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Thanks

jaybee3:
Has she been demanding since you guys got back together?

Truth of the matter is most women desire safety net and there is nothing wrong in a woman pursuing her ultimate ambition so long as she makes it crystal clear.

You need to be sure she is who you want to be with simply because us men usually get stuck in the games we play when there is the need to get laid.

You are probably more matured now and thus a little more confident in speaking your mind as well as having a positive realistic outlook to life.

Does she work or she plans to be a housewife?

I honestly don't think you should have a negative mindset that things might turn around for you in the nearest future

Thank u so much. The truth is dat she hasnt been demandg at all. She behaves so well...like an angel...too good to be true... I wish she behaved dis way when we first met.. She works in Niferia, shez actually a career and focused lady.

eminent007:





Seconded!

You meet your ex and on her first visit you don rush de f*ck her.
Were you sex starved.
Oloso biz no de go on strike ke!
Guy, go sleep jare.
If you dare quote me........

Fish

Redoil:
i am havin such problem too and i am realy confuse about it. The kwestion you should ask ur self is will she be better or worse off than any other gurl you will meet if you decide to let her go ask ur self and sincerely answer the kwestion you urself.

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Thanks. So much sense in ur post

bisous:


At least you know her flaw I.e not dating a broke man....
I know it must hurt knowing you couldn't count on her when the chips were down..but truth is it could be that at that time you were also not lovable.....you know how a man gets when he has lost his means of livelihood......that may have been the case and since she says she was immature she may have learnt her lessons .....now she is pregnant for you not marrying her won't be a good idea.....especially because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know

Thanks

obi4eze:
OP if you're the one the I must say that you are a fool.

Thanks

chymystique:



well well, imo, I dont believe cause a woman got pregnant for u that u must marry her.. I think you should not propose to her YET.. wait a while and use the period to make up your mind if she's what you want in a woman.. this is your future and no one is gonna help u live it and the decisions u make today determines a lot in future. I dont wanna start casting stones @ u cause the deed has been done already



PS Checked your profile now and saw You just opened this account 50mins ago.. u knw wan use your old moniker?

I am well known on nairaland, thats y I created dis profile. Thanks for ur word...

Lacomus:
Picture of when you got intimate or na nollywood

LoL

chymystique:
Mr OliverQuinny, I just ve a question to ask..

"Are you Sure YOU are the unborn Baby's father??

I think I am.

Welepamilayo:


Put her in your sister's shoe. You have to take responsibility somehow. If that means marriage to both of you, then that. Just don't let the child suffer because you both decided to not take pregnancy precautions.

Thank u so much. You may not believe me, but I feel relieved a little with ur post. Ur right, cos if she didnt get preg, I wudnt hav thot of marryg her. Thanks again

Thanks... Thats encouraging.

POETIST:
forgive and forget

Is it compulsory to marry a lady cos shez preg? My heart is not in sync with my decision.

diddydiva:
See complications.


Well you have to marry her.

I don't support abortion

We broke up cos we were also having arguements, and the moment I quit the job, it was kinda the "right time for her to strike". She explained why she acted that way though, said she wasnt mature enuff and dat she was just a baby then. I have since forgiven her, but my mind woudnt stop flashing back and am worried especially now that am considering marriage.

Welepamilayo:
Why did you not remember how much she hurt you when you were carrying out the deal? Pikin don enter matter now. I strongly believe you need to actually talk out the issues that led to your intial break up. If she really left you because money no dey flow, that is a huge problem IMO. If both of you cannot fully resolve that, you will go into a marriage where you are already skeptical, hesitant and suspicious of her intentions.

I hope it all goes well.

If ur advice is mature enuff, it'll help me right now, so shoot

justi4jesu:



Okay then if you insist! Will you follow my advice even if i have one for you?

It is real. Am actually scared she might change in the nearest future.

justi4jesu:
Sounds Nollywoodish to moi

Dear Nairalanders, I am in a relationship with someone that hurt me when I needed her most. We met a while ago while I was still hustling on the streets of PortHarcourt. I was working in a small firm then, but I was doing all I could to make her happy. The job wasn't well paying, so I had to quit to pursue my Masters Degree and professional qualifications. The money stopped rolling in and we both started having issues. She became very difficult and eventually she left me sha, for no concrete reason. But I strongly believe its cos I quit the job.

I still loved her, and wished she wud change her mind. Some years later, I got a job in one of the multinationals and was sent abroad on an official assignment. I met her again at the airport in London and we became friends. We started chatting and she visited me on a saturday. One thing led to another, and we were intimate. The feelings started rekindling, but I just couldn't forget the way she treated me when I needed her most and I am afraid that shez back cos of my wealth.

Recently, she told me shez one month pregnant and am contemplating marrying her, but the way she hurt me when we were in Nigeria keeps taunting me. I keep having these flashbacks. Am actually scared that she will repeat the same behaviour in d nearest future even though it seems she has changed.

Please ur advice is needed here. Mature minds only.