Jackanda1:
I understand that good looks definately have advantages, but this thread will only discuss the disadvantages.

I am also aware that been less attractive has drawbacks. The fact that I am discussing the problems of beautiful people doesn't mean ugly people don't have problems. Let's focus on one aspect today.
I have a relative who is very handsome. We grew up, lived and schooled together (nursery-university). We are very close. The points in this thread are from observation.

For some reasons let me add: He was diagnose with anxiety and depression. He had low self esteem and was mostly a loner.

1.People are mostly insecured and intimidated by good looks. So they tend to react defensively against, subdue and humiliate you.

Its the same thing when people know you have a first class grade. You'll hear all sorts of degrading comments. Insecure people people will do anything to put u down, if you've got something they don't have.

2. Most people think life is easy for you,you're getting away with things and you don't have difficulties. So they deliberately decide to treat you with disdain. They think they are bringing about justice.

3. People stereotype you to be arrogant, proud, vain, stuck up, opportunist,mean,dumb etc anything you do or say, people find a way to relate it to the judgement they already have about you.

Thats why people say things like ' Does he have a good character' when discussing about gudlooking ppl.

4. Good looks +shyness is a curse. People don't expect you to be shy. You quietness &social inhibition could be interpretate to mean pride and arrogance.

5.Having a conversation with most people is like acting a poorly scripted movie. It seems people don't know how to act normal around you.

6. People are not free around you. They don't play or joke with you like everyone else. So youre mostly isolated

7. Since people donot expect you to have difficulties. They may be unsympathetic towards your problems,mock you behind your back and even use your trouble against you.

8. You are expected to be confidence, charismatic, have leadership skills, Rich and have a good life. Inability to meet up can cause metal breakdown.

9. You become the center of attention. Topic of discussion and gossip. Your business becomes everyone's business.

10. Even if you are in the right side of an argument. People will side against you.
It seems odd siding you.

11. Fine girls play over hard to get. Most average looking girls are intimidated and see themselves below your league

12. You can't joke or play around with people. They hinge on every word you say and may interpretate it to mean mockery or catty put downs.

13. Uneccesary aggression from fellow gender. Jealousy?

14. People think u are shallow, dumb, incapable etc. If a good looking person were to contest for election, most people won't vote for him. You're never taken seriously.

15. Everyone seems to easily believe anything bad about you and are willing to unite against a common enemy- you.

16. Most people donnot offer you help because they think you have it all.

17.You cannot talk about the problems of attractive people, no matter how badly it affects you.

18. Is it true people pay you complements often?
Why should they? So that your head will grow bigger that it's already is?

19. If your boss is intimidated by your looks, you might not get that job , no matter the qualification.

20.There are people who judge you negatively but not to point of butting head with you.

So they decide in their mind: ' I won't pay any attention to anything he says', I won't give him any validation or pay him any complements etc.
This gives them since of victory over you.
You might notice they make a big deal of ignoring everything you do or say

21. People make a big deal about your looks even more you do.

22. If you recently grew into your looks, you find most of your friends ghosting you.

23. Because of this problems, you can be forced into isolation

24. You are mostly ignored in a social group. Nobody speaks to you. You'll feel like a goat among lions.

25. People feel they need to compete and win against you. You might notice them unneccesarily showing off what they have that you don't have.

26. Most people act like they have gotten a life time achievement when they embarass, insult and put you down. They seem so happy and fulfilled. Pathetic

27. Most girls who like you but are intimidated by your looks act very aggresive to get your attention. This is usually counterproductive.

28. Since pple think everyone is kind to you, they decide to be the special ones that will make your life miserable.

29. Saying no to a request, cancelling an apointment can take a toll on people's emotions. They feel you are rejecting them or you are proud.


30. I don't know for fine girls, but fine boys tend to reject favors from people becos it makes you feel indebted to them. It also make u seems weak or like a woman. Even lalasticlala and seun can attest to it.

31. You are afraid of loosing your looks since its the only thing people value about you.

The disadvantages outway the advantages career wise because girls like you and many men will hate you.
I agree with this 100% especially if you are good looking and not outspoken. I think that is why it’s very hard to see fine boys who make wealth from nothing they have extra enemies. When others are ignored for mistakes yours will be taking as a sign of pride or show off. Even when you put on normal clothes others wear except you dress badly. People who barely know you are already envious of you. I remember a lecturer that picked on me and failed me because he felt I didn’t greet him well and always called me proud hence trying to embarrass me in class with questions and mind games so many stories. I remember a neighbor I once asked for help but he declined and then I overheard him saying it to the whole other neighbors of how he declined a help just to feel good/proud of himself and all this people inturn go against you and monitor you.Everybody believes he has no problems in life and is flexing. More or half of the friends are frenemies. Most times you see it in their mood. When you get what everyone else is getting they turn on you and feel you are trying to oppress them and then silently take revenge by always telling people things to belittle you or stop giving the same input you give. Family members take you as a competition to their children and hate you. Sigh to many bad experiences. But God no be man even people you trust and show love will hate you and deny you opportunities because girls you don’t care about like you or talks about you over them. Very few friends you have and always isaolated

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am
and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

You can only help your wife by making her to see reason. Since you have been dating her I doubt if you make demands from her that is why she is used to feeling comfortable. Try something different and see wonders, sometimes tell her you have some difficulty and need her help you may demand cash from her and ask her for a loan from her shop to buy some of the things in the house and don’t pay when you promise. Make her wait or demand. As for the chores you can demand her to cook more times in a day. That maybe you don’t like buying food outside. Tell her to help you get pastors for prayer to improve your business and see if she will buckle up or spend more times relaxing. when will feel the pressure and try to put more to make the marriage work. You can’t just stop her you have to be teach her. You caused it by pampering her in the dating stage so she feels everything is okay and hence don’t need to be useful. Be a man and take control of your family

In simple term sacrifices...

MVLOX:
You lose somethings to get some other better ones

membranus:


Yet he spends fortune on girls?

Your defense of the man is not plausible.

What you call a fortune is a peanut it’s his money he worked for it to spend if you work for yours you can spend as you like too. This is not an insult but an advice. He knows he is not so rich.The brother in question grew up without a father right, he got nothing he owns for free or through gifts. Op has been living under his brothers cover all his life. Your brother is not your father. When your brother dies you will realize how hard it is to earn 50k when you have no one . All those people you put your mind in now won’t help you. Even if you pursue the wife the property won’t last forvyou.You are counting his houses, you think he has money when he sees himself as a pauper. You are lucky to have a hardworking brother. The people you think you care don’t. How much have you been able to earn without an input from your brother or from the people you report him to? That is what real life is. You will probably still be uneducated without him. Appreciate little things. The fact that you people dictate how much he should give you pisses him off the most. 50 million can finish in an instant. There’s a saying that the monkey rejoices when the tree gets caught down until it gets exposed to the sun...Hard work brings wealth not occult even native Doctors live poor because they are not hardworking. Best advice

I know who your brother is. He is not occult. He is trained as you said to understand how money works and he wants to be wealthy and he expects your family to level up. Man is not perfect. It is very hard to become wealthy when you come from a poor background without them pulling you down. He carries your family expecting a support from one me of you but has lost hope. Have you ever helped him to earn money and he is not happy? Even what you posted here pulls down his reputation to outsiders making him loose money. Empathy doesn’t pay bills. He gives to outsiders because that’s how he gets help to become rich. He doesn’t give to you because you people take him back to where he does not want to be. He might have been called useless worthless ridiculed in struggling days by your parents which make him never want to go back to that situation. Try to change and show him you people care about him by helping him to make money and see if he will not support you. That’s how wealth grows. Write this down in your jotter. He worked hard and still works to be where he is. Start by stop calling him occulting be positive and not negative � work with him . If he pays for hair if 50k you will all return again asking him for 150k that’s his own principle if he changes from it you people will drag him down.