DipoDee:


....at least, you are man enough to threaten sobriquets on the internet. So now that you have my IP and location, I guess you wanna dump your wife on me huh Pls, bring her, I'm waiting for you Omaye.

Very well then.

sallyopy:
I will advice you let go of each other's past and focus on the future. as long as she doesn't cheat on you now that you are married, you don't have to destroy your marriage because of her past.

Thanks. I just wanted fairness.

DipoDee:


...which insults! Ogbeni, go and chase your wife out of your house because she lied about her exe's and fvck outta NL with your sob tales mbok.

Don't push this too far. I can tolerate but to an extent. I already have your IP and location. Please don't dare.

DipoDee:



...you can age physically but not mentally or emotionally. So, of all the things to worry about in this life, number 1 on your list is your wife ex's? Come on, who forced you to get married?

So, you can't build a home on deceit, so let her go and go get your pristine woman with no stain on her history.

Let the woman go before you start hitting on her or using this absolute childish stupidity as an excuse to cheat on her.

I will pretend I didn't see those insult. It is not worth anything. I hope it made you feel better anyways?

Ouch! except the pampers business development managers and legal team decide to turn blind eyes to this. Else, the deal is gone.

Seen, but of what use is it to humans?

All these bastards needs to be hanged by their balls.

GodnGold:
How many times have you lied since this year?

How many times have you lied since you were born?

In all honesty,you don't expect her to say she has being with over 20 men.

FCS,if you decide to pitch your tent with a woman,these questions you are asking her are uncalled for.

You should focus on the present tense of your marriage.
You are getting expert advice and am not charging.

Stop this wahala,Life in Nigeria is hard for all and sundry.

Enjoy your woman and stop looking for what's not there.
If she tells you 20 exes,what will be your gain?,she loves you and is protecting you.
We are not all sincere.

Marry and stay married please.

I tried to my best and I have not lied to her. I hate lies. But supposed you where in my shoes, will ever trust yours a 100% on everything again?

There actually was no exceptional thing about this letter. Nothing catchy about it. Obviously sentimental and perhaps not from a professor as claimed by the op.

This is so bad. But the sizes of the bones though. That eighteen yrs guy must be a giant.

My empathy was awaken, but that Saraki thing blew its steam away. Anybody who supports any thief of mischief maker can rot behind bars.

Rest in peace bro. May God accept your soul.

kenny1111:
well, as petty as your plight might sound, to me d gravity can't be overlooked. is ds just her shortcomin? if yes pls stop d thought of divorce, im sure with your kinda mentality u cnt handle divorce at all, u av no idea wht d next wife is gonna be like, glad u didnt mention she's presently cheating on u or evercheated...im sorry to say ds all men detest deceit of wht ever colour bt then u going 2ru Facebook 2 confirm d existence of 'EX' is a pointer 2d fact dt uv always hav trust issues with her prior 2 getin married, pls I will be very sorry to tell u to grow up abit more, marriage is not 4kids bro, kids not just by Age......Im not married dou bt then u 2row d thread open.
lastly, overlook ds mind boggling ish and see how mentally grown u will be from within, infact, is gonna make u feel more prepared for d journey ahead. ....... my 3rd or 4th comment on NL 4 over 6yrs ago........I detest divorce as much as deceit bt I prefer d later.....@OP, all d best.....

Lol... first did you see anywhere I mentioned cheat? If I don't trust her, I wont hold onto her words. Just discovering this sh1t now corrupted the trust I had in her. Never had I suspected her for any reason. How many will I find out another day? How many secrets is she holding back? Just suddenly she is a stranger to me.

GodnGold:
I am struggling to understand marriage of these days...

Could it be something in the air we are breathing?

If a woman has a million exesss,is that a yardstick for measuring her fidelity and support?

I don't know how you process things and I don't care but you did not just marry a woman,before you divorce her,make sure you invite the people you invited 700 days ago for the divorce...
700 days ...365 days...

Perhaps you don't get the drift here. I asked her about it even before I made up my mind to propose but she lied about the number of her exes and I built everything on that. Do you know how painful it is to discover that the person that means so much to you actually lied to you and still did that without remorse? Can you ever trust such person again?

Acidosis:
Deceit ruined all the relationship I ever had.

I've dedicated all my life on RESEARCH, so I'm going to be sure no one is playing games with my mind before I tie that knot. I think you've got no choice right now as you're in already. Work things out bro.

I hate deceit, but I can't stand divorce either (except on certain grounds).

I always make sure I know even the smallest things about whoever I'm dating. I'm not one of those that claims "hey, I don't care about your past" nonsense. Only liars and perpetual desperate monsters say such.

If you love a girl beyond her pants, you will care about her past. Sit her her and talk the true words into her, BE YOUR DAMN SELF, and stop LYING nitori oloun.

If you've had 67 abortions, say it clearly, your destined HORSE-band would locate you, at least before your 80th Birthday. No need for needless dramatic distrust and trailing.

I wish I did that. I only held onto her words. Thought there was some integrity in them.

Hernyolar:
Dear Op, there is a reason why the past is called past...it's a past event...and there's a reason why past lovers are called 'ex' cos they have once existed in our lives but now they've exited.
I don't support secrets in marriages, but believe me some things are better left as secrets, buried and undiscussed....

If your wife has been faithful, this is too small a mistake to distrust her now....she has left a detail of her past away from you...yes...but you should remember there are times you've not been completely honest with her....you can't discuss everyone, everyday, every event of your past when you aren't a conputer(ain't making excuses for her)

Easier for you to say. Once upon a time, I asked her to bare everything concerning her past relationship life to me as I was prepared to accept her then. She only told me about these 4 people. I insisted she tell me everything but she stood her ground anyways. Please tell me how to continue when she keeps denying it? What if there are other ones I am yet to discover by accident like I just did?

All I want is that one reason to trust her completely again.

edwife:


I do understand that a healthy marriage is built on a foundation of honesty and trust. But now that you found out that she might not have told you about the guy but can't you see that you are taking it far? At this point I don't think she will accept if you continue interrogating her as if she did something terrible.

You need to talk to her very calmly and make her understand why you are hurt. At least she will know that she did something very bad and tell her never to lie to you again,neither will you lie to her too then forgive her.I don't see the need for you to know the truth at this point because you are married. The secret to a healthy marriage is not honesty nor forgiveness but acceptance that is a kind of respect for the other's right to make mistakes.

Please let go and accept the woman she's with you and not what she was in the past. I am pretty sure if she was not what she said she is,you would have find out in the 2 years you dated.

I wish I could find just one reason why I should trust and believe her as I was supposed to. Love isn't just enough a reason right now.

edwife:


Honestly if i understand you i will be lying, this is someone from her past-before meeting you-why is it so important to you now that you guys are married? Have you suspected her of any wrong doing regarding "men" till now?

Please stop it already, she's no longer your girlfriend but your wife! Assuming it was before marriage then it is your choice to not marry someone who has been there even when you have been there too which is selfish by the way but I find the idea of divorce very ridiculous to say the least.

The basis for this is deceit. I cant stand it. And the fact that she denied it made it worse. I cant build a home on deceit. Have you ever been lied to by the person you trust very much?
I cant come up with just a reason why I should trust her again.

edwife:


Honestly if i understand you i will be lying, this is someone from her past-before meeting you-why is it so important to you now that you guys are married? Have you suspected her of any wrong doing regarding "men" till now?

Please stop it already, she's no longer your girlfriend but your wife! Assuming it was before marriage then it is your choice to not marry someone who has been there even when you have been there too which is selfish by the way but I find the idea of divorce very ridiculous to say the least.

The basis for this is deceit. I cant stand it. And the fact that she denied it made it worse. I cant build a home on deceit. Have you ever been lied to by the person you trust very much?

edwife:
You got to be kidding!

Did you tell her how many exes you had?

How do you know she's telling a lie?

How I got know; I overheard her friend telling her on the phone that her ex by a totally different name from the ones I know had just proposed to a lady few months ago. Two weeks later when I went through the list of her fb friends, I discovered that the said guy truly exists.

greatgod2012:
What I think you can do is to have extensive communication with her about the issue on ground. Let her know how much you detest lies and the effect of it on your marriage if she continues like that.


If you people haven't tied the knot, I would have advised you to let her go, but since you're now married, help her to change, at least for the sake of your marriage.
May God help you both.

The thing is, she don't want discourse anything about it. She picks offense as soon as I tried to bring it up.

We met sometimes 2013 and courted for 2 years. While we were dating, I asked about about her exes and she told me that they were only 4 of them. Well it was something I could deal with.

Some 700 plus days later, we got married.
But the things is, I just discovered that she had more than 4 exes and since then I find myself questioning almost everything she ever told me and everything she does. Just that lie changed everything.

It is affecting my level of attraction towards her. I tried to ask her about it and she still denied it and that made it worse. I am contemplating about divorce. I no longer run home as soon as I close from work as did I always.

I hate deception, I can't stand it. I feel that's how she will continue to lie to me about some things forever.

How can I handle this maturely? I ain't got money for marriage counselling.

Let's start this way; what did you do that even your own sister and the husband who took it upon themselves to cater for you won't even pick your calls let alone to forgive you?

If we can deal with that, only then we will find a way out of this mess.

vimi:
Nice Info buh note that cash withdrawal can't be made iif you disclose ur card PIN to a fraudster that does not have ur ATM card.

You become vulnerable to atm fraud online iif Ur card PAN(i.e 16-digit+ code) on Atm card and atimes the C.VV number (Card Verification Value 3digits) behind the card n PIN iis compromised

I guess that was what they wanted me to divulge as soon as I mistakenly fall for the scheme.

BeeBeeOoh:
Where's the screen shot

Please check again... I've uploaded it.

CC: lalasticlala & seun

Below is the screenshot of the text message I got from some sheep and cows this yesterday.
Please don't fall a victim. No bank will send you such message.

Beware!!!

Please spread the news.

CC: lalasticlala

I wonder why they had to give that credence to Mungo Park.

What about the monies some of the thieves voluntarily returned? How much was it? What percentage of the budget can it cover?

madridguy:
When will EFCC stop all this sh.it. This boys are not Internet Scammer but Freedom fighter. How many times did they see FBI parading any of their citizen of selling arms in black market that has cost Millions of innocent souls worldwide ? Trillions of dollars stolen to their land from Nigeria is making their economy blooming and someone is arresting our jobless boys for trying to create employment for themselves by bringing back our stolen fund through their brain. Note FG, defrauding fellow Nigeria is a Scam but bringing back our stolen fund by trick deserves National honor. Quote me by spewing trash @ your own peril.

Keep wallowing and wailing...

It's a bit long, but it's worth reading.

hopelink1:
My Jesus is not a frustrated being, you are wrong

Bro! calm down, Jesus according to his description by John the baptist in the book of revelation is more like the man in the image you just saw. Except for the expression on his face and the length of his hair, they are a bit fair in his skin colour and structure. Not the sexy white man that you think. He was more like a black man.