize the child or creating a kind of fear in the child that would make him/her feel inferior to others while doing certain things with them.
Over spoiling the rod over a child only makes the child stronger if they (parents) ain't doing the needful (embracing their errors with lovely corrections, that would make them), as long as the child doesn't die.

Most children, now grown men and women we have out here and there are hardened, violent and fierce people who are products of spoilt rod, because they later come to realize that, the rod spoilt over them hadn't killed them but in one way or the other made them to be tough and tougher, this is the story they would tell their children , thereby the trend would continue, spoiling the rod, and BOOM , the trend passes from generation to generation, and you expect everyone not to be violent and hardened in thoughts?

Few Children, men and women are product of spared rod, the fact that the rod was spared over them doesn't make them lack morals and morales in doing things. You can't stop a child from doing what he/she is doing by being fierce and creating fear in him/her, he/she changes by being loved (sparing the rod for a while), but no! The opposite is the case, when a child goes wrong, we hate or isolate him/her from others so as not to pass same act to them. Yes, this is new age, almost everything of old is past, new things are being in existence. You don't spoil the rod anyhow now! "Spoil the rod less, save for other days" a rod mustn't be spoilt in a day over a child, everyday shouldn't be to pick new rod" "spare a child, not watching him/her lack morals."

Children, now, unlike then, are so much inquisitive, searching and pressing all the buttons they could to get all they could. Now, there's no way you would like to hide something from a child that he/she won't eventually see or know about the thing, if not from you, it would be from others, it would be very bad if not from you, because you would be moved to anger when you find out the child knows what he/she is not supposes to have known. It would be better from you. There's no way you would like to stop a child from doing something that such child won't eventually do, either in secret or in public.
Children now, unlike then, would be so much enthusiastic towards that particular thing you don't want them to do. That's why, now, 60% of intelligent children out here and there are children exposed to things. You who do not know much can't convince them on what they know.
Consider children of the rich to the poor.

One wonders why, if not all, but some of the children of religious leaders do turn out to be the opposite of what their parents preach to other children. Of course, it's still because of the lack of exposure and inquisitiveness to know more about what they are being derailed from doing.

In conclusion, old clichés and expressions brought into new age, had contributed in worsening things for humanity. There's no way a child you train with the cliché in present discussion won't in one day pick up the rod with you, standing toe-to-toe with you, as long as he/she won't die by the rod being spoilt, thereby I call this NONSENSE, because the trend will continue. A child trained to be fierce would do so to his/hers.

Ogbonnaya Joel. N
©2018.
Family / What I Call Nonsense. by OgbonnayaJewel: 7:32pm On Jul 16, 2018
WHAT I CALL NONSENSE.

"Spoil the rod and spare the child, spare the rod and spoil the child".

Most parents seem to over spoil the rod and thereby , end up spoiling the child the more who will later end up picking up same rod. They seem to misunderstand this cliché.
Sparing the rod doesn't mean they should watch their child lack morals and spoiling the rod doesn't mean they should dehumanize the child or creating a kind of fear in the child that would make him/her feel inferior to others while doing certain things with them.
Over spoiling the rod over a child only makes the child stronger if they (parents) ain't doing the needful (embracing their errors with lovely corrections, that would make them), as long as the child doesn't die.

Most children, now grown men and women we have out here and there are hardened, violent and fierce people who are products of spoilt rod, because they later come to realize that, the rod spoilt over them hadn't killed them but in one way or the other made them to be tough and tougher, this is the story they would tell their children , thereby the trend would continue, spoiling the rod, and BOOM , the trend passes from generation to generation, and you expect everyone not to be violent and hardened in thoughts?

Few Children, men and women are product of spared rod, the fact that the rod was spared over them doesn't make them lack morals and morales in doing things. You can't stop a child from doing what he/she is doing by being fierce and creating fear in him/her, he/she changes by being loved (sparing the rod for a while), but no! The opposite is the case, when a child goes wrong, we hate or isolate him/her from others so as not to pass same act to them. Yes, this is new age, almost everything of old is past, new things are being in existence. You don't spoil the rod anyhow now! "Spoil the rod less, save for other days" a rod mustn't be spoilt in a day over a child, everyday shouldn't be to pick new rod" "spare a child, not watching him/her lack morals."

Children, now, unlike then, are so much inquisitive, searching and pressing all the buttons they could to get all they could. Now, there's no way you would like to hide something from a child that he/she won't eventually see or know about the thing, if not from you, it would be from others, it would be very bad if not from you, because you would be moved to anger when you find out the child knows what he/she is not supposes to have known. It would be better from you. There's no way you would like to stop a child from doing something that such child won't eventually do, either in secret or in public.
Children now, unlike then, would be so much enthusiastic towards that particular thing you don't want them to do. That's why, now, 60% of intelligent children out here and there are children exposed to things. You who do not know much can't convince them on what they know.
Consider children of the rich to the poor.

One wonders why, if not all, but some of the children of religious leaders do turn out to be the opposite of what their parents preach to other children. Of course, it's still because of the lack of exposure and inquisitiveness to know more about what they are being derailed from doing.

In conclusion, old clichés and expressions brought into new age, had contributed in worsening things for humanity. There's no way a child you train with the cliché in present discussion won't in one day pick up the rod with you, standing toe-to-toe with you, as long as he/she won't die by the rod being spoilt, thereby I call this NONSENSE, because the trend will continue. A child trained to be fierce would do so to his/hers.

Ogbonnaya Joel. N
©2018.
Literature / Re: This Is What Poetry Means. by OgbonnayaJewel: 3:36pm On Dec 28, 2017
Baba, I meet you here again, it's nice!
Literature / Poem: Back To Hoes. by OgbonnayaJewel: 3:26pm On Dec 28, 2017
We bury our faces in our palms, Not mourning our sold ego and pride, Even our dead soil mour for leached farms, To paint our world green with bids and tide.
When farewells lurked our patched lips, Our armless arms waved at our fortune, Do we not think of today that leaps? There we are, in bunches for new tune.

Do we not behold our gods as they die, When we embrace the cross for hope? Think not,look not for hope in land's sky, For even the pope is slayed for a new pope.

We crisp our barns for tubers, The heaven hisses drops our hoped hope, When we fiddle with barns of two-bars, For we cry with fainted heart on slope.

Have we not yet found our old ways? Lest we remain revolutionary fools, Subjected to whites' sophisticated days, Toiling with light-tuber producing tools.
Literature / Poem: Apology by OgbonnayaJewel: 2:30pm On Dec 27, 2017
When living says no, Leaving says yes, Loves to be loved, Hates to be hated. //
This is how we spell our death, Trekking our words into butchered bellies Of infants who feed on dust, With days of gloominess in tears. //
Have we known the right part to leave, with the gods of love? To leave hatred and mockery, That paints us with dead sanity. //
With a broken dusty heart, To the indifference showered on me, My shadows have denied me of living, Crawling for the smile you'll bring again.
Literature / A Play Upon Words. by OgbonnayaJewel: 11:17pm On Dec 26, 2017
At times, Leaving seems frustrating, When you leave with a bad liver. A liver lives to leave again, But living is never a remedy for a bad leaver. If livers were to be a leaf, Leavers will pluck to live again. If life worth leaving for, Then, we live with a bad liver of our kind. On earth of poisoned heart, We cease to live, For we live to seize life in our palms. We leave to cease to live and leave. Is life worth ceasing? Only Caesar sees answers to this. If life is worth ceasing, Bury me for hundred days above the soil.

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