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lols...holes everywhere. but really, i dont blame her she also needs to keep body and soul together

power is just rotating...God put me in the circle too

bravo...u too much. call me wen this gets to FP

Philosophia:
Hello Romancelanders,

Please help me! I have a very serious issue on my hands. I opened this account because of this, for advice from you. It's actually a long story, but I will try to keep it short.

I have been in a relationship with my gf for 3yrs+ now. We had both not been ready for marriage at the time. She said she had things that she wanted to achieve so she would give herself 5yrs. I felt the same way too but I was looking at my age to settle down as 29 or 30. She was almost 21 at the time, I was 24 at the time.

When I met her she was a shaken, frightened, stubborn and love-starved young lady. Her parents were trying to force into marriage with a "family friend's" son whom she did not like plus she was not ready to settle down at the time. Her father is a retired military man and would use extreme measures like locking her up in a room for days. Anyways, I supported her in everyway I could at the time even at a time meeting the so-called "family friend's" son. I did not intend to get into a relationship at the time but certain things happened and I began to fall in love with her plus she needed love and care so badly. She is a very smart, motivated and beautiful young lady.

We got into a relationship and with time, the pressure as regards marrying the guy died or so I thought. From then till now, we have both been striving hard to make things get better. She was trying to run a business while I was working at a small magazine company. Unfortunately I admit, even though I was not earning much at the magazine, I was careless with my finances. I would spend on her, us and on a couple of mundane things but the bulk was on her and us.

Well, the financial crunch hit and I lost my job being owed several months in back-salary. I had very little savings. Things were not going too well with her in her business either. And so what little savings I had plus borrowed money from my parents joined with her own funds(including borrowed money), we started a business. We have been almost a year into the business now. Things are so dull. She hardly comes to the office anymore. I manage to go with little funds raised from teaching at minor places plus my parents support. We have been trying a "new" field though which seems a bit positive.

You have the back story now. Here is the problem.

Of recent, her body language and speech + whatsapp chat seemed to be dodgy, non-committal and atimes even coated with disdain. I knew something was wrong. I had wanted to talk to her and she said she wanted to discuss something with me as well, but she had basically refused to show-up when I call her out. Well, I was not so much a fan of going to her house because of chances of meeting her mum plus her several siblings But I braved it and showed up at her house on Sunday. I asked her what the matter was.

She told me of how her family was pressuring her and almost everyone she met was telling her to try and settle down. She said how she knows that I am not ready to settle down anytime soon. She said she had been praying about it and she has received an answer that she should settle down and that she do so before this time next year. She wants to get married before her birthday. People, she said several things and I said several things and I walked out angrily and dazed but I just gave the highlight of the issue. I could not wrap my head properly around it for a while but later I calmed down and I asked her a few questions.

It seems her mind is made up on marriage. She says she would prefer if it was me because she loves me, but if not, it is the will of God. She said some other things. I am just dazed and I don't know how to take it or how to act or what to do.

My life is not where I want it to be. I don't have the resources to turn things around right now. I am in a quagmire. Please Help!

I just know DAT all will be fine with u... God can change any man's story within a minute. He did it for me & He will do urs

ladies can do anything for money

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This is wot happens wen u love a gal so much

Selfish interest

Selfish interest

Ajimobi...so down-to-earth

This is wickedness...of the highest order

When are we getting there, Nigeria

True talk

Finally, a Nigerian pastor that is not greedy

Hmmmm...lemme goan b coming

raker300:
if war starts now Africa will be used as a testing ground for missiles

lol

Very educative... Thanks OP

FakoMaybach1:
make e start na, u go see say US is not as strong as they seem

u tink so...

She died bcoz she went to church that morning but one thing I know - God is righteous.

Eeyah but when is bubu coming back

God, where ur eye dey? I need just 500,000 for business

Buhari has failed us! Quote me so that thunder from the seventh heaven can fire u

paintworld:
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paintworld:
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Anti rust

babdap:
What if all of them die before 2019?

I wonder ooo

dingbang:
Bro trust me.. I am a banker... When I say most of these girls shouting broke guys upandan don't have shishi... I mean it strictly.

U see dem coming in banks being all flashy... Shishi dem no get...


So don't let all these things bother you. Girls who gat cash don't talk much.

but we don't spend 'shishi' in Nigeria na.. we spend naira or is 'shishi' another currency? ayam not understanding

Tell Madueke to borrow u na...

analice107:
Hahahahahahahahaha.
I smell Catholic. If you don't commit the sin of fornication, how will you get pregnant?

I was waiting for you to bring up scriptures to back up your OP.

why don't you give us scriptures to back up church wedding or wot exactly is ur point

Libo45:
Must the wedding be done in a church? If it's against their laws, honor their laws and jejely go to a court for statutory marriage, simple. We too like stress as Nigerians

no b small tin ooo

Woteva rocks ur boat bro... God will provide a better job for them.

Chemical Engineering is very very tough. Very very once again