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labaski:
but den where is d bikini here? just bra

Jst to say hi

Trekkin frm Lagos to Abuja within few weeks? Hw possibl?

[quote author=MrsChima post=32915598]There's more to the story than meets the eye. Why is he in such hurry? Is it to have legalized sex? Want to start having babies? Do you have 8 days to live?

Rushing to marry is not a good sign and you guys are engaged! Have you cheated on him or made suggestions of leaving for better? I am asking these questions to understand why he is so insecure.

The date can be changed and finish your education before marriage sweetheart that if you are still interested.

It is your choice as well.

Mayb lack of trust. I once told him i ll get my masters b4 weddin. The part dat is disturbin me more is d church marriage committee. I called to tell them dat d date has to b changed, they said no way, dat i must abide by their decision. They make d whole thin luk like i v no voice, no right, no excuse, jst obey!
I'm tired already.

MRBrownJ:
@OP
you shouldnt run just yet because you seem to care about this man, you wouldnt still be there if you didnt. so i suggest you start to put your foot down and let him know that you EXIST, you are IMPORTANT and your decision/say is IMPORTANT too. let him discover that side of you BEFORE marriage and let him understand that this is how its going to be AFTER marriage too.

simply sit him down and tell him that this marriage will not take place on the day that he mentionned, and give him the reasons. then let him also know that if he wants to take any decisions for the both of you then he MUST confide in you first, and furthermore that his actions are a sign of trouble, and that you will need more time as you do not feel secure any longer to marry such a man.

this union does smell like this guy will turn into a controlling monster after marriage, but it could also be because he is so eager to marry you that he acts foolishly.
btw how long have you guys been together?

We v been together for four months b4 d intro. And he wants d weddin done next month.

He has called somebdy at whr i'm servin to tell him everythin i do. He is feelin insecure kind of. Its like he doesnt trust me, n dat is really makin me feel like cryin.

DanceVille:
Nice Question...
Though am a small kid buh lemme use my Understanding to answer this question...
To be Frank, this isn't a healthy relationship, this dude just wanna marry you because of many your beauty or other stuffs like that.
I swear, he didn't love you that much..Buh, something seems Fishy.How could he meet your parent for Introduction without them asking for your consent...Is he an influence person?
My dear sister, I'll ask you to pray over this to avoid regrets..
Gracais..

As of d introduction, we eventualy agreed b4 he came seein my parents.

mirexxx:
This is a warning signal my dear
I'll advice you to walk outta that relationship
soonest it'll turn into slavery
you'll find your right man that'll take your opinion/and decisions seriously.
damn! one thing i detest is a man trying to control your whole life because "he's a man"
whatever happened to reasoning together??

And he would always defend his weakness using the bible.

Pls help a sister.

Barely few months in my relationship with a guy (though they av known each other back in sch), He became so serious to see my parents even when l asked him to give me more time.
Eventually, he saw my parents, did introduction, came with his pastor and some members of her family.

After this introduction, he has been acting strange. No more caring, being authoritative and i'm-the-man-of-the-house kind of behaviour.

The latest was that, he called and told me our wedding is on so so date. That the marriage committee has fixed the date. I told him that cannot be because i'm still serving (NYSC), and why fixing my weddin date without my consent?

He told me there is nothin i can do abt it, it has been decided by d church committee and that is final.

I perceived more of these ll come up after d weddin.

I'm so confused right nw. Should i continue? i'm losing interest seriously on this relationshp. I feel he ll enslave me in the name of am a man n my say is final. Pls help me. I'm down already.

anselm791:
Simple. Just complain about his small joystick.

He has big n long one, dat is y i dnt wnt to lose him for any reason.

Abiagirl777:
It's either she leaves the stupid man or they both have to wait, sometimes during pregnancy the breast will fly out from wherever it hid all this years.talking from experience.
The guy is stupid anyway!!!

I think i av heard dis b4.
But hw true?

Does suckin it enhances its size?

Brugo:
She can still do something about it. Let her buy those creams that can enhance boobs. Thankfully it is not the other way round. Big boobs cannot be reduced without surgery.

Pls can u recommend anyone? And wht abt side effect?

Sugarpeaches:
She shul enhance it after the marriage if he's still complaining! Until then a push up bra wul do.

How pls?

She feels terrible ryt away. Her fiance has started complainin abt her small boobs. She is afraid she might lose him because he always admires big ones and told her she has tiny ones.
Hw can she enhance it? Any solution plsss?

skillzbae:
Its no big deal. I love texting, my husby doesnt send text @ all, hw would rather call,drre r pple like dat

She is like dat exactly. Even on whatsapp, she would call to continue d chat.
Honestly i dnt find it funny when i send a msg n somebody cant even reply me.

MzPreshie:
Are you the one that doesn't text or she doesn't text? Your write up is kinda confusing.

She doesnt txt and each time i protest she would humbly apologised, still nt doin it.

paranorman:
Mr man, relax.. Some people just dont do text; lot more a than one.... Does she call you well- like a finacee is supposed to?! Considering the shift from voice calls to text messagin in the global com arena, many people still dont text except it comes really handy... So, if she calls and it makes up for the text, relax.. No need gettin all fussy; no ado about notin..

She calls but txt for whr. Even she hardly initiate conversation wt me on whatsapp. I ve nt come across a such b4 honestly.

Communication is one of d most important aspects of relationship. My fiancee finds it difficult to exchange msgs wt me. This issue is really botherin me beyond her thinkin. She would tell me i dnt knw hw to compose sms.
Even hpy new month msgs again? she is nice and kind but dis is d only challenge i ve been havin wt her.
Pls i need help frm experienced and matured ppl. It's really eatin me up. What do i do? I'm jst so confused ryt nw.
Thanks in anticipation.

atilla: Bros

the best thing to do is to look for something small to do. Maybe volunteer somewhere. When you see other people whose lives are worse than you and you do something small to help them. In a small way it helps you to feel better also. Keep reading your bible also

take care.

Thanks.

There are times it feels one is d worst thing on earth. Some other persons get things easy, smiling and testifying. But some other persons find it hard to get any good thing. It's so frustratin seein ppl u were more brilliant than in primary n secondary sch days, doin financially better.
So i ask, hw do u overcome confusion n frustrating moments? I need counsels pls.
Thanks.

If distance is a barrier, den wht is phone for? B4 mobile tel, ppl used to propose thru letter writing.
It doesnt really matter to me.

Keep us posted here anytime

U ppl should nt mind him o, he is collecting mails 4 online business.

Hello Nl. I need some xtian books on relationship/courtship.
Which is/are ur best book(s) on this subject?

Pls i need it. ojjpme@gmail.com

Dnt call me patience anymor, call me Mama peace!
No contest for 2015 n face our wrath- ijaw

Nigeria is blessed jare!

If der is any element of truth in wht he (OBJ) said, den y should some persons here recommend he should b shut up in jail 4 his past? They knw wht they re doin. Naija politics.
I c REVOLUTION!

Qhal: Not matter how bad ur past is, its only right you let your partner knw abt it.

wht if he/she neva asked abt it?

David_Kissinger: Some would "some things are better left unsaid" but if I intend making it a long term relationship, Then Yes, I deserve to know because they would always pop up in future.

wht if u knw sayin it might cause break up?