Your kid most likely has ADHD. Amazing no one has mentioned this.

Because thats not what he has. What the OP has described is far from ADHD. The child has simply been raised without much parental guidance and allowed to have his way for much too long.

Remember, the jury still out on whether ADAD itself is a viable condition, its causes and subsequent treatment. What is clear though is that there is a clear definitive link between children's behaviour patterns and the artificial colours/ sweeteners (E Numbers) found in many of what kids eat and drink today.

Drown him in the lagoon

Which kain thread be this?  You nor go carry cane and koboko make you flog the devil commot for the child  

The guy is no problem, he is just a typical restless 2yrs old. Plsssssssss watch out for the quiet brother, he migth be the mean one. i ve got 2 boys too

*Hauwa*:

spike, eh?

i know this might be frustrating and some times scary. but here is the deal, he has a different temperament compared to you or the older brothers. he might have a temperament like his mother but worse due to his gender. here is the deal you have to control him in many ways. one reward good behavior and punish bad ones. let him have avenues to vet his rage eg sports. create  beyond his control events where peoples good behavior benefits him and reflects on him. when he gets older this temperament could help tremendously and hurt badly. it can help because he could become a no nonsense business man or leader. but here is the part you have to play, you have to make him have a very strong moral compass. know what is right and wrong. people like him have to be given a black and white picture because they create their own  gray themselves.  this means alot of religous content in his life christian or Muslim.

the bottom line is channel his temperament for his good. in the wild his behavior will be that of a warrior but in a more civil society his a raging madman.  so channel it for good, jobs and tasks that involves a strong man or boy. but instill civility or self control.  

good luck and may god help you.

My friend
If truly the boy is your son, then please there is no need to worry. Your boy is just being a boy. My son is like that and he would be 3 next month. Please never let anybody convince you something is wrong with your son medically. He is just developing his own personality.  However, you can guide your son and please this is not to go to a doctor and be treating something that is not there at all. There is this tendency to always want to treat everything with drugs whose side effects may be disproportionate to their benefits.
For a start, you should discuss with the mother your concerns and things you think both of you can improve upon. As per your wife not listening, I am not trying to sound chauvinistic here but I can understand your frustration. Most times I am tempted to say the same thing about my own wife, but for the sake of your kids you just need to keep working at it and you don’t have to be dictatorial about it but rather try and have heart to heart discussions on ways you think you can improve.
For example look at parenting websites (a good one is www.pampers.com) and share the experiences you read from the websites with her.
Most importantly you have to be assertive with your boy, note I did not say cane him. That would only worsen the situation. Your best bet is to give him latitude up to the point of when you think you should put down your feet. My son for example would deliberately trip his younger sister under our nose, at times he would want to pay the big brother by correcting her for what he thinks she has done wrong. At times this may be something either of us had corrected him for earlier.
Like a family friend told me 2 years is what they call “Naughty Two”. This is also the time that the kids would want to be possessive in their manners. It is when you will hear words like “Mine” several times. Try and teach him the joy that is in sharing and with time he would imbibe this idea.  On the diet side, try and endeavor to limit soda in your kids diet and rather let the diet be more of fresh fruits and vegetables, not “juice” which is more or less another form of sugar drink. This is not because of his naughtiness but rather for his general well being.
Another important thing that I should add is endeavor to always be truthful with your kids. If you don’t want them to do something try in your little way to explain why and you will be surprised at how much you can achieve with that.
Finally don’t forget that he is just a child so let him grow on his own. Your own intervention should just be to guide and be there for him as he is developing his personality

I'm happy your child is exhibiting signs of independence but that's typical of 2yr olds, like you said he shares some traits with his mum which is just perfect.
Dude until your child gets expelled from daycare at 2yrs old then all you can do is keep being the Dad you are and leave the worries till when he's 18yrs. My son got expelled for biting 2 kids and pinching, choking, pushing a whole lot of other kids at daycare, he's 4 now and he's the angel that tells other kids "thats not nice".
BTW, don't spare the hand when necessary. Licks always works, ask every responsible adult.

After my previous reply. I went to the website I indicated and see this article which I think could be useful

http://www.pampers.com/en_US/parenting-articles/sharing-teaching-kids-to-share/4452

Share and Share Alike

By: Shalom Fisch, Ph.D.

I know a sweet, delightful 3-year-old who is very generous for her age . . . unless one of the other kids in her play group wants to play with the kitchen set. She's been known to throw herself bodily across the play kitchen, just to keep another child from playing with it.

Why would this sweet child act this way? Actually, her behavior simply marks her as a normal 3-year-old. When young children don't want to share, it doesn't necessarily mean they're being selfish or insensitive. Young children think very concretely, and have a hard time looking at things from someone else's perspective.

With that in mind, it's easy to see why children sometimes have trouble sharing. A child may know that she wants to play with a particular toy. However, her thinking may not be sophisticated enough to put herself in the place of another child who wants to play with it too.

It's no wonder, then, that young children's conflicts usually revolve around objects. Sharing is hard, and no one is born ready to share all the time. But here are some things that you can do to make it easier:

Be a Good Model

Praise Good Behavior

Provide Plenty of Play Dates

Have Something for Everyone

Practice Taking Turns

Be Prepared

Be Realistic



Be a Good Model

First and foremost, make sure that you set a good example yourself. Let your child see you sharing with your spouse, children, and others. And be sure to mention these instances of sharing to your child, to make sure she realizes they're happening. One example probably won't be enough to drive the lesson home. Over time, though, a consistent pattern of positive behavior is bound to make an impression.

Praise Good Behavior

Similarly, stay on the lookout for times when your child shares something with someone else — whether it's with another child, an adult, or even you. Compliment your child when she's being a "good sharer." Your praise won't just make her feel good. It will also help her see herself as someone who shares. That will make her more likely to share again in the future, too.

Provide Plenty of Play Dates

It takes plenty of practice to learn to share. Play dates offer terrific opportunities for children to practice social skills in settings that their parents can supervise and even guide a bit when necessary. Of course, children with siblings or who attend day care or preschool have built-in opportunities every day to work on their sharing skills, but play dates can be helpful for them, too.

Have Something for Everyone

Most sharing problems occur when two kids want to use the same toy at the same time. So one easy way to avoid a conflict is to let each child play with an identical toy ("Here, let's give you five blocks to build with, and we'll give Kelly five blocks too".

But it's not always practical — or affordable — to keep multiple copies of every toy at home. In those cases, look around your home to see if you can find another toy that's similar to the one that the kids both want. That may be close enough to defuse the situation ("How about if you play with the bear and you play with the elephant?". Or a completely different toy might do the trick, if your child likes it as much as the toy you're asking him to share.

Practice Taking Turns

Below the age of about 3 or 4, children usually spend a lot of their playing time in "parallel play" — that is, playing separate games near each other, rather than playing together. It's a perfectly normal stage of development. However, it means that if you try to settle a conflict over a toy by suggesting that a pair of 2-year-olds play with it together, you'll probably be disappointed.

A much more effective strategy may be to encourage children to take turns with the toy. Of course, it's not reasonable to expect one child to sit and watch while the other one plays. But if you give both kids something fun to do, you can have them trade toys after a set period of time, so that everyone gets a turn to play with everything. To ease the transition, remind them when it's almost time to trade, shortly before each turn is over.

How long should the turns be? You’ll be the best judge of that, because it depends on each child's individual personality and reactions. In general, though, young children aren't very patient, so short turns may be best. You probably won't want to make each turn more than a few minutes long — or maybe even one minute long, if you know that one of the children finds it hard to share.

Be Prepared

Some toys are simply too special to share, either because they're new or because your child loves them too much. So, shortly before you host a play date at your home, take a moment to talk to your child about it. Remind him that his friend is coming to play, and talk about how much fun they'll have together. Ask your child to think about whether there are any toys that he doesn't want to share with his friend. If so, put those toys away someplace where they'll be safe and untouched until after the play date is over. Then, you and your child can agree that the rest of the toys are okay to share.

Be Realistic

Last but not least, bear in mind that learning to share is a process. It doesn't happen overnight, and many children go through ups and downs along the way.

Set goals for your child, but make sure your expectations are realistic, too. With a little patience, some well-timed support, and a whole lot of love, it won't be long before your child builds a foundation of skills that he'll use throughout his life.

Oh my God, oh God bless me with this kind of son! Not the opposite please.

Well, commit him into the hands of God in prayer. He can do more than you can ask or think of.

Spiky, I think u're my kind of woman if u mean what u said about not having the patience for kids Seriously,
I'm not crazy about fatherhood.

no need to take him to any doctor, CUS Da GRIN SAID IT ALL, (TOMODE BA BURU, OLE FE DI BAD BOY).

@topic,
These rich kids sef.
Kick his tiny a$$ and stop complaining jor.

Well, you just described my lil bro at 2. Some grow out of it.
Learn to punish him at home and tell his teachers how to str8n him up at school.

Because there will be a time when those mini-2s will gang up on your kid and teach him a lesson of his life.

some mothers do have them

guy abeg go sleep joo. People have bigger probs and dont make a post outta it. But seriously,I think it normal. He's just 2. Dont make anybody give you a feeling of abnormality bout your kd. It woulda bn worse if he was behaving likie a zombie

i thoroughly enjoyed this
use the opportunity to discover wat he likes or better still take am go apply for american embassy
u got get visa believe or he tears the place down


but really in 20yrs he'll think u r exaggerating

dude youve given birth to the antichrist!!!

there is something about two year olds that is called 'the terrible two' stage.They think at
that stage they are independent and want to exercise their freedom.Most kids outgrow that feeling though

, ever tried the ROD OF CORRECTION?

@OP, read very well the comments made by Romeo4real. That's the key, believe me.

rex23:

@OP, read very well the comments made by Romeo4real. That's the key, believe me.

Seconded.

Funny Kid

^^dats a mean thing to say

Thanks Labelle for your observation.
ADHD has to be seriously considered in this child.
I suggest getting him to see a paediatrician for proper evaluation and possible therapy if necessary.
It will be reassuring if the specialist says there's no problem with him.

This is really amazing. I think this has to do with children within that age range. You really need to see my second child. It's just as if you are in my house with this your story,though my daugther is just 1yr 6mths but she is bigger than her age and she has got almost same behaviour with your son. She's just a TOM BOY,you need to see to know what am talking about. But on a more serious note, you really need to show him who the BOSS is. As for me, i really play with them to a fault but they know it when am really angry and they quietly withdraw once they notice a change in attitude. Children can be fun atimes and they can really be a pain in the ass atimes but in all, just show them some luv.
SPARE THE ROD AND SPOIL THE CHILD.

There's nothing wrong with your boy, believe me. He's being independent and curious. Try to make good use of the situation.
Find out what he like most and use it as weapons. Encourage him anytime he does well e.g. "You did well dear" or call him "good boy". And if he does the opposite, say NO and explain the reason to him e.g. "I told you no ball in kitchen - OK I'm not going to play with you". Do not say NO if you cannot do the follow up - very important please.

Finally, let him know you really love and trust his decision. Its just that its important he listen to you. May God keep him and his brother for you.
Good luck.

Teslim,

You need to study n' read more about child sycology !!. Kids are intelligent, fast learners, xhibit certain behaviours adult wrongly interprete as their person or character. Sadly this isn't so. They are in the developing stage and kids aged 1-8 grow out of it. They start forming their thru character much later.

Don't ask me how or why. I have past the stage am speaking from experience, read and practice.

Bottom line dealing with babies ages 1-8 is a different ball game. Getting them do things needs indeth understanding of their activities and how they react, applying a mix of  sycology, play n' firm talk.  Take a peep from damn nasty oyinbo kids in UK

At their ages they really don't fear nobody. They may cry but they really don't fear you, especially their parents.

Lastly, stop bugging your head, thinking negative or treating the kid as an adult or imagining things that shouldn't apply. He is your SON

If you do not tame him now, you are breeding a rebel.
Use the rod.
The yoruba bible says 'Aya omode ni were di si, egba ni won fi tu.'
You can not allow him to have his way always.
Else the day cometh when he will disgrace you.
So be the man, take up the rod of correction and tame the little rebel.

Alxmyr:

If you do not tame him now, you are breeding a rebel.
Use the rod.
The yoruba bible says 'Aya omode ni were di si, egba ni won fi tu.'
You can not allow him to have his way always.
Else the day cometh when he will disgrace you.
So be the man, take up the rod of correction and tame the little rebel.

what else can I say?