BlindAngel: Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go.
Back to the main point, my wife lost her dad this morning. Her deceased dad has two wife's and several concubines that gave birth to lots of children, my wife doesn't know some of her half brothers and sisters.
So I went to their family house this morning to console them. The eldest son of the family (her half brother) told me and another in law that we'd be the one to pay for mortuary expenses and casket, and when the burial is getting closer they'd give us a list of things to buy and we'd both bring one goats each.
To be brutally honest I wasn't mad because of this latest expense, I got furious immediately and right on the spot because of the pressure my wife pressured me into getting married to her, by now I'd have been totally free of these unnecessary expenses. More than 19 of her sisters, both biological and half sisters that has given birth, no single expense was listed for their man that they got pregnant for and has a child for. But I and the other in law that paid dowry are the one going through these unnecessary expenses.
So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling.
I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure.
Immediately she burst into tears, and started crying endlessly.
Her mom and sisters started yelling at me and I yelled back at all of them. They told me I met her a Virgin and now she's no longer good for me (truly, the whole family thought that I was the one that took her virginity) My wife and I agreed to keep it a secret, but the constant remainder from her mom and sisters made me let the cat out of the bag, I told them that I didn't met her a Virgin that she has already started having sex when I met her, they didn't believe me but with my tone, I know they'd.
I also made mentioned that I'm not buying any goat or paying for mortuary or taking any list from them. That it's their dad and they should take care of every responsibilities, after all he has uncountable children, why putting some of the expense on me? I walked away, and switched off my phone until now that I'm just putting it on.
I know that I acted wrongly and allowed my anger to get the best part of me. But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them. I got furious because these expenses won't be on me right now if not for her pressuring me into marriage that I want ready for. I was furious because I and the other in law that they billed became the scape goat by doing the right thing by getting married and not leaving theirs daughter In ruins, where as those that got their daughter pregnant without getting married to them were totally free from these unnecessary bills. I'm in so much pains and regret right now.
1. You are justified in your feelings. 2. You should have controlled your emotions 3. She is human. She cooks for you, and do house chores for you and your baby. Respect her for that. If you continue like this, you will mess up her psychology and she will end it all by poisoning you 4. Because you married her traditionally, you are binded by that and obligated to carry out the traditional burial rites for her father. Don't play with tradition. 5. Nobody should force you into marriage young man. Not for any reason. 6. If you don't want the marriage, leave it at once. You are killing yourself by building hate in your heart every damn day. One day you will snap and kpie your wife. Nobody is above that. 7. You did no wrong knacking her. She intentionally got pregnant for you. Don't feel bad about that. Love your child.
blacknp: The scripture says answer a fool according to his folly, Atiku like his boy Gringory Obi are foolish men with their lack of constructive criticism of Bola Tinubu.
They just rant & rant over & about a government that hasn’t been in power for 2 years.
A fool like you that doesn't have hope for his next meal will open his gutter mouth to mention obi who can feed you and your entire generation. Tinubu has wrecked this country aground but you useless cretins will come online to justify his failed bigot and nepotistic style of governance. Soon you will cry.
CommonSense1967: Your papa needs mental help and he needs it fast. I have probably been paying US taxes before you were born. Yes, my tax money is been used to sponsor the terrorist apartheid regime in Israel. Go and jump inside Lagos lagoon if that hurts your delusional brain.
CommonSense1967: Zionist terrorist clown 🤡, looking for more hand out from the US already. Our tax money is been used to sponsor this zionist terrorist apartheid agenda.
Fvck Israel.
It's obvious that you are mad. You need psychological evaluation. Your tax money? You need help asap
Bosman17: What about the ones making it in Nigeria? Na you no get sen*e…
Apart from FMC, you fit attend the hospitals of the doctors and nurses wey dey make am?
You like this, no one iota of patriotism in you. Na just opportunity no dey. If giving the opportunity, you go leave naija. I just pray make the 30k no frustrate you soon.
[quote author= post=132831102]Ehn ehn! Like Bitter Obi, like followers. #Jorojarajoro[/quote] you are just a bitter human being. I dey sure say if given the opportunity, you go run leave naija and never come back but because of poverty wey dey your family, you no fit ever in your life enter plane to abroad.
Anither563: Great idea. This will also help in creating jobs and growing the economy.
Lol... It's like your brain is in your anus. Which useless job are you talking about? Watch how cng will go up in price once people accepts it.
LPG was very cheap when they were convincing people to embrace it and the moment Nigerians embraced it, the price started rising like Bitcoin with little to no retracement in price.
Mille: He is free to relocate to anambra and sit-at home every Monday, and every other days the dimwit in Finland deems fit.
Not surprised though. A former president who was against the Southwest during his presidency. Can't even point to any infrastructural development in his home state.
Remove yoruba from Nigeria and watch how the country will improve. The yoruba people are evil, wicked, tribalistic, cunning and dangerously evil.
pquaver: Anything obidient accuse one of, just know is what he is.. Oga u no even pass jamb.. Dean of Chicago state university, VC of Chicago state.. That you know is fake.. Some1 who has not seen certificate before is saying someone certificate is fake.. You a dullard I swear
BanyXchi: This Osu miscreant again, why are you delusi0nal? What did your Osu forebearers build during civil war? Is it what the french mercenaries brought? Yorubas contributed almost everything in this country. I should be asking you what your cursed tribe Ibos have contributed to this country except from CANNIBALISM and Drug trafficking. Like I said earlier, your hatred won't stop Bola Ahmed Tinubu as your next president.
Dollar is 1680, fuel is 1250, rice is 110k. Are you satisfied now?
Iamblessed85: I agree with you but if i’m right, it means he is leaving others with no choice. It’s a subtle act of manipulation and wickedness. Many times, our hunch is the only thing we have. What we call a hunch is actually the spirit giving you signs. Your spirit can see more than your physical being.
The chronology of events is actually the reason why it is suspect. It’s deliberate and carefully planned. The overwhelming and overriding theme of his narrative is that he made the right decision including ditching his skilled training as an Accountant for a forklifting job.
He is only 3 months in but yet he is somehow versed with his host country already. He owes no one an explanation yet he came back to continue his tale. I bet he couldn’t wait to continue the rejoinder which was written thesame time as the original event.
If Usefulsense was truly an Accountant, he should come and tell me what his role was as a financial controller.
Ogbeni shut up. You talk all this rubbish because you lack the means and the opportunity to leave this useless country. Nnpc staff are leaving Nigeria talk less of op. Just shut up abeg. You dey annoy me. Na you patriotic pass na.
ajahexcel: My name is Ajah Excel Anayo, This story is how a "Yello Brand" restored hope to a hopeless child.
I had completed my secondary education as the best student in WASSCE and third Best in NECO in 2008 from Federal Government College Okigwe.
For lack of sponsorship, I couldn't write JAMB that year till 2011 after I had raised some money from a teaching job I took.
Fortunately, I wrote JAMB and scored 277 and 264 in post utme, so I got admission to study Information Management Technology in Federal University of Technology Owerri. Then the big question "?", How will I pay acceptance, how will I do clearance, how will I pay school fees , What of accommodation, text books etc.
Fortunately, my friend from FGC okigwe met me in FUTO and gave me N25,000 to pay my acceptance. Another of my FGC Okigwe student took me in to stay in his room. That was how I got into FUTO.
Sincerely, I didn't bring anything to FUTO except two shirts and two trousers and 4 JAMB past questions I used for tutorial for predegree students.
So I started looking for scholarship opportunities, All through 100level, I didn't win any.
Before the semester exams, we were told that those who had not paid school fees will not write the exams. I became so scared and started looking for help all over.
One morning I decided to call the office line of FGC Okigwe Vice Principal, Mrs Ebere Dike. I told her that her best student in 2008 WASSCE wants to drop out for lack of sponsorship and asked I if the school could help in anyway. She told me that the principal who knew me had left and the current one is the third principal since I graduated. Finally, she promised to present my case.
As God would have the new Principal Mrs. Rose N. Nwachukwu took pity and paid my school fees. That was how I wrote the exam. Results were released and I came top of my class with a 4.45 gpa.
In my second year, the same challenge surfaced again, this time I almost dropped out. Then came the light of hope I got to learn about MTN Foundation Scholarship on the Internet from a scholarship website and my CGPA met the requirement. I applied and got enlisted for the exam. 13th of March 2013, MTN Nigeria restored hopes to me and many others with an award of N200,000 yearly.
With that money, I Paid my second-year fees, bought my first laptop I used to start a side hustle. MTN Foundation made good their promise and I received that support till I graduated.
Before I forget, Within same year I got the scholarship, I thought of how I could help other students who are indigent like me get access to scholarship information. In 2013 I started an online platform called Nigerian University Scholarships. It grew so quickly and became the go-to portal for scholarship and other educational resources. Today the platform has grown to become Worldscholarshipforum.com with over 2 million monthly visitors looking for scholarship information on the portal and has grown to birth a company Silicon Africa that now host Smfest one of Nigeria 🇳🇬 largest tech innovation conference.
Today we help over 2 million students every month access information on scholarships and other financial aid programmes through World Scholarship Forum I am happily married and have 3 lovely kids whose future is also secured. All these were only possible because the "Yello Brand" gave a helping hand. I cannot finish my success story without mention of this "Yello Brand". Dear MTNC Foundation, you didn't just help me, you helped a generation. This might be longer than expected but I can't hold the excitement I feel each time I share this story of how MTN Foundation restored hopes to my dying dreams. This is my 2013 version before MTN came to my rescue.
Note: the cheque is a dummy cheque that represents Hausa, Igbo and Yoruba names
So fgc okigwe doesnt worth the praise? If not for them, you would have dropped out. You marketed MTN leaving your school behind. Werey
elder1002: Successive agenda in the BUHARI PAST ADMINISTRATION.
1. Buhari's failure to improve the economy and reduce fuel prices despite promises.
2. favoritism towards the North and Fulani people in government appointments.
3. Insecurity and rise of terrorism during his presidency.
4. Criticism of Buhari's handling of the petroleum sector, including refinery maintenance and fuel subsidies.
5. High inflation and rise of food and commodities prices.
6. corruption and nepotism.
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Why do you choose to be very unfortunate amd stupid? In this terrible state we are in and the best you can come up with his buhari? Is the present day government not supposed to correct and improve lives from the errors fo buhari? You are just very stupid I tell you.
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