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ManLikeL:
Brothers, What Will You Advise a Brother?

I'm currently confused about my relationship journey.

I haven't really been the type to consider a serious relationship for a while now. It's just been a couple of sex partners here and there. We do it safely and keep things on a superficial level.

Now, recently, there have been demands and questions here and there about starting a family, especially considering that my immediate junior brother is done having children. His lastborn will be three next month, while the lastborn of my family is also done having kids. Her firstborn is already 10 years old.

I seem to be the only odd one out in this regard, even though I'm arguably more financially settled than all of them. Not to brag, please; I'm just trying to paint a clearer picture of the situation.

I clocked 35 in May, and it was as if everyone in the universe agreed to centre their birthday wishes around God providing me with a wife and family. Ever since then, the reminders from my folks have been pretty loud, persistent, and disturbing.

For the first time in years, I decided to seek a proper relationship, unlike my usual superficial flings and sexcapades.

Come to think of it, I can barely go three days without proper sex. This detail should be useful later.

I met this very beautiful babe from my state. She's 27, a first-class graduate (I am too, actually), and I'm naturally attracted to every facet of intelligence, especially communicative and academic intelligence. She has both, and I'm superbly into her.

She can hold a very reasonable conversation without leaving you mentally exhausted. She's become an integral part of my life, and at this point, I think it's safe to say I'm deeply attracted to her and genuinely like her.

Worthy of note is the fact that I've enjoyed a very unusual level of peace with her over the past three months, which is absolutely unlike me.

I get correct anger ish, although I've learnt to manage it well. I'm not a violent person, but I pick offences easily, and most times, I walk away when provocations get too loud. More often than not, my walking away is goodbye. I'm so good at it.

But since meeting this babe, we've not had any ugly disagreements over these past few months. She's very calm, calculated, and receptive. These qualities have made me like her even more.

She has a reasonably good-paying job, but that's not even an issue. I earn well enough to cater for everything, but she's also financially independent. Gifting seems to be her thing, too, as she's spent quite a sum on gifts for me without expecting anything in return. I haven't even matched up to a quarter of what she's spent on gifting though.

For the first time in my life, I agreed to a no-sex-before-marriage relationship because she's a virgin.

I still dey run my games on a low, so this didn't really look like an ish.

Here lies the rub.

Just last week, she said she had a confession to make, and she opened up about being SS. Mind you, I'm AA, so, by the usual norms, this shouldn't be an issue.

But during one of our previous conversations, she had claimed to be AS and asked if I would be comfortable settling down with someone who was SS. I almost freaked out.

I'm sorry, but I've always wanted to have AA kids. With apologies to those affected, I've always believed that if I ever have children, I owe them the best possible chances at life, including heightened intelligence, beauty, and a sound genotype. I believe I have a reasonable degree of control over who complements my genes to bring these qualities to fruition.

I'm honestly very good-looking and intelligent, so why not get someone who possesses these qualities, too?

Call it insipid or vapid, but I could swear that life has already dealt some people heavy blows by limiting their options in their quest for a future partner. Unlike those of us with AA genotypes, who can consider partners across all the common genotypes without the same risk of having children with sickle cell disease, they don't always have that freedom. I wanted my kids to have that freedom and an avalanche of options, too.

So, when she asked me that question, I sincerely freaked out and couldn't hide my disdain.

This, in turn, stopped her from opening up until last week, when she could no longer hide it.

Funnily enough, I already like her to the point where I don't mind if she's SS, BB, or iPhone.

But the fact that she lied is what actually turned out to be my ish. She's been a very straightforward person so far, and this particular issue has upset our fashioned norms.

I proposed that the no-sex-before-marriage agreement should be off if we were going to be together, and she agreed. But now, I'm beginning to think it might look as though I'm trying to take advantage of her at this point.

Brothers, what will you advise a brother?
Am I being unreasonable?
Considering the emotional supports people with SS need, how challenging can it be? What is the possibility that she lives long enough?

All insults, curses, and whatever are welcome.
T for grateful.

jmoore:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/10/nigeria-has-worlds-highest-number-of-poor-people-eu-commits-e45m-aid/amp/

treesun:
Tanzania remove Nigeria from Referred Visa Category
The decline continues... Even Tanzania.
As a young independent country, Nigeria and a few other countries sponsored Tanzania's application as 104th UN member.
In 1964, Nigeria sent its soldiers to quell military mutiny in Dar es Salaam, replacing British troops.




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Olaide1295:
What stocks have fallen to attractive levels now?

essentialone1:
UBA shares has had a terrible year.

mikeapollo:
Fair enough. May be Uber has its own peculiarities or special case.
But let's also remember that a company may operate in a smaller economy and still be more profitable (return on capital), than a in bigger country (e.g. China, Nigeria etc.).
Sometimes, economic and other factors - insecurity, conflict of interests, ease of business, corruption, legal issues etc. may also cause it.
But as general rule, most companies do not want to leave a profitable country, unless other factors are more compelling to them than profits

1vandragon:
Nigeria is a very interesting country...

Using Naira rates, a litre of PMS in US is about #1450... on the average

In Nigeria, a litre of PMS is about #1300 on the average.

But in US, the minimum wage is about #1.7m p/m.

In Nigeria, minimum wage is #70k...

Yet, some people think it is OK to leave the masses to the vagaries and economics of the international market...

GeneralDae:
The Nigerian FX market

In my last update on the Nigerian FX on this platform, I gave an optimistic view that despite the US/Israel-Iran war, fundamentals support Naira appreciation. At that time, the Naira was around N1365/$, but today it’s at N1336/$.

Any changes to my view, especially as we approach elections? NO

I believe the naira could touch N1310 or even below before year-end.

Why am I optimistic?

We know Q3 is usually associated with increased FX demand from vacation spending and international school fees. Despite this demand, the naira has been strengthening. I know you will ask me to check the parallel market (see my write-up here: x.com/OlaoluBoboye/s…). After the parallel market story, check monthly FX inflows: they've averaged $3.9 billion since the start of the year, or $4.2 billion over the last 3 months. You can pick any period; the result is the same.

What I like about the FX inflow story

- In the last 3 months, inflow from the CBN is about 11.2% of total inflows on average, showing that the CBN is now acting like a regular participant in the market rather than a dominant FX supplier. This counters the argument that the CBN may be force-fitting the naira. In fact, CBN FX intervention is so small, less than $500 million/per month and even in some months they did not show up at all. So, the naira is supported by fundamental factors.

- Local inflows are now accounting for over 60% of total inflows, reducing the dominant flows from foreigners, especially FPIs. More gist on FPIs. Of the $18.4 billion OMO outstanding, FPIs account for 70.0%-80.0%, or about $12.9 billion-$14.7 billion. (I feel like talking more, but the write-up don dey long. I will do another post on changes in OMO restriction, reduced time to maturity in recent OMO issuances, Private OMO maturities, etc. )

Other fundamental factors supporting the Naira

- CBN's decision to temporarily increase banks' weekly FX sales to Bureau De Change (BDC) operators from $150,000 to $1.0 million, split 70.0% via transfers and 30.0% in cash. The measure should improve dollar availability in the retail segment, where demand is less efficiently intermediated through the formal banking system.

- FX reserves at $53.0 billion; my year-end projection remains $55.0 billion. Net FX reserves are over $40 billion, per the CBN's last communication.

- Following the president’s executive order mandating that some previously held NNPC funds be paid into the federation account, NNPCL dollar remittance has increased, supporting higher inflows into the FX reserves. NNPCL’s monthly average flows are now at over $500.0 million vs last year’s average of $321.0 million. I heard that NNPCL now sometimes participates in the FX market, selling FX directly rather than solely remitting to the FGN via the CBN.

- International Oil Companies (IOCs) are also increasing FX supply into the market, doing around $150 million per month in supply.

Overall, the market is liquid, supported by adequate dollar inflows and less encumbered FX reserves.

~ Economist Boboye

RollinTNDA:
Alex Onyema has tried
It is not easy to be a top investor in Nigeria
The level of hardship corruption inflation will definitely bring your business down

In goodluck Jonathan regime

mikeapollo:
You like wahala

Oasisblue:
Thanks for letting us know you have zero ideas. You actually remind me of the politician promising additional 10KMW in 4 years and when asked how just said 'trsut me'

mikeapollo:
I did NOT say he was CONVICTED!
I only said the funds in the account were traced to DRUGS! Tell me if it is a lie.
In the US, plea bargaining is part of their law. Not every crime or offence leads to conviction if the prosecution accepts your plea bargain.
And no one would willingly plea bargain and lose USD460,000 for no offence or crime.
Let's educate ourselves properly and stop these conspiracy theories.

U are still on this 460k dollar matter, and u will be blaming the Jews for killing Jesus Christ

MEGAWATCH:
Out of over 200 million people in your country, you only choosed a man with criminal records, what do you expect other countries to see in you?


Since na criminal una see to lead you, all of you are all CRIMINALS.


Very simple.

I know you are a stain. Jesus said he who has no sin, let him cast the first stone. Is Atiku not a criminal as wel, are u also a saint. Maybe Jesus is wrong after all


🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Jagabanfromcali:
Bullsheet , Trump will crush them to bits this time if they don’t eat the humble pie and negotiate in good faith

Dreal1247:
This is a business oriented woman while the man and his family are corporate gold diggers. She should run very far. The man won't mind getting her murdered and convert her properties to his family property.