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The issue of whether the late Prime Minister was killed or he died of natural cause had never been in contention. All historical accounts had shown that he was shot as evidenced by archival reports.
Let us humor Mr. Mbu, he was not around during the coup as he was on an official trip to India. For crying out loud, the man himself said he heard about what transpired from the Poet Christopher Okigbo.
Now let us look at the story, for people who know Lagos well, a trip to Calabar would have required anybody then to have followed the Old Lagos Ibadan road through Ikorodu, Ijebu Ode to get to the east so I do not understand why they had to follow the Abeokuta road. It just doesn’t add up?
Only God and Mr. Mbu know why he is coming out with this story, but the history of a country cannot be based on unverifiable here says. 
That he is an old man does not mean his story has any iota of truth to it.

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Your question about whether the people in Lekki would adopt a light rail or ferry service as alternatives is moot becuase the LASG has not said anything about providing these alternatives.

must_a_far:
Some people on here have not been consistent with their argument with regards this project over the months this debate has been going on. Anyway that aside, gareth gave the newyork city bridges and tunnel example and I notice no one argued against it. I hear people scream "alternative routes need to be provided". not in all cases can alternative routes be provided. In some cases the alternate routes lead u this far and u hit another toll plaza so u really can't escape it.

GAR3TH mentioned the Verrazano Bridge(completed in 1964)linking Staten Island as being a toll bridge.He also mentioned the Queens Midtown Tunnel. It is true all the bridges connecting Staten Island to New York are toll bridges. However he did not mention that there is the Staten Island Ferry which has been free since 1997. This is an alternative for someone who lives in Staten Island and works in Manhattan so that he doesn't have to pay the $11 toll everyday to go to work.
Once in Lower Manhattan he can hop on the New York Subway which is an efficient mass transit system so he really does not needs to drive a car to work as someone in Lekki will have to.
In fact the ferry system had access for vehicles for a fee of $3 but this was stopped because of the September 11 2001 terrorist attack. Also there is an express bus service between Staten Island and New York for half the toll as well as between Queens and New York so people still have choice of either paying the tolls or joining a bus to their destination in New York. In addition there is a passenger train services between Queens and New York.
As I understand Lekki Expressway does not yet has BRT so the people along that route are at the mercy of the Danfos and since the Danfos will have to pay toll too then the transport fare may increase.
Look friends, we all want Lagos to develop but it should be done the right way. I say once again that there is no where in the world where you toll the only access road to a community and not provide an alternative route.
Like some people have said here, the right thing would have been to build a new road and then toll that so people who needs the fast travel time such roads afford them will pay toll to use it.

http://www.nyc.gov/html/dot/html/ferrybus/statfery.shtml#facts
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Staten_Island_Ferry

PapaBrowne:
You made some sense here sha. But I think you need to think beyond this Lekki road. This Lekki road is the first real PPP in infrastructure development in Nigeria. If it fails, investors are not going to put money into PPPs in Nigeria. If they don't then we can say bye bye to our dreams of excellent infrastructure. Oil money would never build adequate infrastructure. There is so much money in private hands that can be used to build infrastructure, and we must encourage that money to come our way.

It is sad that Nigerians have a mentality that money to build roads would just appear from the sky. Nigeria cannot afford good infrastructure and at the same time pay salaries and provide adequate healthcare and qualitative education. People have to pay for some of the services so the government can expend more money on areas where the people cannot afford.

Lekki residents buy houses and pay rents at prices that would send shivers down your spine. They should be the last people to complain about tolled roads.

You see the issue is not about Lekki or the people who stay there. I have issue with us assuming that since something does not affect us directly then it is okay.
See if I were to move back to Naija which is going to be soon, I will not live in Lekki and while in Naija I never liked the area. But the morality of this issue is what is in contention. In a democracy, people should be allowed to have freedom of choice and they should be protected from the OPPRESSION of the majority.
Yes I agree with you that money to take care of infrastructures has to come from somewhere, but before you tell the people to sacrifice shouldn’t the government try to curb wastage in its own spending first?
If we are so crazy about this PPP as the solutions to our infrastructural deficit, then we should do it the right way. PPP is not done anywhere else like we are trying to do it in Nigeria.
If we are interested in PPP as the solution then I propose that we do not have any government then. We should not pay tax again. Let the “voodoo investors” and the “beer parlor Capitalists” constructs the roads and we then pay toll charges to them. Let them manage the schools and hospitals and we only pay for services they render and not the middle man which is government.
What the people protesting are asking for is for them to have choices. THIS I BELIEVE IS WHAT CAPITALISM IS ABOUT. CHOICES!
So why should it be that the only road to the area is the one that is going to be tolled?

naijatoday:
The toll is silly because all the have done is add one lane

My thing is why are this people just protesting now. When Tinubu signed the contract they were all cheesing


Any why the hell is everyone blaming fashola is he the one that signed the contract?

If you have been following the media reports on this issue, you will know that the people have been complaining from day 1 and what they were promised was that there would be an alternative road which has not yet materialize hence their protest.

The issue is that the only motorable road to a community is going to be tolled without any alternative provided. That is what is wicked and unjust.  I-10 (Katy Freeway), Westpark Toll Roads, Hardy Toll Road as well as Sam Houston Toll roads are roads within the Houston City that are toll roads. For the 2 years I have been living here now I have not used these roads as there are alternatives.
The only people who use the toll roads are people who are in a hurry and "out of towners"
Our leaders and elites tend to disregard the masses in decision making yet they want people not to rebel when they are riding roughshod over them.
It is ethically wrong to force everybody to pay tolls because of where they live. As some people have mentioned earlier, maybe we should toll all the roads in Lagos.  The right thing would have been for LCC to build a new road and toll it so people who want the fast lane to wherever they are going would patronize them.
SHEBI THE BEAUTY OF CAPITALISM IS IN THE CHOICE IT PROVIDES. SO WHY DONT THE CAPITALISTS INVEST THEIR MONEY IN PROVIDING ALTERNATIVES TO WHAT THE JAKANDE SOCIALIST GOVERNMENT PROVIDED AND LET PEOPLE PATRONIZE THEM? WHY MUST THEY TAKE OVER A FORMER SOCIALIST GOVERNMENT ROAD AND PREACH TO US THAT SOCIALISM IS BAD.[/[/b]size]
Rent seekers and "10 percenters" posing to be investors. "Yeye dey smell"
[b]To the man who said that Lagos- Ibadan and Benin-Shagamu Expressways do not have alternatives well maybe he did not know about the Old Lagos Road from Ibadan that goes through Ijebu-Ode and Ikorodu to Lagos. Maybe he did not know of the Ife Akure Owo Benin City Road.
WHERE THERE IS NO JUSTICE THERE CAN NOT BE PEACE

@Nayah
I am not blaming Nigerians , I am, just saying that the effect of the economic "meltdown" is making more and more people in the "Advanced" countries to become xenophobic.
I am only imploring  Nigerians to see this as a wake up call for us to work towards changing the situation of things in the country. Note I did not say our Rulers because I know those ones are failures.
I mean you and I and every other Nigerians who believe that it is not by accident that we were born Nigerians.
These xenophobic attacks will not stop because folks are looking for who to blame for their economic woes, and who else to blame than the "bloody" immigrants.

Guys this is indeed very sad and stories like these ones are what made me resolved that as soon as my expat status ends I will be on the first plane home. As the world continues to grapple with the effect of the economic doldrums, we should expect more xenophobic attacks from citizens of several countries.
I was reading a story on PBS Facebook Page just yesterday about Republicans lawmakers playing with the idea of repealing or modifying the 14th Amendment of the United States Constitution which gives automatic citizenship to anybody born in the United States. While this is not the worst story to come from the Tea Baggers nutcases, it is not the story that is the issue but the comments by Americans on the story that give me such concerns. The comments were in the same light as the ones by South Africans against Nigerians only that you just replace it with Mexicans or Latinos.
In fact one of the comments was about how Ireland changed their birth citizenship laws when it became obvious Nigerians were moving to Ireland to gain citizenship for their kids.
Funny enough, some Nigerians I have met here in the US think this xenophobic feeling towards Latinos by Americans is justified forgetting that their own status as immigrants could be threatened if the Tea Baggers have their ways.
While “till thy kingdom come” people would be leaving their countries to look for better opportunities abroad, experience has  shown that the live of the expert immigrant is never a bed of roses so one can imagine how it would be for an unqualified and semi skilled person.  We Nigerians should realize that we do not have a reputation of integrity because of acts of a few of our country people and as such we should expect more of these.
I think this should be a wakeup call to us to make a last stand to change the situation of things in our country. Others would not do it for us and running away will not solve the problems too it will only allow them to fester.
We should not  put the blame also at the feet of our Rulers alone, as they are just behaving as rulers do and we as followers are equally culpable in the mess Nigeria has become.

@Tensor777
As a muslim and a Nigerian I would tell you that while Buzugee may be melodramatic in the way he is putting his views across. He is correct about the Arabs.
The problem with them is that they are not happy that the whites do not accept them as equals and they feel and behave as if they are far better than the Blacks.
If it is important for you to know I am in America too but I have known this about the Arabs before i left Naija.
Fellow muslims who are blacks and see the racist nature of the Arabs are usually surprised and disappointed .
To a greater extent the same could be said about people from the Indian SubContinent. They are also very racist and this their attitude to blacks especially in Nigeria, is made worse by the Nigerian mentality of looking at every lightskinned individual as being an "Oyinbo" that needs to be "worshipped"
For your information the term "Koora" is used to refer to Arabs.

What I kept wondering about while reading through this article is what the governments of these countries are doing diplomatically to take care of their citizens. It is really sad.

Guys
Why is my post seem to be deleted?
Am I doing something wrong or something.
Thanks

I wish I had known about your companies when I was in Naija last December with my family.
Be rest assured , your prices are reasonable and those who are in need of your services will patronise you.
In fact I will be knocking on your doors when next I am in Nigeria.
Try and do more advertisement for your company.

That would be

SOMETIMES IN APRIL -About the Rwanda Genocide
HOTEL RWANDA- About the Rwanda Genocide
LUMUMBA -A 2000 biopic about the Congo first Premier PAtrice Lumumba who was assassinated in 1961 right under the nose of United Nations forces. This film made me cry when I look at Congo today and I reflect on how things could have been different if this guy had not been assassinated.
DER UNTERGANG  (Downfall)- A 2004 German film about the last days of the Second World War in Hitler Bunker as the Russians were closing in on Berlin.

Nigeria's iron lady takes on fraudsters

By Caroline Duffield
BBC News, Lagos

Arunma Oteh, the woman tasked with the unenviable job of policing Nigeria's financial world, has a warm smile and a piercing stare.

"Wash sales; market rigging; pumping and dumping shares," she says listing the inventive and multi-layered abuses rampant in Nigeria's capital market.

"Any infraction will be punished," she told the BBC.

Ms Oteh, Nigeria's Securities and Exchange Commission boss, took up the post in January, bringing with her a tough surveillance and enforcement regime.

"We expect to charge the 200 entities and individuals involved," the financial regulator says quietly.

"We will file civil charges, and criminal charges, where necessary."
Name and shame

Last year, as major banks veered close to collapse, the government was forced into a $4bn (£2.67bn) bailout of nine lenders.
Continue reading the main story

I should have been slowing down at my age. Now I am forced back to work Accountant Aruna Bawa

The central bank governor carried out a forensic cull - the so-called "Friday massacre" - sacking management teams at eight banks.

As the stock market fell, it became apparent some stockbrokers were involved in the scandal - collaborating in abuses ranging from insider share dealing to market manipulation and share price fixing.

Now Ms Oteh wants illegally gained profits made on the stock market to be "disgorged".

"We will restitute [restore lost money to] investors," she says.

"Local and international investors need to understand that things have changed."
Stockbrokers on the trading floor of the Nigerian Stock Exchange in Lagos (Archive photo) A confidential US report details malpractice at the Nigerian Stock Exchange

Working closely with the US financial authorities, Ms Oteh plans to name and shame the individuals and finance companies that contributed to a $50bn crash.

Many people have lost their life savings.

"They [investment companies] spoke to me eloquently, but now I realise there were sharp practices," says Aruna Bawa, an accountant who lost nearly three quarters of his retirement plan.

"I should have been slowing down at my age. Now I am forced back to work," he says.

"I struggle long hours to try to rebuild my savings."
Insolvent stockbrokers

In April, a team from the US Securities and Exchange Commission compiled a confidential report detailing lax oversight and financial malpractice at the Nigerian Stock Exchange and the financial regulators.

Oteh faces severe resistance. It's coming from very influential, powerful individuals

The report describes "dysfunctional" enforcement, "complicated and entrenched governance problems", "clear instances of insider trading and market manipulation that resulted in no action", and "woefully inadequate" surveillance.

And it says between 60% and 75% of Nigeria's stockbrokers are technically insolvent.

Ms Oteh agrees that regulation has not been tight enough in the past.

But a spokesman for the Nigerian Stock Exchange declined to comment on the report.

"It is very likely there are huge losses still to come," says economist Bismarck Rewane, of Financial Derivatives, a finance research and analysis firm.

"The day that ordinary investors try to retrieve their assets, and find them contaminated, will be an unpleasant day."

'Laughable'

And repairing the damage is not easy.

Insiders in the financial world describe an ugly fight-back aimed at Ms Oteh and her plans for tougher oversight and more transparency.

"Oteh faces severe resistance," said one economist, asking not to be named.

"It's coming from very influential, powerful individuals. It is a patronage-intensive society, and their influence extends well into government."

Just months into the job, Ms Oteh faces a legal action, questioning her qualifications.

"It's laughable," says Ms Oteh, a former vice-president of the African Development Bank with a Harvard MBA.

"It shows they're really desperate to try and undermine reform.

"It can only be people who are desperate, who are looking for ways to scuttle reform."

But she says she will not give up.

"What gives me comfort is that the President, Goodluck Jonathan, is behind us. It's what he believes in.

"That makes me even more determined."

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/world/africa/10464725.stm

Primary Health Care according to WHO is essential heath care based on practical, scientifically sound and socially acceptable methods and technology made universally available to individuals and families in the community through their full participation and at a cost that the community and the country can afford to maintain at every stage of their development in the spirit of self determination.
The Four essential components are

Universal coverage
By ensuring sufficient supply of medicines and services; removing financial barriers to access and ensuring social health protection
People Centered care
By transforming traditional healthcare delivery models (specialist, procedure or hospital-based) into people-centered primary care networks
Inclusive leadership
By shifting from conventional "command-and-control" approaches, increasing participation of all stakeholders and moving from supply-led to demand-led policies and programmes
Health in all policies
By ensuring that all relevant sectors (e.g. labor, environment, education) factor health into their agendas

With this information in mind then one can look critically at the primary health care in Nigeria and try to understand what its problems as a form of healthcare delivery method are.
As someone who has had cause to use the primary health care facilities in Nigeria in the past, I will say that to the common man the primary health care had been a great help in the area of pre-natal and post natal care, immunization, and prevention and treatment of some very common ailments.
However I do believe there are problems with primary health care in Nigeria if one look at what the four essential components are for a Primary health care according to WHO . Below is what I think these are from my own observation.


Lack of enough publicity
Most people don’t know these healthcare centers are there. This limits their patronage. 

Poor or no community buy-in the running of the health care centers
Our politicians think health care is only the buildings and facilities. In a country where a lot people are still illiterates the importance of community buy in cannot be over emphasized. This effectively has not made it easy for primary health care in Nigeria to be “People-Centered”

Lack of adequate number of personnel to man these centers
This could be blamed on brain drain from Africa of medical personnel to the Western Nations.

http://soccernet.espn.go.com/world-cup/story/_/id/801913/ce/uk/?cc=5901&ver=us

Minister blames immigrants for Italy exit

As the fallout from Italy's humiliating World Cup exit starts, politicians have jumped on the bandwagon, with Roberto Calderoli, a minister who belongs to a right-wing anti-immigration party, accusing "luxury immigrant" footballers as being the cause of the crisis.
"They are paid millions, have legs made of jelly and are short of breath," ranted Calderoli. "This defeat brings the torment of our national side to an indecorous and predictable end.

"Italy's premature elimination is merely the result of an insane sports policy which has seen the league, the cup and the Champions League being won by teams who do not have a single Italian, including the coach.

"Unfortunately for [Italy coach Marcello] Lippi, luxury immigrants can't play for the national side and today's result is the logical consequence of this fact. We need to get our own home-grown lads playing in our clubs."

Piergiorgio Stiffoni, a Northern League senator, compared Lippi with France's disgraced coach Raymond Domenech, saying he had "lots of arrogance and nothing more". He added: "To come back to Italy the team does not deserve a business-class flight. If there were a trans-African train they should come back with that."

Earlier this week Umberto Bossi, Italy's federal reforms minister, was forced to apologise after suggesting Lippi's team would bribe their way into the last 16 of the World Cup.

It seems most of us making comment on this post did not read the story.
The Fulani herdsmen claim [B] (spokesperson of the Fulani herdsmen, Suleiman A. Jauro, alleged that some unfriendly people poisoned ripe mangoes which they put along the grazing route of the animals.)[/B] that the people who poisoned their cattle are the one who invited them to come back to the area after the end of the crisis [B] (He alleged that a particular set of people in the area had been constantly asking them to come back to places they earlier vacated as a result of the Jos crises, but when they bring their animals they poison them)[/B]. They allege that they have always been paying for damages whenever their cattle wreck havoc on farmlands when it is required of them. Now they want the people who they have alleged poisoned their cattle to pay. The army spokesperson confirmed that some people have been arrested with what is suspected to have been used in poisoning the cow.
So in my own opinion, their grievances are genuine. Injustice is injustice, no other way to call it. For proper conflict resolution, if it is confirmed that the alleged culprits are guilty then they should be made to pay if they can or the government should compensate the Fulani herdsmen in the interest of peace.
We should not denigrate the herdsmen because of their legitimate grievances. People should learn to empathize with the other person to have a peaceful atmosphere.

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Since I joined this forum I often refrain from making comments on issues bordering on ethnicity or region, because most times, such discussions eventually turn into avenue for name-calling and insults rather than for information sharing. However, I decide to comment on this issue because I am passionate about this and I think both sides to this discussion have valid points that are worthy of considerations.
For disclosure, I am Yoruba but I am not here to represent the Yoruba views or to bash the North, South East or the South-South but rather to add my own view as a stake holder in this matter because I am a Nigerian in the oil and gas industry and I believe I have some insights that I think are worth sharing.
I do agree with DaLover, that one of the things you can credit OBJ government for is the fact that his government was able to force the Oil majors to start having Field management and development planning studies in addition to some aspects of Production Design in the country.
This provided jobs for thousands of Geosciences and Engineering graduates who hitherto had not been opportune to have jobs. Any graduate of Geosciences in the late 1990s and early 2000s would tell you that this local content component of the oil industry laws helped in providing jobs for them. I am a living example of that. 
Those of us who were not employed by the big oil service companies were employed by small indigenous servicing firms created by retired former Oil Majors employees.
Hitherto what has been happening is for the Oil Majors to carry out such studies in Houston, The Hague, Aberdeen and Alberta.  The complaint had been that Nigerians are not qualified to do these jobs. This is what made the government to get serious about the PTDF scholarships for Nigerians.
(Disclosure I am not a recipient of this scholarship, but I know friends from all over Nigeria who had gone to the UK and US on PTDF scholarships)
It is incorrect to say that London does not have headquarters of Oil Companies. Shell and BP have headquarters in London even when most of their oil field is in the North Sea.
Having said this, I think the Niger Delta people clamoring for relocation of installations to the Niger Delta may have genuine premise for the request. However,  I think rather than asking for forceful relocation, the plan should be to ask what it is that the companies see in Lagos that may be lacking in the Niger Delta of today and find ways to provide such.
It is in this light that I supported Amaechi while I was staying in Port Harcourt. I do believe he is ready to tell the people the home truth  on how  Rivers State  could transform into a better and more business friendly society while at the same time providing infrastructures on the ground that are conducive for business to thrive .
Cities that become hub for businesses such as oil and gas have to be cosmopolitan and ready to accept outsiders as the oil and gas business is a global one. Houston, Aberdeen and even New Orleans are known for their cosmopolitan nature.
Every Nigerians would attest to the fact Lagos is unequal to all other states in terms of infrastructures. Although the whole country is lacking much needed infrastructures, Lagos by far, definitely because of its former status as the Federal capital, has more infrastructures way above what other states can provide at the moment.
The management of these oil companies sees Nigerian politicians in general and Niger Delta politicians in particular as an inept and corrupt bunch. So any politicians that would take them on must be ready to be above board in the provisions of services whose absence they could use as excuse for not being physically on the ground in the Niger Delta.
I do believe that the Niger Delta can and should get better deals from oil and gas exploration and production, but my I am of the view  that the region as the rest of Nigeria would require visionary and courageous leaders to be able to creatively bring this about.
It may seems irrelevant, but please read the link about the Bafokeng people in South Africa. The community is seating on an estimated 40% of the world economic Platinum deposits.
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/12/world/africa/12safrica.html?ref=africa
It is the kind of leaders like the Kings of Bafokeng that I am talking about.

I must commend the poster for her compassion for a fellow Nigerian. I do not know about people in Canada, but as someone on a work visa here in the US, I was told I needed a transit visa to join a BA flight to Naija with my family last year.
I would have paid for the visa as I would have been reimbursed the cost by my company but for the fact that I know that there are other airlines whose countries do not require paying for transit visas for US visa holders/ or people whose final destinations are in the US.
The lesson in this story is for all of us to always ask before buying tickets for international travels. Like the saying goes, he who asks does not get lost.
It’s sad to hear about the lady’s story and this goes to show that it is not worth the stress that Nigerians go through just to have “citizen” children. The woman is away from loved ones and people who will pamper and care for her during pregnancy and after delivery. This is a time that she is in a vulnerable state emotionally and needs all the help she can get.
For someone whose husband is “doing well”, I do not understand why she will have to go through this stress to be in Canada in her state. If she cannot attend school as she has planned at the moment, her best bet would be to be with her husband in Naija, that is if he cannot be with her in Canada

an iPad
I think it is an overhyped and overpriced "Jeleosinmi"(Kindegarten) slate

After my previous reply. I went to the website I indicated and see this article which I think could be useful

http://www.pampers.com/en_US/parenting-articles/sharing-teaching-kids-to-share/4452

Share and Share Alike

By: Shalom Fisch, Ph.D.

I know a sweet, delightful 3-year-old who is very generous for her age . . . unless one of the other kids in her play group wants to play with the kitchen set. She's been known to throw herself bodily across the play kitchen, just to keep another child from playing with it.

Why would this sweet child act this way? Actually, her behavior simply marks her as a normal 3-year-old. When young children don't want to share, it doesn't necessarily mean they're being selfish or insensitive. Young children think very concretely, and have a hard time looking at things from someone else's perspective.

With that in mind, it's easy to see why children sometimes have trouble sharing. A child may know that she wants to play with a particular toy. However, her thinking may not be sophisticated enough to put herself in the place of another child who wants to play with it too.

It's no wonder, then, that young children's conflicts usually revolve around objects. Sharing is hard, and no one is born ready to share all the time. But here are some things that you can do to make it easier:

Be a Good Model

Praise Good Behavior

Provide Plenty of Play Dates

Have Something for Everyone

Practice Taking Turns

Be Prepared

Be Realistic



Be a Good Model

First and foremost, make sure that you set a good example yourself. Let your child see you sharing with your spouse, children, and others. And be sure to mention these instances of sharing to your child, to make sure she realizes they're happening. One example probably won't be enough to drive the lesson home. Over time, though, a consistent pattern of positive behavior is bound to make an impression.

Praise Good Behavior

Similarly, stay on the lookout for times when your child shares something with someone else — whether it's with another child, an adult, or even you. Compliment your child when she's being a "good sharer." Your praise won't just make her feel good. It will also help her see herself as someone who shares. That will make her more likely to share again in the future, too.

Provide Plenty of Play Dates

It takes plenty of practice to learn to share. Play dates offer terrific opportunities for children to practice social skills in settings that their parents can supervise and even guide a bit when necessary. Of course, children with siblings or who attend day care or preschool have built-in opportunities every day to work on their sharing skills, but play dates can be helpful for them, too.

Have Something for Everyone

Most sharing problems occur when two kids want to use the same toy at the same time. So one easy way to avoid a conflict is to let each child play with an identical toy ("Here, let's give you five blocks to build with, and we'll give Kelly five blocks too".

But it's not always practical — or affordable — to keep multiple copies of every toy at home. In those cases, look around your home to see if you can find another toy that's similar to the one that the kids both want. That may be close enough to defuse the situation ("How about if you play with the bear and you play with the elephant?". Or a completely different toy might do the trick, if your child likes it as much as the toy you're asking him to share.

Practice Taking Turns

Below the age of about 3 or 4, children usually spend a lot of their playing time in "parallel play" — that is, playing separate games near each other, rather than playing together. It's a perfectly normal stage of development. However, it means that if you try to settle a conflict over a toy by suggesting that a pair of 2-year-olds play with it together, you'll probably be disappointed.

A much more effective strategy may be to encourage children to take turns with the toy. Of course, it's not reasonable to expect one child to sit and watch while the other one plays. But if you give both kids something fun to do, you can have them trade toys after a set period of time, so that everyone gets a turn to play with everything. To ease the transition, remind them when it's almost time to trade, shortly before each turn is over.

How long should the turns be? You’ll be the best judge of that, because it depends on each child's individual personality and reactions. In general, though, young children aren't very patient, so short turns may be best. You probably won't want to make each turn more than a few minutes long — or maybe even one minute long, if you know that one of the children finds it hard to share.

Be Prepared

Some toys are simply too special to share, either because they're new or because your child loves them too much. So, shortly before you host a play date at your home, take a moment to talk to your child about it. Remind him that his friend is coming to play, and talk about how much fun they'll have together. Ask your child to think about whether there are any toys that he doesn't want to share with his friend. If so, put those toys away someplace where they'll be safe and untouched until after the play date is over. Then, you and your child can agree that the rest of the toys are okay to share.

Be Realistic

Last but not least, bear in mind that learning to share is a process. It doesn't happen overnight, and many children go through ups and downs along the way.

Set goals for your child, but make sure your expectations are realistic, too. With a little patience, some well-timed support, and a whole lot of love, it won't be long before your child builds a foundation of skills that he'll use throughout his life.

My friend
If truly the boy is your son, then please there is no need to worry. Your boy is just being a boy. My son is like that and he would be 3 next month. Please never let anybody convince you something is wrong with your son medically. He is just developing his own personality.  However, you can guide your son and please this is not to go to a doctor and be treating something that is not there at all. There is this tendency to always want to treat everything with drugs whose side effects may be disproportionate to their benefits.
For a start, you should discuss with the mother your concerns and things you think both of you can improve upon. As per your wife not listening, I am not trying to sound chauvinistic here but I can understand your frustration. Most times I am tempted to say the same thing about my own wife, but for the sake of your kids you just need to keep working at it and you don’t have to be dictatorial about it but rather try and have heart to heart discussions on ways you think you can improve.
For example look at parenting websites (a good one is www.pampers.com) and share the experiences you read from the websites with her.
Most importantly you have to be assertive with your boy, note I did not say cane him. That would only worsen the situation. Your best bet is to give him latitude up to the point of when you think you should put down your feet. My son for example would deliberately trip his younger sister under our nose, at times he would want to pay the big brother by correcting her for what he thinks she has done wrong. At times this may be something either of us had corrected him for earlier.
Like a family friend told me 2 years is what they call “Naughty Two”. This is also the time that the kids would want to be possessive in their manners. It is when you will hear words like “Mine” several times. Try and teach him the joy that is in sharing and with time he would imbibe this idea.  On the diet side, try and endeavor to limit soda in your kids diet and rather let the diet be more of fresh fruits and vegetables, not “juice” which is more or less another form of sugar drink. This is not because of his naughtiness but rather for his general well being.
Another important thing that I should add is endeavor to always be truthful with your kids. If you don’t want them to do something try in your little way to explain why and you will be surprised at how much you can achieve with that.
Finally don’t forget that he is just a child so let him grow on his own. Your own intervention should just be to guide and be there for him as he is developing his personality

I am in the oil and gas field and have been in the US for like 2 years now on transfer from Nigeria and would not have any problem going back if my service is needed back in the country. I was in Nigeria with my family on vacation last year December and must tell you that things are in very sorry state. However, I do not believe that is enough reason not to go back if you have to.
For a successful stay, you have to
• Expect little in terms of service delivery
Before I left Nigeria I know this and my recent experience has shown that it has not changed. Most businesses in Nigeria still feel they are doing the customer a favor by providing services.
• Refrain from branding your “been to” to people
This will expose you to unnecessary flak from everybody you meet. (In fact I joined Okada while I was in Nigeria last year) That you have lived in the West does not mean you are better than people you would meet. So, one cannot over emphasize the need to be humble to a fault while dealing with Nigerians (from the Policeman to the okada man, taxi driver, messenger and colleagues at work). Believe me you get a lot done if you respectfully approach people.
• Internet may be very slow so what you can do online may be very limited by the kind of connection you have. Hopefully this would change very soon considering the several ongoing submarine cable projects.

• The pay may not be comparable to what you earn presently. The educational industry barring the private universities is not known as one of the highest paying industries in the country so your best bet is to negotiate Housing at least with any University you wants to join. Most universities still have quality schools that your kids (if you have kids) can attend.

• Like UJUJOAN said, depending on your field of expertise, consider consultancy jobs to augment your pay.

• Most important of all, do take heed of KOBOJUNKIE advice. Try and take care of your power needs before leaving the UK for Nigeria. I would advise that you do not join the generator gangs over there. I was using an inverter with 2 batteries and never had a generator while in Nigeria. I am definitely going to make sure I step up to solar whenever I am going back to Nigeria.

On the whole I wish you the best of luck as you take your decision. I will say to you welcome home in advance.

From earlier post I have read on Mac Computers, it seems some of us have our reservations about Mac computers because of their cost and supposed inferior quality but I was able to learn that some people own them and use them in Naija.I will like to seek advice from those who use their Mac book or iMac for internet in Nigeria whether Starcomms "Broadband" could be used on an iMac. When I was around last year I used the Starcomms EVDO modem on a PC laptop and I know I could not use the modem on Ubuntu Linux. I may be coming back home soon and will be using my iMac . So I would like to know whether Starcomms EVDO supports Mac OS X .
Thank you for your advise

Jenju
Thank you for your help. May God bless you for your assistance.
I asked for the information on this car earlier but I guess you did not see my earlier post.
Please could you help look up the record.
The VIN is

JHMCM56377C024495

Thank you

Jenju
Thank you for your help. May God bless you for your assistance.
I beg I need information about this vehicle also.

JHMCM56377C024495

Thank you